misterd73

Hmm, I'm beggining to expirement. I think I am currently in the mood for a male/androgynous style. I've bought a pair of "Celio" Bootcut jeans for men. I couldn't resist trying my favorite 4" pumps with it. Hell, this is boosting me incredible to "go public"!!!

Good to read that. I like your heels, although I'd start with something lower and get used to the height, especially if I were going to walk in heels a lot.

Thank you very much Elegant!

I'm experimenting "new things", as you can see here : http://misterdshighheelsexperiences.blogspot.com/2009/01/early-crossdressing.html

I voted for Fem. I may not ever pass for a girl, but deep down, I would love to wear only skirts, dresses, lingerie, hosiery and high heels all the time.

I honestly think I fall into this category, definately!

OK Jeff, How about showing them fantastic legs in the MENS LEG CONTEST?

Where is it?

No more than I have a thing for straps.

Me too!

like to be androgynous - make up, earrings, nails, bracelets, scarves, stockings.... but not into dresses, skirts and only clear lipstick.

That seems like a good way to start.

Very nice Mister. The site looked great and so did the shoes. Good read too.

Thank you very much Mister X! Glad you liked it!

Misterd, the boots and jeans are a good choice. I would strongly recommend starting in an area where you are not known, this way you do not have to worry about people that you know. Good luck!

In fact, I just did it!

Yet it didn't happen as I was planning!

As other members have asked me to make some pics of the "event", here they are. Learn all about my first time here: http://misterdshighheelsexperiences.blogspot.com/

Please excuse my "excessive enthusiasm", as I'm not so "advanced into heeling" as much of you.

Enjoy the reading!

I've done it! Read this for more details: http://misterdshighheelsexperiences.blogspot.com/

Wow! I'm amazed for the quality and quantity of the feedback! Thanks guys! All your points are interesting - with a particular smile for Bluegrass' and Morpho's end stories, as I'm myself a trucker - although at this stage I'd never use or even carry heels in my truck; as I do a "regional" line and "everybody know everybody". Besides, heels would simply not go with my work outfit... From all that is said, here's what I have decided to retain : 1. It is not illegal to drive with heels here in France; 2. I'm going to practice on a big empty surface like an empty parking lot on a sunday morning before actually going on the road; 3. I'm going to start with my 4", as I don't like to walk with anything shorter; 4. I will start with something as tight to the foot as possible, as it will provide more stability; 5. For my first day outside the house in heels, I'll probably drive in sneakers, then put on the heels at my destination. No need to add "aditionnal stress" for fear of being recognised. Again, thank you very much all for sharing your advice and experiences. Really appreciate it!!!

I've been laughed at once, by a lad of about 14 who was with two of his mates, and he shut up pretty sharpish when I turned round and looked at him.

Must have been an unpleasant experience though...

It's all about confidence, if you walk with your head high as though you're doing nothing at all unusual you're far less likely to attract unwanted attention than if you look nervous and shifty. Unfortunately this is easier said than done, especially at first.

I'll try to bear all that in mind, thanks for teh advice...

The remaining 10% is physical. I'd wear low heels that you can walk in easily to begin with, it's a lot harder to walk in heels outdoors where you have uneven surfaces etc to deal with. It's also going to take longer to get anywhere as you're probably going to be taking smaller steps than you would ordinarily. Your feet will also get sore. I realise this may sound like stating the obvious, but I was amazed how much harder it was to wear heels out in the real world than it is at home. My first serious outing I took a pair of trainers in a daysack in case the heels got to be too much.

I was considering doing it on a long flat, paved surface like a promenade around the sea. I plan on doing this in the morning and hopefully it will rain, so there will be even less people out...

Tying the two together is the image you project. I think that boots work better with trousers than shoes do, but that's just me.

I fully agree with you.

Either way, red patent stiletto courts are not going to go with jeans and a T shirt. In a nutshell, if you pick shoes or boots that go with the rest of your clothes and you can walk well in them it's much easier to pull off.

Yes, I am planning on going "casual", with these boots: http://img299.imageshack.us/my.php?image=bottes5dm7.jpg

I think it should do it nicely with a brown or beige coat...

I hope this doesn't sound preachy, just wanted to pass on some of my thinking and hope some of it helps.

Good luck!

Chris

Not at all! Thank you for your advice. Knowing that lots of people have already gone out with their heels is an extra motivation for me!

Johnieheel:-)

Don't worry about going to Hell, just wear your heels and remember that you will not be alone.

