K2inheels

Hi Luvheelsmuch, welcome to the site!

I understand where you are coming from in terms of the wife not understanding or accepting you wearing heels. You had mentioned that you think that she may be...

On ‎12‎/‎9‎/‎2017 at 6:02 PM, luvheelsmuch said:

her fealing threatened by me wearing them because she has multiple pairs but she can’t wear any of them more than an hour or so

That maybe the case, but there may also be a thought in her head that it is just wrong for a "normal" guy to wear heels. Many women think that as do most guys. That being said, there is always hope that you can help her to see that belief is wrong. It took my wife a couple years to accept me wearing heels. It was not always easy and sometimes we would have some heated arguments. But with time I was able to show her that she need not be threatened by me wearing heels and that I was somehow being less than a man because I wear heels. It just took time. Now I can wear my heels when I want and where I want. She has even gone out with me when I am in heels which usually occurs when we are out of town.

Now days when we go out she offers ideas on which I should wear. So just be patient with her, don't push her, but guide her. I am sure she will come to accept your love of heels like mine did. Good luck and keep strutting those heels!

 Welcome SoCalGal to the site!

To answer your question, Why? Let me give you my thoughts on this from my experience.

Unlike many here I did not think about heels in my youth, rather I found that I liked heels after participating in the Walk a Mile in Her Shoes events. Had done it for a few years and found that I had no trouble walking in heels and that I liked how they felt and looked. So I graduated to wearing heels at home until a few years ago I started to wear heels in public. So that is my story in a nut shell.

You mentioned pain in your post and I think I have a reason why as a man I do not have pain when walking in heels. Actually there are a few reasons, which I will list:

1. As a man I have a larger foot than most women. I take a size 12 in women's. Looking at the foot and the high heel show geometrically we can see that the foot and shoe create a 90 degree angle with the ball of the foot, heel and height of the heel shaft as it's points. Let us call the line between the ball of the foot and the heel as line A. We cannot change line A's length, right? By varying the height of the heel shaft we affect the angle at the ball of the foot. So a woman with a size 8 foot would have a greater angle at the ball of the foot than a guy with a size 12. His angle would not be so extreme at the same heel height as the woman. Less angle, less stress on the foot.
2. I took the time to learn to walk in heels and then I spent hours practicing walking in them.
3. I buy shoes that fit me well and feel good on my feet. They may not cost hundreds of dollars, but I make sure that they fit well and are made well.

So, I hope that answers your question. If you have any questions, just let me know!

Okay, here is a question that I have concerning wearing women's skinny jeans or jeggings with a pair of high heel boots like the pair shown above. Do I wear the jeans:

1. Tucked into the boots
2. Worn over the boots (not possible I think)
3. Wear the jeans with the cuff just above the top of the boot, showing just a strip of the socks between them
4. Some other way (explain)

If you have a photo showing the style you recommend, that would be great. Will help me to visualize.

Thanks for your guys and gals help!

I am always encouraged when someone makes that first step to walk in public in heels!  Hope you have gone on other walks in public with or without your dog wearing heels. 

I can remember those first times wearing my heels in public. Always had the thought running thru my head that someone would laugh,  make fun or do some other bash against me for wearing heels.  But they never came.  Oh sure I had plenty of odd looks or stares as I clicked past in my heels.  But I have also had plenty of people compliment me on my heels or offered words of support. 

So never give up, wear your heels and strut down the road! 

Name: Kevin

Age: 61

Gender: M

Location: Northern Indiana

Occupation: Customer Support Rep

Height: 5'10"

Weight: 180 pounds

Shoe size: 12 (Women's), 10 1/2 (Men's)

What's your favourite heel style: Stilleto

What's your favourite shoe style: T-strap

Do you wear your heels outside: Yes

What is:

(a) Your favourite heel height: 4"

( Your highest heel height: 7"

How often do you wear:

(a) Your favourite heel height: Everyday

( Your highest heel height: Occasionally

Do you wear socks, hose, stockings or bare feet with your shoes:  With boots-socks, heels-depends (lot of the time bare feet but if dressing up nylons.

Read your story there, bootlover78, and I can understand fully your worrys. I agree with pebblesf that we hope you can take a little trip to another town where you will have fewer "issues" to deal with. I guess I am lucky that I live in a good area and have plenty of places to wear my heels. Of course my wife does not go out with me when I am wearing heels, but she is okay with me wearing them. One day she will go out with me, but I think she is just worried to be seen by a friend or family when I am in heels.

