lotsofheels

For me, there are two reasons to wear high heels. First, is the feeling you get when you are perched on 4-6 inch heels. Second is that they just look so darn cool. If I were to go out in public wearing long pants to cover my heels, what's the point of looking cool if no one can see your heels. I would get only half the pleasure of wearing high heels if I covered them up or only wore them where no one could see them. My wife totally agrees with this and has really encouraged my to wear high heels almost all the time, just as she does.

I voted for style because it's important to me to be able to wear my shoes out in public. Yes, I can manage to walk in 6 inch stillettoes now that I've been practicing for a year, and I do enjoy wearing them around the house, but I would never venture out in public in anything over a 5 inch heel and it would have to be a boot with a heel that was over 3/4 inches thick at the bottom so as not to look too feminine.

While your boots look great, I can understand your feeling a little hesitant to wear them outside just now. What worked for me was to start with a pair of boots with a little bit thicker and shorter heel and get comfortable wearing them with blue jeans out in public. Once I had done this for extended periods on several different occasions, I became more daring in the style of boots I wore. Also, if you go someplace where you are sure you will not run into someone you know, it's a little easier starting out. Over time, you will begin to think that it doesn't really matter what other people think, as long as you're wearing what pleases you.

This question begs the question of what constitutes women's shoes vs. men's shoes. As I have thought about this over the past year, I realized that the discomfort I felt at first in wearing heels out in public was from the perception that somehow women had a total lock on high heeled shoes and they were forbidden from men. I finally decided that there was no law that said that only women should enjoy the sensation of walking around in high heels and if it gave them pleasure, then there was no reason why I shouldn't enjoy the same pleasure without any feelings of guilt. The fact that my wife had introduced me to wearing heels and was encouraging me to wear them in public probably helped a lot, but I think I would have eventually come to the same conclusion if the desire to wear high heels came as naturally to me as to many of the participants in this forum. Once I came to terms with this issue, going out in public wearing high heels became infinitely more easy.

Even though their heels aren't all that high, the female dancers on Dancing with the Stars do amazing things wearing heels that look to be about 3 inches. This includes flips and all sorts of acrobatics. One can only imagine how gracefully they could walk in something higher than 5 inches. One other thought is that to make the competition fair between men and women, shouldn't the men be required to perform their dances in high heels as well?

Personally, I don't particularly like the way wedge heels look and I think the idea of putting invisible lifts inside of shoes defeats the whole purpose of high heels. High heels are beautiful to look at. Anything that can add to the appearance of height in the heels adds to the allure of the shoe or boot. Why else would anyone want to wear platform shoes. However, a 6 inch heel shoe without a platform looks infinitely more sexy to me than a 7 inch heel with a 2 inch platform.

Hi again Skyler. Was wondering how you are doing in your 6 1/2 inch heels. Has it gotten any easier to stand/walk in them? And have you worn them in public yet? If so, I bet you got lot's of attention. Anyway, hope you are enjoying the boots.

Up until this question was posted, I had never walked as far as a mile in anything higher than 4 inch heels, but after I saw some of the responses from others, my wife and I decided to try going for a mile walk in higher heels. I tried a pair with 5 inch heels and my wife tried a pair with 5 1/2 inch heels although I tried to dissuade her from going so high since her feet are two sizes smaller than mine. It was no surprise to me that she couldn't go any further than half the distance and had to change into 4 inch heels which she had brought along just in case. I had little difficulty making the whole trip, even though this was my first attempt at going any distance in anything over 4 inches. It just goes to prove that practice makes perfect. I expect that I will seldom wear any heels lower than 5 inches when I'm wearing heels outdoors from now on and maybe 5 1/2 or even 6 inchers are in my future.

I definitely was surprised to learn there were other men who did not have a desire to cross dress, but who did enjoy wearing high heels. Even though I have finally become completely comfortable wearing high heels in public, it took me almost a year to reach that point and I still thought I was probably somewhat alone in wanting to do so. This website has opened my eyes to the fact that I am definitely not alone. It has also caused me to be aware that other men came to this desire on their own and not because they were introduced to the idea by someone else as I was by my wife.

I'll add my two cents worth to the previous posts. I agree completely that the first few times out in public in high heels is somewhat scary and unnerving. I have to admit that a couple of times I probably would have turned around and headed for the car if my wife hadn't been there pushing me to venture forth. Every time I did it, it got easier and easier to the point that I now get quite disappointed if I'm wearing a beautiful pair of boots with a 4-5 inch heel and no one seems to really notice. The thrills I crave now are seeing how people react when they do notice my heels.

After reading many posts from guys who feel uneasy wearing heels in public, it occurs to me that the answer about shoes being too girly depends on the context of when you are wearing the shoes. If you are wearing them at home or dressed as a woman, then the answer is probably no. However, as in my case, I like to wear heels in public dressed as a man and in this situation, I would feel very uncomfortable wearing very feminine looking shoes. Therefore, I prefer boots with a 4-5 inch heel that is not overly narrow. Platforms and Stillettos are out for me. I have to admit though, I would love to see my wife in a pair of Pata's 7 inch ballet boots.

