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I read somewhere females are generally more open-minded and accepting than males, so I prefer being helped by a woman.

My dad and I are on very good terms with each other. I still don't know about his opinion about my love for high heels, but he hasn't changed his behavior towards me, just as my mom didn't. I first want to keep it down so I can show my parents I'm still the son they know an that I still am doing the stuff I always do. Then, slowly yet surely, I want to start do my activities while wearing high heels. That way, I can show them that wearing high heels doesn't change anything safe for the shoes on my feet, and they can slowly get used to it.

Thanks for all the reactions guys! It's still not going to be easy to heel around the house with my brother still being around, but I can at least do so when he's away. It's nice that I can be myself around my parents even more than I could before I told them. It's not like I'm going to wear skirts paired with heels around them whenever I get the chance every time, but I'm certainly going to build it up and make them comfortable with them having the image of me in high heels. I will show them that it's a part of me just as much as my love for games, drawing and such are! I'm glad that I got if off my chest, I'm still a bit uneasy and careful around them. I'm not going to push it, but if my brother is out hanging with a friend or something, I can at least wear my heels without the fear of being caught. That fear has been around for years, knowing I won't have to fear it any longer is a big relief. The main reasons I wanted (and did) to tell them was because I wouldn't have to be secretive about it, purchasing high heels would become much easier, and not having the risk of them finding out about it and having hell break loose. My mom joked about it that I would be even more taller with my heels on (I'm already about 6 feet tall, the tallest of the family. I'm the only giant in a family of dwarfs, so to speak). I haven't talked with my dad about it yet, and I suppose if he doesn't start about it, I won't either. I'm going to be alone with him for the weekend in 2 weeks, so my guess is that he'd like to talk about it then. I don't know what my mom exactly said to him, just as she said she's not going to talk for him. My mom made a hint that I could wear my heels during that weekend at least. I quote: "Well, you're going to be alone with him when I and your brother are going away for the weekend..." Maybe I'll just slip on a pair of high heels and see what he's going to say. Haha.