Anyway, I have walked in my 5" stillettos in public and all my other heeled shoes in public. Been shopping in them at the malls, Wal-Marts, etc. Have had some people give me puzzled expressions or smiles, but have not had any one harass me about them. I have had women give me compiments on my heels or tell me they could never wear heels, that they could not walk in them. Those were the times that we would talk with them about walking in heels and would encourage them to not give up on wearing heels. I have a couple of women that I see every week (convience stores and at a little antique shop that will always ask me about what shoe I have on today and chat about shoes, clothes, etc.

So I would encourage you to continue to wear your heels whenever you want, wherever you want. I am glad that your wife is understanding and goes out with you. You are a lucky man and I hope you will have many more public outings in your heels!

Okay, I will put my two cents in on this. I think the shoes jeremy1986     has are just fine. If he is comfertable with wearing them in public, I say go for it. We each have to travel the path we feel comfortable with. Some of us are more out going and will feel comfortable stepping out in public in 4 - 5 " heels, other that would not be in their comfort zone. So Jeremy you go on and rock those boots in public. I think they are cute. Don't let others tell you, you are not doing it right, this is your story, not theirs.

Once you are comfortable wearing the boots in public, you can always work up to wearing taller heels. I wish you the best and that your love affair with heels will blossom in your time!

Loved all the various reasons you all are wearing heels. It's great to be able to hear other people experience and passion for heels. But I digress here as this  post should be about why I love heels and wear them.

For me I did not start out in my youth trying heels. I came to this later in life after I had participated in the charity, "Walk a Mile in Her Shoes." For those of you who do not know what charity this is, this is a charity that raise money to raise awareness in their community about the serious causes, effects and remediations to men's sexualized violence against women. They conduct many events in this country where men come out to walk a mile in a pair of heels. The official heels of the events are from LeDame footwear. Have a pair of them that I used once but they are not really my style. Anyway, that is where I found that I liked wearing heels and started on this journey wearing them.

Unlike many women and some men, I choise a route of learning about heels, walking in them, fitting them before I really got into them. I spent time studing women that walked gracefully in heels, talked with some of those women I met who helped me in my journey. I then practiced, practiced and practiced walking in heels before I set out in public. And when I did I was walking with confidence and poise. No wobbling, weaving all over the place. Now days my heels of choice range from 4" to 5" with most being stilletos, but I do have chunkier heels on my booties or boots.

Bottom line is I feel more confident in heels, think that they look great on me and love the beauty of the shoes. They are graceful and elegant.

And I love helping both men and women to learn about and enjoy heels. So if you ever see another man walking in heels, give them a thumbs up!

It's a great day when I get new heels. Take a look at them, love them. They are so comfortable to wear and I have no trouble wearing them. The lady at our local convenience store when she saw me in them told me she thought they looked great on me and wished she could wear heels like them. Made my day!

Just thought that I would share...

Great to hear that your first public walk in heels! It's cool taking that first walk in public.I was just like you the first time, was so nervous that someone would call me out on wearing heels.

Now wearing heels in public is an almost daily wearing of heels in public. The only time I don't wear heels is at work. But when  I shop at stores like Wal-Mart, Kohls or other places, I wear heels. And my heels are not low heels. My heels are between 4 to 5 inches for normal wear. Women are most responsive to them, some are complimentary on my heels or simply smile. Older women might just look and look away. Guys tend to be oblivious to the heels or just don't say anything.

Good luck on your continued forays in public wearing your heels. Don't let anyone tell you, you can't wear heels. Wear them proudly and confidently.

Close to an hour and a half away from there. I am up in South Bend.

Just wanted to introduce myself to the group. I am from Northern Indiana, fairly close to the Michigan border. I have been married for 19 years to a wonderfully understanding wife. For about three years now I have been wearing high heels first at home but now a lot more in public. I am a big proponent that guys should be able to wear heels and women's shoes if they so wish. I find that when I wear my heels, they make me feel good, feel more confident and I find them sexy.

My heels tend to range from 4 to 6 inch in height. I have t-strap heels, calf high boots, open toe heels, thigh high boots, etc. I tend to stay with simple, classic design and color with a little bling on them. I will attach a few photos so you can get an idea of what I wear.

I first got into wearing heels when I first got involved with Walk a Mile in Her Shoes. This is an international men's walk to stop rape, sexual assault and gender violence. I have been walking in the event (more than one in any given year) for about ten years.

Hope to be a help, and encouragement and build bridges with this group. Thanks for listening and hope to get to know you all better!