Heel-Lover

Hi Sleekheels, I slip out of most of my slingbacks over time. Usually one foot at a time. I have a narrow foot. Especially so if I wear stockings, but I am usually bare legged if wearing mules or slings. The looseness of the fit is half the fun, and the profile of the shoe is one of the prettiest/most feminine high heel profiles (in my opinion anyway) I find the higher-heeled slings don't slip as much as the lower heeled ones, but thats just me. Cheers Heel-Lover

Cripes- I think I'm just about the only dedicated leg waxer out there.... I wouldn't have it any other way now, the finish is superior, and the regrowth over the years becomes finer (and easier to wax). I get my legs done at the salon because it takes only 45mins and you can't do it as well at home. I had 4 IPLs 18months ago, and summer approaches in 3-4 months so I think I'll finish the IPLs this year. Cheers Heel-Lover

Hi, I have 3 pairs of Sofias, in different colours. The leather quality is good. The toe shape is almond so it doesn't smash your toes. The arch support is good (good curve) although this manufacturer doesn't put any noticeable padding inside their heels. nb. The Gold Lining colour fades on contact points so I got my 2nd and 3rd pairs made with a beige lining (I just asked for it)- which has been great! The heel is very high, very thin and very very firm under you, it is a very well made shoe. I can spend all night standing/walking/dancing in my Sofias. I will be buying more pairs. If your wife likes heels, she will enjoy these pumps. Hope this helps Heel-Lover

Greetings Ivan :-)

Nothing is more important than your attitude and confidence while wearing heels in public.

I'm sure others will notice you more if you don't appear to be confident.

Like you, I was also shy in the beginning and looking to the ground.

Now I walk with my head up and I don't hesitate to look at others.

Worst case: They will have a weird look in their face (which is quite rare)

Best case: They will look at you with a smile or no reaction at all.

One thing is sure: It is only in your head.

(Unless you are wearing pink stiletto heels in full view, of course...)

Good luck and happy heeling !

Greetings NF :-)

I think many people do notice but they prefer to remain neutral in their reaction.

How can someone not notice a guy wearing heels ? (Unless they are hidden)

Hi all,

I agree with the sentiments mentioned earlier, and I'm a public wearer of stilettos in all colours, whatever suits including pinks and reds. One thing I've learnt is that a heel is a heel - and regardless of how extreme or feminine the heel - all that matters is the wearers confidence. I believe this applies for guys or gals wearing heels, its just the nature of wearing heels.

My biggest fear in heels is not looking good. By this I mean not having a coordinated outfit, not being well enough groomed, not handling a situation well - eg breaking a heel, slipping etc on mall floors. Drinking related issues, balancing heels if I'm drinking all night and then interracting with local/ out of town idiots in some situations. My confidence comes from my belief (hope) that I look good, I certainly try hard, and as long as you the wearer has confidence you can do anything.

My pet hate is wolf whistles and hands on my legs (when not expected). I'm not trying to be a girl, and am not aiming to solicite that attention (and this would only be 5% of the time) so its probably no different that it would be for most women?

Cheers

Heel-Lover

Hi, I've lost count of the pairs I've worn out. But I wear heels mostly so its going to happen. The biggest problem I get is the very thin leather sole under the ball/ toes on most heels wear down quickly, I have worn holes into the sole of my shoes. I have never had that part of the shoe resoled etc and don't know that it could be done 'nicely' if you know what I mean. In terms of heel-tips well they get replaced many times over before I've worn through a shoe.. Cheers Heel-Lover

Hi all, I only wear metal heel tips and they ARE slippier on very hard smooth surfaces - mainly glass/ marble floors are fun - you get used to a skid now and again but it always happens. Hard linoleum can be slippery but wood/ normal linoleum you get grip on. It also depends on the size of metal heel as well, smaller cuts in more obviously! In terms of noise - well they do an don't sound louder. They sound different is more how I would put it. In malls and places with good quality upmarket marble floors then I am quieter - but more high picthced click clack then clonk clonk I get with plastic heels. On asphalt metal tips are quieter, on concrete the metal tips are louder. The noise is part of wearing heels - I gave up tring to be covert about high heels years ago! Anyhow - I am ranting... The best thing is the metals last longer, and they don't scratch you legs if you are sitting around etc..or ladder stockings as easily as plastic heel tips - which tend to get raggedy and fray a little... Cheers Heel-Lover