Loooong post ahead, sorry for that. But I really want to tell this. Some of you know that I still live with my parents, and therefore my time in heels is strictly limited. Also, purchasing high heels was hard since I had to sneak them past my parents. Last Wednesday night, my mom commented that I looked like I wanted to tell something to her, but didn't know how to put it. I usually reply with 'Nah, I'm fine,' but this time I said 'Yeah, I kinda do.' before I knew it. She continued by asking what I wanted to tell her. I first told her that it wasn't something serious (as in, hurting people and the like), and that I told various friends about it, and that they were positive about it. I was still contemplating about if I really should let her know or not, but eventually I said "I just want to get it over with- I like to wear high heels." My mom looked at me, and merely shrugged. I was nervous like hell, but I told her I'd get something upstairs. I went to get my 3-inch black patent pumps, went downstairs again, and walked into the living room with my pumps on. I gestured to my feet and said "I feel comfortable in these shoes." While she looked at them, I commented that I purchased those with my (now ex-)girlfriend. I sat down, and prepared myself for whatever questions she had. She first commented with "Well, the artistic types always have something odd to them." (I'm a very artistic person). She saw how nervous I was, and told me I always make a hard time for myself while I don't have to, and that I didn't need to be nervous. I replied that my love for wearing high heels isn't something that I think one should take lightly. I told her this is a very hard subject to talk about for me to someone who doesn't know about it. She then went on with that she didn't get why I purchased the high heels in the first place. Then she said she didn't think that it was normal. I told her that I didn't know where my love for them came from, I just like wearing them. I told her that I wasn't gay, and that in fact, the majority of straight men like to crossdress and wear high heels. I told her about this place, where there are of lot guys like me, most of them having a girlfriend or wife. I told her I had no interests in make-up, accessories, wigs, or any other female related stuff aside from their shoes and clothing. I added to it that I don't feel like wearing high heels or other female clothing all the time, and that I can appreciate being in a shirt, pants and my Vans shoes just as much as I can appreciate a nice pair of high heels, a top and a skirt. That I'm the kind of guy to change my clothes and shoes and then continue with whatever I was doing. I told her about how my friends said to me that they're just shoes and clothes, and that I'm still who I am, regardless of what I am wearing. I then told her about my outings. With them often being late at night with my ex-girlfriend when we would take the dog for a walk, but also the one where I was in the city with my high heels on. After discussing about all of it for about an hour and a half (and with me never putting off my heels during that talk, even not when I went to get a drink for me and my mom) my mom seems pretty neutral about it. In all those years of hiding it from her, she never found out, not even a single clue. That made me feel good about myself to some extend, knowing that I was able to keep it hidden from them all those years. My mom thinks it's a phase of life, that I'm still trying to find out who I am and that I'm unsure about myself. She thinks I do it so I can 'escape being myself' for a while. She thinks it's temporary and that I will someday purge everything female related I have and return to just being a normal guy. I told her I thought this was everything but temporary. She added that she still didn't think it was normal. She didn't take any measures or gave warnings to me to try to stop me from wearing heels/crossdressing, though. She somewhat supports me if I want to go heeling outside, as long as I do it in a big city where no one knows me. She warned me not to tell everyone about this though, to which I added I only told the people I really trusted, and that I knew full-well my guy friends would certainly ridicule me I'd ever tell them. She told me she wouldn't ever want to be bothered by it by other people. Especially not with my father in mind- he has a very positive and somewhat popular status here in this village. Everyone knows him, everyone likes him, and he does a lot of volunteering stuff, too. If they knew his son likes to wear high heels or crossdress, his reputation would certainly go downhill pretty fast. I told her I understood that I would never be able to do my outings here, and if the wrong type of people in this village would find out I certainly would get a very hard time living here. She told me if it really was something I wanted to keep doing, that I should move to the city sooner or later, where I'm just a head in a crowd instead of a tall guy in high heels in a small village. We agreed not to tell anyone else in the family, my brother has other things on his mind that he should tackle first. My grandma would certainly not get it, either. "But," she added, "you are and will always be my son." She told me that I can use the old closet on the attic to store my heels and clothes in as I see fit, to effectively hide them from my brother. She was worried how I was going to combine this with a future relationship. I told her that most of the girls I know are generally open-minded and are kinda used to (crossdressing) guys in high heels. Hence that I'm a cosplayer. (some of you should've seen the term around before) The cosplay community is an excellent place for wearing high heels in public without getting much second thoughts from other people. I'm often complimented (by guys and girls alike) about my appearances in high heels and female costumes, apparently I make a good woman, haha. Most girlfriends I had came from that community, too. My parents are really supportive in that area. She then said she'd let my dad know, so that I wouldn't have to go through another nerve-wrecking confession again. Today she told me that she told him about it yesterday, and that he'd talk about it with me sometime soon. Knowing my dad, he'd think nothing much of it, he's a very accepting person in general. Phew, that was quite a post. I still feel a bit uneasy around my parents now, though. I guess both me and them need a bit of time to let it sink in. I'm not going to push it. They know, I can wear my high heels around them if I want, but I'm not going to yet. First, I'm gonna let it cool down a bit. I still can't believe I told them...

While those are certainly eye catching, I don't think those are my cup of tea.

I live in a very small village where everyone basically knows everyone- if only one person would see me in high heels the whole village would know the next day. So yeah, I'd rather spend my time on outings in places where they don't know me.

Amazing story. 150 pairs and still living with your parents. WOW. I mean, my parents don't know and I own up to 6 pairs now, which I manage to keep hidden from them quite well. I am in awe.

I love those boots! Nice outing! Keep it up. Heh, getting called fag and stuff should not be too uncommon I think. Good thing I always have a set of earphones on my ears so I'm oblivious to comments like that.

I would sneak into other girl's and woman's heels whenever I got the chance to do it unnoticed when I was a little kid. But I'm not sure if my love for high heels came from there. I know I had a period in my life where I figured that it wasn't right, and thus I forced myself not to do things like that anymore. I gradually lost interest in them that way. Until one day where I saw this documentary on TV about transvestism and thus guys in high heels and women's clothes, which sparked the interest once again. I think my love for high heels is more related to me thinking they're very sexy and womanly.

I seriously can't remember. I don't remember when or how I got fascinated by the look of high heels in the first place. My mom can't stand in high heels (wide feet and sore knees) and if she does have shoes with a heel they're never taller than an inch at best. I don't have a sister, and my nieces didn't wear high heels when I still was a kid. The black pumps I'm wearing now have to be one of my favorites though.

Great article! Let's hope more and more news sources will pick things like this.

I'm not for it- but I never liked the color pink anyway. Doesn't mean it can't look good, but I think it needs a great well-put together outfit to go with it.

Ah welcome! I'm a Dutch guy that likes high heels too! You're lucky with your shoe size, I'm a large 43/44 myself. You should check out a shoe store called 'Van Haren'. They recently started carrying high heels up til 44, and my girlfriend recently took me to a shoe store in Arnhem (I forgot the name of it) that carried high heels up till size 45. I don't try heels on in the stores, (I'm more of a 'I know my size so I don't need to fit' guy anyways) but I've been heeling in public. Takes a lot of guts I tell you. But I'm glad I did it, and I plan to go out heeling in public this Friday too, when I'm going to pick up my girlfriend in Utrecht. Cheers!