Misterd73:-)

Let us know how you make out on your outing.

Cheers---

Dawn HH

Hello Dawn,

Thanks for the encouragements! Yes, i'm surprised to see how many men actually love wearing heels! I'm very happy to be a member of this community and it's already helping me make some "mental" progress, if I may say.

I will fully document (well, as best as I can, considering that I will be alone...) and post a written report here.

It will happen as soon as I can have at least four ours alone or off from work, which is quite hard, considering that I'm married with two kids...

If only I could "brainwash" my wife into liking men in heels...

good luck,

forgot to say that i personally consider to dress full in femme ONLY for a public outing because it hides all my id and cannot be recognized easily, whereas in normal style, if I meet someone or somebody that know me or remembers me and maybe i dont remember, spotting me in heels is a great topic to gossip and i wouldnt know who is talking about me etc, and it can made my life a hell, since my wife doesnt know, sad but true.

I'm affraid I am in the same situation. My wife knows that I like heels, but me wearing them shocks her.

In femme is more challenging- yes, much more work- yes, too risky-no, i think less, because in anycase a Tg is a TG in public and no body gives a damn most of the time is accepted anyway, than a person that cannot be defined, people tend to check out the TV or TG and admire or criticaze the outfit rather than trying to id the guy., so in normal outfit is very likely that most of the public will try to get your id first. hope this opinion can help you.

Hmm, interesting perspective. Yet, I have no experience on CD/TV at all... it's something I'd like and probably will try. Yet I need some additional motivation to try that. You have a good point though.

I am going to a different city to heel where nobody knows me for sure, and even that is so so hard to do, will say when and how later in a new thread.

Yes, I'm not going to try my heels out for the first time in my home village - especially because I live in the countryside, where people are more short minded, in what concerns "heeling for men".

But thanks for your points of view and suggestions. Much appreciated.

Hmm... I'm planning to go out for the first time (outside the house, into the big, big world...) with my 4" boots on: http://img292.imageshack.us/my.php?image=bottes7fk2.jpg

I have no experience driving with spike heel footwear.

Here in Europe, most cars have a manual gearbox and this is the case for mine, so I'll be using all three pedals.

I'm sure that you "veteran" high heelers are plenty of advice, so how do you do it to drive safer with your heels?

Just hope that the cops don't ask me to get out of the car during a simple papers control, if that happens...

Thanks in advance.

hi misterd73

well five years ago i wouldnt have even opened the front door in heels,as yet i havent done stilletos but do go out in wedge heels and chunky heels mainly 3 or 4 inches,because as of yesterdays example! my legs ached like hell from 4hours of walking up and down oxfoed st! great fun but boy talk about needing some practice.

My advice is start simple if your not confident..comfortable styles and build from there..it is very different from heeling indoors to heeling outdoors,especially going up or down a hill as wimbledon where i live is full of them!!

BUT do it..its great fun and very liberating ,you only live the once so go out and enjoy!!

A tip ! pick a nice neighbourhood around dusk for starters!!

Thanks for the advice Bladerunner. Yes, I seek liberation from my fears and to release myself from this idiot social conditioning, where only women are tolerated to crossdress and have innovative dress codes...

I thought the world would come to an end. I thought I would get beat up, laughed at, poked fun at, earth quakes would happen, every building I went in would fall in and the list goes on and on.

Nothing happened and it was great! Never looked back.

Yeah, I aprehend the reaction of others too. Yet I'm looking very forward to this experience.

Thanks for sharing your ideas, Johnie!

Sounds like a great first time outfit to me. Try it and go out in daylight and see how it feels. Look in a mirror first before you go. If you think your outfit looks O.K. to you, then go out and do some streetheeling and have some fun. Once you try it, you will not believe the fun you will have and you will want to do it again soon after and that is how to build your confidence to do it again and again. Then post here to let us all know of your progress.

Cheers---

Dawn HH

Sounds like great advice and I am already drooling about the perspective, as it may happen tomorrow if I'm off and if it's not "raining cats and dogs".

Thank you very much Dawn!

Alsheels and Morpho, thank you for your answeres, thank you for sharing!

In my case I just did it and it was very dificult, althought i had short trips out in public but no public, i never consider those ones as a real outing, since the challenge is to face the crowd and the eyes of others, and at the same time feel that you are showing off the shoes and the outfit in a full view.

I think that if I succeed going out "in public but with no public", it's already a great victory!

