Maximilian

I'm 5'4" so I don't obviously stand out while wearing heels. Depending on the shoe and where it came from, my foot fits in women's shoe sizes 9.5-11 (North America) 40-41 (Europe).

It depends how that man is dressed in general. If the outfit matches the heels, I'd definitely try and compliment him and respect his courage to be himself. If the guy made a blunder by wearing heels that don't match his outfit one bit and he didn't take the time to groom himself, then it would not please me because he only contributed to the negative stereotype of men in heels.

The whole idea behind a stiletto heeled shoe is to get noticed. It was designed for that! So yeah, it SHOULD make the clacking sound while you walk. Whether you're a man or a woman, you will turn heads in a pair of stilettos. Some good advice has already been mentioned here with regards to building self confidence that will eat away self awareness doubts. Once you're comfortable with wearing and walking in thicker heeled shoes, only then graduate to the real fun which are stilettos or other thinner heel designs. As long as the outfit goes well with the shoes, you'll be fine.

Found this pic on a website called fashion fail.

No kidding! I wouldn't be caught dead in those black track pants-black hoodie-black sneakers. No style whatsoever!

Very nice look Mr. X. Elegant and casual.

Incorporating heels as part of a 'manly' look requires planning and specific heel matching. Very feminine heel s are hard to pull off if when, except for the heels, the rest of the clothing and accessories are very masculine. If a masculine looking guy wants to wear very feminine heels (strappy stiletto sandals, pumps etc..) and manage to pull it off, he'll probably need to be of a certain physique (women as well. An overweight woman would look bad as well in very feminine heels), i.e. thin-proportional to his size and well groomed. Being well groomed in general is key for wearing heels. For the 'manly' look, I'd therefore suggest block/cuban/cowboy boots style heels. As for the recent commotion regarding Amanda's opinion about the types of people dominating the forum, my 2 cents are that she is entitled to her opinion and that it shouldn't discourage any guy on the forum from wearing what they want in public. The honest truth is that Amanda's opinion about stilettos worn by a guy and apparently any sign of femininity worn by him is shared by most people on the planet. They consider us to be transvestites, cross dressers, drag queens, homosexuals etc... Few women and far less men would see beyond the stereotype and try to make an assumption about us which wasn't based on our fashion style. It would take years and a massive effort from the fashion world as well as popular culture to try and eliminate/soften the stereotype. But why would they do that when so few of us try to challenge this perception? We are therefore left with 3 options my friends: 1 - Cave in to your own fears and social pressure and fight the urge to wear clothes that you like, a battle you will most likely lose because being told what not to do only excites a person more by doing it. 2 - Lurk in the shadows or the safety of your home and wear your choice of clothing/footwear. 3 - Accept the fact that most people won't understand or like your style. So what? What made their opinion matter, especially on your own time?! Wear what you want in public which, over time, will make you more confident and make you feel good about yourself. We live only once. If wearing what you want might cause problems for you with some people or some places, simply avoid wearing those styles there. Some people will think you're a cross dresser or transvestite by simply by wearing women's jeans, others by wearing heels, others by combining heels, a skirts and makeup. There is no clear point that people agree on when a man is a cross dresser or transvestite. I myself wear heels, skirts, some dresses/tunics and even makeup. By 99 percent of people's opinions, I'm a full blown transvestite when I decide on wearing a very feminine style. Yet what matters is MY opinion which is that I'm NOT a transvestite because it takes more than just clothes/shoes and makeup to pretend to be a woman. I don't act like a woman, nor do I add any padding to give myself a more curvy look. I use my given name and talk normally when presenting myself in a feminine manner. Full power to transvestites though who I applaud for being themselves and who's fashion style/behavior pose a risk to society as much as a kitten. If I was a transvestite, I'd be proud to admit it. It takes guts to be one. However, I am a cross dresser simply because I do wear clothing and shoes originally designed exclusively for women. In fact, all of us high heelers are basically cross dressers, unless the heels you choose to wear are designed as unisex. I'm not offended by the term. Neither should you. If more designers had the balls to design heels and other feminine clothing for men as well, then I wouldn't be considered a cross dresser. Women have cross dressed for decades before those style were fully acceptable. So shall we, with our heads high! All we can do is to change individuals opinions about our fashion choice. If you can make just 1 person change his/her mind, then that's a small but important victory for us all.

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While I commend any designer/brand who tries to create unisex clothing, I'm not fond of this particular collection. Simply not my style.

However, if heels were ever to become a more unisex footwear style, then men's heels would most likely be of the block heel and square-round toe type.

Only the more daring men would venture feminine style territory. Fine by me, the more the general public sees men in heels, the less shock they'll get by seeing a man in feminine heels.

