Skirted-UK

Everything's is always so easy according to women, all you have to do is get rid of your heels and you will both life happily ever after. Well I am sorry but its unlikely to happen. The best that you can do is talk to her and explain the situation and try to come to a compromise. I you let her talk you into dumping your heels you will only be back to buying some more and wearing them in secret. If she won't except it, then its best to say goodbye to her now and avoid any future heartache.

I find the best thing to do with high heel shoes which have a thin smooth sole is to get stick-on soles fitted, this not only protects the sole of the shoe from wear, it also protects your feet from uncomfortable small pebbles that you may step on. It also makes the shoes a lot safer to wear. As regards heel height, I find anything up to a 4" heel is easy to wear, but shoes which have a 4.5" heel feel really high and I would not wear anything higher.

Looks ok to me Jeff :-)

A lot of girls don't like skirts or heels and only wear them to get a boyfriend. But I wonder how many girls tell their boyfriends that they don't intend to wear skirts or heels when they are married ?!

I recently has some cross words with a seller on eBay. I purchased a skirt from her. The trouble was: when I received it, it has to be washed first as it absolutely stank of stale cigarette smoke. She claimed she was a non-smoker who only wore it once. Obviously, the occasion she wore it was to a smoke filled night-club. The smell was disgusting!

Whenever I buy clothes on eBay now, I try to look to see if the seller has mentioned if it is laundered and/or from a smoke/pet free home.

Sounds to me like she was a smoker and could not smell the smoke on the skirt, you think that she would have washed it before she put it on ebay!

The problem with people who smoke is that they are addicted to it and cannot give it up. I have known people with cancer and heart problems who were told by their doctor to give it up as it is killing them, they have just carried on and died!

If these people don't care about their own health, they are not going to be worried about what they are doing to anyones else's health. The non-smoking public need to be protected from these people.

I am not going to tell anyone what is right and what is wrong, I would just like to tell you my story. From my early teens I discovered that it was great fun to wear the long straight skirts and stiletto heel shoes that the older girls were wearing at the time. I did not see anything wrong in this but I thought it was a bit weird so I kept it a secret. In my later teens I meet a wonderful girl and after a long engagement I married her. I always planned to get rid of my heels and skirts when I got married, but when the time came I found that I could not and I hid them in the attic of the house that we had bought. I kept it a secret from my wife for 15 years, when she found out she was very upset and said that if I had told her before she would never had married me. Well that was a shock! I love my wife dearly and I can't imagine life without her. We manage to work through this and have been happily married now for over 30 years, we have a daughter who is also happily married with children. Last xmas we were at my daughters house and I looked around me and realised that non of this would exist if I had told my wife about my fetish before I married her. If I could turn back the clock and tell her, this house would be completely different and would be owned by someone else. My daughter and grandchildren would not exist and my son in law would be in a different, possibly unhappy relationship, as would my wife. Out of all the women that I have known in my life, I cannot think of one that I would have married had I not meet my wife. I would properly be living on my own now in a flat with my skirt and shoe collection with only my older brother and sister as my immediate family. I notice that many of you say that your girlfriend understands your need to wear heels. My experiences in the past with young women is that they tend to have exciting boyfriends, but when the time comes for them to settle down and start a family they dump the exciting boyfriend and chose someone more stable and uncomplicated to father their children and provide a home for them. Its very easy to say what is the right thing to do when you are young because you can't see the full picture. I know a lot of people are not going to like this, but with hindsight I would do the same thing again. What you all have to consider is that you are unlikely to be able to give up your fetish, most women and not going to like it and do you want to be single person all your life.

Nice to see you back Susan, please stay this time.

As this is The High Heel Place, I think the logo should just show a pair of high heel shoes incorporated into some sort of art work. I don't think it should feature a person of ether gender

A lot depends on how you measure a heel. If you measure it from the back of the heel to the floor it can make half an inch difference from measuring it throught the center which is the way I perfer.

I can't wait for it to come into force! I stopped going to pubs and eating in restaurants about 15 years ago because of the smoke. What settled it for me was when I took the wife out for an expensive meal and someone lit up a cigar on the next table. I just except now that pubs and restaurants are for people who smoke. I voted with my feet.

I have been on the verge of several purges in my life but I have always resisted the urge to carrier them out because I know that its not the answer and in a few weeks time I will regret doing it. Another thing to consider is that womens fashion changes very quickly. In the ninties you could always go and buy a long black or navy straight skirt as this is what the majority of women wore to work. Now if you go into the same shops the calf-length straight skirts have been replaced by black or navy trousers. Its the same with shoes, there is nothing to say that 4" stilleto heels will be in fashion for ever. You could dump your entire collection of heels and find them out of fashion when you come to replace them. Most of my shoe collection is from Hayway shoes, good job I did not have a purge in October as Hayway shoes have just stopped trading!

