mikeheel

This is me on the train in London a few weeks ago...what do you think? M

It is deceptive but they are a full 4 inch heel. Nice

Just to see if I can post youtube films...Im on the garden path

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Link...http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=x0xPehAs2w0

Heels in the snow...not a problem !! M

Hi, and thanks for the comments. They are 41 (8 ish) and they run to 42 if necessary. They are lined with soft kid pink leather and have a VERY strong zip fastner. Just Beautiful. They could be another inch higher but I am not complaining ! M

These are the finest boots I have ever owned. They are from Dune in Bath and they have a calf fitting service. I was pleased to find I am not the largest size! I should have waited for the sales as I paid £180 for these and I saw them last month for £120. As it happens I would have paid even more for these...they are so supple, strong and comfortable. I wear them nearly every day. SUPERB. Anyone else know about the beautiful Dune range of Boots?? M

Interesting point : If you are going to wear high heeled shoes as a man, and this gets noticed, then it is not going to matter how high the heels are. I find that I like really high shoes, higher than most other people, and it helps if the public marvel at your skill in walking in them. When I get comments in the street it is mostly women that say " I couldn't walk in those !" Sometimes they come up from behind and start to speak as they overtake me...I don't hurry in heels...It is all about enjoyment. M

I hope this is the right place to post this.... Sorry, having said I am coming I now realise that it is bang in the middle of my law exams. I enjoyed last year and was looking forward to meeting you all again and making some new friends. Always looking for a mini meet in the Bristol area. M

Thanks for the tips. Anywhere in the South UK is fine inc. London. We used to go to Peachy in Bristol. There must be a shop with a stock to try out somewhere? M

I need some help regarding where to go to browse and try on thigh-high boots in the south UK. My partner and I have decided the time has come for us both to have properly made spikey boots with 6 inch heels. I know this will be expensive and we don't want to order online and mess about trying guess sizes or find the quality is poor. Many thanks for any tips in this regard. M

Tigermonster Can you tell us all a little about the rest of your outfit? Can you describe the shoes that you enjoy wearing at the office? regards M

thedesigner...you are right...this is it...one needs to have a good idea of the overall image rather than stick heels on a man who 'has' to buy mens clothes. Balance is the key, just develop an eye for line and form and try interesting colours or patterns (and I don't mean ties) Golden Rule.. ONLY EVER BUY WOMANS JEANS/PANTS/TROUSERS after all ,the shoes start where the trousers stop ! M

My thoughts, for those of us who are uneasy at the prospect of wearing very high heeled shoes in the street and overcoming the fears... It is difficult. It takes a little time. I have done all the things that have been discussed here. BUT....the head games are in OUR OWN HEADS. People are busy with their lives and are not some kind of shoe police. After a while you will see that people are not that interested in you, which maybe a shame but you really do have the freedom to wear heels...it is your God given and democratic right. Always coordinate and don't go out looking like a freak and you have NOTHING to concern yourself with, you are a busy person too. Get on with your own life and the rest of the world will do the same. You may get the odd wink or titter but SO WOULD ANY WOMAN wearing very high heels. I continue on my own path and every day it gets better. I wear high heels in a UK University full of people aged 18-25 (I am 40) and they are not that worldly. They realise I am not an average man when it comes to my choice of footwear...but we don't want to be average Mr.Bland and neither does any woman who wears 5 inch heels. If high heels give you pleasure, and it is harmless, what possible anguish can result?? A very happy new year to you all ! M

I would not mind betting that we, on this forum, represent the 'tip of the iceberg' as regards men who prefer a higher heeled shoe or boot. I think talking about it appeals to some, but perhaps most just get on with it...!! One thing is for sure...those that only fantasize will be on here first, while just buying and wearing might be more 'normal' than we suspect?? M

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If I was out with my children and we saw a man wearing heels, if they asked me why he was wearing them, I'd give them an honest answer. I certainly wouldn't make comments which would prejudice their thoughts.

I wonder what you had in mind to say?

The other week I visited someone in hospital and a couple of boys aged about 8 or 10 saw me in jeans and boots with 4" heels.( not showing that much) They went running off shouting "hey...come and look...it's a man in heels" I just walked on as normal.

Funny but children, being smaller, get used to looking at feet and shoes from an early age as 'they are down there'. They get very used to what is normal for men/women to wear and take an interest as they grow.