From reading some of his blog, I didn't get the impression that Europeans are more tolerant than North Americans. In fact, he states several times that his photo shoots receive lots of attention from people passing by. He mentions that the women who he encounters either love or hate his look. His look isn't that different than a guy in heels in a sense that it's also considered "weird" by the casual observer. I'm sure that the close minded people seeing him think the same negative/ignorant thoughts when seeing a guy in heels. Yet it hardly seems to bother the blogger. On the contrary, he gets a kick out of it and enjoys the attention. Good for him! That's the kind of confidence we should all aspire to. His experiences prove once more that it's really no big deal wearing what you want in public, as long as you're comfortable with it and are able to show your comfort to the people surrounding you.

While browsing the web, I came across this blog belonging to a guy from Germany who shares his experiences while wearing his various over the knee boots.

What a like about his photos is that they are real, as in not staged for a magazine, at least, some of the photos aren't.

I really like some of his boot styles, including the boots styles of the women in his photos as well lol.

Check it out for yourselves:

http://walkinginboots.blog.de/

The new/revisited croc/Ugg style. Ugly...

8000?! lol. I wouldn't spend 8 dollars on them. Ugly boots in my opinion.

I know how intimidating it is going out in heels for the first time. The last thing you want is people to notice you so you pick the nighttime and go to quiet places where you think that no one will see you. I only suggest doing so a few times because after a few times it's basically the same as wearing heels in private. I found myself thinking how stupid it was doing that and it actually made me feel like some weirdo who has to sneak around at night just to wear something I like to wear. That doesn't boost one's confidence, it diminishes it. I'd go about building confidence as follows: Stage 1 - a couple of times of nighttime heeling, also known as loosing your public heeling virginity lol. Those first times will be a huge rush and you'll remember them forever. Stage 2 - First steps in daytime heeling . Short trips/errands are perfect for the initial confidence boost such as going to fill gas or anywhere where you'll be spending a short period of time and not standing around to much. Going to a matinee showing in the cinema is an excellent confidence booster for this stage. Not many people, dark theater. Stage 3 - Daytime errands which require more time and more standing around such as the supermarket (pushing the cart is and excellent accessory for the new heeler. It kind of hides your heels and provides support, good for building confidence while wearing higher heels. Stage 4 - Walking around during daytime in busy areas. Downtown during rush hour is good. People are in a hurry and won't have much time to notice you. If they do, they'll walk on. The mall on the weekend is also a good choice. The hoards of people surrounding you while you're walking in broad daylight in heels will be a huge confidence booster! You're confident enough to make your high heel purchases in stores and try the shoes on. Stage 5 - Public high heel graduation. At this point, you're confident enough to go out in heels on a Friday/Saturday night to the bar/dance club or restaurant with many people having lots of time to examine your footwear and even have lengthy conversations with you. By now, you don't care at all about other people's reactions. You basically forgot that you're wearing heels. You find it strange that someone will take peculiar notice of you. We're all at some stage and usually remember when we took that leap of faith and graduated to a higher public heeling stage. It takes time and perseverance but this forum provides enough insight to prove that going from stage 1 to stage 5 is more than possible. It's all a question of battling you inner demons in order to finally being able to dress how you want to dress in public.

Very nice look! That's how I'd picture a main stream male high heeler.

So anyone who likes to wear heels should be free to do so. WobbleFan

Oh trust me, we do

But don't expect me to be enthousiastic about men wearing heels.

WobbleFan

The LAST thing I want is for a man to be enthusiastic towards me because of my heels-outfit. In fact, the more turned off a man is towards me the better.

Men ARE NOT my target crowd. I wear my heels for MYSELF. Most men on this site who wear heels probably do the same. While it would be nice if a woman would appreciate my feminine style, they also ARE NOT the driving force behind my fashion choice.

Im also a liberal. Any person should be free to not like seeing men in heels but I do expect them to be polite about it.

P.S

Stilettos rock, whether a woman or a man wear them!

My desire to wear heels myself, purely for fashion reasons only came to be in my early 20s. Until then it was strictly a fetish and a thrill to see women wearing heel styles I liked. I put down 18 as an ideal age, i.e. a few years earlier than when I took interest in actually wearing them.

I love Budapest, hands down the most beautiful women per capita in the world, and I've been to many places. I'm sure you'll be pleasantly surprised by the amount of women wearing fantastic heels and boots.

I haven't been to Budapest in a few years but I remember that they had a big modern mall called Westend with lots of shops. http://www.westend.hu/en/home/

Then there is Vaci utca pedestrian street with nice shops and restaurants and a great place to people watch.

A stroll on the banks of the Danube is fun, although it'll probably be cold this time of year.

There antiques/flee market was an interesting place as well. One guy sold AK-47's lol.

Oh, if you like Italian food, I recommend this restaurant:

http://www.okayitalia.hu/frameindex_en.html

I've been there a few times and really enjoyed it.

All in all, it's a very nice place to visit. Have fun!

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Nice boots! They would also look great with black tights and a dark colored tunic. By the way, what are those boots in your avatar? Are they flats?

