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i guess if you learned that your kid friend's father wears hheels all the time, or crossdresses, at least you have the advantage that you may try to approach and get to know him better, so you may understand what's his drive, contrary to the drug or porn dealers, partly because i believe we're trying to gain respect for us, and we wouldn't want to impose our taste to others, such as we don't want others to impose it upon us, yet the drug or porn dealer live from involving new people to their world, so i do understand your perpective, though we are good people, we work, pay taxes, and most importantly respect others.

on one hand yes it's easier to think that your wearing heels will affect less to the girls, and you right too on the fact that we still live in a country a little bit more narrow minded. unluckily for me.

raymond i do see your point, i don't really care what they think about me, because thats totally out of my control, and worthless of getting worried about. what i'm trying to express is that unfortunately you could affect your kid, because he or she isn't emotionally mature enough yet to understand that your happiness doesn't deppend on what other people think, but i do believe i educating them to be happy with what they like and do it regardless of what others think.

i barely remember couse it was long ago, but i believe i was 4 or 5 years old and i remember sneaking to the maids quarters during the afternoon while she was watching her soap opera, and tried on her heels, as well as some other times more or less at the same age, it's all a little bit blurry, but i liked to try on my moms pantyhose and underwear, specially satin or lace, mainly bottoms, and then it all left me for a while until i was about twelve, when i began sneaking for my fathers palyboy magazines, and suddenly i decided to try on my sisters or mothers heels, depending on who was easier to sneak upon to, and if i felt like trying them on, and ever since has become a passion for me, man i love heels.

do your girls go to school already? my issue is not that my daughter and son won't understand and maybe even don't care about it, the thing is that at school when the teacher says we will learn about clothes and garments and bring up lets say a pair of heels, childres mostly simply tell tha truth, soy your kid could come up with the famous my father also wears heels, not that there's anything wrong with it, couse i do, and if someone came to me and asked straight ahead if i wear them i would say yes i do, but your daughters classmates may say at home to their parents john doe says his father wears heels, and then all of a sudden your kid won't be invited to other kids houses, or if he wants a friend to como and sleep over they won't let them, that sort of things are the ones i'm talking about

the main issue is at what age your kids will be able to handle negative emotions coming from outsiders, just because they haven't even given you the chance to explain yourself, unfortunately most people just judge the book by the cover and don't want to learno more, maybe because they fear it may grow on them too, and are scared of how to handle it, and how may it affect their world, in the meanwhile it's better to point fingers and say that boy or girl maybe a bad influence for you so don't talk to him or her.

i do have a pair of black leather 4" heel peeptoes, and all i can say is go for it, the are and feel great, besides they're in fashion right now so it will be easier to find a style and size that fits you, and psycologically will help also, don't know but kind of feel trendy.

i already wore heels, not outside deffinitively, but when accidentally i found this forum and began to read all your stories, and the way we al feel and somehow share the fancy for heels, it made me accept myself and even wear them at the office, luckily for me i own a small design bureau, my business associate is gay, and we only have two employees, who have been with us for more than ten years, so one day i decided i needed some space where i could wear my heels and told them about my need to wear heels, they said it was alright for them, and if it weren't for the fact that i have small children i would probably be wearing them everywhere. thanks guys

i do think society has become more tolerant, but not enough for those of us who have children, because i'm shure that if were single, i would wear heels everyday as my regular shoe, and this mostly thanks to you guys and this forum which has really helped me to accept my fancy for heels, but when you kids are involved, i'm almost shure that they will understand, such as my wife does, but when it comes to other kids and their parents, most probably they would seggregate my kids because they would fear me as a bad influence for their children leading them to the wrong side of the force.

my son is two years old, i'm planning myself on letting him know about my fancy for heels, when i think he's ready to understand that it's the kind of thing that not everyone is ready to accept, i hope he understands me, and i know i won't give him a pair of heels unless he asks for it, mainly because i will try to teach him that as human beings we all are very different, so we should be tolerant, and that only you and yourself may and should decide wether you want to try them on or not, because we all have different reasons for the which we are attached to wearing heels, and so will the future generations, they have to find the answers by themselves, even though i will of course explain him my very personal reason and feeling about wearring them. hope it's not very confusing

i believe that with the picture taken so i can see from the calves down, it will allow me to se more about the shoe, that looking at it all tha way up

Hi there, i happen to agree with all of you, because everything that has been said so far, i do believe is sound advice, i only want to say that i do believe that the most important for each and everyone of us, is to remain true to ourselves upon the reason why we like to wear heels, and that may also apply to the style of heel we love to wear, mostly because if we don't, then we won't be able to comunicate as a whole group that we like heels, and though i do understand the viewpoint about the style and heel size, we are all different in a certain way, we like heels, but some like to wear just boots, while others like wearing opened toe shoes, some epillate, others don't. I guess it's still a long way to go, i myself understand very well those of you who claim that it isn't easy trying to go outside heeling wihtout the fear of losing friends in the way, or even worst, that your children may be left out because other parents don't want their kids to see that there are alternatives to life, and they're not ready to explain to them, most probably because many of them haven't even given themselves the honest chance of digging inside trying to find out if how we live, what society is said to be expecting from us. I think we should give a try by letting know those who we believe really care for us first, gaining their support and acceptance first, and then when ready move to the next level, maybe co-workers, or neighbors, inside out, so the ones that you really care to know your stroy get it firsthand, which in a certain way, like shrek would say, it may start peeling of layers from the onion, and someday somehow we'll fear less if someone makes a big deal of it, which by the way according to my calculus, crossdressing may be the next big move on tv, because first there was the gay issue (though mostly on the male side), now they're trying to make it fashionable between women (the L word, for example), so i think that as soon as the ratings fall down, maybe cd, tv or fetishism are the ones next to become the big hit, giving us a big break through.

