Pumps

Theres a long time thread going asking the question ' Do women like men whom wear heels? '

A few people were blunt but honest. Good on them.

There are a lot of other factors though, so to put this in a mindset most of the guys here would ' relate to ' :

" Could any of the guys here date/marry a woman whom refuses to ever wear heels or own/wear a dress/skirt or make-up? "

Its the ladies turn to sick the teeth of the dog on the guys.

Actually that's not really the same as a guy wering heels. That would equal a guy being dressed as a girl 24/7. If the question should be equal it should be: "Would you ever date a girl who occasionally wears mens brogues ?" . I think noone would object to that. I think most of us wears regular mens shoes to work and other occasions, but heels sometimes.

One more.

http://angelap.hubpages.com/hub/Men-in-Heels

Just like Lady Gaga:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=t3n8phigTyA

Of course it's rubs some people the wrong way...

This is something that I have noticed. So what is it that motivates them could it be envy. There was a day that I got together with a girl from the church that did not comment much when we went out but did a lot of bitching after and when I was finally able to find out what was the issue what it all came down to was that she thought that I was by far the better looking of the two of us.

I think most people just think it's embarrassing, like if you suddenly took your clothes of in the middle of the street. Also most people associate male heel wearing with a fetich and male sexuallity just seem to make people uncomfortable.

you mean a harmonica?? my goodness, speak english... ha ha take care.... sf

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When you first wore your high heels and maybe some feminine clothes, in front of your parents,friends or partner (or admitted to it),how did they handle it,good or bad?.

My mom was the first to know and she's pretty supportive. I recently came out on Facebook which was met with total silence. My niece said she thought it was cool, but I can tell that she's uncomfortable. My sister's comment to my niece was apparently that I was an idiot, but she hasn't said anything to me about it. I have a feeling that most people are very uncomfortable with it.

Overall, wearing heels in public has not been that big of a deal for me - we should all do it more often. sf

If you follow Twitter it seems that we do. More and more tweets of the "I just saw a man in heels" kind. And that's just the people who care enough to tweet. Noone has tweeted about me, I think.

Hi Everyone,

To those brave guys who wear very feminine heels in public places ,proudly and in full view,have you had genuinely scarey experiences (probably from other men),that you would like to share?

I'm not sure of my dad said anything to my mom. I'm thinking of asking her about that and go from there. What makes it even more difficult that i don't want to burden them with more of my stuff. I can be quite depressed from time to time and thats allready hard enough on my mom.

I know people are different, but my mom has been very supportive. You might be surprised.

In addition to personal style, remember the importance of spending time with yourself to figure out your vision for your life in general and designing your goals and future. I average about 30 minutes daily and alone visualizing the future I want for myself. The personal power and magnetism that naturally results is inevitably attractive.

There you have it ! I'm much too old to have goals and visions. Mission aborted.

I really understand where you're coming from Pumps. I used to be that introverted awkward guy too, never quite fitting in but at the time not knowing why. I'm a completely different person now than I was then, a better and more likable one with a load of friends. It came to a point where I had to change if I was ever going to be truly happy. People can change, Pumps. I'm living proof.

That's good to hear. I can seems to find the tools though.

I do, however, feel the urge to go into the city this weekend to test the reactions. If I can find the courage.

Again, for those guys who are single, wearing heels DOES NOT hurt your chances with girls.

Sorry but I just don't buy that. It's a case of being "bigger than your shoes" and not everybody can pull that off. If you riding on a wave of confidence, then it's probably true, but if you're an introverted and awkward guy like me (and I'm not the only one here) then you'd have a hard time finding that girl that won't dismiss you as a weirdo. I'd love it if you were right, but I just don't think so.

It probably also helps that have more practice walking.

I have begun to notice something happening as of lately that I have held off writing till now. Has this happened any of you out there.

I seem to be inadvertantly attracting the attention of women in their early twenties as of late. Even to the point where they are offering themselves to me.

Could it be, that we are beginning to see a shift in attitude about men in heels. Could it be that when a man puts on high heels that instead of going after women, they come to him.

An unexpected side effect of wearing stilettos as a guy?

