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Hey FF2 Don't you just hate it when work gets in the way of important issues such as discussing heels.

Dave After reading you second outing and the brush with the Latinos I was wondering what part of the US do you live. By the way did you get your car fixed?

Happyfeet That is a great looking pair of pumps, I to have gone to wearing ether round toe or almond toe as it seems to draw less attention.

Dreaming about heels

Hey FF2 I read your post and was interested in the AURA by Wrangler so I went to the Wrangler web site and those are some awsome looking pants I think I am going to make a trip to the local VF corp store and check them out.

PatentHeel Way to go! and good luck

In the can

how about danica patrick??

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I have been thinking about this and one thing that keeps comming up is that thin or stiletto heels are girlie. The company I work for has many women in several key positions, one lady is the SVP of operations and the only two people above her are the two owners. I have been at 3 differnt meeting where she was involved and all 3 time she was wearing buisness skirts and matching 4" stiletto heels two pairs were pointed toe and one pair were almond toe. Beleve me she was totally in charge of those meeting and I don't think any one of twenty or so people were thinking she looks girlie.(she looked really nice but not girlie..) I think that what defines girlie is more the person than the cloths or shoes, I have seen men in all male clothing that looked girlie. On the flip side if a women can be in nice buisness cloths and heels and look professional, then if a man is in buisness cloths and wanted to wear heels then why is that odd or even girlie?

GWL Excellent points well said.

I would wear those to work every day if I could find those out here.

To be fair to them, concern about their image sits on one side of the scales, with our "well-being" sitting on the other. What makes our well-being any more important than theirs? I can and have quite a pleasant life without wearing high heels. In fact I had something of a 15 year respite before my recent indulgence.

But could my wife, (or any S/O) continue to enjoy their current lifestyle with friends and family with them knowing I wear high heels? I can tell you the answer would likely be an emphatic No!

On balance (again directly refering to the balance scales) a selfish attitude from me could cause significantly more pain for my partner, than the need for discretion causes me.

Overall I do okay. I had another day out yesterday wearing heels (I'll write about later), with my wife wearing flat shoes. A complete reversal from a year ago. Both of us had a nice time out, so I've no real cause for complaint. She's fairly accepting, but I don't feel she (or any anyone else) should be made to suffer because I choose to indulge myself wearing high heels.

I can't, "we" can't ignore the attitudes of others. It's part of being inside the community, rather than outside it. The best we can hope for is to bring about some change, but I doubt many of us will achieve a major change in attitudes from even the 5-10 people we might usually have direct contact with. Wearing heels is far from something I expect to take for granted any time soon. [Though I did get invited into our local Tesco by herself last night, she having completely forgotten I was wearing 4" heels.... ]

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You are right on point, in my case my wife knew along time ago about my wearing pantyhose when riding horses when we use to help a friend do fall round up on their ranch, and it gets cold there in late October so we wore the pantyhose to keep warm. Also when we go riding the motorcycle (my avitar) during the winter we both wore hose and she had no problem with it. When I started disscussing my love of high heel shoes and wanting to wear them she thought I was nuts. She never asked me if I was gay because she has several gay friends but she did ask are you a cross dresser? I said technically yes, but so are you and she was what do you mean and I asked how many pairs of young men's Wrangler jeans do you have, and her responce was yes but no one will know where as you in a pair of pumps will stand out and what will my family think! So back to your point that we do have to balance our needs with those that are also a part of our lives. As time has gone by my wife has accpted my heel wearing as long as I wear boots with paints that covers the heel but no heels when we are with family and I am ok with that. We are all not a fortunate as members like Johnnieheel who has a very understanding wife who encourages him, but I am thankfull that my wife at least tolerates my heel wearing.

Hey Dr Shoe that is a great pic.

Hey DawnHH why don't you paint some heels on the side those walkers and say you are still street heeling:w00t2: Hope all is going well and get well soon, you are still in our thoughts and payers.

Hi leigh and welcome to HHplace it is always great to have ladies join and bring your views on heels.

I think I would find a guy wearing womens shoes to be non threatening bordering on amusing.

Why?

Amanda I am just trying to understand your thought process

JeffB You ol bandit that is one great looking pair of pumps. I too love pumps and if I could I would wear pumps with a 4" heel every day.

Hi Amanda I understood your question and for me my anwser is no. I am straight and have been happily married now for 34 years. I grew up with 2 older sisters and a mother who wore heels all the time which was during the sixties I remember that I was fasinated with high heels and when no one was around I would wear my sisters shoes and was hooked but I knew I could never wear them. Since I grew up on a farm and worked around horses and cattle I always wore cowboy boots and even now I wear boots and they have always had a 2.5" or 3" rideing heel so I have always worn heels. About a year ago I told my wife about my love of womens high heels and even though she thought I was nuts let me get a pair I was in heaven, and now several pairs later I wear ladies boots or loafers with a 3.5" stacked heel or my cowboy boots to work, the dress code is buisness casual so I dress nice. The only other womens attire I wear is ladies trouser socks and some times pantyhose, other wise I have no desire to wear any other womens cloths. I like wearing heels because of the way they fit and how it feels when walking in them, as you know when in a pair of heels your whole perspective changes compared to flats or mens shoes. So for me it is about the shoes and nothing else.

Hey SQ that is a great looking boot and I am happy to hear that all is going well for you at work.

fastfreddy2 I really like the H-D boots where did you order them from?

LailaLily You have awsome taste in fashion.

wearing heels is almost an addction when I am wearing them I don't want to take them off, and when I am not wearing heels I feel all weird and I keep thinking about wearing high heels.

I will answer the door and not take off my heels, it has only happened once when a neighbor came over I had just got home from being with my wife as she was in the hospital and the neighbor came over to see how she was. I know he saw my heels but never said a word.

Welcome Nicko68 you will find this is a great place to hang out as all the members are a great bunch of people who just love heels.

If you go to hubpages.com and search for Hope Alexander she has several blogs on mens fashion freedom including two hubs on men in heels, it seems we may be slowly gaining acceptance