Dunno about me posting in this thread before but- Straight, just happen to be attracted to high heels and other women's clothing.

I have Demonia Slush-62 boots, great fit and really comfortable!

I'm a 19 year old guy as well, though I've been wearing high heels since... I was 13-14? I don't remember exactly, but I'm sure it was around those ages when I started liking high heels. I never really started purchasing them until I was 18, though. Now I own up to 6 pairs, with a 7th pair coming my way. I told 2 people I know of my love for high heels: a good friend and my girlfriend. I first told my secret to my good friend. Since she's open minded and had a girlfriend at the time, I figured I could tell her. She was like 'OMG you're actually serious? XD' but she has accepted it and I sometimes show her pairs of high heels that I want to purchase, to get her opinion. My girlfriend once asked me if there was anything she needed to know about me. I took that chance to tell her that I liked to wear high heels and women's clothing. She's so open minded that she didn't even find it strange. She found it strange that she didn't find it strange. She has bought a pair of heels, a skirt and stockings for me up until now. She also likes to browse around for high heels with me. Just goes to show how supportive she is. Fun fact: I was the one that made her see how fun wearing high heels actually is- she loathed them at first, but now loves to wear them. I like stiletto's best, though my (small) collection is a mix of about everything (style and height): patent stiletto pumps (3 inch), platform high heels (4 inch), low heels (1 inch), wedges (3 inch), ankle platform boots (4 inch) and block heels (3 inch). I'm currently wearing my patent stiletto pumps. I had 3 outings so far: - Alone, late at night, with a pair of patent heels that my girlfriend loaned me. - Together with my girlfriend, in the evening, with my block heels. We went for a stroll around my village. - The last one was with my patent stiletto pumps, during a train ride back to home a few days ago. Most public outing so far. I intended to wear them for the duration of the train ride, but took a bold step and kept them on when I left the train. I got a weird stare from a middle-aged woman, but the rest of the people didn't seem to care or notice. Didn't wear them for that long though. Fortunately, I have a group of friends who are really open minded, so I could confide in more of them, but I suppose two is good enough for me.

Lovely high heels! They look great! Welcome to the site, btw.

A good outing. I'm glad you got over your "first" time out in heels without any serious bad feelings. The shoes you chose are just the style that you need to gain confidence and get over your shyness while wearing women's shoes in public. Thanks for telling us about your adventure.

Thanks! I must admit I was pretty nervous but the more I think about my outing the more I start to feel good about it. Once the opportunity rises I will surely go out and about in my high heels again!