Hi, as others have rightly said, its just spending time wearing heels and building up experience and comfort level. Wearing heels out and about is much harder than indoors and until you've done enough of it you won't have been presented with enough of the situations an experienced wearer would have come across before and doesn't think twice about any longer. When thinking of this - the last thing a new wearer needs is to be adding an extra dimension of difficulty/risk of embarrassment by pushing for higher heels too quickly. In my opinion everyone should spend ages in their heels till they can do near anything in them before moving that little bit higher. Cheers Heel-Lover

Hi, here what I went with based on what I normally wear. Height: occasionally 5 or more often now 6 inch Heel height (after years of street heeling they've got higher and skinnier) Toe: I wear anything I feel like, so pointed, moderately pointed and peep-toes are the main ones for me. I like the details so 'fem' is more to my chosing - and since I wear skirts too - well it sort of looks right. Heel: Stilleto always! The skinnier the better. Sound: I like the click clack clatter heels make so I voted noisy, in fact small stilettos are quieter in malls etc than chunky/ plastic heels. Vis: given I'm always wearing heels with a skirt suit my legs and heels are always on display! Being on display is also fun - and I'm up for any such challenge. Besides I find the style of heels/ skirts practical and extremely confortable, and I am used to getting around like that. Cheers Heel-Lover

Hi all, up to 3 inch heels at home - or often kitten heels (sometimes flats). I never wear my higher heels at home unless I'm coming or going... Cheers Heel-Lover

Hi, I have been getting pedicures for years now. Painted toes are essential for me - they look nice and mean I can wear whichever shoes take my fancy (I have a lot of peep toes). I wear heels of some description every day (all day) and I would never want to be in a position where if I had to remove my shoes I didn't have nicely pedicured toes. Toe nails are pretty ugly things - I think they were made for painting!? Cheers Heel-Lover

Hi Sleekheels,

... which makes me wonder (staying on topic) do any of you avoid wearing strappy sandals because of what closed pointy shoes have done to the shape of your feet?

for me avoiding sandals is more for comfort. Sure I have sandals and wear them at times, more formal stuff but I have few sandals compared to all other styles. I always wear very high stilettos and at that height when I'm standing in sandals my toes get pressure from the straps (in particular the outside edge of my big toes) and because its focused on a narrow piece of leather rather than a flatter surface they're not as comfortable as a shoe style with more coverage. So I go for peep-toes or pumps with slightly more surface area and support so I can manage them all day. For a shorter time sandals are ok.

Cheers

Heel-Lover

Congratulations. Sounds like a lovely shoe, Nudes are one of my favourite styles too! A pair of high heels needs to fit properly, and can be comfortable, and when you get both its a real bonus! The more you wear them and enjoy them the more you'll want to wear them... thats how it all started for me. Have fun and enjoy! Heel-Lover

Heelman, I know exactly what you mean. I wear ties, shirts etc, have facial hair.... but... I wax full-legs, get pedicures, wear skirts, wear high heels and carry a handbag. I spend at least 60% of my days (and evenings) dressed this way - and I really enjoy being polarised, male top, very feminine lower half. I started just with heels but evolved. The more I push the feminine - the more empowered I feel. The more I groom my legs, the beter they look - the better I feel. The higher my heels the better I feel. The sexier my heels (eg Peep Toes, painted toenails) the better I feel. The sexier my skirt suit style (eg higher hem-lines, revealing kick pleats, fitted skirts) the better I feel. The more coordinated my image the better I feel. I love the sound of high heels walking (and I really thrive on knowing that sound is coming from my feet. Everyone (men and women) react to the sound of approaching high heels. Men look in anticipation of a beautiful woman, and women look to see and compare the approaching womans style vs their own. Naturally I enjoy causing a bit of a sensation. I thrive on the attention. I try to have the best legs and heels wherever I go. I don't have an alter ego but I certainly become an attention seeker. Mind you - anyone who wears heels is silly to not expect attention. High heels bring attention. This I think is why a lot of people (mainly women) don't wear them publicly, you need to have a certain amount of confidence in the first place to be able to wear them. If you have the confidence to wear heels and do so then you soon learn from experience they create exponentially more power and confidence for the wearer. It is addictive and explains why some women are die-hard fans of heels and others just aren't. Cheers Heel-Lover

