jim102

Hello. I spent my day in high heels I have to go shop new clothes. When I came back the setep mother told to my father I was pretty lol. A simple black long sweater and black pants with the same black of my pumps.

Almost all the fears I had had been gone!!!! It is just a fear fro a family member or a person that knows me. I know a day I wil be caught by them! Everyone here it happened!

I am now confortable with my heels. The cushions and soles I can walk very good and reduce so much stress! I really dont pay or almost not of other people! Even if I think I hear something! Maybe it is just imagination sometimes. People just don`t care! I made compliments for 2 women for their heels and they were very happy. At the end of the day I could no longer wear heels lol. I was not feeling my feets!

Stores close at 5 in pm and I felt bad cause I am addicted now! It only took one day in heels to start again. I enjoyed so much!!! 

Hi. This is what I believe. Heels make physical sores. So it looks like it should be made too for men especially instead of women. What I am trying to say is men have also their possibility to wear high heels. Not just women! Wearing them for walks in town is a very good way to get used to them and stay in shape. Narrow minded people just dont think of that. It is a good reason for us!

Are you in favor?

And I have seen a guy with a girl that wanted to try the same boots like her just to know what it does. I can notice when you talk about sore or heel experience with sellers they laugh a bit. A woman seller told me: Are they for you?

I said what?

She said nevermind. I was touching boots. She was too shy for me.

Hi. I wanna tell you my evening. I did not wear heels since January. I decided to go to the big commercial center we have in town. I was wearing what I put in attachment files. Let me tell you that was  a sore experience for my feets. I am not used to and my heels are 3.15 inches. I was to busy to think to walk correctly and raising my pants that were going under the heels that I did not keep attention to others! I was only thinking of my feets.

For the reactions I had not the feeling others were laughing at me. I could hear sometimes people laughing but I was at a certain distance. I have seen a silencious Young boy maybe 11 years old that were looking at me in a store so I only looked at him once not for a long time and I did not pay attention. At the end I could have heard one guy said: Check that guy!  and the other : Huh? What? After that the first guy said  He has high heels. AT the end my feets were better because I took pauses in stores. Majority of people did not take care! Even teenage boys!.

But at the beginning let me tell you I was very nervous. I was shaking and I had hot! I went asking for a relaxing hot tea and felt better after! It is when you begin you fell uncomfortable!

But I was nervous but I did not pay enough  so much attention to others like the few days I worn high heel boots seven months ago. I talked to myself to not take care of them and to control my anxiety.

Next time I will put balls of foot cushions for a better control.

I just get good comments from you in here but around me nope. Even the girl I chat with  everyday does not like. And she says no women are attracted by that. So I told her I have enough of those bad comments and the bad mentality of societies we have. It has been 4 years I started buying heels and make my steps and I can understand it is not easy for our mind but I cannot live with a part of my mind that is really in love with heels and the other who has the opposite! Each day I think other`s negative opinions in my head none accept or likes it is their problems. They miss something god. They missed a bonus in their lives. Enough is enough! I  try to integrate them in my life to remove that bad habit of so much useless worries.

Heels will not avoid me to get girlfriends. The proof is you have women in your life! I just do not get their bad mentality! For me I cannot believe what they can say to me. It is just shoes it is not a transexual experience!

I guess you too have enough of the others!

True or untrue? The fact is your brother is actually helping you to wear your heels

It is totally the opposite! He is one of the guy who will search in your things until finding something that answer to what he was looking for. A teenager! Working and going to school and after that taking so much alcohol and (F******)with his girlfriend. He likes to be junked. He is like the follower of my father`s mind! It is a guy doesnot take charge of himself!

I`ve got no bad events after that. She simply ignored him! So the question you should ask yourself is: Will a folk or narrow minded will help? They just do not understand and they will never.

What I know is after that later in the day I went buy heels I showed here! It gave me a boost to my mood! I was very happy to know if they make noise when walking on cement. They did!

And for your prison I do not get it!

You must know the hardest challenge is family! That`s terrible no? It takes you several months to accept!

Hi. Since that terrible event from january 25th I got a call from my mother and she askes me: Is it true that you have high heel boots?

I said no eventually cause I went to free them after.

So I hope he would not make her believe him cause it will have so much BLA BLA BLA.

That stupid kid knows now for my secret but he has 18 years old! He does not understand. My father and my step mother know. After that no one knows except my female friend. Even not a friend cause our minds just do not fit well . Just a person I met at my Professional training.

Maybe she will forget that. I hope she will not tell my brother about that.

That brother has a large mouth! If he continues everyone will know. I do not need more. So my heels will stay into my car! I can make a sacrifice to wear them in public but the rest of family? Nope!!

So I was asking myself why am I so unlucky?

So I told that to my chinease friend and to you and I will see what it wil happen later. I`m gonna put my anxiety away from me. It has been toxic for a long time!

