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Heeled sandals or flat? Will heels cause issues?

well went to the hospital and had xrays confirmed the toe was dislocated. They was amazed by how i was able to work around new york with the toe like it was. Did not mention about the heels. 
 

They gave me gas and air and they tried to reset but was too painful so they had to give me an have injection to num the area and then tried to reset but keep popping out so they got it in place and tied to the other toe and did another xray to confirm the bone is still in correct position.

i guess that this means no heels for a few weeks yet they are the only shoe i can walk in ok. 

just got Back in UK now and will be going to hospital tomorrow.

No problem at airport with my heels both in New York and UK.

everyone had to take shoes off at the New York Airport.

i was getting quite some speed up walking in the airport and could hear every step lol.

was a blessing my toe issue as it forced me in heels when i might otherwise  wear trainers (to the airport) so was a very good heel experience prob walked a total of 15 miles in them over since my stay in NY.

i feel like i never want to wear flat shoes anymore as i get the fun from the heels.

i seem to prefer to have a hard heel v a rubber type heel. Sound + how it makes my feet feel.

I went with my brother, sister-inlaw and his 3 kids and my partner.

Thanks for the advise, 

i tried trainers this morning and toe is rubbing so im back in my 4” heels and now on way to airport.

Final day 27th just over 13k steps in 4th heels.

i have found that if there is alot of standing around it reduced the total distance i can walk without discomfort.

been a good few days experiencing walking on many types of surfaces such as concrete, metal, wood, rubber, marble.

i have found the nosiest to be wood and the most uncomfortable being rubber.

Fly home in morning if my broken toe allows i will do the airport visit in trainers if not heels. Then once on plane they are coming off for the flight and travel home.

with the toe rubbing the top of trainer causing me to limp when walking and in heels i could walk ok. Flight is at 7:55 new york time so will see how far i can work in trainers. If not far then heels it will be.

I will get lots of rest when home.

my tow was pressing on the top of the inside shoe and was hurting to walk.the heels did not 

Yes it was good to walk around new york in heels so far today almost 12,000 steps and more to do. My feet are hurting a bit today as lots of standing around. Can walk further if not standing still for ages.

Finished the day with 15,829 steps in 4” heels over 12 hours

Below is my heel walking since 23rd to 27th

No my actual toe lol, ill see if i can upload a picture

Yes the day is not over yet. Now 11,876 steps. Nothing can be done with broken toe and trainers kill to walk in as my toes are more flat. Looks like im stuck in heels for 6 weeks all day and every day lol

Well 12 hours done in heels total 15,809 now no shoes on.

broken toe swollen

got two more days here yet before going home to UK.

These are the heels warn

Well today has been fun. Messing around with the kids at the hotel (no shoes on) stubbed my toe on door and broke it, put 4” heels on and still managed to walk 8,000 steps. 
 

i could walk easier in heels today then flats my toe is pointing  up

Chunky Block heel ankle boots.

feet were sore after 20,958 steps from 7:30am till 8pm.

there with family they all had trainers and complaining their feet are sore too.

first time outside the Uk in heels.

about 9c here today

Well nothing new to me wearing heels but today did over 20,000 steps in 3” heels in New York. No comments at all. Doing 4” tomorrow lol

There is 3 Kids

13 Year Old - She is ok with it mostly.
12 Year Old - he is ok providng he is in a good mood
8 Year Old - she is ok providng he is in a good mood

He does not care at all. If it was the other way around and he was the one in heels. Im sure he would say, if you dont accept it, then go do one. My Partner agrees with this but then says, i'm not my brother and i'm better then that.

I think the only two that are holding this together is my partner and my brothers wife.

Have my partner say to me, is it worth losing your brother over a pair of shoes. (She dont get it, its the princable around it) I want to be happy in life and the people we hang out with.

My partner said, if you ignore what he is saying you will never see my Neice's and Nephew again.

its so messed up in my eyes. My view is if someone, Family or not, cannot accept you as you then they are not worthy of your time.

Partner talks to my sister-inlaw alot they are like best friends.

While my partner agrees with me somewhat, she is more focused on saving the relationship between my brother and I. That what it seems anyway.

My Partner said to me, if she wanted to dye her hair Red and someone (Family) had a issue with it, she would not get it done. She is 37, lives with me and my thought process is, If you cannot do something for yourself due to other peopels views then what the heck. You cannot please everyone i said. Make yourself happy first before everyone else.

We had an understanding well over 12 months ago and been working fine, then out of no where, more restrictions.

Basically i can now only go to his house with my heels provided none of his frinds are their or his kids friends. If we go for a family meal, i'm not to wear the heels.

His midset is a Man is a Man and men do not weear heels etc.

The problem is we spend alot of time with my brother, especally at weekends.

it does my head in when i see family memebers (in heels) yet i'm male and have no choice.

I feel so strong about this, He's response is normally met with "You dont like it, you know where the door is"

Well a small update to the origional conversations on this thread.

So when i told my brother about me wearing heels, he initally had a problem with it then he want on to to agree that i could wear my heels when at his or with him but with some restrictions.

Its been almnost 2 years ago since i told him

The Restrctions was

1) Not to wear them if i am collecting / dropping off his kids at School

2) Not to wear them at the Kids parties (if they have friends over that dont know about it) some do and never been a issue.

