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Welcome to the club epicentre. Here in our community you will find the confidence to go out in HH even during daytime. There are lots of examples around. So am I, since I joined the club I have already been out on HH. Something I wouldn't dare to dreamed of before joining. And yes you also will find some tips and hints. Enjoy your stay. FL

Welcome to the club Seraphim. Enjoy your stay, it is nice to be here. FL

Hiya Nantine, welcome to the club. Nice place, Greece... been there a couple of times You also mentioned that you are addicted to HH. Do you also like men wearing High Heels? Enjoy your stay FL

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Welcome to the club for HH lovers Amiee. What part of the Uk are you from. I live near London FL

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Well spoken Amanda. Anyway welcome to the club IBL70. FL

Welcome to the club 9inchheel FL

Wxman:

This is probably late, but your post has been fluttering around in my head for the last two days as I struggle with a cold. I think the above posts generally hit the point, but from my viewpoint you should:

1. Talk to your wife. You indicate that she says she is understanding, so it’s not clear if you have talked with her about this yet or not, or if she has merely indicated she is understanding in general. But I strongly recommend you talk with her. Obviously she loves you and she should accept you for all that you are. This is a part of you and I likely think she will not only accept it, but embrace it since she will recognize how difficult it is for you to share this with her and how much closer it brings you.

2. Go slow. I would not recommend you have this talk and at the same time present her with a pair of 6 inch pumps and ask her to start wearing them everyday. Nor would I start wearing them myself regularly immediately. Give her time to accept it and move into it slowly. Almost nothing in nature or life happens instantly, and a gradual transition make things go much smoother I’ve found.

3. Spend a little time reflecting on your feelings. To be completely frank, from my view, your original post talks about a fascination both with seeing women in heels and wearing heels yourself. These are not, of course, mutually exclusive and I share the same thoughts as you. But, I have also spent years (30 or more) getting comfortable with what my preferences are and why I feel the way I do - and even after all that time I can’t really say I’ve figured it out! My point is we are all different at some level and I would encourage you to reflect on what is most important to you going forward so that as you adventure into this world, you are not disappointed.

4. After some thought in (3), then BE YOURSELF. This is a common theme on these forums and good advice. You have to accept who you are and be true to yourself if you expect others to do the same. This is hard to do, but it is mostly mental and not necessarily practical. You don’t need to wear heels in public or to work tomorrow - hell you may decide never to do that. But, you have to first accept yourself if you want to be yourself.

Against the above, what I often do when out with the wife (technically fiancé) and see a women in attractive heels is point her out to my wife. I’ll say something like, “Wow, look at those heels, I wonder where she got those. Those would look great on you; Do you like them?” After all our time together and because we have talked about this, she knows I’m not lusting after the women, but rather the shoes - and that my thoughts are of HER in those shoes.

I hope the above is somehow helpful to you and recognize that you are not alone, you are not different, and you do not have a “problem!”

Well spoken Britana, I would say it as well like that, but with less words...

FL

Well i talked to her yesterday following you guys advice. she said she understood. i asked her to help pick out my first "offical" pair and she said ok. we also talked about me looking at other women just for the shoes and she said she always knew that. i think that was because i always wanted to see her in high heels.

I understand it's all about me being comfortable in my own skin and the rest will follow. It's just for so long it's been taboo, or if you wear any piece of woman clothes you must be gay. but i think around the house will do just fine for now.

Oh yeah one more thing she asked me if i wanted to wear them out! the question just floored me and i didn't have an answer. but i said maybe in the future, in the dark, with a gun. I know baby steps.

Thanks for all the advice. when i get a pair i'll try to post pics, keep all the laughing to minimum.