Then, going out in public will come. I agree with you, that's the real challenge - especially for me, as I live in the countryside. Minds are much more closed here than in big cities.

Yes, reading these forums daily has been source of motivation and release from social conditioning.

With everyday that passes, I feel the urge to liberate this "feminine" side of myself, starting with the heels.

Like yourself Morpho, I find a curious attraction to a men in femme. I'd love one day to feel what you felt when other men and women were looking at you, some feeling attracted. It must be a great feeling!

please check my thread in tv and cd, a"a woman's halloween outfit".

Oh I will! It's something that I have never reaaly explored but feel real curious about it! It's something that I need to try one of these days too.

my conclusion is that everytime is a first time since all are diferent. and what we get out from those experience is a better SELF CONFIDENCE everytime, for life, for businesss, for love, for family for us.

I fully agree with you Morpho. I have already begin to feel that.

Besides, wearing heels or even "go further" into the experience like you guys who do TV/CD, means caring and taking care of ourselves. This can only be good, as often we have a tendency to care for others or for our jobs, often neglecting ourselves.

I will surely take pics, even if very discreetely with my cell phone...

Sorry I have to stay in English as my French is almost none existent even if I got the grammar right.

Alsheels, by all means; thank you very much for even bothering to reply. Don't worry about your French. I can speak English. Thank you for your poleteness though...

Darkness is a godsend and hell shadows to hide the heels but it hides the surface that you are trying to walk on.

Yes, it would be better to do this at night. Yet, I have to pick up my kids at school and the wife and kids are home at night. It'll happen sometime in the morning. I really have "no chocie" and I want to do it...

You may wish to be away from your own town just in case you are recognised get to know the streets were you go.

Excellent advise. I was thinking on going to a place about 10 km from home, with a big concrete surface that extends along a beach (which shoud be deserted during the morning, as it's winter here...). I might have to reconsider the location.

get used to the sound of the heels so you are relaxed at what you hear.

I just love the sound of heels.

I can't wait to hear the sound produced from my own when walking outside.

Be confident, will you go en femme or masculine each has hazards? but unless verbally challenged, walk on don't panic and don't run.

I think I will go masculine. In fact I have no experience in TV/CD. I must look deeper into that, as a complement of my "heel" experiences.

I'll think I'll just wear this: http://img299.imageshack.us/my.php?image=bottes5dm7.jpg with a simple coat... what do you guys think?

I'll try not to panic and not to run... good advice there!

I think I need to find someone with good experience on CD/TV to explore that side.

So many have said it "it's in your head" a "Head game" Not being relaxed is 90% of the problem.

I fully agree with you, 100%.

I like the Bretons and Carantec in the bay of Morlaix I found very beautiful. I want to return back there again but not via Saint-Martin-des-Besaces had a nasty accident there.

Thanks again for the compliment! yes this is a very lovely region and here's where I live: http://maps.google.fr/maps?hl=fr&tab=wl, which is not far from Carantec.

Ah, you were coming from CAEN on the A84, I reckon?!? Yes, dangerous road.

I'm looking forward to deepen our friendship and perhaps meet when you return to Brittany.

Thanks again, guys, for sharing your experiences.

I thank this community's members for being so opened and posting their experiences. It has been very edifying for me and I'm gaining confidence to "go out" for the first time with my stiletto boots. I'd be very pleased if you could share with me (with us...) your first time out, as well as any advise, as I feel that the moment is "close" for me. Thanks in advance.

http://img172.imageshack.us/img172/7005/vest3hh0.jpg

You make me drool.

I'd love to attend that meeting! Feel free to message me if you like.

Yes! I love that shoe pic, even if I prefer using boots, as I feel them more discrete hidden inside jeans. I whish to post a full size pic of me wearing heels (shoes or boots), whenever I feel confortable enough to win over my fears about the way others will look upon me wearing heels (well not here but outside...).

I'm straight.

I'm married.

I love my wife.

I love heels.

None of these things conflict.

This is a very "direct and straightforward" way of examining the question.

This topic is an excellent opportunity to take a look at myself from the interior.

Since anybody here knows me personally (yet!) , I will profit to share what I really feel with you.

I've been married for almost 13 years now. Of course, in every relationship there are "ups and downs". I love my wife and our two kids.

I love heels and have tried to introduce them into our relationship.

Unfortunately for me, my wife doesn't undertand my passion for heels, and my wish/need to wear them.

She is not supportive regarding this aspect, which is of course; frustrating to me, as I "have to do it in secret".

