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I love sandals, i think it's the most beautifull stiyle of shoe, i don't have a pair yet (not strappy anyway), but not because i don't want them, i just haven't found the right pair in the right size (mainly because of the size).

1200 pairs, that is impressive, but more than the numbrer i wonder, where do you store them? and how do you organize them?

A quick search in google gave me this liknk http://shoes.about.com/od/glossaryofshoestyles/Glossary_Shoe_Styles.htm

There you can find definition on shoe styles with pictures (that helps).

Also this http://www.shoe-design.com/glossary-footwear-definitions.html

Maybe it's a little harder to undestand, but it's also more compelte, since it has terms for shoe parts etc.

Age: 30 Gender: Male Location: Colombia Occupation: Engineer Height: 5'9'', 175 cm Weight: 91 kg Shoe size: 10-11 What's your favourite heel style: Stiletto What's your favourite shoe styles: Sandals Do you wear your heels outside: Nope. What is: (a) Your favourite heel height: 4" ( Your highest heel height: 4.5" How often do you wear: (a) Your favourite heel height: Once a week ( Your highest heel height: Twice a month Do you wear socks, hose, stockings or bare feet with your shoes: Barefeet I live with my GF and a year ago i woudn't have considered the possibility of using heels while she's around, i didn't even have heels back then.

Shame, i was afraid of that answer, luckyly i have not seen a style i like yet online, and i guess i better not look now Thank you for the info

Hello I have never bought shoes online, since i don't live in the US, and while i have a service that carries packages to my country cheaply, returning shoes (if size is wrong) would be more expensive than buying another pair. I have however bought some shoes of brands that are sold online, so if i know my size on a certain brand, can i order that same size in another style of the same brand? I'm sure there would be some variation (for extremely pointed shoes for example), but as a general rule, are sizes of the same brand standard?

Also it may be related to the time of the day,i've heard that feet swell a little between late afternoon and evening (due to the day's activities), so some shoes may feel more tight, an if they were were tight to begin with they may hurt if you use them after a long day of walking.

Welcome Your story is indeed very interesting, and unique i think. BTW i don't think you have trust issues, it seem to me that she is just not worthy of trust, but of course you know this already. You can't post pictures yet, there is a time period or a minimum number of posts before you can do that (i don't remember exactly, but its really easy, something like 10 posts), so it will probably not take long before you can upload them.

Heels are an obvious choice, but even more important is confidence. The person must feel like she looks good, and that impresion may be "projected" to other people. I´ve seen women who were good looking, and used heels, but they were obviously uncomfortable while doing so (not fisically, they just seem uneasy), and that takes away a lot of the sexy factor.

I work in a university, we don't attend public, and most people here are former students who belog to a research group (me included) so clothing is very relaxed here, i litteraly use the same clothing i used as a student so women here usualy wear sneakers, ballerina flats, and sometimes sandals, but it´s all very casual. That means that a high heel is almost unheard of, but a couple of weeks ago we had a very interesting event: A student graduated, and this simple fact seems to have an impact in her wardrobe, maybe she got heels as gifts, maybe she just liked how they felt in the graduation ceremony, but whatever the case she came in heels to the year´s end party (something uncommon like i said, but specially for her). The week after the party, she came to the office wearing heels, this even raised some comments, as it was strange (all friendly however, we have some pretty cool people here). That week two other females in the office came to work with heeled boots, or sandals, not very high, but definately noticeable (and they never came to work in heels before) And now the original trend setter has come to work, on different days, using different high heeled shoes (i´m really happy about it, because it´s a very refreshing change, and quite frankly the heels make her look very good and do wonders for her figure), i´m not sure if the other females are curious, jealous, or what is the case, but i´m really happy to see more heels in the office and hope the trend becomes more popular.

Hi and welcome How about some more details? do you like heels on women only? do you wear them? what kind of shoes you like? etc.

Another thing is, does she know how much you like heels on women?, i mean almost every man likes them, but my girlfriend knew that heels really turned me on and that i was interested in them way more than an average guy, and that helped. This is easier to understand for women, and if she knows it may be a good way to start the conversation (something like: you know how i REALLY like to see you in heels? well there is more to it...) so it doesen't become a "Honey, we need to talk" thing, like Tech said, because that is a really bad way to start any conversation, and may get her in a bad mood before she knows what you need to tell her.

