Van

I found these useful information ... for beginners.

http://www.lovemarriagesex.com/tempt/tempt01.html

Cheers,

Vanessa

To Highluc : Tu fais fort, fieu ! I'm impressed. The funny thing is that around the same time i was walking around, in heels, looking at the shops Chaussée de Wavre and Chaussée d'Ixelles , then Rue Neuve (C&A) ! I must confess that i was dressed a bit more "conservative". I wish we had met. Would have been fun ! How do people react when they see you in this outfit ? Do you go in shops ? Any comments ? Last question : who did take the picture ? Your wife ? Mine would kill me if i'd dare to ask. Unfortunately i didn't stay long in Belgium. Had to go to UK then back to work. Always on the move. Cheers, Vanessa

No man in heels spotted for months ... and i've been walking in heels up and down London and Brussels during half of the month. Taking busses and tubes, shopping, going to markets, record-shops, flea-markets, watched jazz concerts in Soho squares ... Actually I haven't spotted any other heel wearers (apart from the usual TVs late at night in specific areas). On the other hand, in all the shop i went, i was told they they have regularly male customers buying heels. Are they all closet heels-werers ? Vanessa

What's the point of going to Transformation when one could get a nice pair of heels for less that 20 quids in high street stores during the sales ? I don't think we are their type of customers, they seem to catermore for the "closet"-type. I have the feeling most of us have been out of the closet for quite a while and are bold enough to buy in a "normal" shop. I would like to add that this site + the old one helped a lot of us in being more assertive. Vanessa

My wife knows but doen't like it. At home, OK but she has never accepted to go outside of the house with me in heels. I tried to convince her that nobody cares or even notices when i wear my boots but to no avail. I wish she could accept it. Vanessa.

I did some shopping recently. Brussels : i bought a pair of blade heels pumps at Roberto, chaussée de Wavre (Ixelles). The shop catersmainly for an african clientele and stock large sizes. The sale lady (african) was very helpful, showed me various models and encouraged me to try tem on. She had absolutely no problem in serving male customers, she actually told me it is not unusual. However, the quality of the shoes was a bit disappointing , i found that the heels were very fragile. London : Barratts , Oxford Street. I bought a pair of boots size 10 and a pair of strappy heel sandals. Again, the (young) sale girl was very friendly and helpful. Note that i always wear heels when shopping, and pantyhose or stay up, not funny big socks. I NEVER had any negative experience while shopping for shoes. Cheers, Vanessa

Terayon, congratulations for being around. When I was your age (sorry for sounding like an ancestor), I didn't have any idea that there were other guys sharing the same interest in shoes and clothing. It's only when David Bowie arrived in the early seventies that i realised that i wasn't alone. BUt for the second part of my question :grin:o you consider, from your own experience, that there is a certain acceptance for a young guy dressing "differently" or wearing heels ? Vanessa

Any news from Highluc ? We haven't seen any message from him for quite a while ? Vanessa

This should be my 50th posting ! Let's forget the cowboy boots and get into something a bit more exciting. I'm longing for a pair of reel heels ? How many more messages ?

I like it casual. Black jeans, black pumps (4" is my upper limit), a sweater or a blouse. Vanessa

Firefox, As for the constant reference to "trend", perhaps my english vocabulary is too limited. Just call it "fashion", "style" or whatever. Don't fool yourself, we're all following "trend", most unfortunate i daresay, but nevertheless the case. Vanessa

Hi Firefox, you're an early riser ! I'm not overcome with doubts, I'm just lucid. Morning does that to me. Cheers Vanessa

On 2002-06-17 23:08, Firefox wrote:

Back on topic, the Japan thing is a good idea, but I believe it's a few years ago, 1998/1999? That said, it doesn't matter when and where. Follow or develop your own similar style, why not?

It seems the "visual kei" started around that time but it is still going strong from what i read in the various websites specialising in Japanese Rock/ Pop.

Visually speaking, their main influences were Boy George and Kiss (who were themselves influenced by Kabuki, the world goes round in circle ...).

However, the style never picked up outside of Japan / Far East.

Too bad (perhaps not from a musical point of view, I love the look but can't stand the sound).

Vanessa

Sorry, the message left without me having entered my registration. Vanessa

I have the feeling that we are a rather middle-age forum. Speaking for myself, I'm 49. We may be out of touch ... there are a lot of "trends" (sorry Firefox), and fashions that may pass us by just because we're out of touch. I don' see myself dressing up as a Goth or a japanese "visual rocker" (that i just discovered, while it has been around for several years... typical). I think if young people want to dress in a freestyle fashion, they do have much more options and it is socially more acceptable than for old geezers like me (us ?). Whaddayathink ? Vanessa

Hi gals, i don't want to interfere in the girls' forum but, from my own experience I can tell you that walking in stilettoes on wet cobblestones streets, as are common in the picturesque, medieval part of our Belgian towns (Brussels, Brugge, Antwerp ...)is quite a challenge. Whether you slip, or get your heel stuck between cobblestones, or just plainly twist your foot. Not the most pleasurable experience. Vanessa

A funny thing happened recently while shopping. While on a professionnal trip, I passed in front of a shoe shop litterally bursting with shoes, mostly cheap shoes from Malaysia but not uninteresting. I quickly noticed that some of the models were available in size UK 9 which is my size. So I got in the shop, ran by an indian guy, showed him the model i was interested in (conservative pumps 2.5" heels) and asked him if it was available in size 43 (UK 9), "Yes, Sir", and he called his attendant to fetch a pair. I must add that i was dressed in normal male consultant drab, no hint of feminity , after all I was on a professionnal assignment. When the pair of shoes was brought the guy started to ask me " what size are you ...?" Then realised it might embarass me and just said " I'm 43, look they fit ... " and he put them on. They did fit OK, so I bought them (about 5 $ !). Anything like that ever happened to any of you ? Vanessa

The idea was to discuss japanese "visual art" fashion" but it seems the topic has moved to "friends", no problem. I do have a lot of different fields of interest in life and, consequently, various circles of friends. I can't ask all of them to have exactly the same tastes as I have. Should I drop all the friends who don't share my musical taste ? There wouldn't be that many left ... then if I have to drop those with somewhat conservative view on how a guy should dress, + those who do not like strange belgian beers (like gueuze, e.g.) or do not share my enthusiasm for late 19th Century decadent poetry ... I'll be left alone. Vanessa

I think my first notions of english came from "I can't get no ... satisfaction"" ... then from reading the english rock press of the late sixties (Melody maker etc...). My first job overseas was in a remote former British colony where i was the only french-speaker. I spoke fluent english after two months ... Vanessa

I would suggest you all have a look at some of the Japanese Pop Group esp. the "visual kei" or "visual rock" , they make Boy George look like a farmer boy. Cheers Vanessa

Hi ,

this text goes beyond shoes fashion and makes me wish I were younger and japanese ...

Check this article :

http://www.iht.com/IHT/SR/063099/sr063099b.html

Cheers,

Vanessa

I quite like hosiery and wouldn't consider wearing heels without pantyhose or stay-up. In the cooler months, I especially enjoy the warmth and the feel of pantyhose. Cheers to all Vanessa (bloke)

I do ... sometimes. Toes : quite often Nails : a light varnish, not too obvious. Or bright red when really in the mood ... Vanessa

I'm 1m80 (without heels) Vanessa

Has anybody tried to compile statistics from this tread ? Could be interesting. Vanessa