Eager2heel

Eager2heel - nice looking pair of classic pumps!  Those heels look higher than 4"  Sure that's all they are?  Is 11 the size you typically wear?  How do these fit compared to other 11s?

 

 

 

 

Nice shoes, Lime!  But I have to say, the cut of the Renetti heels is more appealing to my eye - I prefer the lower cut vamp.  That being said, I might have to try some of the Pleaser line, as these look pretty nice!

Ron: I looked for a shoe size conversion chart to find my shoe size. And It said size 11.  So I ordered the shoes on line from a big store called Dillards.

It was a shot in the dark as I have never bought womens shoes before. They were a little tight in the toe area but I used some spray strecher and just put them on and they loosened up for me. Also I went back to the order page on Dillards website and they claim the heel is 4,25 inchs high. I measured it with a ruler and it says it is 4.5 inchs high. I have not bought any other shoes yet so I do not know if my size 10 in mens means an 11 in womens every time.

Eager2heel ,  I have worn high heels all hours of the day and one thing I can say . " Men + High Heels = WHO CARES " ! Most people are concerned about their little part of the universe .  Take what Dr Shoe said as gospel , It's all about being proud and attitude . So far as the "heel cops" . What are they going to say ...... ?

 

 I like to go clubbing in my heels and go out for breakfast after clubbing around 4:30 am . I would suggest wearing some jeans that will cover your heels and just say to heck with other people and have fun with it . Head to a shopping center in another town and check it out in high heels . I think if you give it a chance and act like you have been wearing heels since the dawn of time , it will be a fun experience. I look forward to reading about your high heel journey ! Good luck and be safe and avoid gravel and wet lawns in your heels ! LOL !!!      

I am getting better with the heels on. I put the shoes on and it hurt like hell. I did not realize my sore feet until I put the heels back on today. But I did not take them off. I did house work and before I knew it most of the pain was gone. I cleaned all the floors with a sweeper and mopped the tile floor. But then I had to give my feet a break. I will find a way to go to a mall not near my house and walk around. I just need a little more time in the heels.

Lime : Those look real nice. How long do you think it will take to break them in ? This might sound crazy but I am not even able to walk much in my heels yet . And I want to buy more shoes to wear. LOL

As a design engineer I always look at what go's into making stuff. I can just imagine all the things that must be checked to design a high heel shoe. Just the fact that it does not slip off when walking must have been a lot of work. Then making the sole of the shoe strong so it does not twist. And the heel has to be just in the right place to make the shoe wearable. I am sure there are lots of other things that must be finished. And I do not think comfort was high on the list for any shoe designer.

That guy is amazing to say the least. Thanks for posting that story ..

In my younger days I can remember seeing women pushing baby carriages in high heels all the time. I wonder if they were just getting there shoes worked in.

Nice heels, they look very elegant. Maybe practice walking on carpet first, those floor tiles and wooden floor look very slippery, especially with such a slim stiletto heel.

Thanks, They fit perfectly as soon as I put them on. I do not have any carpet so I will just have to be careful.

I think it's important to be "light on your feet" and the key to that is, like mlroseplant says, to involve your whole body posture. It's become quite "natural" to slump, and badly designed furniture encourages that too. It really takes a lot of effort to try and break out of it. Just like constant heel-wearing shortens the achilles tendons, constant slouching collapses the muscular support to your skeleton. When you first correct that, by straightening your back and pushing your shouldres back and down, it feels unnatural until you can train your muscles into a better shape. It's not only physical, it's psychologial too, you feel more confident and that's the right attitude to match the heels.

 

One thing I've found helpful is a little practice walking in stilettos on a lawn where your heels sink into the ground if you put too much weight on them, as this makes you learn to walk lightly on your feet. Start with a relatively low heel height so that your not teetering on your toes the whole time. At first you'll find your leg muscles will be doing a lot of work to compensate for the lack of weight on the heel, but once those muscles are trained you'll feel more comfortable and even graceful walking across the lawn, and that improved walking action will help on harder surfaces with higher heels. Some of the places I wear heels have stone paving with a really soft rubber filling between the gaps, and at first I used to ruin heels that sank into the gaps, but now I seem to catch the heels as soon as they start to sink, and avoid scuffing my heels.

 

I still walk heel-to-toe but most of my weight stays on my back foot until my front foot can take the weight transfer onto the toe. That's different from walking heel-to-toe in flats where most of the weight goes onto the heel of the front foot as it contacts the ground, and then rolls onto the toe as your other leg comes forward. With heels that rolling action isn't there and the weight stays on the back foot a little longer until the front foot is ready to take the transfer. Even on a hard surface in higher heels (even wedges), practice walking very slowly keeping your weight on the back foot as long as possible, then very gradually speed up to a natural walking pace.

Thanks... That sounds like it would be helpful.