Not many guys where I'm from here in NZ have a man-bag, murse etc.. I've always carried a hand-bag when in heels/skirt suit, but I have lately carried one of my hand-bags with me in guy-mode. I'm used to it on my shoulder, so it seemed logical. Besides a handbags size, shape, features etc are just better than man-bags. It wouldn't let me get 14kg of stuff in it...its just not big enough - maybe 2kg? 14kg - what would that be from? A full laptop would only be 4 or 5kg surely? Cheers Heel-Lover

Hi, I wear 6 to 6.5'' heels all the time - and all day, up to 7'' for a few hours at a time but I don't enjoy > 6.5'' heels. So I think I can factually offer some comments for you. The photo you show is altered - the shoe on the right is not on the wearers foot - it has been superimposed over the photo. The heel-cup is just not right. The heel-cup as you asked - it never pressures the back of the leg like that - if it did the shoe wouldn't fit. The heel-cup is no different fit-wise than for a 2'' heel, 4'' heel, 6'' heel etc...the only difference would be you really need a snug fit on the higher ones to keep control of you heel. Heels this high take a lot of getting used to. There is no discomfort when you wear them in your achilles or related tendons if you are used to them, or learning. If learning you will get the shakes in your ankles/ weak ankles etc...But its when you take them off that you can get discomfort because wearing these heights has a significant shortening effect on the achilles. For this reason I make lots of efforts to stretch, I run a lot to increase blood-flow in my feet, I also walk 8km a day in flat shoes to stretch my achilles - to counteract the shortening of continual high heel wearing. rgds Heel-Lover