Don`t forget we are just a minority in my town away from Quebec city! In my province men in heels are very outnumbered. This week I tought I have seen a guy wearing heel boots Under pants on the street! Maybe I am wrong

Hi. I could not resist I finally went taking them! I will asks a man to cut that ugly decoration at the back and paint the heel in black because small lines I am not able

Hi. You remember me? The guy that had trouble with the half of it`s family. I finally decided to start again but not with boots this time. With court shoes I was supposed to. I had and still have that big  public anxiety but time has gone and I wanna try again to feel good.

I just had to return back a discontinued heels because I switched from 8.5 to 9. It was shellum model from call it spring.

I posted in the attachments the meldina model from the website. I hate the decoration behind the shoe but evrey shoe has it bad side.

I decided to not take patent heels because it is too style. Simple  leather would be ok. I still have that fear of being seen but once I will get through it I will feel better in myself.

I`m curious how many guys here took so much time to pass the level?

I will make a topic from clothes with them to see what good clothes will show me less worst than it appear for folks.I have also a chinease female  friend aware of my heel pleasure. She accepts and can help me with clothes but she does not agree with men in heels but she said me to not take care of her comments if I do not like.

I showed you my legs. I wanna know if I need shaving them to wear shorts with black court shoes.

Hello Thighbootguy!

I just have seen your pictures. You should not put short jeans! Try long ones. Congratulation to assume yourself in public!!

Just  for be sure it can be ok with that kind of pilosity. it is not like mike meyers stomach! Sorry if it causes troubles but I have to be sure at 100% if i would need a cut hair.

Interesting! Best thing is to take pictures or recording a video by ourselves to see if it looks good.

Hello. I want to ask you that question because i have it for months in my mind.

You know what I mean by nice legs. The bottom with naked legs and no socks in black court shoes heels. It is beautiful on a woman. Women and men have not the same legs but can I have beaituful legs also with pumps if I get my legs depilated?

You know what I mean because I want your opinon because you wear heels and you should know that.

Will the result be the same?

Women have no pilosity so a man depilated of the legs ?

It`s a very good question!

One of a girl I known said it will look very gay. She thinks the men are teasing or they are gay. I don`t care of her mind. I wanna know the truth

Thank you!

The seller told me the brand is True Religion

I will make a search and do not hesitate if you wanna help me they are pretty

You also deserve to know about them because they have a great look and for someone else who likes Platform closed black patent heel

These Platform heels are pretty

Thank you

Ok Dr.Shoe. All I have to do is to make an effort often and fear will be over! Of course I heard laugh of me and two family members against my heel fetish but like many of you here with the sex-therapist and with few women sellers many people still have an old mentality about men in heels. They were always used to associate things with others. More of them do not know hetero men in heels. The fact is they do not know us enough and they believe their own reality from education. But they do not know all for sure their associations are completely false! They have an old mentality with ton of prejudices. If they would be enough numberous to open their eyes they would know that their thinkings are stupidities learnt from bad educated manners!

Why should I let them influence me? I am thinking liars too seriously and I have the choice to follow their stupid mind or mine! The truth they do not know and they refuse to admit. What will happen if I wear heels? Nothing! I will not screw off my life like my dad thinks! Consequences he thinks and other folks are not totally true!They have their opinions about negative feedbacks and  negative consequences are not going to happen exactly  like they say!

Also I do not understand what saudade means when he talked about family. His English is hard to translate into french.  His first paragraph after the answer to that is simple. Nothing

It begins by: (The answer to what I do when family finds out... until I am biased)

And his expression with the spoon I do not get it!

Rest I get it

Thank you for your support it helps me more!

I like your heels. They look like simple leather not shiny

Ok I see but how would you react when it is people you know or family member? It is that thing that is very scarying!

I was wrong with the two stores. It is verona not Veronica. Verona from veronashoes.com. They have two stores in my town.

One with men and one with a man and woman. I prefer asking to a woman. I was affraid of two guys in verona store and in labaie store. Both guys were not a problem I was worried for nothing. They said nothing and I talked with the guy at labaie. Respectful !

You see a group of 6-9 men who enter in a commercial centre. Imagine yourself in heels! OUCH!

Men make me scary!

When I was wearing my heel boots I was paying so much attention to others. I should not!

It is hard when you begin heeling but need to get used to. Otherwise nothing is supposed to stop you and I envy those who succeded!

All troubles for a simple pair of shoes! I have to work hard on myself if I want to get more (thrusting myself). I know I could be audacious!

The problem with me is I am too much anxious. When I got discovered I got traumatized by the behavior of three folks where I live. Since that I am not respectful towards my father and the mother-in-law and the brother. I take anxiety drug but it is so big to deal with it. It was good to reduce my anxiety for wearing heel for the first time and after that this is another story. I think  it is too much hard for me I will have to reduce my stress. Finding another home to stay far from my town which is outside quebec city. Finding also a stability in my life for working. I wanna live far from those three stupid people. Once it will be changed maybe I could wear heels at long time. Now I am unable to do anything and I have  almost finished my Professional training.