I am going to do that tomorrow. I can't wait lol. I never thought I would say that..lol

Being out at night dressed in heels could be dangerous. If you're accosted, you can't run. If you're accosted by police, you're going to be asked embarrassing questions. My advice: don't do it.

 

A much better idea which has been mentioned here many times, although it sounds counterintuitive, is to go to a busy shopping mall. Go to one in another city if you must. You will find that almost all of the people you pass will be too busy with their own thoughts to pay any attention to you. You will have more anonymity in a busy mall than you will on any street at night, and the danger level is next to nothing. Plus long malls give you ample time for walking in heels, so it's much better than inside your home, where at best you might have 10 meters in a straight line. The big advantage of the mall is there are lots of shoe stores, so you can browse. When sales associates see you out in heels they will take you as a serious customer and give you better service. The big disadvantage: waxed, slippery floors, particularly if it's raining outside and people have wet shoes on. Be careful not to slip and fall, or if you fall, land on something soft!

 

Steve

My dream would be to go to a mall and walk around.  And maybe one day that will happen. I am just not ready for that yet.

Firstly, going out at night and/or going to a quiet backstreet is very, very dangerous. It is much safer and, after the initial fear subsides, much better to go to a busy area. This sounds counter-intuitive and way, way outside the comfort zone but, trust me, it is the best way. In a busy street people are so busy dodging everyone else, they don't have time to notice your heels. In addition, if someone did have a problem with your shoes, what can they do with so many witnesses about? In a quiet street they could attack you and get away with it, in a busy street, 200 people will be on the phone to the cops to report someone attacking you, that is if they don't intervene.

 

Secondly, why not wear heels at home? So what if all your neighbours talk about it? In actual fact they probably won't bother. To us it's a big deal but to everyone else it really isn't. They're too busy worrying about their own lives to worry about yours! Think about it, what could any of your neighbours wear that would cause you to phone up your neighbours to discuss it? It would have to be something really serious, someone could walk down your street stark bollock naked and still you won't call your neighbours to talk about it.

 

Thirdly, be proud of what you do. If you skulk around and hide all the time then people are going to think that you're ashamed of what you do. If you walk tall and let everyone see you then they will know that they can't abuse you for it.

This is all so new to me I just do not know what to do. I am going to give all this advice a try. But it will take me some time to do it.

I saw a woman that had classic black heels on that were 4 inches. She was in arm with her hubby . She had to best walk i had ever seen. Not to fast and not to slow. she must live in heels. I was beautiful just to see her walk. She was doing the heel to toe walk. and she just glided across the mall smiling.

Some day I hope to be that good.

I am hooked on the classic 4 inch pump and just do not get why people like that platform. I think maybe it has to do with what I was exposed to in my younger days. All the ladys would wear the classic black pumps. I herd it just takes a very small pebble to send a women down that has a shoe with a platform. That alone would turn me off from wanting to wear them. But to each there own. As long as they are enjoying what is on there feet.

I for one have never been out at such an ungodly hour of the night in heels, it's just too damn dangerous. While I'm an advocate of heel wearing in broad daylight (trust me on this, 99 percent of the people you encounter either won't notice or won't care), if you're uncomfortable with that, try going out early in the morning instead.

I have to say the morning walk is a no go. I get up week days at 4:30 am to get ready for work. I see people all over the place . Everyone knows me so the last thing I need is people talking about me up and down my street. I just do not know what I am going to do.

The first time I ever went out in heels I think it was around 8pm on a late autumn evening, so it was dark. There were people out and about but mostly a steady stream of cars driving past, not too many pedestrians. I was in my late teens and wearing the first ever heels I bought, black patent 4" stilleto courts. I stood behind my front door for several minutes with my heart pounding, occasionally opening the door briefly and checking for a suitable moment to step out, but there always seemed to be a reason to hesitate and close the door again.

 

Eventually there was a break in the passing traffic and no pedestrians nearby so I grapsed the moment and stepped out. From what I remember I walked maybe 20 yards along the pavement before getting nervous and turning back, but as I approached my house I decided to keep walking another 20 yards in the other direction. Then I got nervous again, turned back and retreated behind my front door.

 

At that point the nervousness was replaced by euphoria and an instant desire to do it again, so I waited for a safe moment and then stepped out again. This time I kept walking and I was quite relieved when the passing traffic picked up again, as the noise of the cars masked the amazingly loud click of my heels, and it was quite a thrill to look down and catch a glimpse of my shoes in the passing car headlights. About 50 yards down the road I became very aware of how I was walking, and tried to relax and walk in a more confident and stylish way. That's just as well because I was approaching a busy intersection with no shady spots to hide in. I kept walking and turned the corner onto a quieter street, and felt really satisfied that I'd not tuned back.

