Dan J

I sometimes catch the show, but this time I missed it. So, what new style / color / heel height was being featured? Anything to share? Dan

Impressive. Your're the man!! Dan

PatentHeel: Yes, best of luck. As has been said on this thread by others, you and you alone know more about your partner than anyone else, including anyone here, and therefore, you'll know the right way and the right time for discussing it, or as you suggest, show her the thread. I thought the idea suggesting to make it a type a game was particularly imaginative, since it might give you a glimpse of her impression, rather than simply blurting it out. You're the best judge of this. If/when you decide to discuss, let us know how it went. Dan

Bubba & FF2: Excellent comments from you both, but you're both making the assumption that the person in question became aware of their inclination towards heels before marrying. That raises a different situation:

What if a man has been married for a while and discovers / realizes his interest after he's tied the knot? That's not such a far-fetched idea; I imagine many a man would try to ignore or deny his own feelings.

True: Honesty is still the best policy, but in this case, "coming clean" prior to marriage would not have been an option.

Comments?

Dan

I waited for a time we were get along great, and we were rather intoxicated. I started suggesting some crazy things, she has always kinda been playful about sexual exploration, one thing led to another, I wanted to try on her shoes (making it seem as though I had never done this before), my feet are only about 1 size bigger than hers, anyway, she liked how I looked. We had fun that night kind of role playing. Anyway, she now knows that I have done this for years, but that is how I did it, waiting for the right moment, when we were both in a very playful (and drunk) mood.

HH: Outstanding story, and really should serve as inspiration and hope to a lot of guys who are in the same situation. Please continue to post.

Dan

Interesting topic: I used to be 65 lbs (30 kg) heavier, 4 years ago, and that translated into an extra 2" (5 cm) in the calf alone, not to mention elsewhere....

Then, I began running...up to 40mi (65 km) per week. Fortunately, no injuries. The bigger weight loss came from cutting back the food portions. My wife's plan - she gets all of the credit.

Boots wouldn't fit before - now they do.

Dan

i have a different twist on this...is it ok for a man over 40 to wear thigh boots in the summer?(tongue in cheek to the point that i look like a chipmunk)

Well, CB, your avatar looks terrific, though I admit I have a boot bias, myself. Don't know your age, but if you're over 40, I would have to answer "yes".

Certainly the same goes with women on this: you have to consider the whole picture. Would thighboots work on everyone, in any or every occasion? No. But, the same could be said for any clothing decision.

Guys can and do wear thighboots, and not necessarily pirates. Ask Johnny Depp / Capt. Jack Sparrow.

Aaarrrrggggh!

Dan

" if your wearing heels with noisy steel tips, its exciting and sexy sound that draws attention"

Agreed. What did Anne Hathaway in "Devil Wear's Prada" refer to them as? "Clackers" - because you can hear those heels "clack-clack-clack-clack-clack....." It's definitely a turn-on.

Dan

It's what we're used to.

Back in the 70s and early 80s, men were wearing heels up to 3.5". In fact I had a pair of men's cowboy boots with 4" heels which I wore until they literally fell off my feet in about 1984. No one thought they were particularly weird then but now they'd be classed as women's boots.

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Dr. Shoe: I, too, had a similar pair of cowboy boots back then: bergundy, pointed toe, 4" sloped heel, classified as "men's" boots. Lots of guys wore red boots, yellow (tan) boots, etc. I wore mine with tight blue jeans and a burgundy shirt.

I still believe, you make your own choices - either follow the pack, or blaze a trail. It's always easier (safer) to follow the pack and poke fun at the "trailblazers".

Dan

Roni: You have the admiration of every guy here, not only because you made the intelligent decision not to confront a bunch of low-level morons acting in a pack-mentality, but also because you've chosen not to give up street heeling. I can't say that I've experienced what you have. I've been fortunate...so far. But when my day comes, I will remember this story. Thank you. (Standing ovation.) Dan

My wife: Size 7, her sister: either 7-1/2 or 8. That's 3 in a row. I'm beginning to wonder - is this some sort of trend?? Dan

T-Strap: Hats off to you and especially your spouce. She is definitely special. By all of the comments made on this site, you did everything correctly, particularly by being up-front, open-and-honest, patient, and slow-and-easy. Well done. As Johnie says, you give hope to many others. Dan

I am new here, but wearing heels off & on for 50 years. How do you measure the height. From the back down, or From the side at the middle of the heel. Thank You

Juliann: Welcome. I think we just went thru this (again) on the thread titled "Thursday Morning coffee" (back of heel).

