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Micce

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  1. Hello from the Netherlands

    Welcome to the group and greetings from Finland. You are lucky to have found an understanding partner... It is now year 2017, but many people still think a man wearing heels or boots must be gay. Not that sexual orientation in itself is a positive or negative thing, but people living in the usual male-female relationship would not want others to think their partner is a gay or lesbian. So concerned what "others" and especially older relatives might think. At your age people are usually a bit more ready to explore, so to speak, at lest indoors. Remember my wife having been rather eager with everything new, including heels and boots when we were in 20's and 30's. Now both of us being over 50 years old, there is usually little interest. Maybe getting old and tired with demaning career etc. On the positive side, you will perhaps notice that when people grow older they care less about what others might think. Better self-esteem usually comes with age, as one gets more "established" in the society, be that work, hobbies, friends, family, and one's image of his/her sexuality. So as people grow older, they don't care so much what others do, or what others might think. A lot of acceptance learned sice childhood, especially since teenage years when everyone is supposed to fit into determined roles.
  2. Swedeheelers (slow) progress

    First 10kg you can get rid of 1kg per week, slower after that. I was 175 cm and a bit over 100kg, waisline 105cm when I started my lifestyle change. Now 78kg and 80cm. Took about a year and half. No snacks between meals, smaller plates, half filled with vegetables etc. Plus physical exercise every other day. I would guess your shoe size will decrease a bit as you lose weight. Used to have EU43, now EU42 is a safe bet, but have one pair of stiletto pumps female EU41 and they are a bit too large Anyway, good for you to start weight control. Besides obvious health effect, it also helps to boots self-confidence which is good for heeling. And getting a bit smaller shoe size is obviously an advantage.
  3. Getting used to not wearing low heels?

    Miroseplant got my point. I wasn't thinking about physical discomforts, let alone any medical problems. What I have in mind for this topic has more to do with feeling of being properly dressed or not. Getting used to being 2-3" taller in public etc. Such low or mid-height shoes are still so low that walking is no problem, especially with conservative looking block heels. And footwear is still so unisex that even my teenage daughter's friends don't pay any attention. Maybe someone will one day ask "Sir, are you stuck in the 1970s with your footwear" but that's about it. So my midset is sort of stuck to wearing (moderate) heels in public, that I could not even consider low-heeled male style oxfords for example. Those are just outright ugly and kind of clumsy, being so low. Have got accustomed to that idea during past couple of years, ever since I started using a bit higher footwear. However, no problem wearing low heels such as trainers for sports or combat boots when doing my occasional weekend in the military. And calf muscles have lot of time to rest anyway, as here in the Nordic countries it is customary not to wear any footwear in private homes.
  4. Which boots to keep?

    Thank you all for your comments. Good point that uncomfortable ones would just became dust collectors. Having about a dozen pairs of stilettos, ankle boots and boots, I have got more critical what to keep over the years. Some favorite shoes are used on a daily basis while some are just collecting dust. It would also be a good idea to return what one would rather not wear in public, as such pairs would also just collect dust. Now what one wants to or dares to wear of course varies. I for myself have got a bit more courage over the years, while also learning that higher the better does not apply for shoes that need to be used all day. Add to that starting to appreciate more age-appropriate classic styles. Better ditch wild faux leather platforms and stilettos etc, maybe bar a few pairs saved for heeling at home.
  5. I was wondering if other forum members have had similar feelings.... For past couple of years I have always had 5-7 cm shoes, be that oxfords, boots or ankle boots. Except for gardening, sports, etc... Some time ago I got thighboots with low heels, only 2-3 cm or an inch or so. Not playing Pirates of the Caribbean here (sea being frozen for winter) but those boots go nice with a long overcoat. Anyway, to my mild amuzement I realized I felt strange going out with such low footwear. Not properly dressed, sort of half naked with low heels. Or like going without tie to a formal party.
  6. New conservative oxfords

    Stiletto oxfords with 13cm heels & 3cm platform I have had for quite a long time and just recently found rather conservative oxfords with 7cm heels. Unlike the stilettos, those shoes are real leather. Not for "heeling" but for everyday wear at work. No negative comments so far and I guess people barely notice or care these days.
  7. Which boots to keep?

