JeffB

Why bother with excuses? Just be truthful and say you wear heels because you like to! I wear heels, mostly pumps on a daily basis at the office where I work and found that honesty works better than some convoluted excuse that some of your co-workers might not believe anyway. I'm sure this is a bold step for you, but it can be done. Good luck to you.

Hello, LondonMale! I'm from the States and, like Firefox, I pretty much wear what I please. Since you're new onboard, my name's JeffB, and I've gained a tiny measure of recognition here as being a guy who proudly, and openly wears heels at the office where I work daily, most noteably, standard pumps (courts to you) for the last couple of years. From day one, I've never had any trouble from co-workers or supervisors regarding the shoes I choose to wear. If anything, I'm regularly complimented on how stylish I am and how well I look in my heels. I've even had a couple of co-workers say I wear nicer looking heels than most of the women in the office, and I work in a large facility with something like nearly two hundred women!! Like Firefox said, don't let the world dictate to you. You only go around once, so enjoy the experience in the way YOU see fit, not everyone else!

Thanks, but no thanks! The notion of having ANY portion of my body pierced is abhorrent to me! But, hey! I won't criticize anyone out there who's had it done. More power to you!

Many thanks! The new boots feel great too! :-D

To answer your question, I had no problem fitting into those boots. I made sure of that by trying them on in the store before I bought them, in full view of other shoppers. No problemo!

I struck gold yet again at Payless with these fall themed beauties:

I wasted no time showing off my new boots on Friday (I can no longer bring myself to dress down and wear sneakers, even on Casual Fridays! It's heels five full days a week for me!!!), pairing them with a brown sweater and my snug black jeans. As usual, I was a hit at the office with co-workers complimenting me on my taste and style.

I think these might well become my favorite boots this season! :-D

I guess we're all lucky to have a passion for what we do. Not every man would want to enjoy wearing women's shoes, no doubt for fear of having his masculinity of sexual preference questioned. Funny thing is, I've never faced either situation in the three years since I've gone public. Usually, the only questions posed to me are: "How can you walk in those heels?" or "Where do you find women's shoes in your size?" That I can live with, the other stuff doesn't faze me. I'm comfortale in my own skin, and with what I do, and that's more than good enough for me! :-D

When it comes to wearing women's shoes in public at work, you can't allow yourself to become self-conscious or nervous about it. Shoes are shoes, plain and simple. A less than confident image will set off warning bells to everyone around you, making them wonder if you have something to hide. Of course, a good dose of conservatism never hurts when it comes to what you wear, especially in an office environment. And if you interface regularly with clients, then you have to consider them and what they might think. In some ways, I suppose this could be viewed as a double-edged sword when it comes to be out in public in shoes not consistent with your gender.

I'm afraid not. I guess I'm the Lone Ranger at the office! :-) The men (what few of them there are) don't say anything about my shoes, I guess they either think I'm eccentric or just plain crazy. I don't encourage them to do what I do, it's clearly their choice. So they go their way, and I go mine. C'est la vie!

On Wednesday, I wore my red pumps at the office, pairing them with a long sleeved red turtleneck, navy dress pants and beige hosiery. As usual, I was warmly complimented on my attire. A couple of the ladies openly said I looked cute while another praised me on the courage I show on a daily basis by wearing women's shoes in public. I replied that it wasn't easy, nor did it happen overnight. It took awhile for me to feel comfortable enough in my own skin to do what I choose to do, and wear the shoes I like. Admittedly, I still get a tiny shiver at times, but I ignore it and soldier on. Now that I've worn black, brown, navy, off-white and now red, I feel confident enough to wear just about anything! :-D

Yo, Jim! That was an awesome pic! Even more awesome boots! A highly presentable image indeed! :-D

I would think the number would be way lower than that. However, without survey data to really prove one wat or another, I do believe male acceptance would be a lot higher for men in skirts than high heels.

Hmm! That's an interesting hypothesis, Bubba! Of course, I figure that would depend on the type of skirt and the environment it's worn in. I've seen teen boys out and about in floor length skirts and no one seems to bat an eyelash, but if it were a knee length skirt, that might be problematical. Shoes on the other hand are less obtrusive I think and therefore less open to scrutiny. But then, I could be wrong.

