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• What first attracted you to high heels? Hard to say, they were sleek, shiny, sexy, forbidden....
• When did you first wear a pair? adolescence, some 40 years ago.
• How do you feel when you wear heels? Adventurous might be a good sum up, since it is a combination of empowerment and miscreance or rebellion
• Do you have a favorite brand? Favorite store? Reasons? For years it was the sexiest highest shoe that fit, now that I'm more public, I'm looking more at androgynous acceptible styles
• Have you worn heels in public? Why or why not? I spent decades trying to not be seen, for fear of being labelled a kook. A few years back I passed a threshold where I stopped caring what a stranger thought and wore what I wanted, but only when i was far enough away from home. More recently I've been wearing androgynous shoes among friends and family. Both of these transitions have led, after an initial adjustment period, to reduced stress and more comfort and confidence in being who I am, and that includes more confidence in many other areas of life.
• Men in relationships, are your partners supportive? I discussed it with my wife before we were married, but as a "hidden sin", "fetish", whatever. She has made some attempts over the years to accommodate my altocalciphilia in sexual foreplay, but as to me wearing heels, she probably knows I do but wants no part. Sort of like the military's "Don't ask, don't tell" policy
• What's been your best heel wearing experience? Your worst? So many of each over the years. By far the most socially and psychologically rewarding are the positive interactions with women who are fully accepting and appreciative. I'm fairly shy and quiet, and it has been quite surprising how many casual conversations pop up with female strangers. Something about your full weight on a 4" stiletto heel that punches holes in social barriers. No doubt it erects others.
• What do you think society thinks of men wearing heels? How do you wish it would change? How long do you think it will take? There is an automatic assumption that you're gay. I'm hopelessy straight and I suspect the gay/straight ratio here is little different than in the general population. Gender assignment of clothes needs to go away. Females can wear anything, why can't males?.
• Do you personally know other men who wear heels? Only online. How could we know each other if we're all closetted, as I was for so long?
• Tell us anything else that might be useful for an insightful article about men wearing heels.

Two points. 1. You'll find more larger sizes in urban areas than rural areas. 2. You'l find more larger sizes in stores serving a predominantly black neighborhood than a white neighborhood. Can't really say why, maybe black women have bigger feet. Not racist, just something I've observed in 40 years of looking for 12Wide.

ILK, I concur that you have a special gift for storytelling in written medium and an autobiography would be a great place to start. If you didn't murder anyone, statute of limitations will protect you. For a good example of how an utterly FU life can still be a fascinating autobiography, read: http://www.amazon.com/Running-Scissors-Memoir-Augusten-Burroughs/dp/031242227X/ref=pd_sim_b_4 I suspect you may have, as do I, a touch of what is now called Asperger's Syndrome. Either way, you will enjoy the massively creative work of John Elder Robison (brother of the above auther) and his contribution and place in the history of rock&roll. His autobiography: http://www.amazon.com/Look-Me-Eye-Life-Aspergers/dp/0307396185/ref=pd_sim_b_4 Read these, then start your own. (sorry, no heel content here; that starts in the ILK autobiography)

I've done a local Walk-a-Mile-in-Her-Shoes event the last two years. They don't have an entrance fee and aren't really focused on fund raising as much as community awareness. All I ever gave was $10 for a shirt. The local charity sponsoring it is an abused women's shelter, which I'm fairly certain is efficient and effective. Although I share with some of you, a very dim view of typical "Walk-a-thon" type events -just give the money and be done with- I do see this event, at least my local one, as somewhat different because it isn't focused on fundraising. The route is down the midway of an avant-garde arts street fair. It's a jovial celebratory environment and I really didn't sense a derisive spirit. I see a potential positive for us in that more men may get bitten by the heel bug, and eventually go public. I suspect a good number of the participants are closet heelers. If the event helps chip away the fear of being seen, then it is a positive thing. I make a point of arriving in heels, doing the walk, walking back to the car and leaving all in the same heels. I might even hit the McDonalds as well. Ironically, the first time I did it, I was in patent black pointy toe 4" stiletto pumps, which I was just starting to do some public heeling in. I wore jeans low to cover them, as was my practice. DUH, the point is to show them off. Next year I'm going to try to do a good coordinated look you all have been preaching, rather than rolled up jeans.. Just looking at the schedule, I see quite a few new ones popping up locally. I might have to try them out.