I figure out I am the only guy here who stresses too much for nothing in this forum! I have an obsession against foots and sandals and I really hate women in summer. I always check what they are wearing and most of time it is very ugly.

In two Veronica`s store it has kaysan black leather closed heels and there are at least one man seller. When I go there I go touch them and leave and I always see many many men and groups of men there outside commercial centre and it make me scary!

On eBay I have a wonderful list of heels but I do not order them because I will receive questions from the three people and my 17 years old brother knows all my hiding places. He can search if he suspect something.

So that is the reason of why I stay anxious like that. I believe you when you tell me it has no problems but in my own mind there is a lot of worries. I know noone can help me. I have to change my life before thinking of heels again. It is always the same things I have by thinking too much!

I am gonna try to stop complaining here to disturb you.

:furious: Hello. Many of you have posted in my sex-therapist thread and others and it is great. I had had one time to wear high heel boots and time to feel bad about it. Some say I do not accept myself in heels. Anxiety is reflecting reactions from me and others.

Many things I think let me still in trouble. My mind attitude actually is a vicious negative circle.

I saw three women wearing black court shoes. It makes me angry the fact I do not see very often women wearing black closed court shoes. I find women are innocent and do not know what they want. They have pretty shoes and they prefer not wear them at all! Many of women do not because of the pain and it is half true but it is not acceptable for me! One day it will be men that will wear them if it continues like that.

Another thing is a man in heel it is not normal from society view. It should be normal because it is not fair that women can wear black court shoes with no problems! It should be same for men!

Sometimes I say myself: If I could be a woman I would wear heels everyday because I wanna enjoy what is not enough enjoyed!

I would like the society changeand become more fair. I would like to see more women in black court shoes. I would like to see myself wearing them and not be considering myself to be the only man in heels in my town. It is like I heard about few other men wear heels but I never see them.

Men are a bit like me. They are affraid and wait for nothing. I would like to see at least 1 or 2 men in heels in my town but it is impossible. Why other men are too shy? Why it is a small minority of men and not more like in United States?

I figure out you are living in a paradise men in heels in US. Compared to Canada. Canadians are not enough evolved like americans! Sometimes we learn about few articles in the web but not enough to start a majority of men in heel except your Lucky country with it`s ( walk a mile in her shoes).

Thank you for your great help until now and if you know other people having the same anxious problems like me just let me know!

Interesting. In a couple the woman does not like when their men is laughing of someone. So when they notice you they show their bad attitude and they are not better than you!

A fact is I wanna make pay the three persons in my home. One with 17 years old, one with 42 and one with 33.

What I regret the most is they find out my heel interest.  Not wearing heels I regret.

First time I visited that forum I had a bad opinion about guys here and after taking time to read so many threads I found people with similar situations and realized I was wrong!

My family traumatized me and it is not easy to deal with that and it is amazing most guys here went out that stressing step! But I am with those men that need more more time to get up and to go to the next level!

You are right StarCrossed!

Wearing heels even I am a men should not be affected by opinions or intolerance of others. Even family members!

But you can understand since I have been caught by family I feel bad about wearing heels again.

I most completely lost the confidence to myself. I am afraid of the reactions of others and I am very anxious!

Young men groups or men groups or men sellers make me scary.

I remember in my first experiences that most people do not react when I wear heels in public. If yes they are very outnumbered. Even a woman were surprised by the look she made me but I was capable to to not take care of her.

You know I think my experiences or if not consult my threads.

I noticed few women alone with their kid in the same place of me did not react. They just do not pay attention like most of people.  The sex-therapist said to me it is more tolerated in man in heels that you can think but the problem is there are too much tolerance and from me I notice people have not enough tolerance.

So all my worries come from people that do not have tolerance. They are not numbered against the other kind of people that say nothing.

Another thing that makes me afraid is men in heels are very limited. Just a few guys between 1 and 4 I heard about at a commercial centre.

Women sellers are totally open-minded and they told me many of men are afraid to try heels in store. They ask for trying but they go away without trying!  They are used to men in heels. Intolerant people have an old mentality and I learnt so much things during my experiences.

Old mentality people are retarded.

If it does not clarify why I made that thread just tell me again guys

I like the look with some black noisy heels boots Under blue jean from many women.

Ok but it`s like I am the only one who feel bad about that.

I mean just after the fact you have been detected and got too much predjudices from the old mentality of two family members does someone in here got tired of wearing heels?

After the big anxiety I got I do not want to start wearing heels again. I had a very hard mind period and lose confidence to myself to wear heels.

I do not know now where to wear them! Anywhere? Nope! Not near places family has the habit to go

I continue to feel that it is an injustice for men to be not normal when wearing heels. I also feel jealous about women that they can wear all they want even men clothes without troubles.