Although my wife occasionally likes to dress me fully as a woman at home, she definitely wants me to dress completely as a man in public, except of course, my high heeled boots.

I dress completely in men's clothes except for my heels. I make sure that my jeans don't cover any of my boot heels as both my wife and I feel there is no point in my wearing heels if she and others can't appreciate the way I look in them. I don't normally wear heels less than 4 inches high as anything lower leaves me shorter than my wife when she is wearing her customary 5-6 inch heels.

I've been wearing a super comfortable pair of suade leather boots with 4 inch heels out a lot lately - every chance I get. I'm at the point where I dont't even think about what people who see me might be thinking. The boots are super comfortable, look great, my wife loves them, and I think that this is probably the lowest heel I'll feel comfortable walking in from this point forward. I just love the feeling I get from walking about in high heels. I can't imagine what women must be thinking who walk around in heelless shoes. What an opportunity lost.

I feel like I inadvertantly stepped into a hornet's nest with this one. When I originally asked the question, I wasn't looking to stir up people's deep-seated emotions concerning gender and identity issues, just to find out whether people's views on things in general and guys wearing heels in particular were innately in-born or rather heavily shaped by how others viewed them. I don't think most of the replies really shed much light on this question. Am I wrong?

I am somewhat embarrassed after reading some of the other replies to this question. I thought I was doing really well in finding myself able to walk comfortably for over a mile in 4 inch heels and totter for short distances in 6 inch heels. Then I read that some of you can handle 6 inches quite well and a couple even 7 inches! I find that absolutely incredible. I would break a leg for sure if I tried to walk even two steps in 7 inch heels although I'd love to have a pair to change into once I'm comfortably seated at a restaurant.

My wife had the same issue with me wearing heels in public - fear of meeting someone we knew. We got around that by taking lots of trips on weekends to places we are certain we won't run into people we know. The more we do this, the more comfortable we become until now it is pure fun for both of us.

I just came across a poll on women wearing heels in the October 11 issue of USA Today. The results printed are totally ridiculous and must reflect the opinions of a very biased panel of respondents. Of the women surveyed, 94% indicated they wore heels that were lower than 2 1/2 inches on a daily basis, only 5% wore heels between 2 1/2 and 4 inches and only 1% heels that were over 4 inches. I would venture to guess that none of these respondents are members of this community unless they were among the 1% who wore heels over 4 inches on a daily basis. It must be quite depressing to work in the same places where these women work.

Only a couple, but I live in a conservative area in upstate NY. Last year, I say I guy standing outside the bank with a pair of womens boots that had about 2 1/2 inch narrow heels. He was about 45 years old and was very nonchalant and looked great. His wife came out of the bank and joined him and they walked merrily off hand in hand. What a great sight. This year, I was out in a restaurant with my wife and a guy was sitting at the table next to us with a pair of heels that looked about 3 inches. My wife was very happy that my heels outdid his by about 1 1/2 inches as she would hate for either of us to be shown up by someone else with higher heels than ours.

Skyler, I really commend you for trying to walk in those boots, although I wouldn't call the ridiculously high. I would call them exquisitely high. I think you will look great in them no matter how far you can walk in them and I would venture to guess that as you get more used to them, you will become more and more graceful walking in them

I have 4 pairs - two pairs of boots with 4 inch heels for out-in-public wear and 2 pairs of shoes with 6 inch heels to wear at home for my wife.

Although I answered just a man in heels, thats not quite true. I do not want to appear as a woman, but I don't mind other touches of femininity besides high heels such as eye makeup, earrings and nail polish. My real feeling is that adornment of any type is intended to make the wearer look and feel good, not to make him or her appear more feminine or masculine. I don't mind seeing my wife wear jeans and a tee shirt as long as she has on 5 inch heels and super long earrings.

Both my wife and I couldn't agree more with your points about seamed stockings. In fact, my wife decided to have seams tattooed up the backs of her legs so that she can wear shear stockings and not have to worry about the seams becoming crooked. She used to find that after wearing seamed stockings all day long, the stockings would get pulled out of line whenever she sat down and stood back up again.

Underneath my normal men's attire, I usually wear a garter belt and stockings although I am just starting to get interested in corsetry and have ordered my first corset. Other than that, just some large hoops in my pierced ears and a little eye makeup. I definitely don't want to fully cross dress and appear to be a woman. My wife married a man and wants to keep it that way although she really likes it when I'm wearing high heels as this keeps me a little taller than her when she's in her heels.

I went out today to take a drive because my wife's away for a couple of weeks on a voluteer trip. I wore by brown suade high heel boots with 4 inch heels and a pair of blue jeans. I stopped at a roadside stand to buy some apples and asked the lady at the counter to suggest some apples with a tart taste. She came out to describe several choices of apples and at that point, noticed my high heels. She asked why I was wearing heels as she had never seen a guy in high heels before. I explained that I just loved high heeled shoes and started wearing them about a year ago. I then asked her what she thought about my shoes. She replied that after getting over her initial shock, she had to admit that they looked pretty cool. I thanked her for saying so, paid for my apples and started to leave. At that point, she said that my stop had made her day and she hoped I would come back again some time wearing my heels. I replied that I certainly would.