I respected that and when there is a party, I always ask if its ok for me to wear my heels before i go.

That has been in place for well over 18 months now. Never been a isuse.

Now out of no where, its now changed to

A) NO at Parties unless its only family.

b ) No if we go out for a family meal or a family day out.

His reason is, he knows alot of people and he does not want to bump into them with me wearing heels.

A Long time ago (Well over 12 months), i went to his Tattoo Studio, in my heels and one of his customers was there, she said to me, I like your heels. He told her that i was a friend and not his brother becasue he was embarrassed.

The issue that i have is, we spend alot of time together as a family Either him at ours or us at his and we go out for meals etc.

We went out for a meal last night for His daughters birthday, I asked could i wear my heels, he said no, So i respected that but when i arrived, it was just close family there all of which know about my heels.

I said to him last night in response to him saying i now have even more restrictions on me that "Dont invite me out anymore then, if you dont accept me for how i am. It ended with me walking out.

His thoughts are. Only girls wear heels. Not Men. Its not right.

Had a conversation with my partner about it. She thinks i get all defensive and should listen to my brother and basically do as he says.

She lets me wear heels when out with her, with the only exception of Stilettos.

She said to me that its not fair on her for me to say to my brother then don't invite me out anymore as that also affects her as in she likes going out with My brother, his wife and kids.

My issue is, I just want to be me, If i decide to wear heels then thats my choice. I do not control what other people wear or do.

I read somewhere once that, spending tine with people who do not respect / accept you as you, is wasting your time being with them. Family and partners should be unconditonal love / acceptace.

On 7/4/2023 at 6:17 PM, pebblesf said:

I hear ya buddy.  I call it "confidence in numbers".   London Pride is a "safe place" for a guy in heels/boots, many others with similar interests, not likely to be criticized or harassed.   Walking on the streets of London is another story, as in most other cities.  Societal norms have played major head games on most of us, we fear criticism (either vocal or not) when out in public settings.  We fear "the whole world is watching us".  It takes alot of time to build up the courage and confidence to venture out publicly in our favorite heels/boots.  My journey has been a long one for sure, started out so timidly, just wearing regular cowboy boots with slightly elevated heels.  Worked my way up to higher block heeled boots.  And now, finally, I am fairly comfortable wearing my 4.5" stiletto boots in most public settings.  I have learned that most of my fears were unfounded.  Most folks are too busy to take not of our footwear, unless it is extreme and hard to ignore.  Even so, most would not take the time to compliment or criticize.  I still have alot of work to do on confidence, I want to be able to wear my 1969 red thigh high stiletto boots in public over my levis.  I'm just a regular guy that loves high heel boots.  I think back to all those years wasted wearing the boots I love only in private, most due to my own unfounded fears.  I truly believe most guys have a thing for heels, whether they are straight or gay, the love of heels is a universal thing.  Overcoming idiotic societal stigmas is another story though.  I have to admit that I still really love having a heel buddy to accompany me when out and about, "confidence in numbers" still applies to me even today.   

I have warn heels around london many times with the heel on full display, never had any issues. even the underground trains.

Went to London the weekend. Had to go to Apple Store to get my phone replaced. Very busy due to London Pride. Noticed lots of guys wearing Heels.

I wore my Cross Swards Boots with a heel on Sunday, walked for miles, down Oxford Street etc. started at 11am and finally got sit down for dinner at around 4pm, rest of time was either walking or standing still. My feet was killing me.

anyway, Whilst i know why there was so many men wearing heels the weekend, what i dont get is why does it take an event for them to to wear heels.

I bet you could walk all around london on a ramdom day and be likly if you see one man in heels. yet at the event weekend. there was lots.

spikesmike

If you are going to take the piss out of another members choice of shoes, maybe your the problem and you should leave.

I don't understand why some people feel the need to be mean. yes the boots may not be your style. But does that give you the right to be rude? No. that is prob the real reason that female members no longer come here. due to people like yourself with your rude comments.

Off to town soon  in my 4" boots.

Picture on the left is how i wear my jeans with these. The picture on the right is so you can see how the boot looks.

I'm going to town to get 3 new pairs of Jeans cut down which means the lady in the shop will see the boot as she will need to work out how much to cut down the jeans by

9 minutes ago, pebblesf said:

I often find myself trying to "walk softer" to reduce the noise.  

Me too, more so when its in a very quite place and the only sound is me walking in my heels. lol

Went out for a meal the other day with family and i wore the below heels.

Went to go to the loo and the floors are tiles and the path to the loos was right near a few tables where other people was eating etc. My heels made such a nose as i walk on the tiles, i noticed peopels heads turning in my direction looking at my shoes. Made me nervious.

34 minutes ago, mlroseplant said:

It all depends on what you're going for. There's lots and lots of bad advice out there on Youtube, with a sprinkling of good advice. I think it would be very disappointing to pay money for a class, only to find out that they are emphasizing modeling, which uses a sort of walk you would never use on the street. To answer the actual question, yes, they do exist, but whether they'd actually do you any good, that's another question.

Thanks for the advice.

I have watched youtube etc, just thought it would be fun if there was a class.

You will have to send some pictures now