My concern is not from physical or verbal attacks, but more running into people that know me or my family in a professional level. I'm the youngest in a family business that works in the industrial sector, working with diferent service people covering most of the state of FL for over 20 years, and I run into people at the oddest times. Even if the fear is unfounded I'd hate to damage our reputation just because of my activities. My dad showed alot of concern for that sort of thing when I came out of the closet, but most people assume I'm straight so it's not a big deal.

This is one of the reasons that I am so secretive. For me wearing skirts and heels is 100% fun, its not about making a fashion statement or getting a new look, its just great fun!

I could not enjoy the experience if I was mingling with the general public, I would feel too self-conscious, which is why I only wear my stuff out at night, at remote, deserted locations. I also do not wish to be known as a CD, which is why I keep it separate from my everyday life. Keeping my crossdressing in a separate box so to speak is my way of keeping my sanity and avoid getting into the state that several members have got into recently.

Its not only men who have a problem wearing skirts. I found these two post from womem on a fashion forum !? can anyone give me advice? I want to be more feminine in my appearance and persona but don't know where to begin. Also - big problem - i'm at college. I'd really love to wear pencil skirts and heels but I'm afraid of standing out too much. I'm just so bored of jeans and drabness and want to start feeling like a girl. youre definitiely right that a lot of us would prefer to wear skirts but somehow don't. Not wanting to stand out is part of it - a few years ago I worked in an old fashioned firm where women wernt allowed to wear trousers. I hated it at first, and was flabergasted when a friend told me in the ladies that she envied me having to wear skirts all the time. She said she would love to but didn't have the courage to be the odd girl out when all her colleagues wore trousers.

Its good to know that you are ok Jeff, I was begining to think that something nasty had happend to you. I will always be greatful to you for putting me onto Pleaser shoes, for which I now have two pairs.

regards,

Skirted-UK

Allow me to join those before me who are understanding and sympathetic to you. As a veteran street-heeler from aged 12 to 62 (50 years and counting), I've gone through various phases of going "over-the-top" (amassing several hundred pairs of heels) and then having periodic drawing-back and having massive clear-outs and non heel-wearing phases. However, many such previous forum debates have established that it seems to be a passion that

we're stuck with, and it DOESN'T GO AWAY - it simply becomes suppressed for a while.

So yes, as already said in this thread, it is all down to a balance of gently enjoying one's innermost passions without going bust or feeling that you are making a total fool of yourself or worse still, starting to despise yourself.

"Everything in moderation" as some wise person said.

Happy heeling! Cheers, Heelfan

I agree entirely with what Heelfan says, having gone down a similar path over the years. Its pointless for someone who is getting into the same situation as Jeff, to get rid of all their stuff. They might have got rid of their skirts and shoes, but its still in their head. You can't get away from it because everywhere you go there are women in skirts and heels to remind you of what you are missing. Sooner or later you will be back buying more stuff, or very stressed.

I would like to suggest that we start a thread so that members who are getting into this state can come and talk to someone about it. Teenagers who have just got their first heels or skirt will need someone to talk to about what's happening to them. I remember when I was in my teens I thought at one stage that I was going mad!

I feel a bit sad when I read in the 'Hello / Goodbye ' column about people who are dumping all their shoes and leaving the forum because I know that its not the answer.

Remember its like song Hotel California by the Eagles . " You can check out any time you like, but you can never leave."

I would be interested to hear what other members think of this suggestion?

I don't see the point of them either. Its usually the baby in the back that survives a bad car crash when everyone else is killed. It would be more to the point to have a 'Granny on board' or ' Beware there is a woman driving this 4X4 ' sticker. Of course in these mad times of political correctness, it could be there to warn you that it might be sick or pee on you, or even give you a nasty suck!

The adaptor tubes arrived today, but the new heel tips were not a very tight fit in them and I was able to pull the new tips out of the heels with my fingers. I seemed to have solved the problem by applying super glue to the pins before I fit them. The adaptor tubes seemed to be a tight enought fit in the heel tubes, I don't want to use glue on them in case I can't get them out again.

No it's just different manufacturers. Some use 2mm and some 3mm. You can get 5mm for thicker heels too. Normally the heel manufacturers supply the "top-pieces" to match their own heels especially the special shape ones.

Thanks for that Dr Shoe,

Anybody ordering heel tips on line should check the pin size of their tips before they order, althought I don't remember seeing anything about this on the German site that I looked at.

Hi,

ran across this place last week, I have been repairing the good ladies heels of late, but was struggling to make a stiletto tip myself popped the question to google and came up with this place.

