BTBAIHeels

Thank you all for the best wishes,  I will try to not forget about this place again, but at the same time I will be gone temporarily, a paid 13 week vacation at a resort that has a no cell policy (for the better). I'm gonna be leaving June 11th, so long waits the adventure ahead. I thank you all that have given me great advice over the years and I am glad that I can serve this country for the great people on these forums.

Hey all... I'm alive... I have slightly forgotten that this place even existed... Until about an hour ago. I'm looking back to the last time I posted and whew, that was 2 years ago. To get you all up to speed, i'm now 19 and after 5 years of high school I finally am graduating May 26th 2018. It was a struggle for the past 2 years, making new friends and what not, dating multiple people and going through various other emotional struggles with family members dying and others divorcing after long term marriages, I feel like i've been around the block once or twice now. My writing ability is almost there (big improvements) and I'm actually athletic now (kinda forced). Now that I have gone back, my views have changed a bit (for the better) I no longer have depression as I can see a future for myself that is brighter than what I was seeing in the tunnel back then. Finally time to respond to a wise man of his time.

 

On 4/8/2016 at 6:44 PM, Thighbootguy said:

At 16 going on 17 you are too young to have your mind "set" on anything.  You should have plans and goals but don't lock yourself into anything that will keep you from taking advantage of unexpected opportunities (that drawing might let you see ). Save that mindset until your in your 80's.

At the time I didn't realize the other career paths that I could have chosen. I got into the auto tech program and enjoyed it for a while, after the first semester, I got a job at my local dealership and worked there for a year and a half until I quit back on April 30th. Now while I was in that job, I realized something very important to me. I like working on cars JUST as a hobby, trying to make a career out of it would not suit me. 

On 7/29/2016 at 8:01 AM, Thighbootguy said:

Folks - I don't think the choices here are as simple as Desk/office or labor/trades. There are some folks that like being a position of "being a helper to others" from which great satisfaction is gotten by helping others.  Being a Fire Fighter and Paramedic falls into this category. Preparation for either of these jobs is a commitment and the jobs require skill and dedication.  In today's world, being an auto mechanic is also skilled job.  None of these jobs are "learn it once and your done", rather they all require constant study to stay current with the ever changing technology.

Many years ago I had the opportunity to advise a group of high school student in career opportunities.  I think I horrified the school's counselor staff (they never invited me back) then I told the kids to "Pay attention to what you really enjoyed doing, and then find someone who will pay you to do it".  I also talked about reading a lot and watching less TV, but I really meant what I had said.  I thoroughly enjoyed the work I was doing as a Data Base Administrator and actually looked forward to going to work.

If @BTBAIHeels finds something he really likes... he should go for it and do it as well as it can be done.

TBG really hit home on this one in my book and here's why. As a kid, I always loved anything military, and computers too, but primarily military. In 15 days from now, I get the pleasure to get a paid 13 week vacation In MCRD San Diego while being taught how to be a United States Marine. Everything from my childhood has lead up to me serving this country. My MOS is 0600 Communications, I will be going in to data/cyber security operations which relates to what you did TBG. 

Thanks to all of you as you have helped influence me positively on my journey to adulthood.

Preston

On 4/7/2016 at 2:03 PM, pebblesf said:

BTBAIH

I wish I had 1/4 of your good sense and courage when I was your age.  You must feel so relieved, and empowered, letting your Mom know about heeling. 

Everyone offers sound career advice, finding a balance between doing something you love and earning a decent living is the key.  Take advantage of EVERY educational opportunity that comes your way.  There is no reason why you can't be a firefighter and a competent auto technician.   Starting saving for the future YESTERDAY!  The years go by quickly buddy, and we can be  pretty good at justifying that we will "start saving tomorrow". 

I surely understand the motorcycle thing, still wish I had one, but am a little too old now.  But, like everyone has said, you need to drive so defensively, almost as if no other driver can see you, which is fairly true.  Needless to say, alcohol and motor vehicles do not mix. 

I envy you buddy, your whole life is in front of you, go for it!  Be a good person to all those around you, and good things will come your way!

Thanks Pebblesf! Courage yes, relieved yes, empowered no. to explain this, basically i feel much more awkward around her.

22 hours ago, Steve63130 said:

Preston,

There's a lot of good advice here, but I'll add one more. You may not like English class, but writing is an extremely important skill in ANY job you ever have, and the better you can express yourself, the farther your career will go. I have worked with a lot of engineers, scientists, and technicians in my career, and believe me, the ones who are successful are the ones who can write clear, concise, reports on their work. So you may not appreciate English right now, but it will come in VERY handy when you enter the job market and become the one picked for a promotion! Study hard and learn to write well. Good luck!