My first buy, I was 13 or 14, in the early 1970's. Rode my bike to the local Goodwill and spent some time finding a nice pair of white patent knee-high boots with a block heel around 2", think drum majorette. I really don't remember if I tried them on or not, I might have since the shoes were in a dark corner in the back. I put them where I could grab them easily and spent 15 minutes milling around, waiting for the cash register line to be completely clear. When I saw my chance, a grabbed them and dashed... no, strolled -don't want to attract attention- up to the register. Just as I got there a lady stepped out from the side ahead of me with a gigantic armload of stuff. Of course it took her forever to check out. And there I stood a wimpy kid with a guilty look on his face, holding only a pair of "girl boots". Soon a young couple was in line behind me and they were snickering and pointing. I went through with it, and got a lot of miles out of those boots. It has gotten easier every time since. Earlier this week I was in Shoe Dept in a mall, trying on a pair of 4" stiletto mid calf bright red boots with fur trim and a huge gold buckle. Really gaudy christmas party boots. I had to take off the calf length black block heeled boots I wore into the store. A guy customer came around the corner in front of me and gave me a double take with an extra stare on the side. I smiled as if I didn't care, which was really easy because I didn't, then I lifted my leg to show off the boots and continued about my business. He gave me a thumbs up and nudged the woman with him, who stepped around the post for a better look. She complimented them and they both continued about their shopping. Two down, a gazillion to go. Unfortunately I left those boots in the store, for the same reason that they were still trying to clear them out, When the heck would I wear them?

Would that fall under "unsportmanlike conduct"?

"Illegal use of Hands". Actually 90% of what comes across the referee mic could be twisted into hilarious double entendre.

Encroachment

Pass interference

offensive holding

personal foul

false start

delay of game

down by contact

etc, etc.

any word or phrase should be neutralised - whatever that may mean.

Even that's been PCed. The word isn't "neutralised", it's "neutered." But perhaps that cuts a little too close.

I gotta agree with Bubba and Shafted on this. There are many things in life which cannot be understood outside of personal experience. Among them, the Love of God, the love of a spouse, even the feelings that come with public heeling. For those who believe, no proof is necessary, for those who do not, no proof is possible.

To HHboots, and others who are constrained by the logical approach, as I once was, I invite you to read Mere Christianity by C.S.Lewis. I think you'll find it quite challenging.

The point of guilt is the point at which the differentiation between the biological sexes is ruined, either to self or towards others.

So if I understand you correctly, you see a distinct difference, a crossing of the line if you will, between men heeling, or even wearing skirts or dresses (as men), and full crossdressing, with the intent to "pass"

Do you see this on an individual level, or in society as a whole? ie. Styles become so androgenous that gender is indeterminate, or perhaps other male/female roles become blurred.

after much experimentation, I discovered I need to consciously point my feet outward just a bit, because walking thighs close together, pumpcat style, causes me to walk slightly pigeon-toed.

I normally tend to walk with my toes angled out more than most people. High heels do tend to straighten that out a bit, but I do have to be conscious to keep my toes pointed straight ahead. Otherwise my heel can slip out on a polished vinyl floor. I haven't hit the deck yet, but I've done some embarassing flailing.

Years ago I swapped a blown diesel engine out of an Olds Cutlass. It had thrown a rod through the pan, so it was an oily mess. I was wearing patent black 5" stilletto pumps with a huge shiny decorative bow on the back of the heel. They were old and I didn't care about messing them up, actually kind of wanted to. When you're laying on your back on a Creeper, you know how you use your feet to scoot yourself around? Yeah, like that...

1. Shoulders back 2. Shoulders back 3. Shoulders back It's difficult to describe, but when I first start walking in very high heels, I tend to have my hips rolled forward too much. This gets tiring rather quickly. Relax, roll the hips backwards and let the buttocks sink down onto the heels. This creates a more natural heel-to-toe gait on the shoe, but does require faith that the heel will hold and not slide out. Also the hips will naturally need to wiggle more to accomodate your stride. This is a good thing. When I get out of the car and start walking across the parking lot, and realize I'm stiff and self-concious, I just try to let the butt sink down into the heels and by the time I get to the door, it feels like a natural normal walk

I'm still searching for hidden wedge heel sneakers in US Women's 12 wide/ Men's 11. I almost bought the Lane Bryant ones, but that corel color kinda defeats the idea of going subtle. Anyway while snooping around the LB website I came across these boots, which would also be a good starter heel. I have some similar cowboy boots I wear all the time with no negative reaction or comment.

http://outlet.lanebr...electedSize=12W

I got mine on the way, and there's still a few available in 12 Wide. They had a promotional code for 50% off up, but I don't see it now. I paid $20

http://reluctant-mes...r.com/enoch.htm

Book of Enoch.

Thanks for that link ILK. Got me some reading to do. Somehow that little bit of Genesis 6 wasn't covered so well in Mennonite Sunday School.

Well, according to Clinton's health and human services secretary Donna Shalayla, "Everybody's got to die with something" As to the Mayans, if they were so good at predicting the future, maybe they should have foreseen the Spanish coming....