I guess some of you have run across them before, but I had not. So I thought I would mention them to you all.

If you were a little uneasy about taking your patent red 5 inch thigh boots in to the local cobbler for repair, these would be the answer to your prayer.

Stiletto Heel Tips Online

They were very easy to deal with and very promt to sent the tips in the post.

What a great find.

Nigel

I have just ordered some tips from this company and found them to be very fast! Their tips are very good quality put the pins are smaller than the ones on my shoes which are 3 mm, I had to order some adaptor tubes for them to fit my shoes. I had not realised that there are two differnt pin sizes. Are the smaller pins a new EU size like everything else these days? Perhaps Dr Shoe can explain.

I always remember when I was 17 I bought a straight black skirt from M&S. It took me weeks to save up for it and soon after I bought it my mother found it and gave it to my couson who was older than me. To add insult to injury she wore it the next time she came to tea. My mother asked me were I got it from and I told her that I had found it, she must have thought that was a bit strange as it was brand new, but she never said anymore about it.

REPLACEMENT HEEL TIPS LADIES SHOES TOP LIFT STIFTFLECKEN ABSATZREPARATUR SCHUSTERBEDARF

I have just tried to use this site, but I could not get their PayPal site to work!

I have a pair of favourite 3" stiletto heel court shoes which I bought from HayWay Shoes some years ago. I wear these shoes out a lot because they are already scuffed and worn, I have re-soled them with Woolworth's stick-on soles and I have lost count of the number of times I have replaced the heel tips.

In the pre Internet days I used to use a pair of the wife's old shoes, put my worn heel tips in them and take them to the shoe repairers to have new heel tips fitted, then I would take out the new tips when I got home and fit them in my heels. All this palaver just because I didn't want to take a pair of size 11 stiletto court shoes to my local shoe repairer.

Now that the heel tips need replacing again I thought I would look on the Internet for a supplier of heel tips and I found this site in Germany.

REPLACEMENT HEEL TIPS LADIES SHOES TOP LIFT STIFTFLECKEN ABSATZREPARATUR SCHUSTERBEDARF

This company will supply a range of heel tips for ladies shoes if any of you need to replace your heel tips and don't fancy taking them to the local shoe repairer.

I would be really great to see Laureheels back again, she really was the queen bee!

Jeff, thanks for all the hard work that you have done in the past to keep the board going. This looks like a good outcome to me

Yes I can relate to this. When I was in my early teens in the late fifties I started wearing my mothers straight skirts and high heels. I found skirts and high heels quite exciting to wear and later when I left school and started to earn money I bought myself a straight black skirt and some high heel sling back shoes. I thought at the time that I would grow out of it and I made up my mind to get rid of my stuff when I got married. But when the time came I could not bring myself to do it and I hid my skirts and shoes in the loft of the house that we bought, knowing full well that my wife would not go up there.I manage to keep it from her for fifteen years, I had several narrow escapes in that time, once she wore one of my straight black skirts with out realising, it was the same make as her skirt but the next size up, she thought at the time that she had lost weight! When she found out she said that she wished I had told her before we got married and she would never had married me. Well that was a shock I can tell you! We went through a rough period, but our marriage survived. I know a lot of people on this forum say that its best to tell your partner in the beginning, but I have to disagree with that. The reason for that is this, my marriage survived, I have a lovely daughter who is happily married and two grandchildren. last summer I was sat in my daughters garden watching her and my grandchildren playing in the swimming pool and a thought occurred to me. Supposing I could turn the clock back and tell my wife when I first met her about my little secret. In a stroke I would not be sitting in this garden, this house would not exist in its present form. My daughter would not exist, nor would my grandchildren and my son in law would be married to someone else. I would properly be living on my own as I never met another woman who came near to my wife. History is a very fragile thing! If you tell every woman that you meet, that you like wearing heels or skirts, there is a good change that you will end up spending your life living on your own in a flat with a large shoe collection for company! If you keep it a secret there is a good chance that you will have children before your marriage breaks up and your wife is more likely to keep the marriage together if there are children. This may not seem important when you are young, but as you get older and your older relations die you will be glad that you have a family. Remember its a private thing you don't have to tell anyone. Most women go courting in skirts and heels and then start wearing trousers and flat shoes after they get married, I wonder how many of them told their partners that they preferred to wear trousers and flat shoes before they got married? I suppose I have mellowed slightly with age, I still enjoy wearing straight skirts with heels, but I don't get so stressed out if I don't do it. I wear them discreetly in remote locations or at home when the wife is out, even after all this time only one person on this board and my wife know about my secret. Over the years I have learnt to enjoy it and I regard it as a gift, I certainly would not like to be without it now.