Dan

What about a National or world men in heels day?.

You need to engineer something that will give all those men who wish to a reason/chance/ excuse to wear heels for a day.

You really should try and fastrack the process before you're all too old to wear heels in public without fear of prejudice.

Amanda: Heel meets are fine as a rally of sorts, but reading thru the string sounds like there is really no clear definition of what the "unacceptible" thing is to women regarding men wearing heels.

I would agree with others who have said, it's only about what you're familiar with, and familiarity changes like fashion with the times. Whether that takes a rally or simply enough guys wearing heels publicly until that, like earings and handbags, becomes commonplace or at least "acceptable".

Nice thread, though. Really got a lot of people talking.

Dan

Nice job, FF2. I figured with so many postings from the U.K., someone should be able to help Dave out. Dan

Puffer: Nice job on the explanation, and Ron - I found the same thing. Dan

It's from the back. Take a pair of high heels that you know what the height is advertised and measure from the back. See if it doesn't jive.

Thanks, Guys, for the comments. And Ron, I agree and will check.

It was certainly a lot of fun this morning at coffee, watching the women removing their shoes and scrutinizing their heels. At one point, they were lining up the shoes to compare heights. Can a man ask for more?

And Marcus, you're right, I am fortunate. I'll have to come up with something else for next Thursday.

Dan

No bad / horror stories either, I guess I was unduly worried!

TB: I wouldn't necessarily say "unduly worried". I think your concern is justified. There can always be the unfortunate instance of running into the narrow-minded individual, which can include law enforcement. Discrimination can still occurr in many forms, including appearances. I would say, though, that it seems to be reducing, which is encouraging. But those who have been affected by harassment, I believe, often don't wish to speak out, which is sad, especially in a forum that encourages open discussion.

Dan

Nina, you are a sweetheart. but you scare me sometimes. LOL:lmao:

I agree with you, Ron.

Good advice, Nina, we will keep it in mind. We thoroughly enjoy your comments, including the one's in the "Girls only" section.

Dan

Every Thursday morning, I sit down with several ladies, including my spouce, at our local coffee shop, and a wide assortment of topics come up. This morning, a question was raised that, quite frankly, I was surprised that no definitive answer was reached, so I thought I'd bring it to the forum. The answer to this should be obvious, but apparently, it isn't: Where do you measure the heel height on a high-heel shoe or boot? I had always thought the measurement was taken on the back of the shoe, and several women agreed. However, some believe that the measurement is taken on the forward end which, on a sloped heel, would be slightly less. It's a silly question, I know, but I had several women removing their shoes and intently studying their heels this morning, during coffee. I thoroughly enjoyed it. (I was wearing flats, so I couldn't participate.) Responses are most welcome. I promised I would have a "definitive" answer by next Thursday morning. Dan

Do you wear your high heels in bed?

Hey, Hiboots: You might wish to open the question up a bit by including:

Does your partner / spouce / SO wear shoes/boots to bed?

(Mine will, on occasion, if I ask. I won't elaborate.)

Dan

Hey Dan

What I mean by that is "Whatever your interpretation of feminine may be"

I just get the impression that many guys here want/prefer a feminine/lady like woman, yet dont understand or almost protest when a woman/wife/partner wants the same thing in return?

Thus hence the worst questions... Maybe this is another issue for debate seperate of this thread?

Aha! Now, I gocha.

Richie: I think this is worthy of a new thread topic, as the current subject "worst questions" has evolved to "annoying questions" as some of us on the thread have interpreted. Your point goes in a completely different direction.

Dan

Having someone to hang onto is essential I would say.

Unless they're wearing heels, also.

Dan

Monuments

Roni: I agree - first the trendsetters start it, then - who knows? Although, I have trouble imagining a "watered-down version" appearing in Sears (department store) years from now but......you never know. Dan