Cool shoes, the feeling is pretty defferent from wearing boots, because there's nothing to secure your ankle, so it's a little bit harder to walk on them tryng to pass unnoticed, though then again who cares, lovely choice, looking forward to hear from your expirience

Thanks PetePete: I just bought them about a month ago at a local store, they where on sale about 50 usd. they really are comfortable, as a matter of fact it is my first pair of boots, the pretention was to go street heeling, and i did it with my wife and kids, being less obvious as my other shoes, i mostly have open toe shoes, it's pretty hot down here, so i couldn't wear boots all year long. But i did understand why so many love boots, it really is a very special feeling whtn you wear them.

I really don't wear blocks outside, i wear boots, like the ones in my facebook, but inside it depends on the mood.

http://www.facebook.com/photo.php?pid=25682&l=0c397&id=1043493468

http://www.facebook.com/photo.php?pid=34834&l=d2741&id=1043493468

http://www.facebook.com/photo.php?pid=34832&l=dbc7f&id=1043493468

http://www.facebook.com/photo.php?pid=34833&l=e7f1e&id=1043493468

i didn't vote because i find both important to me, i mean i rather buy shoes at least 3", but i do look after style, because if i don't like it, i wouldn't buy it.

How would you describe the feeling when your wearing heels?

wonderful, simply wonderful. lets say sexier.

Do you feel any differently if so, how?

i feel free, it's being able to wear what you like.

Is it a sexual experience for you?

i guess it has to be a yes, because if you do it to feel sexier, it certainly must have to do with sex, i mean i love the way it makes a woman look, and, maybe that's the only reference i've got so far, so it's likely that when i wear them that's still the role model to follow, that is until it becomes more natural that men wear heels too, and maybe designers start fashion trends for us. in my experience so far, my wife say's she gets turned on when i wear heels, i've just recently gone out to the streets, about a month ago i began heeling in my office, but so far no comments to it.

P.S. Sorry if these questions are already asked millions of times, I checked few pages on this forum section.

great finding, i would have loved to hear the after dance comments from the conductors.

i like wearing heels, i like the way they feel, and even though i've just recently gone street heeling, i did it because i really love the sensation of wearing them and i would love to wear them all day, no matter what other people may or may not think about it, it may also have to do with the fact that high heeled shoes have more design in them, they really have cool colors and materials.

i would go for the black ones without a strap, they look better finished.

i totally agree, my wife when first knew about my heel wearing freaked out completely, but we talked it over, and i bought books on crossdressing as well as browsed a lot in the internet looking for a better undestanding, so as to how to explain her what the process was and what to expect from it, when i came to find this forum, on one hand it made me feel like home, i mean finally i could share my expiriences with people who would really understand me, and on the other hand, i also invited my wife to check the forum so she could see for herself that i wasn't the only male in the world loving heels, and with all that information little by little it became a part of our life, now i've finally been able of using them in public places with her support, so i guess that you should be true to yourself and be proud by the way.

personally i like it, especially over here when during summer we reach temp about 40 degrees celsius, but not shure yet if i could walk on the street yet wearing opened toe shoes.

thanks, what have you answered to those guys, or is it that you just ignore them, until now and thats very soon no one has come to me and asked me something or made any remarks about my shoes. haven't even given it a thought of how should i answer, i'm clear i must stay true to myself and believe firmly it's something i love to do, but how to make your point in one short, sharp answer

welcome IBL70, it's a really pretty pair of boots, no wonder you like them.

Hi guys, been busy for a while, but last sunday was my first trip to the supermarket on heels, i went along with my wife, which makes it even cooler, and as many of you have said, nobody really cared, just a guy says my wife that kept staring at my feet and maybe the way i walked, i really didn't notice because i wasn't paying that much attention to oher people. it really felt great, on one hand because i finally got to do it, and on the other because my partner is being part of it, so i feel totally supported, then we needed something else during this week, and i went again to walmart and did in heels again, so i finally made up my mind of bringing them to work, i happen to run a design bureau, along with my partner and best friend, and we only have two employees, my partner already knew, so i had to explain the way i feel about heels, and all my psycological process, i even told them about how supportive this forum has been, besides my partner is gay, so it made it easier for me because they're more open minded to tolerance. so it's been a whirling week, very satisfying, and i thank you all, because i wouldn't have gathered the courage to do so if i hadn't have come to contact this forum.

this are some pics, of my officialy out pair of boots

http://www.facebook.com/photo.php?pid=25680&l=15d3b&id=1043493468

http://www.facebook.com/photo.php?pid=25681&l=56515&id=1043493468

http://www.facebook.com/photo.php?pid=25682&l=0c397&id=1043493468

just in case you wondered, they're 4" high, leather outside, synthetic cloth linning and sole.