eternus Posted November 28, 2007 Share Posted November 28, 2007 So i've laid the groundwork for getting my wife into heels, bedroom heels at the least and she hasn't really pushed back. So, I'm looking to make this first step as gentle as possible so that she'll be more inclined to wear them again. She is a stay at home mom so they don't really work for her all day, additionally she is 5'9 (I'm just shy of 6') and has size 10 feet. Am I doomed to frumpy heels? I can handle her height and was thinking probably 4-5", especially since they won't be for daily use. Does anyone have any advice or a friendly pointer to a site that does? (Oh yah, and hi I'm new to the site. =oP) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sendra45 Posted November 28, 2007 Share Posted November 28, 2007 Hi, well everybody will tell you not to push too hard, look around the site and you will see that time and time again. i dunno, suggest getting something to not spice up the love life but to add to it, it might be tricky if you have been in the relation ship for a long time, if you have and its her you want to wear them, come clean and tell her, but you will have to choose your time well. I am sure others will offer help. The angels have the phonebox. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
WobbleFan Posted November 29, 2007 Share Posted November 29, 2007 Hi Eternus, Your post has brought me back to active use of this forum. I've been in the same position as you're in right now. My lovely wife didn't think much of heels either. But, recently, there's been a major change in her position on heels! First, please have a look at this post: http://www.hhplace.org/discuss/everybody/8858-long_would_like_your_advice_buying_shoes_my_wife.html The outcome of this has been that I gave her these as a present: http://www.fuss-schuhe.de/hhfc/images/PU-274A-2429-nero3.jpg However, they didn't fit and she didn't really like them either. So we sat down to have a look at the Fuss web site (http://www.fuss-schuhe.de) and she picked these: http://www.fuss-schuhe.de/hhfc/images/PU-1919-311-nero3.jpg I had warned her that these were even higher (11 cm / 4.3"), but she didn't mind. Couple of weeks ago we went out to have dinner with friends and she wore them! They're a bit high for her, she has to bend her knees just a little, but she looks spectacular in them! My wife's really tall as well, but that is just a good thing. The best part of it was that although she did struggle with them a little, she enjoyed them very much, even laughing at the occasional wobble. Her friend loved them as well and couldn't stop commenting on them. To me it was a real turn-on. We had a great evening, in more then one way! My advise to you would be to be totally honest about your intentions, make sure she trusts you completely and be patient! I've also found that putting a little extra effort in our relationship from both sides seems to have helped as well. Make her happy, make sure she feels being appreciated as a woman and as *your* wife and she'll probably be more willing to go along with your needs. And, if you're really lucky like I am, she'll find out its really good fun! The best of luck to you both and please keep us posted! WobbleFan Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rob Posted November 30, 2007 Share Posted November 30, 2007 WobbleFan has got it spot on. Listen to the man. All I can add is that you shouldn't push her to the highest heels imediately. If she chooses 3 inch heels then be happy that it is a step in the right direction. The best things come to those who wait. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RPMindy Posted December 6, 2007 Share Posted December 6, 2007 yup.. my wife periodically surprises me and wears up to 5 inch now.. before... it was one of those talks where she made it plain.... beyond 3 inch was out of the question. but.... don't be pushy.... let her realize for herself that it's a pretty nice additon to do for herself (super tricky and very dependent on who the woman is). doing heels for you is a short lived deal (in most instances). but doing it because she likes it or sees value in it or feels great in it.. that tends to last longer and then she's more self motivated. in my wife's case. going out to dressy events and affairs is when she's most likely to do tall heels. alas.. lack of practice.. pain... makes it a 'dismal' type proposition.. because she likes the look, the impact, the feel.. but not the discomfort. and she won't practice either, because that looks/feels 'dumb'. so.. after 5 years of patience... her average height of heels is now a tick above 4 inch... and sporatic 5 inch. she's curious about 5.5 but won't hear much about 6 other than to tease me. each woman is different.... many threads on this.. good luck RPM Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Stilettography Posted December 7, 2007 Share Posted December 7, 2007 Hi Eternus, I have a website that may be of interest to you. Besides the galleries of pictures of stilettos, I would like to point you to the study I have called "The language of stilettos". This study is aimed at the relationship between a couple and shows them how stilettos can play a part in improving and stimulating their relationship. Read through the study...I am sure it will give you pointers to getting your wife more interested in the powerful item... See these links: Home page: http://www.stilettography.com/ The study: http://www.stilettography.com/Home/The%20Language%20of%20Stilettos.htm Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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