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I suspect it's just a typo. K and L are next to each other, at least on my leyboard, kok!

When life hands you a lemon, you have to figure out how to make lemonade with it. I would look at this turn of events not as a crisis or a problem, but as an opportunity. It's a chance to make some NEW friends, and hopefully some better friends, friends that will share your interests and approve of your choices. They're out there. You just have to find them. Keep searching, reject the ones that reject you, and move on. Good luck! Steve

Regen, Didn't anyone ever teach you to be honest? Taking that extra $10 that did not rightfully belong to you was a dishonest thing to do. You would have screamed bloody murder if you had given her $60 and she didn't give you enough change. The right thing to do was to call the mistake to her attention and hand the extra money back. I'm disappointed in you, and would like to think that most of my friends here are honest and above that. Please tell me that when you go back next time, you'll return it. It is not the same as finding $10 laying on the sidewalk somewhere. Steve

Geo, We all think that our neighborhood is the toughest crowd and that it must be easier elsewhere. The truth is that the grass is brown on both sides of the fence, but mostly the demons are in our heads. So if you want to street heel, suck it up, put your best heeled foot forward and go out. Start with block heels and masculine styles like loafers, clogs, or boots. Once you get out and about and see that nobody notices, cares or says anything, you can get more daring if you like. You only live once - it's a shame to let society interfere with your enjoyment of life. Steve

Very inspiring, Henri. Would you mind telling us what hotel and what city? A lot of us travel a bit and would love to meet you if we're there when you are. And if not, well, the manager has seen it once - he'll see it again on another guy! That's a trend, isn't it? Anyway, well done! Steve

most guy have no freaking clue how to co-ordinate themselves, thus it looks a mess.

Why do you think so many guys clothes are dull...

Because if mens clothes came in the same colours as womens, "most" guys would look like an accident in a paintball factory.

I laughed aloud when I read that. You're so right. What's more, most guys don't care about their appearance or presentation. What bothers me is that so many guys on this forum think they have to dress up en femme to look right, or even crossdress completely, just to go out in public when all they want to do is to wear heels. There are lots of ways to blend in the right kinds of shoes with jeans or pants, shirts and sweaters, and still look good with heels. Guys don't have to emulate women. They can be creative about their outfits, still look like guys, and still look good in heels. There are lots of examples on this forum of good looking masculine outfits with long boot cut jeans and pants, for example.

Steve

Why not just do it? They're your legs. If the lady doth protest too much, tell her you like it better that way, and lots of guys are doing it (true). You don't have to be an athlete to enjoy smooth legs anymore. Why do you think they make Nair for men and Norelco's Bodygroom shaver? Go for it. Steve

I've met several guys in heels. I attended a heel meet in Canton, Ohio, in 2008 with half a dozen guys. I have also met and made good friends with two others on here. I came very close to meeting one other guy, but he had to cancel at the last minute. My time with all of these guys has been fun and enjoyable. We shared stories and experiences and it was interesting to learn what we had in common. I hope more of you have the chance to get together and meet each other. You never know what life-long friends you might make. Steve

Note to easytiger and others who do not use punctuation, The use of periods and commas and capitalization would make your difficult-to-read text much easier to comprehend. It's hard to tell where your sentences start and stop. Punctuation was invented for a good reason. Please use it and make reading your posts a pleasure instead of a struggle. On behalf of other readers who feel this way, thank you for your understanding. Steve

HappyFeat, Laughter is a natural human reaction to an incongruous situation. A man dressed in women's clothing and recognizable as a man is an incongruous situation. Our upbringing and our contact with society teaches us that men normally wear men's clothing and women can wear women's or men's clothing. So when we see a man in women's clothing, no matter how well put together the outfit is, it's a disconnect that elicits laughter. This kind of incongruity is the basis of comedy. It's why jesters and clowns wear "funny" clothing. Drag queens often take it to the extreme, too, with exaggerated wigs or make-up. I would venture that 60-70 years ago, men laughed at women in pants. I know I laughed when I first saw a guy wearing earrings. After a couple of times, the comic effect goes away and it becomes just another guy in women's fashions. Think of yourself as a walking billboard, educating the unwashed masses... Steve

Bubba, Perhaps the word you're looking for may be "tolerance." Acceptance connotes an embracing or at least a willingly positive attitude. Tolerance is more neutral and connotes that a person can put up with (in this case) a fashion choice, but has no strong feelings he/she is willing to express either for it or against it. Steve

Strappy, Majo's advice is exactly right. Just bring it up and discuss it. Tell her what you want and why. If she loves you, she'll try to please you and accommodate your needs and wants. She will be flattered that you trust her enough to confide in her. If she hates the idea of you in heels, ask her to reconsider. Show her this forum and how many other guys are out there with the same interest in heels. You're not alone. If she says no way will you wear heels, then you have a woman who is more interested in her own self than in a loving relationship where give and take and compromise are the norms. At least by discussing it, you put your cards on the table and you can learn her position. Maybe it will be good. Maybe it won't but you can change it over time. Maybe it's hopeless. At least you'll know. Steve

www.comfilon.com has legwear sized for men (and for men's anatomy). Quit wearing hose that's too short and the problem will be solved. Most plus-size hose is for wide women, not tall women. The legs are usually still too short. Pussyinboots is right about wearing more slippery hose. Find style A577/A677. I am confident that it will solve your problem.