I hope your right. Maybe it can explain my positive experiences lately ?

Simple solution: you wear ankle boots outdoors and change to pumps in theater. Thats what others do when they don't want to wear outdoor shoes indoors. They have bags for ourdoor shoes at theaters cloakroom to keep them safe with your jacket during the show.

My mom did that. I'm just a little sensitive about being casual about it rather that it being an "event". It's difficult to explain. So I actually walked from the hotel in the snow and I made it. So did the shoes.

What the heck were you wearing???

Just black pumps with my usual outfit. Not much different than now.

I remember you saying you had strange looks at the hotel you were staying at. This was when I meet you at a heel meet a couple of years ago.

Strange looks ? They were horrible. Laughing at me very obviously at breakfast and treating me very weirdly. Never had that happen to me at other hotels.

If you don't want to be noticed in heels, don't do what I did today.

Today was the Queens anniversary, so I went to the city with my camera and my ancle boots with 6 cm heels. Again nobody, and there were thousand people around, seemed to take any notice of my boots. According to my mom I was in TV a lot since I was standing at the front. I don't know if my footwear was ever in the shot, but then who cares ?

My footwear was not on TV

I don't know what's happening. I'm wearing my wedge ancleboots to work and noone has said anything. I've been wearing my heeled ancleboots quite a bit with no noticable reactions. Been abroad with only my wedge ancle boots for day and my suede pumps for the evenning. Been to the restaurant and the theater in pumps without any noticable uproar. Today I took the train into the city in my newest pumps and went shopping in the biggest departement store. Sure there were looks, but thats it.

Can it be my attitude ? Have I finally achieved the look that will allow me to wear heels in public with no mocking and laughter ?

Nice pic there. Casual but stylish. Good job, my friend! A question, was that a clutch bag you were holding? I'm curious to know about that.

Pumps, what a great outfit! The jacket fits you perfectly and I love the hosiery and the modest heel pumps. Great freestyle look.

Nice casual outfit. Well done !

JeffB:

I think he is holding a magazine (folded in half).

Can't wait to see Pumps reply about this.

Thanks guys. It's actually just the programme for the show I'm holding. I never considered a clutch, but maybe I should ?

BTW. this is actually my new facebook profile-pic.

New theater trip. This picture is from the theater.

Last night I took a traintrip to a nerby city to break in my new pumps and as a dressrehearsal for something bigger I got planned. The trip was somewhat uneventful as I just took a walk around the city and took the train back. As I'm approaching my station I noticed that a bigger number of people were getting of there than I expected. I think it was a bunch of people going to the nightshift at a local factory. I was the first one out and behind me I'm hearing one of the guys mumbling something like "What's that guy doing ?" to which his female colleague responded in a possitive tone "What? he can do that if he want to. Sure he can". It's very unnusual for me that it's the woman who's more possitive than the guy. I never heard that before.

I'm experiencing the opposite : I had back pain often before, when I was not heeling daily.

Funny thing. I usually always get a pain in my lower back when standing for a long time for example at concerts, but yesterday when I was waiting for the queen for over 2 hours, I did not get any pain. I attribute this to my heels.

If you don't want to be noticed in heels, don't do what I did today. Today was the Queens anniversary, so I went to the city with my camera and my ancle boots with 6 cm heels. Again nobody, and there were thousand people around, seemed to take any notice of my boots. According to my mom I was in TV a lot since I was standing at the front. I don't know if my footwear was ever in the shot, but then who cares ?

Well here is my outfit for the day. I normally wouldn't wear heels with this skirt but I have been trying to find one of my pair of heels that would look good with this skirt. I know there are people here that wont like the mens shirt with the skirt, but I am just not comfortable in all women's clothing plus I don't think this looks too bad. Just figured I would pop up a picture and see what everyone's thought's where about how the shoe's look with everything. The outfit is a Browns polo shirt, with a just below the knee kaki skirt, nude hose, black LEI Mary Janes and a black belt. Let me know what everyone thinks.

I'm all for mixing and I think it looks good.

I finally bought these from Deichmann. They're actually very comfortable to walk in. There a bit of a pad (like Happy feet) in the front.