CRabbit

Though my collection is small, I know what attracts me in a shoe and it's evident in what I have so far.

Heel height - between 4"(no platform) to 6inch(with platform). My next purchase must be a 5" heel without platform.

Toe style - can be anything, though I do prefer Almond or Rounded.

Heel - Wedges being the easiest to wear in public as I feel the heel is less obvious but I prefer the 'feel' of a stiletto.

Sound - The noisier the better. Contradictory considering the desire to hide the heel but I like the audible reminder of what I'm wearing.

Vis - I do prefer to have my shoes 'on display' when in the privacy of my own company but in public, the whole shoe, heel and everything is hidden under my pants or jeans.

Hi folks, @Roniheels: My family has and always will take priority and I try to ensure my personal fashion tastes will never clash with that. My marriage and family mean the world to me. On the other hand, I feel that while ever there is a negligible chance of being seen by someone who knows me & my family - for example in a service station almost 60miles from home that I often pass while working at a client's location - then I will quietly indulge in my passion. I try to quietly mention the topic once every 18months or so, so that she still knows where I'm at with it. The answer is the same every time though. @SleekHeels: Thanks for the welcome. I was caught, yes, by a college friend of all people. I went shopping in a pair of stiletto boots and he noticed. He wasn't freaked out by it but was a little on edge until we talked about it more a few days later. Up until that point nobody who personally knew me or my wife (she didn't either) had even the slightest notion of my passion, not even my wife! It was at that point I thought best to tell her so at least there was no surprises if it ever got back to her. Perhaps it wasn't the smartest move - heeling in public without her knowing. The difference now is I just do it further from home. @Shafted: I'm always happy to hear people's personal opinions and I always take what they say in a positive way. Feel free to share your thoughts, I'd love to hear them. C

@Shafted: Yes, I've come to realise I'm very much in the same position as many men here at HHplace who find themselves in a relationship that oppresses their passion. *daydreams about mens heels becoming high-street fashion* - yea, I know... @jsauvage: Not as often as I'd personally like but she does make a good effort when we go out. She spends almost all days entirely in flats, which is a crying shame, and she is utterly unable to balance in a stiletto heel - every shoe is a more sensible heal size no higher than 4inch (3inch without platform). Beyond our footwear differences though we're brilliant match

Hello all! I'm a 30year old IT professional from central England with a passion and love for heels that dates back to my early teens where I've worn and owned my own since leaving high school. Unfortunately I have to keep (and have always kept) my love for heels to an absolute secret as my wife many years ago gave me the ultimatum - her or the heels. We have a child together (4years old) and love each other dearly so putting footwear between us wasn't an option and the chance of making my child's life difficult because of my personal fashion choices isn't going to happen. Thankfully I work a long way from home (over an hours commute each way) so I've got both the time during the drive and perhaps a quiet walk before/after work where I can be myself without it impacting our lives - my wife still believes years on that I've not taken a single step in heels since 'that chat' but what she doesn't know wont hurt her eh? I've been dropping onto HHplace for an age, watching folks making progress with their confidence to wear their shoes out or experiment with their dress sense and it's really helped me to find who I wanted to be after decades of feeling like an absolute freak (a sensation that thankfully passed a long time ago!) and after signing up a while ago I thought it time to say hello and start to contribute too! Naturally, I'm exceedingly jealous of you gents out there with supporting partners and in admiration of the ladies who are open minded enough to get past the "what would the neighbours/friends/family think" mentality. My personal preference with shoes: Basically anything with a closed toe. My whole collection is in black (5pairs) but would love the chance to experiment with color. Looking forward to getting to know you all a little better... C.