Hello I can relate to your situation since i was in the same place at the begining of this year, so i know how you feel and all the doubts you have. First of all keep in mind that you are the only one who with a deep knowledge of your gf and your realtionship over the years, so what happened to me (and other people in this forum) may not be your case, judge by yourself and take any advice carefully. That being said, there are a lot of threads here about people who are married, or share a life with their partners and have kept this secret for years, they regret that decision an look for advice on what to do, this is very important, keeping this kind of secret if you live with someone is extremely difficult and it will take a toll on your enjoyment of heels and your relationship, also if she discovers it, or rather when she does (she will eventually) it will be a problem, because of the shock and because that kind of secret is not good for a relation, she will feel betrayed and that you don't turst her. I told my gf about my desire to wear heels shortly after i asked her to move in together, and it has worked great for me, she doesn't allways get it, nor does she enjoy seeing me in heels, but se accepts it and i can wear them at home without fear or guilt, in the end i think that telling her is one of the most important decitions i made regarding our living together, because it allows me to indulge in this part of my life and not decieve her in any way. So my advice is, if your realtionship is serious and you see a future as a couple, that you share this part of you with her, but it's very important to do it the right way. Remember that heels are not a bad thing, you wanting to wear them is not bad either, and that's how the subject should be approached, in a frank and direct manner, answer any questions and doubts she may have (and she will have them, she will specially wonder if you are gay, ufortunatelly that is how most people think), try to be clear about your desires, what you want to do, when you want to wear them, do you want more fem clothes etc. When i told my gf some things were not clear enough, so she was a little surprised when i bought more than 1 pair, she didn't think i would like various styles etc, but things have worked out great after a little talk and my shoes are not a problem to our relationship. You are afraid, that is normal and undestandable, but you mention that she is open minded and she loves you, so that's really important, make sure that she understands that you are the same man she loves only the shoes are different. About "incorporating it in your relationship" be carefull with that part, some girls actually enjoy men in heels, some are indiferent, some hate it, in my case she doesen't enjoy it, so heels are not a part of our relationship in any way, they are just shoes i wear around the house sometimes, but that's fine by me, don't pressure her into anything, try to get her to accept it that is the main thing, if she actually enjoys it or whatever, that may come later, but don't rush it. I was very afraid of talking about this, but reading stories in this site convinced me that it was the right thing to do and today i would be very sorry if i hadn't. In short words: Don't hide it from her, if she is the one and you decide to keep a secret it will be a problem later on. Use your own judgement on how/when to tell her, and just talk about it, don't make id a difficult thing or give it a misterious air, they are just shoes, be frank and answer all her doubts. Read more threads in this fourm, maybe the courage you need is here somewhere. Good luck, and remember, this advice has no guarantee at all, but this really is not the huge problem that you picture in your head. And finally, please tell us about her reaction if you decide to tell her, im not trying to be intrusive, but i hate when people don't post the results in this kind of threads

A size 40 can generally correspond to a size 9, but in reality there is no guarantee of it, it can be very different according to the heel height, the style of the shoe, and the toebox, for example if a pair of shoes is extremely pointed ordering a size up may be a good idea.

There is no real standard (that i know) for sizes so sometimes depends on the shoe brand, for example i have shoes in size 10, 10w and 11, and they all fit, so there is no real subsitute for trying them on.

This chart may give you an idea, but this it not really an exact science http://www.i18nguy.com/l10n/shoes.html

I have never seen a way to do that, but this forum has some threads about people "stuck" in heels and becoming permanently heeled, maybe you could look for advice there, it's not what you ask, but it may be the closest you can get.

I wish that program was shown here, that clip is pretty awesome, and some other realted ones (from the same show) seem cool as well. That woman's walking is extremely gracefull, I think i'll have to try that walking like that, I will probably look dorky, but I wil try anyway.

I think i fell in love wiht the peep toes, i don't really like the square shape of the closed ones, but the peep toes are really near my definition of perfect.

I don't see the link, could anyone repost it please? i have not found it anywhere

The Cross!!! Roger Taylors band? wow, that takes me back, Shove it!

Actually i was lisening to Samael (not a cover, at least i don't think so), but now, out of curiosity, i will have to look for the one you mention.

It seems logical that we mention the song and the artist, you just showed why, so here goes again:

The cross, Samael

Us, Samael

The ilusionist, Scar Symmetry

Shake your blood, Probot

Trickle Britches, BB king

The cross Us The ilusionist Shake your blood Trickle Britches

Less than 1 hour ago i bought a pair of white sandals (that's the style i was really missing in my small collection), this is the first time i bought a pair in a store that was not payless, and this meant i had to ask for my size. I tried one on, and it was a little small, but since there are not many places i can get that kind of shoe, and the ridiculously low price i decided to give them i try. So i asked the girl for both shoes (she had only handed me one before) and tried them both on, walked a littel bit, saw miself in the mirror etc, i still asked if they made a larger size, but she said that was the largest size in any shoe on the store, so i decided to take them. The checkout was made by another girl, who also saw me wearing the shoes and looking myself in the mirror, the girl who attended me smiled in a very particular way (quite cute actually), she was obvoulsy amused by the event and obvioulsy knew they were for me, but i did not feel any lack of respect from her, im sure they had a good laugh after i left, and are probably still taking about me, but their behavior while i was in store was perfectly adecuate. So now i'm even more sure that trying the shoes in the store is the right thing to do, even if you never wear heels in public or are very shy (that's my case), the store people want to make a sale and more often than not the experience will be positive, and it's also a lot of fun, i must admit i enjoyed the weird smile from the girl in the store, and thinking about what she said after i left.

Those are shoes are really strange, but they look great, the tied string on the back may be a little overkill for my taste, but i would still love to own a pair like that. Are they comfortable? it seems like stability could be a problem.

I personally dislike emo style, of course i wear high heels and used to have long hair, so i probably soud not critisize the fact that they wear makeup and everything else but i just don't like the fashion, don't think it looks good (one of the signs that i'm getting older). But like the OP said, when people hear emo they get extremely judgmental, they carry a very negative stigma and, quite franlky, if they start wearing heels (and i'm surprised this is not common) i don't think that would be good for the image of men in heels, because in the public eyes they would not be men in heels but rather emos being emos and public perception of heels would be even more tainted than it is now. As i write this i realize that my position does not make a lot of sense, so just to be clear i just don't like emo fashion, i think it looks bad and probably i don't want them wearing heels because i don't want to have that in common with them, but at the same time i admire the courage in the fact that they go out in public wearing these extremely feminine clothing and make up, of course they feel validated by the fact that it is common among the youth now, but they are definately brave in front of an (unfortunately) untolerant society.

Hi,

They are nothing special apart from being my own 1st pair

I think that makes them pretty special, at least for you.

And they look cute too, i wish i could find a good pair of heels in that color, so far the only shoes that i have found in my size are black, they are nice, but i really want red or white shoes.

Hello and welcome Like you said this is a great forum, and i'm sure you will have a lot of fun. Congratulations on your shoe purchase, any chance to see a photo of them? (you have to wait a week or do some posts before you can post pictures i think, but maybe a little later).