Steve

 

I am doing my best to pass English at the moment, and thank you for providing me with your experiences. 

18 hours ago, SF said:

May I suggest an article published some years ago:  "How to Write Good," by Michael O'Donoghue....   Good solid basic advice for the beginning writer....  

Take care...   sf  

I will make sure to check the article out. Thanks SF!

9 hours ago, DProud2700 said:

BTBAI, might I suggest from the experience of having been in the EMS sector (14yrs ambulance company, emt) to go for ff/paramedic.  A lot of departments have either an paramedic ambulance or engine/squad.  This way you can start from that level and go upward.  A good friend of my wife and I hired on with our local department and had made captain finally.  My 2 cents

Thanks DProud, i do have my mind set on fire fighter or auto mechanic though.

On 4/7/2016 at 5:06 AM, Thighbootguy said:

What I was going for was to be sure you had some creative vent.  I'm currently using music (guitar) for mine but I can only stress how important it is to have some way of nurturing and venting your creative juices.  As for drawing, I didn't think I would like it either, but after taking a class I fell in love with the process.  Although the class is called "drawing", it is really about seeing.  The actual putting something on paper is only 10% of the craft, seeing, both visually and in your mind, is the other 90%. It's a skill worth having.

 

I do understand wanting a motorcycle but as George Bernard Shaw once wrote, “Youth is the most precious thing in life; it is too bad it has to be wasted on young folks.”  

Make sure you have a good helmet.
 

TBG, I made sure to get a good helmet, and it is DOT certified

On 4/7/2016 at 8:57 AM, swedeheeler said:

Well...

Motorcycling then. If you keep in mind that all others out in traffic are completley numbskulls that wants you dead, AND driving with sense you'll come far with your mc driving.

One of my friends did'nt have those thoughts. With a fresh mc licence he drove like crazy and crashed against a car trailer and then he went six feet under.

I understand that there are people out to kill me, thats also why ill be taking a defensive biking course also.

12 minutes ago, Rockpup said:

I rode a DRZ for a few years and it was a blast. Always fun to ride from home, poke around some trails, and ride back without needing a trailer or ramp.

I plan on either a Yamaha wr450f or a Honda grom 

8 hours ago, freestyle75 said:

Hi Preston,

in terms of job applications / choice, I would choose paramedic first, then firefighter, then auto mechanic (I would probably go for become a medical doctor instead of paramedic, simply because the income is higher. Radiologists have the highest income of all medical professions btw).   

I studied computer science and economics, and although I earn quite a lot of money, I often feel that what I do doesn't fulfill a higher purpose. Which means: I am doing marketing for a product that is in an oversaturated market, which people don't really need. So I develop clever ways to take away market share from a competitor's company and develop ways to improve customer service. Still... it's not as rewarding as saving a human being's life, which is what a paramedic does. At the same time, it can also be stressful for you if you see people die, which also happens even to the best paramedics.

Firefighter also is a quite honorable job in terms of saving lives, but it is also much more risky for yourself. Don't know whether this is the best choice as a job.

Auto mechanic is a job that will change tremendously in the future. The things you will learn in the next 2 - 3 years will become partly obsolete in 15 years from now, when cars are no longer powered by combustion engines, but change to electric or hydrogen. Also, cars will become much more computerized, so an education with a background in electronics / computer engineering will become more and more a pre-requisite to fixing them. I am not sure how rewarding a job as an auto mechanic is, IF you are looking to help people.

That is the order in terms of what you get out of it from a psychological perspective ("helping others"). If you look at it financially, the order is different. If you want to earn lots of money later on, go for auto mechanic. This way, you can at some point open your own car sale, rework cars you buy cheap and sell them at a higher price. Specialize in a certain field (e.g. restoration of Porsche's), and if you are clever, you can become quite wealthy.

But also be aware that car sales will probably become less in the future, as traditional models ("I own a car") will change towards a sharing economy (use a car as you go, rent it on an hourly basis), so less cars might be needed, which leads to less car sales / less auto mechanics being required.

 

Average salaries for the job fields you have selected:

• Automotive Service Technician: 21,544 - 59,779 USD
• Fire Figher: 25,913 - 73,125 USD
• Paramedic 28,049 - 58,477 USD

The median salary (if you take all different salary levels from low to high and look what the salary at 50% of all salaries is, so NOT the average, but the median), they are pretty much the same: 42K, 44K, 44K. I don't know what the tax is in the US, but here in Europe, you are paying up to 50% in taxes on your salary. Applying that to an income of 44K leaves around 22K net income to live, which is 1,833 USD per month. Please consider whether this is the level of income you are happy with - maybe also once you got a wife and kids.