I've also gotten compliments from female co-workers who were both amazed and impressed that I could walk so well in four inch heels, something a few of them openly admit they can't do. One lady said to me that I make walking in four inchers look easy. I replied that it took a goodly amount of practice to accomplish that, to which she readily agreed. By far, women have shown to be much more open minded, and complimentary of a man in heels, something that surprised me at first since I mistakenly believed they'd think I, as a man were encroaching on their territory. But that hasn't been the case, as I've said before, I've been universally complimented by women for the shoes I choose to wear, most saying I look great in heels. And, for the most part, who am I to disagree? :-D

Well, to tell you all the truth, I only have a dozen pairs of shoes, and four pairs of boots. 13 wide isn't universally easy to find, and besides, I've always been a believer in quality over quantity! :-D

Same here with me, Firefox. People have become so used to seeing me in heels, they also ask what's up when I'm not wearing them, which now is exceedingly rare. Heck, I can't even bring myself to leave them home on "Casual Fridays"! To answer your question, Jo, those boots I bought were size 13 regular with a 3 1/2 heel. Another point: since I've started wearing heels on a daily basis, I can't bring myself to wear anything under 3 inches, anything beneath that feels like flats to me and aren't worth wearing. :-)

Well, then I guess I'm lucky to be working where I am and can enjoy my passion without malice.

Well, at 6-6 in four inch heel, I should due a pay raise pretty darn soon! :-D

Well, to throw in my two cents worth, I work in the Federal government and, as everyone here already knows, I wear women's shoes at the office daily. Everyone knows about it and no one, including supervisors has had a problem with it. As far as I know, I've never seen or been told about a set dress code at the office, hell, I'm sure I would've been told of it the first day I wore pumps, but that's never come up. I'm lucky in that my co-workers all like me and appreciate the job I do, so the issue of what i wear on my feet has never been one, other than people like my shoes!

I recently struck gold at my local Payless when I snatched up these cool looking boots on Columbus Day:

I wasted no time wearing them to the office, pairing them with a dress shirt the same color and dark brown dress pants. Predictably, my co-workers were suitably impressed with both my boots, and how I looked overall. The next day, I bought the same boots in black, and those look even cooler! :-D

A long time ago, I used to do what scotty did, writing down item numbers, sizes, colors, the whole lot and taking the info to a store to make my purchase. In the beginning, it take time to develop the courage to not only buy women's shoes in public, but wear them as well. Not to call myself an old hand at this, but these days, i just go into a store (what few I find that carry 13 wide), pick out what I want, try them on then buy, plain and simple. I'm comfortable enough in my own skin to do this in the open and not care what others may think, or say about me. Life's too short to worry over such unimportant things. Bottom line, if you want to buy what you want, you just have to go and do it! :-D

Thanks for all the kind words, everybody. I'm simply doing what I feel comes naturally. As for posting pics, I'll see what I can do about that! :-D

I can understand your concern, Gene. I'm lucky in that the work I do doesn't require me to interact with clientele, so I can afford to be a bit more bold than the average bear in regards to what I wear and how I wear it.

Well, Bubba, I certainly don't prance, bu that's what she said! Admittedly, I did get a chuckle out of that at the time! :-D

Many thanks for the info, Gene! I'll check it out!

It was three years ago this month that I made the conscious decision to wear heels in public at the place where I work. I remember how nervous I was on that very first day when I showed up at the office in a pair of Payless block heeled loafers, I waited nervously for the first comments of shock and outrage, but that never happened. My co-workers all nicely complimented me on my shoes, something I didn't at all expect. At first, I only wore heels two, sometimes three days a week, but in time, as my confidence grew, so did my desire to branch out with my footwear. Block heeled boots soon followed, again with no problem, it was during this time that I begun upgrading my wardrobe which had been plenty pedestrian as I wanted to wear nicer looking clothes with my shoes. My goal was to present as pleasant an image as I possibly could. Eventually, little over a year or so ago, I took what I considered to be the ultimate step in my public heel wearing as began wearing pumps. By this time, my co-workers pretty much knew I was wearing women's shoes, still, no one raised a stink about that, so I decided to go all the way. Again, much to my surprise, no one was shocked or horrified, in fact, everyone said I had very nice taste in the shoes I wore. Today, I wear nothing BUT pumps at the office, each and every day, complete with pantyhose and the nicest, sharpest clothes I can find to compliment my shoes, and co-workers without fail say I look terrific. I've learned how to put together outfits that coordinate perfectly, from my clothes, to hosiery to shoes. When I buy clothes, I always think about what would match best and look nicest with my shoes, and that's a lot of fun. So far, the journey has been rewarding and fulfilling, and I see no reason to stop now! :-D