Steve

There are other choices out there for covering leg hair besides wearing tights or two pair of pantyhose.

http://www.comfilon.com/catalogsheerpantyhose.asp and scroll down to A560. This is a style that has much better coverage than sheer pantyhose, yet is still sheer enough that it won't be mistaken for tights. It comes in beige, tan, and black and is really intended for guys to wear without having to shave their legs.

Same page, look for A577 (or A677 - same fabric, with fly). These two styles have more coverage and in black will hide leg hair nicely. They also have terrific glide under trousers and will pass as sheer dress socks. They look great with capris, too.

http://www.comfilon.com/catalogstockings.asp and find A1009. This is an opaque style of thigh high stay-up stocking that comes in white, tan, navy, brown, and black. It will cover up leg hair and let you wear your own briefs, panties, or nothing. They are also removable without taking off your outer shorts if you get too warm while cycling or running.

And finally of course, http://www.comfilon.com/catalogoptights.asp. All of these tights are suitable for hiding leg hair.

All of these choices are very durable. Hope that advice helps. PM me if you have questions or want more info.

[in the interest of full disclosure, my wife and I own the company that sells these items. My intent is not to make a sales pitch but simply to point out that men have quite a few ways available to hide leg hair.]

Steve

My guess is that your feet might have got too hot. Mine do when I wear pumps. Try sandals next time and see if you like them better. Steve

I understand exactly! A guy can't have too many shoes! Steve

Good question, Tech. But "fetish" has a sexual connotation. I don't wear them to get turned on. I wear them because they feel good on my feet. Perhaps it's not fashion, but it's definitely not fetish either. Look, there are only 24 hours in a day, and I figure I waste 8 of them sleeping. So why not use the time to enjoy heeling? Then it's not a complete waste! Steve

Mal, Wish my wife and I could be there. It sounds like a blast. Actually, friends of ours in Bendigo have a son who was just married to an American girl here in the states. The Aussie celebration will be on the 13th of February at a barbie on the Yarra. If we had the time and if the exchange rate were more favorable for us, we'd be in the land of sunshine and Vegemite instead of freezing our buns off in Ohio! Enjoy your day in heels. We'll look you up next time we visit Oz. Steve

You're assuming that the heels we wear in bed are also worn in other parts of the house or outside. I don't do that. I have several pair of sandals that I reserve ONLY for wearing in bed. They are clean and have never been worn except in bed. Nothing disgusting about that. Steve

I did the test and my ideal height is 3", which is exactly the height I feel most comfortable in. I thought that might be more than coincidence. My wife's heel height was 2.5", but she rarely wears shoes more than 1.5 to 2 inches in heel height. Anyway, I provided a lengthy but positive comment on the article and mentioned High Heel Place (without the link, as it's not permitted to do so); let's see if they review it and publish my comments. Steve

I really like sleeping in heels. My feet get too hot in pumps and boots are out of the question, but 3 to 4" sandals are ideal. I prefer the kinds with adjustable straps so that I can fasten them snugly and keep the sole against the sole of my foot. I tend to wake up once or twice during the night and I'm conscious of feeling good about being in heels. I have never torn sheets or kicked the wife, so it has become a very enjoyable experience for me so far. Try it before you knock it. Steve

Welcome to this great forum. Thanks for sharing your outing experience. Those are excellent boots for street heeling, and we're glad you didn't fall. Be careful but get lots of practice in, so you can handle the heels easily. It takes time and effort to be good, but it's worth it. We look forward to many more good posts from you! Steve

2009 was a good year for me. I acquired between 2 and 3 dozen new shoes, including my favorite Clark's Octavia clogs (in several colors). I wear them openly including around friends and family, and I am continually amazed that no one ever says anything about them being for women, even though the heel is 3" and clearly tapered thinner than a block heel. I even traveled with them on planes through airports and not a second glance. I'm wearing what I like and it's very liberating! Happy New Year to all. Steve

Well, there's Elvis's "Blue Suede Shoes." For pump fans, there's "Pump It" by the Black Eye Peas. And of course that children's song, "Shoo Fly, Don't Bother Me!" And certainly there's a ton of "sole" music out there. Ok, that's enough. I'm not sure if those last three really count... Steve

HappyFeat, If you're going to visit Johnie and Ruthie, send me a private message telling me when and if I can, I would love to join you. We should all get together again. Too bad the October heel meet didn't work out this year. Steve