bootmebaby

Wish my feet were a little bit smaller...US womens size 11 for me mostly

5'11" us womens size 11, mens 9...in 6 inch heels that would make me about 6'5"

Imo, I don't think fishnets would be appropriate...however, wearing some classy, high heel shoes and a skirt would be appropriate (of course not just that outfit...could be a classy looking suit, etc...just not "slutty" looking). BoyLegs is right, it's about the quality of the candidate and what they bring to the company. Whether someone is "hot" or not should have absolutley no bearing in the hiring process.

Which is quite ok IMO ( I am pretty sure alot of men who are into balletheels + eventually TV or CD tendencies have this fantasy) but I´d go even futher and say - only men might believe this fantasy has anything to do with reality?

I am glad to see not ALL men do - otherwise this thread would be frightening instead of funny .

I'm sure lots of males fanatsize about being in or having their significant other in them...but all the time? I think not. Most people would be rational enough to think that being in ballet heels forever is just not feasible for everyday life...possible, yes, practical, no. But then again, the world is full of irrational people so who knows.

I like ballet heels...I think they are very cool; but to be in them all the time? Not me and I wouldn't want a girlfriend or wife to have to be in them all the time either...there are times and places where they are fun and that's all it should be...imho.

Welcome iconestyle and James

Bro, take it easy. You will be ok. As others have said, it will take time. You even said you have to get past the 28 years of conditioning...spot on! As time goes by, it will get easier and easier. If it still troubles you, there is online shopping. But I think you, and your girl, will get more enjoyment shopping together. So no worries, take it slow and easy, and you'll be ok.

I agree with the others and tech put it very disticnctly for you...she WILL find out if you try to hide. Everyone "slips up" eventually when they have a secret...and I would imagine that it is not that easy to hide your heels. Imagine this...if you hid them somewhere in the house (I'm assuming you do this) or even if you hid them in your car, eventually there will be a time when your gone and she's doing some cleaning I might stumble across them...or she goes to your car to get something (if you hide them there)...point is, she WILL find them at some time. As others have said, if that happens, the trust is GONE and that could be the beginning of the end. As tech said, the honey we need to talk is not a good way to start. Come up with something clever like "I've been having these dreams lately that I go shopping with you and we go into a shoe store so you can check out some new shoes...weave in there that somehow someway that you see yourself in this dream trying on shoes that she likes as well and that you're not sure why you're having these dreams...". Just something clever so she doesn't think it's a weird thing in her mind (some girls might think that...others may not). Bottom line is this, you have to tell her in some form or another. The whole basis for good relationships is TRUST. You have to look at like this; if you do tell her and she freaks out and leaves you, it wasn't meant to be...if you don't tell her and she finds out, same result. If you tell her and she's cool with it, then 'nuff said and you two live happily heeling ever after. Keep us informed of how it goes for you.

Sounds like it went well for you...unless you wanted a lot of people to notice

Welcome HaH...the higher the heel the better!

Of course I did, but it was not unbearable. I started low and worked my way up, that is the key to not having a lot of discomfort.

Once you are used to a certain heel height it is a breeze. I don't feel any pain or discomfort wearing very high heels because I'm used to them now. Of course I don't spend all day in them, but walking for a few hours isn't a big deal to me. The lower heel heights I have I could probably walk around all day in them without discomfort.

Thanks bootmebaby As for my avatar - yes they are oxfords, had them for years and are one of my favourite pairs of heels I have (my ex girlfriend said she loved them too, so I bought her a pair lol) posted a pic at the bottom.

The boots in your avatar are stunning! I love metal heels, and those are so high! I've read your thread trying to track them down, very nice score for you too matey keep us updated!

Thank you for the complement and yes they are very high (but that's the way I like my heels )...and those are some very nice oxfords indeed. I will keep everyone posted on trying to track down the boots in my avatar. Pata is assisting me in this endevour as well as pussyinboots finding those from La Piazza...we'll see...hopefully after the holidays I'll be able to put more time (and have the money) to find them

You may want to start at a lower heel height to get your feet acclimated to wearing heels. If you start with the shoes you just purchased, you will most likely not be able to be in them for very long and it will cause you discomfort. Just take it slow and make sure you have something to hold on to to brace yourself if you feel like you will fall.

Well said roni

Very similar heel and platform to the Guess knee highs that I have...nice and comfy for walking in for sure.

Very nice score on the boots for you Snoots...are those oxfords in your avatar? They look fanatastic as well.

Welcome to the club. Where you are, we all have been.

Your girl friend is cool and a keeper, treat her well and you and she can have a lot of fun together.

You have my support:

Thrill

P.S. When I started wearing heels they were only 2.5" stillettos now,15 yrs. later, 5" all the time in public and 6" around the house. My wife beside me most of the time.

Thrill, you're a lucky guy yourself as well

You are very fortunate that your family are so understanding of your passion for heels.

I could never tell my family or my friends,I would be disowned straightaway & yet I would love to share my passion with someone.

Thanks goodness for this site!

confused45

I'm in the same boat as you confused...it sucks

I agree with you about this site...it has been a God-send that I stumbled accross this site. This wonderful community has allowed me to share my passion for heels with others who don't judge; a community that supports my passion, as well as their own, for the amazing things we call high heels.

Cheers to everyone here for their support

For me, it's the feel of having an extreme arch to my foot...so I guess one can deduce that I kept going higher and higher in heel height...since I really don't have too many opportunitys to wear them out, I wear the highest heel my feet can take around the house...I will be trying ballet boots soon as well. So again, it's a feel thing for me...the addiction (if you want to call it that) is just wearing high heels...the height is more a function of my want for an extreme arch to my foot.

I'd sit and chat, defend their rights if anyone acosted them.

Confused, as you have seen, we have a wonderful and informative community here. The posts you have made so far have been fantastic and I truly enjoyed reading them and providing feedback. I have no doubt that you will be one of the finest additions to our community and will continue to provide great contributions in the future. I too have a wide range of music interests and like a lot of the choices you listed as well...welcome brother.

Welcome to our wonderful community Kipsu.

Welcome Prata

You're a lucky guy to have a GF like that...and yes you are still normal. As you have seen by joining this community, there are a lot of men who like to wear heels that are completely "normal"...they just have a fascination with women's shoes and wearing them and that is all. Looking through history, what was considered taboo in the past is commonplace in the future...it's all peoples perceptions. Many people in this world would be better off if they took the approach to things like you do (not caring what people think of you)...it doesn't matter what they think, how you feel is what matters.

Great post, and props to you for having the courage to leave your computer on this page so your GF could find it...good to know that both of you are on the same page now.

Welcome dougmac. You will find this a very informative community on the fashions of different types of high heels. Please familiarize yourself with the faqs session and enjoy your stay.