Found at Nordstrum Rack, J.Renee, model SuriJJ, size US13M. The cheap iphone camera and floursecent light doesn't do it justice. It's black velvet with kind of rainbow-colored streaks. However I mainly like the heel, as I am a huge fan of micro-thin stiletto heels. These are 4.5 inch high, perfect for walking, and all of about 1/4" across. In rather short order I'll be giving them a metal tip yet. I wore them out of the store and to Best Buy, to Payless in the mall, and getting dinner at the food court. Under jeans, but less than half hidden. Got a few looks and maybe giggles, no comments.

While the homepage was down, I did some searching and came across these interesting heelless designs. Looking at the small thumbnail, I couldn't even figure it out until I saw the bigger picture. http://www.thehighheelstore.com/bp579-saffo.html This same site has a bunch of other interesting and unique shoes, including a section devoted specifically to heels for men. These are rather ordinary women's styles but built on mens sized lasts. Many here with larger feet have trouble finding anything other than "stripper shoes" in their size. Prices are high, but I suppose that's expected for a rather unique product line. http://www.thehighheelstore.com/high-heels-for-men/ The term "Classic 4 inch men's pump" just sounds so great, doesn't it?

ILK, I want you to get healed up as quickly as possible, but I am so enjoying your doctor office stories. Looking forward to the next one. Yes, your writing style is entertaining, you should pursue it further. Perhaps you and Dar should take the good doctor and his wife out for an evening of fun. (after this episode is over of course, patronage and professionalism, ya know)

I certainly hope tomorrow's outing isn't interupted by a young lady named Sandy. Is there a website for the charity event? I've done Walk a Mile In Her Shoes several times and it was always fun. After a while you realize you don't need an "event", you just go to the mall or the home store or wherever you need to go in the heels.

Puffer, I originally ordered the boots to have a heel like his #2004 boot pictured here I said that the heel should be 2.5 to 3 inches. The first was under 2, this one is 2.5. I probably won't add a full inch, but at least a half. I want the heel print on the floor to be about an inch square. Fit is great as it should be when custom measured.

Sometime in the summer I ordered a pair of cowboy boots from Miguel Jones in Mexico. I thought I was specific in my order, but they came through with a rather ordinary heel. I sent them back along with a photoshopped picture of the heel I wanted. I finally got them back again this week. This is the how they look. I've been wearing them a lot to get them broken in. The heel still isn't quite the 3 inches I wanted, but I'm going to wear them awhile until the wife and everyone is familiar with them, then have a local cobbler add an inch or so the the bottom of the heel, along with a metal tap. The other pair of boots I've been wearing a lot are these Madden Girl slip-on boots from DSW. I've worn these like work boots for over a year in all kinds of conditions from jobsites, to blowing snow to pressure washing to cutting down and hauling off a tree. Love doing it all in heels

I followed it closely as a 10 year old at the time, and have since read numerous books on the whole space program. A few interesting tidbits: 1. Buzz Aldrin was the mission commander and senior officer, Neil was "just" the pilot. Buzz was originally scheduled to go first, but during practice sessions, it was discovered that Buzz had to go around Neil to get to the hatch. Very difficult in the bulky space suit in the confines of the LM. Neil went to the mission controllers and suggested that he go first instead. After much discussion the decision was made. Neil always held that it wasn't about the glory, just a practicality, and his subsequent actions in life proved that. However it did not sit well with Buzz. In the time since the two have been courteous and gentlemanly, but weren't personally close and did few appearances together. 2. There are no film pictures of Neil on the moon, just the grainy slow scan video. Not that you can tell who's inside the suit, but Neil held the camera and took all the pictures of Buzz. 3. Neil and Buzz agreed that the 6.5 Hour "rest" period planned into the flight schedule between the landing and the first walk was the stupidest thing ever. No way did they get any rest, let alone sleep. Too much adreneline.

Thanks for posting that, Dave. I've also noticed that the heeling desires can be cyclical. For me Febuary seems to be a high point. Not sure why, maybe just a form of cabin fever. I'm currently on a low point, I have opportunities to heel but don't really feel like it. In the past I might have purged, but no more. I'll keep the equipment available in case the urge strikes again.

I've tried a pair of hidden heel men's shoes from TallMensShoes, but they really look rather orthopedic, and are quite heavy compaired to womens stilletto pumps. I've also inserted a pair of 1" lifts into my ordinary velcro strap sneakers from Walmart. I also have a custom pair of western boots with a more slender feminine 3" heel on the way from Miguel Jones in Mexico. My goal is to gradually transition from spousal don't-ask-don't-tell, to acceptance in moderate, marginally feminine footwear.

Do you have these is size 0.05?