My wife wears high heels very rarely. But then, you don't marry someone just for their hair color or footwear. There's so much in on a relationship than just the exterior...

Regarding my sexual orientation, I love women, especially those wearing heels.

I've noticed that even less prettier women wearing high thin heels are very attractive, so I've come to the conclusion that "wearing heels is indeed a state of mind".

Maybe it's a matter of "feminity" or just releasing the feminine side of yourself - which doesn't mean that you are gay.

Personally, I do feel "very curious" about men wearing "androgynous" dress codes and CD/TV/TS wearing high thin heels.

Yet I don't feel any sexual arousement watching pics of men like Brad Pitt, Tom Sruise, Will Smith or any other men pics.

Nevertheless I feel fascinated by people with very strong characters, be it men or women.

In 35 years of existence, I have never looked for an homossexual relationship (nor am I looking for that at this point...), although I've always felt a very little "curiosity" of "how it would be like".

I don't think that this line of thought would even qualify me as "bissexual", as I've never had a sexual relationship with a man.

I must conclude that I am heterosexual, with all the "strengths and weknesses" that comes with it.

On the otehr hand, I'd gladly explore my feminine side with my female partner if that's what turned her on, which on my particular case, it isn't.

I don't feel a particular need for crossdressing, although men's socks are unpractical to wear high heels. The only solution possible for me are stockings, as I don't like pantyhoses. As the rubber bands often slide down the leg, occasionaly I throw in a garter belt.

I often use men thongs like this:

Although I dress "masculine" 99% of the time, I wouldn't mind throwing in a corset or even a skirt.

In fact, I'd like to wear an androgynous dress code such as "Elegant" and other members of this forum.

Again, as my wife is not supportive of such interests, it would be complicated to have such items lurking in mya wardrobe...

I've already suggested buying myself a pair of slim jeans (I wonder why... ) but she didn't liek the idea.

I don't think that I'm gay or even "bi", to conclude.

Sorry if this was too long, but I felt like throwing it out!!!

Anyone like my new avatar?

Your new avatar is great!!!

Awesome clips! I've subscribed!!!

Two of my favorite pictures.

Awesome! Awesome! Awesome!

Hmm, I'm not as "advanced" into this (the heels) as most of you are, even though I've secretely love wearing heels from as early as six years old (it started with my mother's and aunt's heels...

So I've really decided to "mature" this experience.

For the moment, if not as "daring as yours", these are my two favorite pics:

http://img211.imageshack.us/my.php?image=laredoute2wt9.jpg

http://img292.imageshack.us/my.php?image=bottes7fk2.jpg

Looking forward to go further into this awesome heel experience!

Hello guys, thanks for the welcome! Glad you liked the photos. Regarding 10 cm heels, I can walk relatively well with boots. Yet I still feel a bit unstable with some stiletto shoes of the same height. I think I need to master the shoes before moving into something higher and more painfull for a longer wear. I must get to a point where walking with 10 cm heels becomes natural, even better than walking on barefeet. I could try bigger heels but on boots first, as they seem to me more stable. Looking forward to meet more guys here in France (or elsewhere) that have the same passion. Feel free to message me and you will have my email.

Hello all!

I'm from Brittany, France; and I just love high heels.

I love to wear them mostly with jeans.

I absolutely love stilettos.

For the moment, I don't dare going above 10 cm (4" ?!?).

I'd love to try and get to walk on 5" and later 6".

Perhaps like many of us, I'd like to dare and going outside the house wearing them.

For example, these brown boots look great with a pair of jeans, don't they?

http://img299.imageshack.us/my.php?image=bottes5dm7.jpg

http://img211.imageshack.us/my.php?image=bottes1yz1.jpg

I'd like to make new friends here and perhaps even find the "mentor" that will guide me through/enhance my high heel adventure/experience.

Here are a few more pics for your pleasure :

http://img211.imageshack.us/my.php?image=laredoute2wt9.jpg

... and this is what it gives when the same shoes are used with the wrong pair of jeans (for the moemnt I don't dare use slim jeans... though I should...):

http://img211.imageshack.us/my.php?image=laredoute1ct8.jpg

I also love sandals!

http://img297.imageshack.us/my.php?image=sandales1xf2.jpg

http://img211.imageshack.us/my.php?image=sandales2ce7.jpg

http://img211.imageshack.us/my.php?image=sandales3ah3.jpg

There. I hope that was not too long for an introduction (sorry admins)!