ImInHeels

Bucking the trend to to speak (Guys in heels, etc.). What are your family like, and how accepting are they? I come from a varied family, my mum and dad split up when i was very young. My Mum: Very accepting and I know would support me in what ever lift style I chose. And would generally give me an honest answer. If I wanted to wear heels I know she would support me. (Even If i wanted to cross-dress I know she would support me). My brother (who is nearly 30): Is the type to not even want to walk into a woman's clothes shop to buy gift vouchers. Won't walk anywhere with a bunch of flowers in his hands. Has mocked girls for wearing HHs in the past. Even more so if they come close to or trip up. "Well it's her fault for wearing heels" My Dad: Hates the fact that I never liked or wanted to play football (getting use to it now), hates that I don't sleep with any girl with a pulse or have a different girl on my arm each time he see's me.

Do you live to work or work to live? I'd say i work to live. I'm in a pretty good job, however I hate every minute of it, looking to change for something else in the near future. I currently hate every minute of my current job, and am looking for a change. A lot of people say you need a job to keep you going. However there is so much I want to do, so many challenges I could set my self. However back to working life for me.

well at the moment I don't have a girlfriend. However my job is a little iffy, I've not had much work to do over the the last 3-4 months. I'm looking to move jobs in the next few months .. I'm actually having a meeting with the managment soon about the lack of work at our company.

Nice Idea? Well my male shoes (work & trainers) are reaching the end of their useful life, and as I have no cash, but several pairs of near new heels could be the way to go, apart from I'm not ready to wear heels, but its a nice idea!

I'm at the top end of the range (25) thanks for making me feel old!

I think your right, it going to take time, at this point in my Life I'm not just looking for anyone any more, I'm looking for that special someone. And even though a lot of my friends seem to be finding someone I guess I just need to wait a little longer.

I wish i had the courage to go out in my stilletos!

May sound a bit drastic, but have you thought about moving to the mainland for a while? Roots are important, but so's the occasional re-potting, if that's the word.

I was thinking about it several years ago, when I was in my early 20's me and a friend were going to move up north. Sadly things didn't workout that way.

At the moment I'm in a job I hate, I struggle to make ends meet month to month. A big part of me wants to sell up and move away, however I know that if I do that I'll most likely never be able to afford to move back!

I have meet someone who's sparked my interest recently, on one of the things I do weekly . And have enjoyed the time chatting with her when a group of us go to the pub afterward. Even though I've never amazing at reading these things, I think that is as far as it will go.

Back to looking at moving to the mainland, It's something I've been thinking about for a while, and think it could be grouped will with a career move as well.

Do they decide to go travelling for X years after meeting you?

Seriously though, IME it's best not to push too much, let them pull you...

It's nothing about me pushing, its more where I live most people have very good paying jobs, and are so isolated want to travel. I have been to some of the most out of the way places, and here people talking about one of our local night clubs, turns out they are from the same place as me.

and i've very laid back in how I talk, like in your example, maybe too laid back sometimes.

Maybe if you stop "trying" and crack on with enjoying life, you will have more chance of meeting mrs right? Trying too hard focuses attention away from the things you enjoy, and subsequently the places you might go or the things you might do that would allow you to be yourself and meet other like minded people.

I not really "trying" and I have just been doing various things, that I enjoy, I'm not focusing on meeting them, but having a good time and meeting who I meet.

I guess its all part of living on a small island, (ok, not that small) but it limits things a little bit.

However I guess i just need to keep trying, but any other ideas are welcome.

Some times you find things when you aren't looking for them and some times what you've been looking for has been right in front of you all along. My wife and i had been best friends for 13 years before I realised that she was the one. Now we're going on 4 years being married and it's been the best 4 years of my life. I spent a lot of years searching for something I'd already found. I just though I'd offer my 2 cents.

Thats good advice, there are one or two friends that this could apply to. maybe one day.

Do something different that you are interested in pursuing for a while, that doesn't have a focus on finding that special someone, like joining a theater group or taking guitar lessons. You will be able to enrich your life and the possibility of her finding you in what you like to do, will increased the chance both of you can share common interests.

That is good advice, and over the last 5 years i've been trying various different new things / hobbies, during this time i've met two girls, one several years ago, but if I'm honest with my self it might not be right.

It just feels like what ever I try, I never seem to meet the right girl.

Sorry for the rant, but I just need to get this out somewhere. I know there are alot of people out there still looking for that partner. However more often I just keep wondering whats going on in my life? the few girls i do seem to hit it off with are either taken, or going traveling for x years. It just seems that when ever i make a connection with someone there is always something to get in the way.

I almost never have unexpected people at my door, however the other night I did, and I learnt my answer! I quickly kick them off, hide them and answer the door!

1 pair of trainers (male) 1 pair of work shoes (male) 1 pair of rock climbing shoes (male) 1 pair of treck water proof boots (male) 5 pairs of heels (female)

back when i was at school (2001/2002 ish) we had uniform, but a few times a year we have a "mufti day" where you could wear non-uniform. Two guys showed up in dresses, the kind other girls were wearing that day, they were sent home. There were just them selfs, normal shoes, ect. no makeup or anything, just in a dress.

I thought it would be an idea for people who now have the courage to go out in public to let us who are still worried to have one place to look. I still haven't gotten any further then going out in 4" wedge heels at night. (late at night normally after midnight).

what heel dreams have you had? last night I had a dream, I was out with someone can't remember who but it was some girl who was a friend, we were out at an evening event/meal, at some point she introduced me to some of her friends, one I really liked, liked her, but was trying to hide my heels, I didn't want her to see me in heels, I kept trying to hide them by tucking them under my chair. Later on in the evening I was outside (it was snowing and snow was fairly deep. as she was walking over, I have to make a quick move and dig my heels into the snow to hide them. We started chatting, then someone got in trouble in the river, and I had to run over in my heels. Exposing them. At this point the dream went off in a different direction.

I was thinking of flying to London Gatwick getting the train down, and staying in the Euston area and keeping to oxford st. area. not sure when, not sure if i should do it for a day, or a weekend. Hopefully later on this year.

I was recently in London for 10 days (i didn't see any daylight, i was on a course in a hotel, lasting 16+ hours a day, even on the weekend). The whole time i was there i was thinking it would be a great place to go public daylight heeling for my first time.

I'm thinking of taking a short break to london and going out in my heels all day. Good idea or bad?

Depending on the guy, so long as the look is well coordinated then i don't have a problem with it. They also have to be able to walk in them. So long as they can pull off the look then thats all that matters.

Ive had loads of dreams over the years where they have come true (things that i couldn't possibly know would happen.) One was very serious however this isnt the place to talk about it. I think these dreams are a way for me accepting who i am, and where i want to be. And a good sign of me moving forward.

Recently I've been having more dreams where I'm out and about in a nice pair of 4" stiletto heels. (black shoes). I'm usually out with friends, and about 1/2 through the dream notice and am either ok with it until more friends show up, at which point i try and hide the fact and slip off with out them noticing. I think its all part of me moving forward with things.

the pair in the picture, were from ebay, couldnt seem to find them anywhere else. i think they were about £20 or less

Ok I Have attached the images of the shoes i'm test driving. the actual heel hight is around 4.5" i might see if i can get a shot to show you how they are when jeans cover them.