FL

If you have agun, yes opt for the shooting.... But that hasn't got anything to do with the Gender related issues.... Unless the burglar nicked your heels... FL

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I cannot wear heels with ancle straps because I have very "fat ancles" and big calfs.... I would love to wear shoes like that FL

I would percieve masculinity to be exhibited by someone able to climb a mountain, fell trees, carry a heavy load up a ladder, drive oxen through a muddy field, push my car out of the road when it's broken, carry me upstairs, build a kitchen extension and run after and tackle that burglar.

I just can't imagine any of this being done in stiletto slingbacks.

FL

Hi Anakin

I forgot this thread was going, I hadnt been on the site for a while until recently. Good to be back:w00t2:

I had to sell the new shoes back on ebay I have now offically given up buying Louboutins on ebay due to the erratic sizing, only the french

However their new home is in Rome, so i take comfort in thinking they are being shown off and loved and appreciated in one of Europes most beautiful cities.

You can see the pics on this link from the auction, they were lovely, i was soo sad to see them go http://cgi.ebay.co.uk/ws/eBayISAPI.dll?ViewItem&item=320170443506

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I have read the forum and have to say I'm sorry that you had to sell these lovely shoes.

I hope you'll find another pair who will fit properly.

You are also a good looking girl in High heels, especially the first you have posted on your forum.... the night that where dressed up to go partying....

Anyway, good luck with finding another pair

FL

Sorry for the long post. I do get wordy as you all will find!

FL

I love pencelskirts, Lailalily. When I was younger I use to have one, a white one.... I should buy a new one.... Thanks for reminding me FL

I see Magickman.... They are really made for muddy area's I will have a look if I can fid them back here in the UK Thanks for the tip FL

I believe in some aspect it's true. I wear clothes and heels and I do wonder what it's like to be a woman. Sometimes I wish I was a woman cause I can wear what I want without everyone giving second looks. I'm jealous of them cause of the options that they have. I look at a woman and wonder why most don't dress up. It's an amazing experience when you look at a woman who takes her time to look good, and wearing heels. They produce the sense of confidence, sexuality, and passion, that I will love to feel. Therfore, when I were heels I feel the same way, except I'm in jeans, and they are in skirts, jeans, shorts, etc, etc..... I hate that!!!!!! I wish one day I can do the same without discrimination.

Therefore, yes I wear my clothes and heels to fell like a woman, but don't get me wrong, I love being a man! Just once in a while it wouldn't hurt to be a woman.

I also agree with you. Sometimes when I'm dressed up, I think to feel as a woman.... but who can tell....

It would be nice to be a woman and see how they really feel and if you really would like it.... then you could stay a woman....

Of course the other way should also be possible, woman who want to feel man....

FL

About a week ago, coming out of ASDA store.... In front of me a young lady, early thirty, black coat/jacket, black kneelenght skirt and kneehigh stiletto boots.... very nice figure, nice walk... FL

Hello Las, Welcome to the HH Community. I'm pretty sure you'll find what you are looking for, namely.... confidence. I did when I started here some months back, now I started wearing my heels outside from time to time..... Again welcome and hope to hear more of your stories.... FL

Hello Yozz, welcome to this marvelous HH Community. I'm pretty sure you'll feel comfortable here.... I do... FL

Welcome to the Community Britana FL

I fully agree that we should give the proper information with the heels we sometimes put on display. But when I buy shoes from ebay, like Dr Shoe it is not always from a retailer, so one of a kind. Or now I buy quite a lot of shoes from Highestheel and Pleaser.... so when mentioning that it would be ok to find the websites by themself instead of inserting everytime a URL..... FL

Welcom to the community also from me Milan Heels. I know we had already some exchange on other forums/threads, but nevertheless welcome. Before I became member of the HH community I only wore my heels indoors and only had a ew of them. Since I became a member I already ventured out doors. No big deals yet,but to the local Asda store at six in the morning and to a local store where they know me.... but my confidence grows everyday and I'm glad that we can exchange our experience here with like minded people, male and female..... Hope to hear you more.... FL

Completely agree with you as well Cindy (like your name), wish could walk around dressed like on of them....mmmhhhhh... FL