 

The rest of my walk around the block was on quieter streets - well, less traffic but I could hear the sound of my heels echoing off the houses each side of the street. At one point someone's front door opened some distance away, and a lady was still stood at the door waving goodbye to someone driving away as I approached. I tried to walk as steadily and elegantly as I could, and I noticed her glance at me before going inside and closing the door, leaving me wondering if she thought "what a silly pair of shoes to be walking in" or perhaps "what fabulous shoes!".

 

By this time I could feel the tightness in my tendons and soreness in the balls of my feet, as I'd never walked anything like this distance in heels before, and on concrete paving too. But I was more than half way around the block, so turning back was pointless, it was easier to keep going. When I got back home I was buzzing with the thrill of the walk, but it was a relief to slip off my shoes and sit down.

 

It took me a while to build up the confidence to do that again, but over the next few months I remember repeating that walk twice more. Once wearing black leather courts with a 3½" heel and a ¾-length coat, and I remember a young boy cycled past me on his bike, but I had the distinct impression that he'd been delaying before overtaking me, perhaps captivated by the heels in the same way I would have been if I was that boy on the bike. The other time I wore my gold strappy sandals with red-painted toes and a green party dress under the same coat, and that was my first encounter with a pedestrian, a young lady who glanced up and down at my outfit and heels before we passed each other by.

 

It was many years later that I first presented myself in public as a guy in heels, and that was in broad daylight trying on my avatar boots in the store before buying them. For newbies if you really feel more comfortable stepping out in the cover of darkness, I'd really recommend an autumn/winter evening where lots of cars are driving around and maybe even with lots of pedestrian commuters walking home, or a high street bustling with christmas shoppers. Unless you're wearing really obvious heels most people will be far too preoccupied to even notice that you're wearing heels.

I think you have more nurve then I do.. I will figure something out.

My first time out?? Being a smoker, and traveling on business means you have to go out side once in awhile. Threw on a pair of clog/mules with about a 4" heel and head out. Down the elevator, past the lobby desk and out the door. The entrance area is well lite, so it.s not like darkness was gonna hide much.

 

One hotel has a few girls that like to see what I'm wearing. Another has a guy who admits he has a bit of a problem with it, but he realizes that it's an issue he has, and not related to the hotel.

maybe if I find a place that no people know me I can try it out and take a walk. People never sleep around here.

I see the same thing. And i think it would be normal to do what some say. heel down then toe . I have watched many videos on youtube and most say heel to toe . But some videos that people put up have it wrong. The expert says toe first. I see so many girls walking all wrong and I feel like telling them how they should walk. But I can't even walk in the pair of heels I have..lol

I first went out wearing heels during the day. I was wearing block heeled boots and went for a short walk round the estate I live on.

Your lucky to be able to do that. I am going to have to find some place to walk a few times to get used to heels. I just don't know where.

I wanted to see what it would be like to be out walking around my area at night. I can't walk in the heels yet but i hope i will soon. I just went for a walk to see if it would be quiet at 1am. I could not believe how many people are out the late walking around. I even had a cop slow down to look at me. People were walking there dogs and other people were running. I do not think i will be able to pull off walking in heels around my area from what i saw last night.

Maybe also name some other types of places you went to for walks.

After looking back over your first picture. Your able to point your foot much more then I can. When I see a women in high heels her foot is at the angle your foot is in on picture one that you posted. The line of the leg goes right along the foot with no curve. What part of your ancle is giving you the problem. My foot is not at a point like yours yet. I hope it will so I can at least stand in 4 inch heels.

Not sure why that is but I have the same problem. What I have seen in the past is for some reason girls seem to have more flexability then guys do. I had a girl friend that never owned a pair of heels. But one day we stopped in a shoe store and I asked her to try on a pair heels. They were 4 inchs I think. I watched her slide them on and stand up with no problem at all. I can't even stand in the heel I have. They are also 4 inchs.

Welcome. Maybe you need lower heels first. Or just abit more practise in the ones you have.

You are most likely right. I just ordered from a store called dillards. I like the classic black single sole high heel shoe. No platforms. The shoe is called a madden and it has a 4 inch heel.

Hi everyone. I have been lurking for a while on here and have learned alot. I have to say I am and was very confused about wanting to try on some highheels. For years I loved to see my girlfriends and any women wearing high heels. Then I had a dry spell with no girlfriends and started to wonder what it is like to wear high heels. I bought a pair of heels size 11 usa. When I went to put them on the shoes were way to narrow. So I bought a shoe stretcher and spray that helps them stretch. I finally got them on my feet. I realized right away that I could not even stand up in them. But the feeling that came over me was awesome. As long as I was sitting the shoes felt so great I did not want to take them off. So that is where I am at as far as wearing the shoes. I just can't walk in them to save my life. I think I have to do some kind of stretching exercise before I try to walk in the shoes..