I wear heels SOMTIMES around town/shopping or to visit friends with my children (2 girls aged 11 and 14 and they think I'am pretty cool) and it is not a problem. I would not turn up at their school with stripper shoes and leggings but then neither would their mother !!

regards

M

This is more like it !! Men need to catch up with women. The whole look is the key and EVERYONE boy or girl / short or tall / thin or large can find a personal style that works and is crafted by their own interest and feeling for form / colour/ texture. If we achieve harmony then the footware is absorbed into the poetry of the whole. People in the street will just say 'wow' to themselves and won't think "oh look at that freekish weird man in womans shoes" I find women can't help smiling at me when I get it right, which is more and more, as I sharpen up my taste in clothes. M

Well, I must check the achive material to find the battles. Personally, the only battle I would identify has more to do with the way people conduct themselves with rather than the opinions posted. I am ready for any civilised comment however bigoted or narrow. I think we are OT a bit now, but I take your point.

Are we?........lol

I think it is wonderful that men and women have a little corner of the internet to discuss these matters, many many thanks to the people who keep it going.

If I was completely relaxed about wearing heels in public, I would not take so much interest in the forum, as the thrill of talking about it hardly compares with buying and wearing ; which brings me to my point...I think few women consider what men think, about their own high heel shoes as they are so relaxed about wearing themselves.

However, many men are very interested in womens opinions of their high heel shoes as they crave reassurance. Most women I have encountered are supportive or apathetic, like Roz, which is great.

It is the non-heeled 'average joe' men who are unable to think 'outside the box', so we really need to attract some of their opinions onto the forum to get a real, balanced picture.

Any ladies with 'average joe' partners on the forum who would like to join in?? unlikely I suspect.....

M

Benno, this is more like it !! The most elegant shoes have to be very high which means strong, to be reliable and comfortable. They must have leather uppers and soles and be a perfect fit. I think most of the pictures show handmade footware that fits this description. This is never going to be cheap, but I would rather spend £500 on a couple of pairs from the selection from Benno than have 10 pairs of inferior ill-fits and synthetics at £50 each. Shoes like these scream "wear me". I think men would have fewer issues with feeling comfortable if they kept the quality sky high along with the heel height. Can we find a cobbler who can really sort out something spectacular? M

Just for the record I walked around Budapest in heels for 3 days last year. Bought some great linen trousers and 5 inch sandles too! It is a great place! M

Re: Ascot I wonder if the rules mention footware? Perhaps it would be interesting to pursue the idea that all people are free to wear anything, unless insructed otherwise, rather than people can only wear that which is prescribed. If one chooses to attend a private function or join a club then there will be an element of complience required? I'm rambling OT I guess? M

Benno, These links are GREAT . So many ideas.... I think I will have to learn how to play the sewing machine ! M

Hmmm, seems the whole human race is in danger of wearing flat shoes most of the time ! Does the attention, that women get, equate to that which men draw when showing high heels? Does feeling self conscious have any benefits?...I can't think of any. M

I have had a few things that fell apart after a while...they look good and mostly real leather. The boots did not last long. Dont pay too much in their store! As for "how do they feel about men buying...." well don't even consider it as an issue. A sale is a sale and they don't give a hoot who buys from them...just as any shop. Good luck and watch the quality. M

This is an important thread. I know this site is the HH place but this, like many clubs, is what brings us together. Aside from the CD and TS groups we have a split camp of men and women, the men mostly frustrated and worried about how to incorporate HHs in their attire on the street and women who do their own thing care free. The 'whole ensemble' is what the rest of the world sees, NOT our footwear. It's like this...you go out, having spent some time preparing in a mirror, you know you look fantastic and you feel great, you want the world to notice you.....shoes just melt into the whole ensemble. You are no more self-conscious about them than your hair (or lack of it...topic for another time?) This is a long way from sneeking around in HHs not wanting to be seen. A man needs to spend MORE time in front of a mirror than a woman if he feels he will be judged harshly. That is why the thrust of of this board needs to turn more towards helping men find a look that works for them, incorporating HHs. Many men on this board are happy with their style, but too many are unaware what can be done with a bit of flare and imagination. I always avoid mens clothing where possible. They are mostly drab , badly cut and expensive, compared to womens clothes, and I am talking here about unisex garments like shirts, jackets, coats. Use colour, identify the cut and shape of clothes and experiment with sizes. The only loose fit trousers I wear are linen. Jeans have to be tight, shirts generous and detailed. There is nothing more depressing than a mens shirt shop. 10,000 different colours and patterns of the same shirt. Look for sculpted tails and asymetrical pockets, button details or cuff/collar treatment. In the day I keep things moderate, in the evenings I go a bit further, but I always feel the mirror is your best friend. I think a little make-up becomes essential when you smarten up to these levels. Benno perhaps knows more? I have always been a little hesitent with face paint. HHs HAVE to be worn with fabulous clothes...that's the point....you get to the stage where flat shoes would seem inappropriate. M