One thing that you also should consider is: If you are not happy with your salary, what can you do? Which job offers you the best opportunity to still grow in 15 - 20 years time? What do you consider more important - money (income) or serving mankind ?

These are things you should consider upfront before choosing a certain job.

Sorry that I don't have anything to add regarding your heels, but I do think that the choosing a job that will be with you (probably) your whole life is way more important than your choice of footwear. It's just shoes, you know

 

Hey FS75, thanks for the reply! On terms of the career, I could literally go either way as I enjoy both strongly. First Fire Fighting as I get to help people out which is something I have always done since I was little, I enjoy the aspect of running into a burning building to save sone one else's life. Talk about a major adrenaline rush! The thing about the course is now in order to become a Fire Fighter, you also have to do basic paramedic training too. With this career, I could earn anywhere from 20k to 75k per year in my area as you said.

With being an Automotive tech, I am a very hands on person -drawing. So working with/on cars is like bliss to me. I am not afraid to get my hands dirty either. I have past experienceseveral with installing car stereo systems, I've done break changes and interior remodeling also. I also have been keeping up with the evolving technology in cars, which is also covered in the course. For a salary, I could be earning anywhere from 30k to 95k per year. 

And if all else fails, I can be a wind mill farm tech, I hear they pull in a nice 20k per year plus traveling with the job.

Thanks for your input,

Preston

14 hours ago, Thighbootguy said:

The Brinkley bootie seems fine for everyday out and about wear.

The Pleaser is a bit more aggressive:

This sounds like an interesting combination but I didn't remember you mentioning skirts in your earlier posts.  Has this topic come your with your mom?

It strikes me that your "B.S." may have stumbled on the truth.  Most of us (readers of this forum) have some void that is filled by wearing heels and art generally requires some form of expression.

Wearing heels can do that to you.

Another fine example of wisdom coming from the mouth of babes.

 

It sounds like you have come quite a way on the road of life.  My advice is to think twice about the motorcycle and to add a drawing course into your educational mix.  You will learn that youth is wasted on the young, so enjoy it while you can.

TBG, I love how you always have something nice to say. My mom only knows about the heels for the moment. I'd like to state that I'm not trying to be cross dressing, rather I just want to express what I personally find comfortable. What's better on a hot summer day than a skirt, unless you want to argue that shorts are just as great. 

To the "B.S" I see your point that their is some truth to it, however, when saying it I was basically giving an answer that would please my mom. So I still think that it could have gone better. 

As for the 16 to 17, I can only speak from personal opinion. If you agree great, otherwise, also great.

Thanks for the input of the art suggestion, but i personally hate drawing with a burning passion. But I am creative in the way that I am producing my own music for a class called digital audio production. And for the motorcycle, it is less for transportation as it is more for messing around and having more fun outdoors and riding all the trails we have. I have thought about the whole motorcycle thing for 6+ months and I've done all my research, got insurance quotes and have my mind set.

Well, it might not be as breaking as it is jut ordinary news. This update include: Recent whereabouts, new shoes, drivers license, school activities, and one special story.

Where have I been? Lets see here, I have been to many places in Colorado, but just recently I went to Oklahoma and did some shooting, driving, sand dunning, and the rest will be covered in a later paragraph.

For new shoes, I got a pair of Brinley Co. Women's Buckle Heeled Bootie Black on December 17th. After that I most recently got a pair of Pleaser Women's Adore-1020/B/M Boot, Black Patent. First, The Brinley Co. Bootie has a 3" heel with no platform, they are not the greatest quality that I have seen, but they are nice for fall and winter styles. Finally, The Pleaser boot have a 7" heel with a 2.5" platform, these heels are by far the best pair of heels I have owned. They are very comfortable to wear and I can easily stand on my feet all day in them. When pairing with fashion, I can wear a pair of grey skinny jeans and a black graphic tee shirt with the boots, or I could pair them with a nice skater skirt with black tights (like what Jaden Smith wears).

In January, I finished up my hours and went to my driving school to take the drivers test. I passed and got my License around the 20th. Meanwhile I was telling all my friends to stay off the road just in case (I'm not a bad driver... I promise). I have been driving to and from my work and just recently got to take my Dad's car to school as he was out of town. I have saved up a lot of money, bought a helmet and gloves, and will begin to start my motorcycle endorsement (License) course so I can buy a motorcycle by the end of summer.