I've actually read an article that the pointed toe style is back in fashion although I haven't really seen an increase in pointed toe heel sightings lately.

Open minded neighbors who wouldn't bat an eyelid when greeting me while I'm wearing a feminine style. As to who they are/what they do: 1 - An excellent ER doctor. 2 - gorgeous single woman with gorgeous single friends. 3 - A connected and successful business person. 4 - A shoe designer. 5 - A well traveled person with great stories.

Have fun wearing your new pumps. you'll be buying heels and trying them on with confidence in no time!

Courage in wearing them publicly.......and strength of character, in making his own decisons without worrying about other's opinions.

Very true.

It's not what you wear, it's how you wear them.

Cheer up buddy! Don't let a bad day make you feel so bad. We all have bad days. I'm not a professional shortskip and don't know you or your situation. I did get the impression that you're depressed right now though. All I can do is to try and give you some advice/my opinion. EVERY person has something they think might turn off a potential partner. For you, it might be your fashion taste. For others it might be a previous divorce, bad previous relationships, kids from a previous marriage, financial situation, low self esteem do to their physical look, a disease, religious beliefs etc... It can be ANYTHING. You're basically no different than anyone else who is single human who is looking for a partner. I suggest speaking to a female psychologist/psychiatrist (speaking to a woman will be better simply because you are interested in women and speaking to one will give you the feeling that there is at least one accepting woman out there, even though there are MANY more accepting women). You will be able to share any of your thoughts with her and she will best be able to guide on you how to improve your self esteem and increase your self confidence. I do recommend speaking to a professional, not because you like to wear heels, but because your post sounds like a cry for help after a long period of time where you felt bad about yourself. I had a really good friend who turned out to have manic depression. The "problem" he thought he had had was that he was ugly (he really wasn't) and that NO woman would ever want him. It was all in his head and even though I was a very close friend, I simply could not convince him that he looked normal. He also refused to seek professional help because he was convinced that it wouldn't help. In the end I simply could not be his friend anymore because when he was in a bad mood, he was angry at everyone and depressed. A few years later I learned from another mutual friend that he finally did go see a professional, a psychiatrist in his case, who diagnosed him with manic depression. He was given some medication and it helped him a lot. I'm NOT saying that you are manic depressive. I am saying that you should speak to someone who could have the knowledge/ability to help you with your self esteems and confidence. You should also read the posts of members here that are in relationships with accepting women and how they met them. Finding an accepting woman is the same as finding any woman that is right for you. You usually have to meet a few to find the right one for you unless you're really lucky. GO OUT on Friday night and don't stay at home feeling sorry for yourself. I don't know where you live in Germany but there are many clubs/bars where you can go, wear heels/whatever you want and get compliments from the people there. You might meet a woman there but what's important is to wear what you like in an accepting and public spot so that you can build your confidence. The bad mood that you're in WILL pass. There WILL be better days.

Hi,

was thinking 'bout starting heeling, but may be a (s)low starter, so I was planning on getting a pair like these (please see attachment), which I saw on eBay.

What do you think about them: even too low to start with? Haven't really made up my mind, but would appreciate your input.

Thanks in advance, and have a great weekend!

There is no such thing as too low to start with. YOU have to decide what YOU would be comfortable with.

Remember that it's all about building your confidence. The more you go out in heels and slowly build your confidence as well as lower your self awareness, the easier it gets.

By all means, take it slow, feel comfortable in your shoes. Once you feel comfortable in a certain style/heel height, only then should you increase the heel height and try bolder style, if you choose to do so.

From various post from members, I have been given the impression that heeling in Sweden is one of the easier spots to heel in. If that's the case then you will have NO problem whatsoever heeling in those boots. You'd have no trouble wearing those in my region of Canada which is more conservative than other areas.

I had to vote "Its acceptable", as over the years she has developed serious foot & knee medical issues which preclude standing or walking in HH. Only flat orthopaedic sandals with custom-formed, Dr. Schols-type inserts allow her to walk at all, and then only relatively short distances. Big bummer for both of us as she enjoyed and wore HH since she was 11. So, as much as both of us dislike her available shoe choices, "acceptable" is the only fit. She knows about my intense interest in HH, but is dead set against my use. Bottom line, as my son so aptly worded his all-purpose philosophy, "Dad, in all cases, the object is to stay married..." He's right. One can't just kick 50+ years with your best friend to the curb; so clandestine HH wear seems my lot. There ARE worse things, but none come to mind at the moment. Well, maybe war, pestilence or untimely death.

UPBy5

50+ years is a very impressive achievement. I bet that after all this time, the both of you know every little thing about each other.

After so many years together and the fact that she is your best friend and closest person to you, do you really think that your desire to wear heels would actually bring the marriage to an end?

Why is she so adamant of her refusal to allow you to wear heels when she know that it makes you happy?