new_look Posted January 22, 2004 Posted January 22, 2004 im not sure exactly how to put this so i hope it appears clear. But ive always wondered. We go on a trillion times of how we instantly look to womens shoes when we pass someone clicking down the street, looking hard in the shop windows etc, and it is a part of me that i do that its not something i can help. ok..... but what about say the guys who arent into our interests. Fair enough they may be more appealed to look at other assets of a woman before noticing any shoes. Fair enough they might not find heels as attractive in their minds as we addicts do because its obviously not a part of them in the same way. I understand all that. But surely these guys must sometime watch a woman clicking in her high stilettos and think, what is it like to wear them shoes, what does it feel like etc. Surely there would be some curiosity there somewhere as its not something that a normal guy would have access to from the lads shoe dept and therefore wouldnt get the chance to try. It cant be that other guys never think about it i dunno.... what do you think? just got me thinkin..... daz
Rockpup Posted January 22, 2004 Posted January 22, 2004 While quite a few guys have probably had a fleeting curiosity as to what heels are like, it probably doesnt even stay in their mind long enough to register as a memory, much like wondering what it's like to rock climb, be in a car wreck, not have a hand, etc. Only if a thought is re-occuring does it register in the long term. Just a thought. Jim (formerly known as "JimC")
genebujold Posted January 22, 2004 Posted January 22, 2004 I recall reading somewhere that about 4/5 of all guys have tried on a pair of high heels more than once in their lifetimes. Now - does that mean "twice in the 4th grade, when mommy was outside talking to the neighbor?" Don't know! Do you?
chris100575 Posted January 22, 2004 Posted January 22, 2004 I remember reading a statistic that said something like 75% of men had either fantasised about or tried cross-dressing to some degree or other. You only need to look at the popularity of events like the Rocky Horror show to realise that your average male will be into a pair of stockings at the slightest provocation. Following on from that, I can well believe that the majority of men have also tried on high heels at some point. That said, I also read that 87.3% of all statistics are made up on the spot... Chris
Rockpup Posted January 22, 2004 Posted January 22, 2004 One good reason most guys likely try high heels when they are younger may be the same problem we have finding heels.. How often do you see a pair of 5" pumps in size 17 womens? I had at least one friend with size 15 shoes in highschool. I'm guessing he would be less likely to run into a pair in his size then I would at size 7 (womens 8.5-9, very common). That, and kids are often curious, alot of them will try things they will not admit to. As far as dressing to be humorus, a good percentage of guys are fine with that. But if you see someone spending several hours in 5" heels you can bet they have had a bit of practice. (formerly known as "JimC")
Heelboykiz Posted January 22, 2004 Posted January 22, 2004 its a bit strange for me i mean i am a heel addict but my friend age 17 also sometimes brings it up i mean he always talks about getting some thigh high boots but i bet he doesnt have the guts to go out and try it im getting closer to buying heels now i went into brantano (i know =\) today and looked at some shoes in the size 8 womens section and soon when i have money i may be at the stage of lieing to get my shoes i just get so damned nervous
new_look Posted January 22, 2004 Author Posted January 22, 2004 i agree with the points said. i did try at early ages too. but i mean you see guys walking along with their girlfriends, gf in heekls and they dont even notice that she had a sexy walk, making lots of noise, attracting lots of attention. they must wonder surely what its like to walk in them. i wouldnt compare it to rockclimbing etc, as that is something that is available to anyone if they chose to, its an everyday item seen everywhere you look, but only on women....
genebujold Posted January 23, 2004 Posted January 23, 2004 i agree with the points said. i did try at early ages too. but i mean you see guys walking along with their girlfriends, gf in heekls and they dont even notice that she had a sexy walk, making lots of noise, attracting lots of attention. they must wonder surely what its like to walk in them. I might be able to answer that... Before I began wearing heels a couple years ago, I had no such desire. My wife wore moderate heels (2-1/2 to 3-1/2) in her size (, and I admired the way she looks, but not just because she was wearing heels - or even if she was wearing heels or not. Just really didn't cross my mind! The thought of trying them on cross my mind about as often as the thought of wearing an astronaut's spacesuit crosses yours. When was the last time you thought about that? It wasn't until after I had to wear a heel and later began to enjoy it, that I thought at all about wearing anyone elses heels. Even to this day, I don't.