    Just recently received new boot for winter. Almost unisex type, at least if pants are not tucked in... conservative 8-10cm heels, so quite easy to walk with either pair. However, which pair to keep? One with wide block heels or the other, bit narrower heeled boots? Cannot really make up my mind. Of course love to keep both, but better return one pair as storage space is limited... So I would really appreciate your comments
  8. Swedeheelers (slow) progress

    Glad that you got the courage. One milestone passed and self confidence up.
  9. Swedeheelers (slow) progress

    Liberal and tolerant Scandinavia wasn't _that_ tolerant just a generation ago. But things are changing real fast for the better, especially in big cities. Guess your parents' generation was quick to label people because of the way they dress or behave. Maybe keep the stilettos in the closet for a while and start gradually, not giving any shock therapy. Your parents may turn out to be more tolerant than you think, just give them a little time to get used to the idea of you wearing heeled shoes, little by little. BTW what sort of cowboy boots you are talking about? Block heeled cowboy boots are quite unisex, even if heels are 5-10cm.
  10. Heeling level?

    Don't know how to classify on 1 to 5 scale, but for couple of years I have for 99% of time used 5-6 cm oxfords or ankle boots. Conservative looking with block heels, real leather, great with a dark suit. Maybe cannot call that "heeling" because people just don't notice. Or are already used to my footwear as last time a had male oxfords was in 2013. Out of office, prefer leggings and wedge heeled trainers. Maybe 6-7cm. Don't use them for running, but returning to car change shoes right after doing stretching. Again, nobody seems to notice. Could be the wetlook leggings that draw the attention
  11. Who has bought some new shoes

    Just recently received new Steve Madden Delirious platform shoes with 16cm stiletto heels. Not new to high heels, but cannot stop admiring what heels do to your posture.... Unfortunately I guess need to return the shoes because 16cm heels, even with nearly 5cm platform, are a bit too high for me. Would love to master those great heels, but immediate pain on top of the foot is a serious warning sign for one who has had a fractured foot years ago...
  12. Hello to you all. Just recently found this forum and glad to be a member. To give a brief introduction, I am a straight family man in early 50s living in a big city in south of the country. Have been interested in high heels ever since early teens. Not that there was much to see around in the 1970's. Like most everyone, also had to give my mom's heels a try and appreciated getting instantly a bit taller. As time passed and a grew up, to my delight high heels and even stilettos became fashionable again. Could say it was aestheticlly pleasing to see ladies wear such shoes. My first girlfriends in 1980's and 1990's used heels every now and then. And while at the university, during some binge drinking parties I would also give a try. Nothing extreme, but back then I could manage 10-12cm stilettos when we wanted to make fools of ourselves. I am working in the financial sector. Nice desk job with a large office, dark suit all day etc. Finland and other Nordic countries are quite liberal, even compared with most other EU states, but still have to stay a bit conservative during the day. For office I have found some conservative-looking oxfords or boots that have reasonable 5-6cm heels. So any redneck client of mine would not be disturbed, and not even my teenage daughter's friends would notice. For freetime one could have a bit higher shoes, as I have got used to appreciate extra height, being only 175cm. Platform soles are comfy and good in rain and sleet, remember we are north of latitude 60 degrees here. Have to be a bit carefull with heel height, though, as years ago I had an accident (not with heels but a sporting accident) and fractured my foot. Recovery took a long time and would not want to risk injuring that foot again. Anything higher than 10cm will cause pain if I have been wearing such shoes for extended time. Part of my mid-life crisis was to start controlling my diet and doing regular exercise. Running, bicycling etc. Being about same weight as in my 20s and physically in good shape, my shoe size has also gone from EU43 to EU42 or 41. An unexpected positive effect was that I could now wear ladies size EU41 if shoes are not extremely narrow.. Every now and then try footwear with a bit higher heels. Stilettos stay at home, as I am not into CD. Unfortunately my wife is such a reasonable mid-aged lady that she has long time ago stopped wearing anythigh high, not even during those rare events when we two go out. So not much to please my eyes in that respect. But for fooling around during "adults at home" -days when our kids are away, I got for both of us some 15cm platform oxfords couple of years ago. To my surprise, she would be willing to have them on for a while and did not mind us both doing so. Taking into account PG13 nature of this forum, I only say our heels have a stimulating effect, even at our 50+ age. Not so brief introduction afterall. Again, glad to be onboard and feel free to comment & ask questions.
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