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i voted descreet, but going into neutral, so far i have just gone to public places like a supermarket in boots, they're kind of androgynous, though they're 4" high, in my office i wear any kind of shoe, as a matter of fact though not going all the way, and not knowing if i will, i shave my legs daily and from time to time paint my toe nails, usually red, dark red or some colour of the sort, at home my wife likes it, though we're working on the children, the've already seen me wearing heels and panted toe nails, my next goal is to wear them everywhere, i just want to broaden little by little the aknowledged people that know me, mostly because i am dedicated to business design, comercial, pop, industrial, and graphic, so i really want to keep my customers. i'm really trying to handle my life as normaly as posible, i.e. when i go out wearing my heels trying to forget about other people.

I voted no because i belive that normal as a 100% doesn't exist, i.e. like 10% of us men like heels, nylons, skirts, etc...so i guess that there are many other philias, as they're called to day, lets say sadist, masoquist, nocrophilic, voayuer, exhibitionist, zoophilic, pedophilic, etc... so, the difference is that in order to recieve some pleasure in exchange for what we like, we must do it openly so others may learn about it, that is what makes us feel vulnerable, while doing nothing harmful to any other being. I not saying all other philias are harmful, all i'm trying to express is that as we make public our dependence of something te be happier, or to become all we can be, because if you don't accept yourself, as many of us have been through this process, you just can't take the issue out of your head. Consequently you can't concentrate well enough or focus in other important issues in your life, so you can get the most out of it. I had a long chat with my wife this weekend, she does accept my heeling, as a matter of fact she just bought me a pair of heels, 5 inch heel with 1 inch plattaform, i wear heels freely in my office, my 5 year old daughter already knows i wear them, my son being 3 doesn't quite get it yet. but returning to the opening statement in this paragraph, i told her i needed to go srteetheeling with her, as a common thing, so far we've done two or three times in the past, i myself wearing high heeled boots about 4 inches and jeans, mostly because i need to feel right about myself, that maybe i like wearing something different, but i'm not stealing, lying or killing anyone, as a matter of fact i believe that if you stay inside living a double life, sooner or later it will affect your self esteem, because if you don't feel ok with yourself, there will always be self destructing thoughts about what you like to wear, always giving more credit to others, who most probably haven't even taken the time to know you, and i'm sure that if more men tried high heels, they would become attached to them. sorry i let myself go...

Not only i would love to work in a high heel store, i would love to own it

thanks for your sharing crotchboots-m, i relly appreciate it

i think it's ok, as long as they go along with what you're wearing.

i have two kids an almost five year old daughter and a three year old boy, it has been the rough part between my wife and me, because it is difficult tu know when will it be the proper to let them know i like wearing heels, it is a little bit trickier in my case, because i also shave my legs and hava my toes painted, as i live in a hot country during summer i like wearing open shoes, so far i haven't had the need of going any further, and my daughter has just passed the 4 year phase where they begin to differenciate between male and female stuff, the shaving so far hasn't been something she cares about since she has always seen me that way, she has never seen me wearing open toed heels, and when ever i got to the beach or pool, i clean them, but trying to make it less of a shock to them i have worn now and then high heels, but two days ago she popped the question above, and my answer was this aren't mom's, this are my shoes, besides they don't fit mom, she asked no more questions and the evening went on smoothly. even though i know there will come the time they will both learn from it, my wife fears they'll go and tell their grandmothers everything, has anyone any idea of how to cope with kids and how to let them know and giving them the resources to become inmune to peer pressure, yada yada yada

congratulations, it's cool that your wife supports you like that.

of course they'll remain attractive, somehow i guess most of us in this forum are not only heel lovers, but we also love to see a beautiful pair of feet and/or legs wearing a fantastic pair of heels.

i have a pair i use when i can't sleep, they ease my anxiety, and i use that pair just for sleeping, so i don't have to worry about getting the bed cloth dirty.

it isn't a matter of growing as you will, it's a matter of teaching them how to remain true to themselves even when expossed to peer pressure, and hence learn that real happiness lies in self love and acceptance

welcome back

i like them both, on one hand i have a well developed femenine side, and on the other hand i really feel very comfortable on heels.

i agree, you should enjoy, it was her who suggested it, so you could go window watching, something of the kind, because if you don't have kids, the only person you should be afraid off learning it from a third party is your partner, and she is encouraging you to do it, so go for it. on the other hand just try and find out if she isn't bluffing, trying to raise the stakes so high, thinking that then you wouldn't go for it, and the moment you say yes i'll do it she may actually realize, there's something more going on.

In order for me to feel like i'm wearing heels they have to be at least 3.5", thats why i regularly use 4" heels, lower heels don't make me feel butterflies, so to speak.

no wonder, they look rather dashing

yes it's me, though i don't wear them out, hope someday i will, i love open heels, weather over here is hot like hell during summer so it's hard to wear boots, so as far as it goes i have just gone out in winter when have been able to use my boots.

though a little late, but it seems i'm the only one from mexico, in the state of tamaulipas, N boarder with texas.

up until now only boring men shoes, or flip flops, but hope that changes in a not so far future.

i agree, besides i don't know about you guys, but i have more heels than regular men shoes, i really buy them because i need them, not because i like them, they're always the same, kind of boring, while heels, there are enough designs for every kind of taste.

only a pair of brown boots, and just a couple of times, working on it to be more often and even any other kind of heel

congratulations, excellent encounter, great story, fantastic way to handle yourself, it really calls for a picture, and looking forward to seeing that outfit.

nice pumps, though i must stand in defese of the height of your shoes arguing they're not hooker high, i do belive it to be an exciting height, an empowering height, a sexier height, just making you feel like shouting i feel good.

i don't think you're a hypocrite, i guess most of us have to play different role models, when i decided to start my own business, one of my very best friends and now business associate was and still is gay, my mother giving her motherly advice questioned me on how would i react if other people by seeing me with him would immediately asume as gay, and my answer to her was, that i had given a thought to it, and believed that if someone turned away from because he thought i was gay, then it was no worth meeting, because if someone doesn't open up to really try and learn about you before judging, then why should you care about what he or she think about you, getting to the point what if this hypothetic father is cool and fun to hang around with, maybe it's worth giving a shot and forget about all those people who really don't care for you.

so far i have just gone street heeling in boots, i look forward to the day i can go out waering any kind of heel, like my avatar for example.

not at all, i think i really got the picture, it's just that when you said that you don't really know how you would react in case your son told you his best friend's father wares heels or crossdresses al the time, i simply suggested as a thought, that as it is something familiar to us, it's easier to walk to him and get to know him better, than it would be with the others (drug, porn, etc)