JeffM Posted January 23, 2004 Posted January 23, 2004 Surely some sort of guide line or definition has to be set here because I would guess that 99% of boys have worn mums shoes and even clothes, especially under the direction of an older sister, before their school years. Jeff
chris100575 Posted January 23, 2004 Posted January 23, 2004 im getting closer to buying heels now i went into brantano (i know =\) today and looked at some shoes in the size 8 womens section and soon when i have money i may be at the stage of lieing to get my shoes i just get so damned nervous Heelboykiz, You really don't need to be nervous about buying heels. I've been buying women's footwear in high street shops for years. Usually I just go and pick or ask for the size I want, and then go and pay for them. Easy. Most places will let you return shoes that don't fit, so just try them on at home. The thing you need to remember is that shop staff want to make sales. They're not going to try and embarrass you, because then you won't buy anything. The only time I've ever had a member of shop staff pass comment was when an assistant in Evans asked me if I wanted to try on a pair I was looking at. Once you get over the nerves, it's really fun browsing round the shops choosing shoes. Some of the guys on here even try them on in the shops and only seem to have had positive responses. Good luck, and let us know when / what you've bought. Chris
new_look Posted January 23, 2004 Author Posted January 23, 2004 gene, i answered a similar thing to jim above. spacesuits arent exactly walking all around you all day long and they arent the most attracitve thing anyway. i appreciate that not everyone has a shoe fetish, but surely they must wonder or be curious about heels. The thought crossed my mind when i was once in the staffroom and a gay lad was chatting with the girls and one had just bought a pair of heeled shoes to go out in that night. and paul asked the ladies what it was like to wear the heels, and he was really curious, and they went into detail with him the older overweight ones saying how uncomfortable they are for your feet etc. If he was to wonder just because someone showed a friend theres. im sure many others would too. Its not like women dont mention shoes enough round people.
Heelfan Posted January 23, 2004 Posted January 23, 2004 I know where Daz is coming from, because throughout my life I've been amazed at how there there area sizeable number of people (male and female) who are left completed cold and unmoved by a pair of fantastic high heels walking by, even if they are the most ravishing stilettos in the world. Now this isn't to say that I think everyone should be sharing our fetish and go absolutely nuts about every remotely high heel that passes. But nevertheless, if the normal average guy sees a 100% gorgeous girl teetering by in a miniskirt and a stunning pair of 5" heels at least you'd think that there would be SOME sort of reaction. But with quite a percentage of the population, amazingly not! In fact, I've been amazed to hear various guys positively knocking the idea of girls in high heels, saying that they are "silly shoes" or "girls must be mad to want to wear idiotic things like that". In a cafe in the Edgware Road, London, I saw an attractive girl enter in some new-looking 3" stiletto heels and join a guy at a table. He positively disliked them, saying "What on earth are you doing wearing THOSE?". She lamely replied that she bought them "Because they looked pretty". It sometimes makes you despair, doesn't it? Cheerfully yours, Heelfan Onwards and upwards!
genebujold Posted January 24, 2004 Posted January 24, 2004 Now this isn't to say that I think everyone should be sharing our fetish and go absolutely nuts about every remotely high heel that passes. But nevertheless, if the normal average guy sees a 100% gorgeous girl teetering by in a miniskirt and a stunning pair of 5" heels at least you'd think that there would be SOME sort of reaction. But with quite a percentage of the population, amazingly not! As one of the non-fetishers around here with a lot of similarly non-fetish male friends, I'd like to comment... When we see a stunningly gorgeous girl walking by in a miniskirt and pair of 5" heels, we think "slut," "escort (hidden prostitute)," or "wannabe." When we see a stunningly gorgoeus girl walking by in an attractive skirt or slacks wearing 4" heels, we think, "woah!" When we see a stunningly gorgeous girl walking by in whatever attire wearing a pair of 3" heels, we think, "woah - approachable." I spend a fair amount of time in town, occasionally to some of the juicier spots in town (still clean, guys - just fun for the young crowd). Well, I won't say much more about it, other than skyscraper heels on women are not the epitome of attraction for most guys.