As for school, I am doing a good job at keeping up with my assignments minus English, so I am passing all of the classes except English. But with English, I am pulling that grade up slowly but surely. I have submitted applications to get in to our high school's Fire Science program which is a college course for basic Fire Fighter and Paramedic skills. The other application is to an Automotive Tech course at my local Community College, where I can become a certified auto mechanic.

Finally the real reason you clicked on my post, I told my mother about me wearing heels. As the stress was building, I had to let it all go. I was half surprised at her response and half expecting it too. When I told her, she basically asked why I do it, however I failed on my part to tell her that I just like it and basically went along with some other BS. So now, I wear heels "to fill the void in a part of my life", instead of doing it because I like the way they look. Shoes are basically an art form to me, it is intriguing to me as I am a very sensual, and observant person.

With an overall conclusion, I have matured quite a bit. But I have also gained a lot of responsibility. I went from 16 to 17 with ease, but the struggle is far from over. I cant wait to hear all of your replies. If anyone has any additional questions, just comment it on the thread, and I promise I'll be quick to reply with answers.

L News,

Preston

If you would be up to the challenge, a way you could wear heels as part of a costume,  you could be a Satyr and of course a link to how to make hooves. Remember that this would need to have some creativity.

Hello everyone,

Here is an update to what has been going on. I finally bought the shoes and they arrived about a week ago. I really enjoy them, per the height and being less of a sweat factory in the Colorado summer time.

I also recently got raised to being a checker instead of a courtesy clerk aka bagger. This is great because the pay is more and the customer actually care about your service more understandably. Otherwise it's hard learning those bloody produce codes, with the exception of a cheat sheet.

Last Thursday my mom got back from a monthlong trip to care for her sister who underwent back surgery. Unfortunately when she got back, the tension rose and I feel terrible about everything that I do(everyday life, money, school, friends, etc.) and honestly, it was better when just my dad was home. I did a lot more good things then bad without the added tension and pressure.

Happy reading,

Preston

Hi Preston, wow, you're not messing around about this heel thing! Those are some pretty ambitious shoes! I guess my question is, what type of image do you wish to project? I'm not one to criticize another person's style too much, but to me, these look like enormous bricks strapped to the model's admittedly rather attractive feet.

I am only vaguely aware of your situation, but perhaps it would be wise to go with something slightly less radical. Also, maybe you're a natural, but it's taken me three years and literally hundreds of miles and hours of wearing lower heels to be able to function normally in heels that high. Will you be able to walk in them? If so, I tip my hat to you.

As far as expanding your collection, I say go for it, if you've got the discretionary income, which you seem to have. You might do a search for Sbicca shoes on Amazon. They have some nice wedges which are not that expensive, if you find a model that is not current. Plus, they are real leather (or textile in some cases), they're durable, and they're made in the USA. They're very comfortable, also. In any case, good luck to you in your search.

mlroseplant,

I'm not sure of the image that will be portrayed... As far as I'm concerned, I won't be taking these out at all. I will say this, I can walk fairly well in lita boots with five inch heel, I would assume that wearing wedges would be a bit easier, but correct me if I'm wrong.

Well - - your going for height, that's for sure. If you can wear them funtionally after a short time, go for it. I like the double decker tan model myself - not too obvious with the right jeans.

 

As I recall, you may not be kosher with mom yet. so be carefull.

 

Heelster,

Not going for height actually... I just liked the look of it, and wanted a pair of wedges, so it worked out. As of my mom, well, that's a given.

Wow - saving at such early age, keep it up!

 

Buying shoes can be addictive as most women and many members here will attest.  As Mirosepant mentioned, it starts with the image you want to present (not that your restricted to one, but get one down pat first).  You don't have to buy all the shoes you want all at once and remember winter is coming and you will want to do the same thing with boots.

 

I wear stiletto heeled boots all the time, but I have been wearing them for years.  Once you are used to heels, stilettos are not too much of a challenge other than paying a lot of attention to the surfaces on which you walk (cracks, polished floors).  Get used to more supportive heels first then go for stilettos.

TBG,

Yes, I have over $1000 in my savings, I've been saving up for a car / bike recently. Otherwise the rest is in credit. but I can discretely pull money from the debit account for anything I want. And, I have no need for all the shoes at once, I just want to have wiggle room(3 is a magic number).

Thanks all for the replies,

Preston

Hi all,

As you may know already, I have 2 pairs of heels (knock off Litas and a pair of Breckelles Brina-21 peep toe) however, I am interested in getting a pair of wedges. (Breckelles Valery-11)  My question would be; should I expand my not-so collection. Eventually I want to have close to one of each heel type, ie: stiletto, block, wedge, heelless, etc. I recently got a paycheck where I'm saving $90 USD and the rest is spending cash. I now have over $130 USD of spending. Should I go for it, they are $20 USD instead of $30.