Hi All, My family and friends are all ok. No one really injured - a few scratches/ bruises nothing major. We're very lucky. I was on the North West end of the inner city blocks - so I avoided the building collapses as they were the area around the river and square. I had just had a lunch time meeting and I was just leaving from a restaurant through a hotel foyer - the crowne plaza. I heard the quake coming but didn't put 2 and 2 together (no one did I think) and then it just shook. I was walking briskly and the floor just lifted and leapt away from me sideways, the next split second my feet weren't under me anymore, I was wearing metal heeled stilettos on marble floor so I just skidded out and was on my back. It was then that I realised the high glass ceiling. Its one of those things you are aware of all the time but don't think of - so I tried to get up and get going to get the hell out of there but I just couldn't move forward - even on hands and knees I was just sliding about from the violent floor movements. I could see waves across the foyer. I made no progress towards outside, despite trying. It was unreal. Luckily the ceiling was intact - glass floor to ceiling windows weren't - they blew out but the glass overhead was fine. I guess we were lucky or the building was well built.... Anyhow everyone got out fast after the shaking stopped. Within 10 mins we were being ordered out of the area, I couldn't collect my car from the parking building (below the hotels) - not that I really wanted to go down there anyway- so I had to walk out of town like everyone else. I have friends in Fendalton/ Merivale area so only had to walk approx 1-2km max. As mentioned I was still wearing stilettos and despite having some scrunchies in my handbag I decided I would head off in my heels among the crowd. Why keep my heels on you might ask? I was getting a few looks from others...(that morning I just felt like I needed a pick-up so I dressed with a bit of 'look at me' in mind). I was wearing Navy and Red skirt suit, 14 inch pencil skirt worn high on my hips (quite short), patent red stiletto slings (6.5'' high) matching handbag. If I get a few disapproving looks then I treat it as a challenge and I'll rise to that so I decided to keep my heels on for the meantime - as a couple of kms is easily within my abilities in heels and the area ahead didn't look too bad. I think a styley skirt suit look with flatties or trainers looks frumpy so I wasn't going to compromise unless I had to. Walking out wasn't that bad to start with, all the usual high heel obstacles but just heaps more of them. There were a lot of women in heels as well so I was not alone..those of us who were experienced in heels had no issues because we knew how and where to step, and we knew approximately where our heel was, surprisingly a lot of women were not that good (mind you many Christchurch women don't wear their heels out of the office - they walk to and from work in trainers) . A large aftershock sent a lot of us stumbling, I got thrown into a wodden fence (luckily) so I kept upright, a lot of others fell over. In my stumble into the fence I split the back hem of my skirt - so now I have a short skirt with a back split that I don't really need..luckily it only split 2 inches. At this stage all the heels that hadn't already come off came off - mine included. So I changed into my silver scrunchies that I carry and buckled my slingbacks by their heel straps to my handbag and kept going. No one can manage the ground shakes as well as other obstacles. I was lucky I had a pair of flats in my bag. As I got out of the CBD (took about 15mins) there was a new challenge of liquifaction. The sludgy grey ooze that appears from under the ground is sticky and you sink into a little (not much) but just enough to loose shoes... and several women ahead lost their shoes because they didn't have laces or buckles to hold them on (they were ballet flats/dress flats/flip flops etc). So I had to go back to bare feet for the last 3 blocks because there was approx half a foot of liquifaction to walk through. So you sink about 10cm into it, and other times it sets hard quickly so you don't sink at all. Its weird stuff - and it smells horrible. So my flatties came off because I didn't want to completely filthy them up with that stuff. Got to my friends place at approx 3pm. She got there at a 3.15pm, we turned on the Radio and listened to the reports coming in. We compared injuries... I had none other than dirt and bruises, she had a graze on the front of her foot (she was wearing heels) and had tried to jump backwards as a brick wall collapsed but a pair of bricks lept out and hit her. She wasn't quick enough. As it turned out she broke her 3rd toe. Anyhow.. as I type this the crazy chick - and I respect her committment to fashion has just slid her taped broken toe into a very sexy pair of pointy black stilettos for the street BBQ we are going to at the end of the cul-de-sac. She won't let the aftermath here cramp her style.. She's mad but I respect her, she says its going to hurt like hell but what the heck. I thought the news wasn't that bad - she was told no heels for a month - and keep her feet up - she was offered a plaster cast but chose no (I know now why she chose not) - it should have been easy at the moment to abstain from high heels given there are no public places to go to in Christchurch for weeks at least...shes one hard-core heel wearer! I'm laughing right now because her face is really screwed up while she stands in those heels looking at me. I'll be wearing jeans and thongs/ flip flops. The things we do for beauty. I'm not wearing heels until the mess is cleaned up, which will likely be months, the break won't do me any harm. One thing I think of having been through this experience twice now is that I realise just how insignificant we humans are (compared to the forces of nature), how little control we can have over events, and this is just more reason for getting on with life and doing what you want to do and being yourself (provided those actions are not illegal or injuring anyone else). Everyone is an individual and everyone reacts differently to these situations and everyone needs to help each other. Keep Well Heel-Lover

I always wanted to wear heels to work, and then one day I just did it. I've never looked back and have become bolder and bolder in my style. Its been heaps of fun and I don't look back. I wouldn't say I wear heels every day to work - at least 3 out of 5 days would be heels, the rest of the time I either dress more traditionally to suit some of my clients or I avoid high heels because they're not practical. Cheers Heel-Lover PS. I adore those pumps of yours Projectz - very pretty - and they'll work well with a lot of outfits.

Even if not perfectly walking in ultra high heels, still it's exciting to wear them...

I even might think the fact that they are a real challenge/too high to walk in that makes them more exciting to most of us heellovers than a heel that is easily managed!

Roberto

I suppose it is exciting to wear them, but for me I am nervous of them because I know I'm being watched and I know I can't manage them perfectly. This is a recipe for a disaster. I prefer to work a slightly less extreme (but nonetheless sexy pair of heels) to my advantage not be at the mercy of a pair of overtly extreme heels.