new_look Posted January 24, 2004 Author Posted January 24, 2004 good point. maybe i didnt get across quite what i wanted to say i simply meant, dont these guys look and think, hang on what am i missing out on, because every woman seems to have some and enjoy them, and for the everyday guy whose mens section does not encorporate such items, wouldnt it be natural for the guy to be curious and wonder what he was missing out on
chris100575 Posted January 24, 2004 Posted January 24, 2004 Probably most guys are too busy concentrating on T&A to notice the shoes. For myself, I always look at a woman's feet first. Chris
genebujold Posted January 24, 2004 Posted January 24, 2004 good point. maybe i didnt get across quite what i wanted to say i simply meant, dont these guys look and think, hang on what am i missing out on, because every woman seems to have some and enjoy them, and for the everyday guy whose mens section does not encorporate such items, wouldnt it be natural for the guy to be curious and wonder what he was missing out on Nope. Chris is right - it's a T&A function. The main reason the average (key point, here) is more attracted to a woman in moderate (another key point) heels is because of what it does to the way she looks and walks: 1. More sway to the hips. Hips are associated with child-rearing - very ingrained in the male psyche to ensure squaw have many babies. 2. Taller. Generally speaking, taller people are more successful. 3. Most heels are curved. Curves interest us guys. Just look at the cars we like to drive. For most guys, heels that are too high cross the boundary between sexy and slut. But I believe that's a product of Hollywood, particularly the more recent movies that highlight high-heeled women as sluts. For earlier movies in the 40's, a high-heeled woman was a real catch! Then again, that's from our perspective. Back then, given the mentality of the nation at the time, a "real catch" in today's vernacular translated into "slut" back then! My, how much changes as time goes by. My, how much remains the same.
cjveritas Posted February 22, 2004 Posted February 22, 2004 im not sure exactly how to put this so i hope it appears clear. But ive always wondered. We go on a trillion times of how we instantly look to womens shoes when we pass someone clicking down the street, looking hard in the shop windows etc, and it is a part of me that i do that its not something i can help. ok..... but what about say the guys who arent into our interests. Fair enough they may be more appealed to look at other assets of a woman before noticing any shoes. Fair enough they might not find heels as attractive in their minds as we addicts do because its obviously not a part of them in the same way. I understand all that. But surely these guys must sometime watch a woman clicking in her high stilettos and think, what is it like to wear them shoes, what does it feel like etc. Surely there would be some curiosity there somewhere as its not something that a normal guy would have access to from the lads shoe dept and therefore wouldnt get the chance to try. It cant be that other guys never think about it i dunno.... what do you think? just got me thinkin..... daz I do think al guys look at women's shoes. And indeed probably not all of us (men) take such an interest in what a kind of shoes a woman is wearing. They most likely concentrate on other female assets. It has everything to do with fetish. Now, before you start objecting, hear me out. First, to break the taboo: we ALL HAVE A FETISH OR FETISHES MALE OR FEMALE. Fetish doesn't necessarily mean sexual feeling about something (to keep it simple). I can know, had quite a few classes of psychology. Hobbies are often a fetish aswell. e.g. I'm into audio-equipement I'm more likely to grow fond of a girl that likes or at least knows to appreciate what interests me in audio. Whether that appreciation is genuine is an other story. Now, all I wanted to demonstrate here is the fact that there are degrees to fetishism and that fetishism stands close to idiolising somebody or something. It is also unmistakle fact that these are the part of what makes life interesting. (ask yourself: where do I get my kick in life! and you'll soon know!) The only real conclusion I've drawn is that just as there are degrees in men, there are degrees in their fetishes. Some have a bold fetish and as a consequence relate to pure pornography. Some take a more romantic fetish like highheels, worn by a woman who takes the effort of wearing HH to make herself more appealing, to heart. PASSION, FETISH and INTEREST are very closely related to oneanother. The mere fact that we seek people of the same train of thoughts and group on this forum to share them proves that we appreciate the finer things. On this forum you will find, with a near 90% certainty, people with a relatively more romantic perception of life. Which is, to my opinion, quite a healthy state of mind as opposed to sadistic or uninspired people who mostly have less appreciation for life and as a consequence of that the finer things of life. But remember this is personal impression not a conviction!
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