It's been a while since I have last since been here, I've been very busy with school and work lately, so yeah. This might be a bit of a large post. ------- New heels! ------- A few weeks ago I got a handsome paycheck from my work, and I decided to go do some shopping for high heels with the extra money. And for a change, I went to some shoe stores instead of ordering from the internet! It was pretty exciting. I entered a shoe store, calmly walked over to the women's section and browsed around. I quickly managed to shake the 'what if people see me looking for high heels' thoughts off me, and calmly looked at what they had to offer. Unfortunately, that shoe store didn't carry women shoes in sizes larger than UK 8/US 10/EU 42. (I'm an UK UK 9-9,5/US 11-12/EU 43-44 person myself) so I went to search for another shoe store. After doing some searching I found a shoe store that just recently did start carrying women's shoes up to size UK 9,5/US 12/EU 44, and for reasonable prices. (Since most stores here that do carry large size women shoes are really expensive) I bought two pairs from that store (Van Haren). During the check out the girl who helped me asked me if I wanted to buy some kind of spray so that the shoes will last longer. That's what I call service! She didn't judge me one single second when I came to the counter with the pairs of heels that I wanted to buy, and when everything was paid for she said 'Have fun with them!' They'll certainly have me as their customer again, that's for sure. My third new pair of heels also has everything to do with my outing in public this evening. Today I was staying at my girlfriend's place. I was in need of some new jeans, so we went into the city. When I got some new jeans, I told my girlfriend that I wanted to some browsing for high heels just for fun. She thought that it would be fun too and directed me to a shoe store (forgot the name) that also carried large size women shoes (albeit a bit more expensive than Van Haren). Their collection's larger too. After some browsing I picked out a pair of Romano high heels that caught my eye. I went to the counter and the girl that helped me asked -my girlfriend- if she wanted to try on the other high heel too just in case. My girlfriend managed to hold her laugh and said she didn't need to, with me thinking ' Actually,those heels are for me'. It was kind of cute, haha. We decided to just let the girl think what she thought. I paid for the heels and we left. -------- The outing -------- When I got on the train to my home, I said goodbye to my girlfriend and went to get a seat. There weren't a lot of people in my coupe so I decided to try on my recent purchase. They're a bit tight. I decided to keep wearing them for the remainder of the train ride, and when I would arrive at my train station, I would switch back to my normal shoes before getting out. But as my destination got closer and closer, I started to think 'Maybe I should keep wearing them' more and more. Eventually I decided 'Whatever, to hell with it' and kept them on and left the train. My heart was racing like crazy. I wasn't out of the train yet and I immediately got a weird stare (my first!! hahaha) from a middle-aged woman. I tried not to look back (I looked beside her), kept my head held up high and kept heading for my bus. She started walking before me and I saw from the corners of my eyes how she turned her head again staring at my feet and then at my face (with the most disapproving expression ever on her face), making sure that she wasn't going crazy and really saw a guy in high heels. We approached a flight of stairs, and I noticed how she pretended to wait for something so that she could stare at me even more, but I knew there was another flight of stairs a little further ahead so I was like 'I'm not giving you that pleasure, missy' and headed for the other flight of stairs. Now when I think about how that women stared at me, it was pretty funny. Other people around me didn't seem to care or notice. After a short walk through the train station my feet started to hurt a bit (been walking all day) so I decided to take my heels off and travel the rest of my journey to home on my normal shoes. I went to the public toilets (needed to go anyway), and headed into the men's toilet. None of the men there seemed to notice so I switched shoes again. I still have bit of mixed feelings about it. I enjoyed it, but I also wonder if I didn't overdo it for the first time. I'm still a tad shaky. I gathered a lot of courage to do it, that's for sure. But I enjoyed it, and that's what's most important, right?

Haha, my girlfriend was exactly the same like yours! She didn't like heels, she even loathed them, but when she saw how much I enjoyed them, she got curious and tried a pair of mine on. She pretty much went from high heel loather to high heel lover after that. Congratulations, be sure to enjoy your time together! I'm sure you'll enjoy yourselves a lot! =D

Ah, I remember getting my first pair of high heels in the store too. Congrats! I hope you enjoy your high heels.

I sleep with my heels on if I feel like it. Haven't teared any sheets as far as I'm concerned. Last time I slept with my heels on was with my latest pair of high heels, who had just arrived the same day- but since I hadn't worn them in yet I woke up in the middle of the night with my feet hurting. Haven't slept on with them since.

That's a very nice outfit! It goes well with your heels.

Hi,

Not my style but I hope you get alot of fun outings with them. We all have slight differences in what we like the most.

Best regards,

Stefan

Everyone has different tastes! I have a taste for unique looks. That's why I think my heels need to be unique too! About everyone has a pair of plain black pumps for example. I don't want those... Since everyone has them already! I want unique heels. These are perfect for my (albeit still small) heels collection!

I still need to find kind of a right outfit to go with the shoes before I go on an outing with them, though. Hehe. But my girlfriend wants to help out with that. So we're gonna look for a nice dress or something to go with it!

Different styles for different tastes. That's what I really enjoy about women's shoes -- so many different styles to choose from. sometimes it really makes buying "the perfect pair" so difficult. What's not to like about so many delicious styles? Is it any wonder that women have so many shoes in their wardrobes?

I agree Bubba! I spent a good time of my Friday night last Friday with my girlfriend browsing around the web for heels. There are so many styles and choices... So little time and money!

Those are cool. Not my cup of tea, but as long as you are happy with them, that is all that matter. Congratulations on your purchase.

Thanks! I figured they'd not be everybody's style but I love them, and still wanted to show them to you guys.

I might as well use this new thread to update you guys on my latest high heel purchases, so I'll give this thread a good bump from time to time if needed... Well, with that being said: I ordered a pair of high heels a week before Christmas. When I returned home today I was delighted to find out that my new high heels finally had arrived!! I fell in love with these the moment I saw them. Gotta love that unique look! Usually I do some heavy thinking and consideration before buying anything actually (given I am still student and don't have much money to spare), but I loved these so much I acted purely on impulse... They're from Funtasma, Gangster-15. 4 inch heel with 1.5 inch platform. I always thought I had size 13 for women's shoes, but these only went up till 12. Took the risk regardless, and I'm glad I did. They fit really well!! Guess I wear my shoes 1 size too large. I hope you like these as much as I do! See you around:wave:, Iamme