So after practicing and able to wear a 5"heel longer, the idea of next time buying a 6"heel for your feet gets more exciting or how is this for you people?

Roberto

Yes absolutely. I spent literally 3 years of extensive daily heel-wearing to adapt my legs/feet to be completely comfortable with the extra 2 inches of height from a 4'' to a 6'' heel. I now find when I look at my reflection I desire to add some more height again, and so it starts over.

Its like that with heels. If you love stiletto heels then I think as you get used to them the heels you wear get higher and higher and thinner and thinner...

Cheers

Heel-Lover

Thanks Sleekheels , I regularly wear pink already (at least one day a week), opal pink or baby pink. I go for a classic stiletto pump with skirt suit look. I have just got a very very short high waisted tight pale pink pencil skirt (what pencil skirt isn't tight? - but this one is very fitted across the hip and under my bottom and quite sexy - more so than my other skirts) and has side ruching across the hips. Looks awesome with a sheer fitted white shirt and my matching pale pink stiletto pumps. Great when I want to be a flirt and put some leg out there (which I do now and again) - but that is the beauty of pink - like nudes the colour is great for lengthening ones legs. Cheers Heel-Lover

I think I'll have to break out the knee boots, dust them off and try them again. Might be agood intermediary step, as I just don't wear any boots other than a pair of black lace peep toed stiletto booties/ pumps that finish below my ankles.. they're very sheer looking (hardly even an ankle boot - more like half pump/ half bootie). I haven't put a boot on for 4 years. Heel-Lover

I also suggest that H-L would likely find thigh boots more comfortable than a skirt and bare legs if he is indeed determined to 'stay sitting on the fence' - with less risk from splinters too!

Well said!

Actually I've spent that long in short skirt I can cheekliy say I can handle any such situation. Bring it on!

Still not convinced about thigh boots.....

Cheers

Heel-Lover

Its not that your soles slip... what the problem is -and Amanda Snake has rightly commented (obviously experienced) is that in reality on stairs the issue is catching a heel when stepping down from one step to the next (hence turn your feet sideways slightly to clear your heels better). Balance is not hard (you actually don't need a hand rail), it can be more tiring on your knees and thighs because you're not using the normal muscles you would when walking on the flat in heels rgds Heel-Lover

Hi Jeff, those would be ideal. Baby pink is quite delicate, innocent sort of shoe. Wear it with Navy and a pink shirt/ blouse, even a cami under a jacket if its hot. The beauty of those shoes is they'll lengthen your legs because they're neutral toned. Hot pink etc is more 'aggressively' in your face and screams 'look at me', baby pink is more demure. Go for it. Heel-Lover

Hi, Sorry I only know 2 other men that do buy some stuff. I'll shop for shoes (heels and flats) and I buy my suits from the womens side of the store, handbags & clutches, hosiery, some lingerie, some make-up and other accessories pretty obviously come from that side of the store as well! rgds Heel-Lover

A big congrats to you chaps that can do thigh boots and skirts. I have always been inteested in thethigh boots but I don't know that I would ever wear them out? I dress corporatey - skirt suits etc, and I do have the confidence to publicly pair up super high heels and very short skirts but I just don't know that I could change a pair of high heeled pumps for a thigh high boot? Could it be because I'm just used to having bare legs? I have thought about it and I would need to evolve what I wear to suit such boots, I know I can't wear them with my suits, and fitted skirts. The difference for me would be that my leg would be covered to the upper thigh, I'm also not sure that I'd necessarily like that as bare legs is one of the things I find enjoyable about my choice of style. Don't your feet and legs get really hot with thigh boots? Can you still move around freely, eg bend you knees, sit cross legged? I guess it comes back to what you are comfortable with. I am used to what I wear and my confidence exists in that realm. Maybe thigh high boots are for me what starting wearing heels are for some others? We are all at different stages in our evolution of style. So I've never committed to investing in a nice pair of thigh high boots because I have been worried I'll never wear them. Good on you folks that do, and well done! I'll stay sitting on the fence at the moment. rgds Heel-Lover