 

Best regards,

Preston

 

http://www.amazon.com/Breckelles-Valery-11-Natural-Pu-7-5/dp/B00V10991Y/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1435996169&sr=8-1&keywords=breckelles+valery-11+platform+sandals

None taken, just wish people here would learn what "Banter" is...

But yeah, Jeff is right, I do think he dresses like an old fuddy duddy, but nowt wrong with that, just banter between mates :-)

It was like hearing Bill Nye cursing for the first time. you don't expect it with all seriousness.

Wow tech, I didn't expect that especially from you of all people... no offense.

Interesting - - where did you find those. Retail or online??

They are online. Amazon actually. if you look at one of my posts, you can see the exact same shoe in a different color. the brand is daily shoe.

Honestly, if I was in your position, I would try to talk it through with your mum, seriously. Mostly because your mum would be more understanding, heck she even gave birth to you of all things. If and when she gets comfortable, she could talk to your dad for you. Now I will be 17 in November so I can relate to how you might be feeling right now. So just lay back a bit, try to relax, it can't do much harm.

Your pal,

Preston

Mtnsofheels!!!

I don't know how else to respond to that... It is beautifully written, heartfelt, it strikes emotion easily.

 

I'll tell you the time I went on my first group climb... I like to usually be grounded, but rappelling is always fun. The teacher said the belayer will climb next, knowing that I was next, I was feeling anxious. I started out well, until I couldn't trust the shoes at the last half. And it was near vertical incline, 75-80%. I got stuck there for over 10 minutes  grasping on to the closest hand hold possible, until I moved centimeter by centimeter. It took a couple of minutes before I could get my finger tips over the edge. But when I did, I pulled my entire body up after holding on for so long. I'm glad that my teacher kept on pushing me to the top, as my struggles are like the incline.

 

Thanks again,

Preston

Hai hhboots,

 

As far as I'm aware, my parents don't know, but there wave been a few close calls. I am a night fellow, so when everyone goes to bed, I'm still up for 2-4 hours. I cant even explain what I could say if I got caught, so until they really want to know what's going on without freaking out, I'll be quiet.

 

I finally got the second pair in today! They fit wonderfully. I am defiantly a solid 11 in women's, so I get some limitations however.

 

Thaaanks,

Preston

Here is my entry

Here they are, well, at least the shoes are... I just bought them

 

 

I also bought more climbing gear

 

All in all this wasn't a bad experience but I'll probably not bother with that store again.

I work at a Kroger branded store in colorado, and even I have to say sorry. However we can't apologize for what our customers do in the store. Everyone is trained how to interact with the customer, and to make them feel welcome, so they come back again.

Thanks robbiehhw! I honestly just want to wear what I want to wear, no questions asked. I met a girl online who is literally excited that I wear heels, so, another person knows. I'm thinking about getting a skater skirt and a second pair of heels already. I'll post pics tomorrow.

Honestly I've gone the route of being a femboy. No I do not mean transgender, I don't want to be a women. I like their fashion of clothes and shoes on the other hand. I will wear a skirt and heels all day if you let me.

Here I am in jeans everyone. Ill get in a skirt later, when everyone is away again

I think they look cool.  For now consider wearing them with long jeans and if anybody is rude enough to ask, "Are those girl's shoes?" simply reply, "They're my shoes.".  If someone asks ,"Aren't those heels kind of high?", have a ready answer like, "What? (be surprised that are asking such an inconsequential question) Oh, there my new ones, they're 4 inches".  And, "How do you walk in those shoes? with, "They,re my new ones, they're really comfortable".

 

Wear them with confidence in fact, exude confidence!  The last thing to do is have an "OMG somebody noticed" expression on your face. 

 

They're your shoes, enjoy them.

Thanks TBG! I would like to clarify that I will not achieve public status for a while, neither will I be informing my parents; I will start off by telling them how I feel with what they are saying and how it is hurting me; Then I might tell them about my choice of shoes and clothes.

 

Otherwise I have a pair of skinny jeans that I could wear them with, but only on a cold day, otherwise, I have my moms very old skirt to wear.

 

I agree that if anyone does ask, "They are not simply girl shoes, they are the shoes I got because I liked them, I could care less if they were girls shoes only because they are my shoes."

 

they are actually 5 inchers... the highest pair I have ever worn, yet I can walk near perfect.