HappyFeat

This is an interesting thread to me in many ways. Since I recently got married to a wonderful woman who is fully accepting of my heeling and freestyling, I would love nothing more than to share the forum with her. However, since I have been fairly frank about my heeling activities, she may not approve of everything I have written. So, for now I will think about how much I can share. The Internet is by no means private, in fact it is the exact opposite. But another idea all together strikes me as the core issue...never put anything in writing...anything...unless you are willing to stand by it. It can and will come back to haunt you. And you never know when that might be.

I am also glad that you've returned to the forum. So many of us missed your comments and pictures. With regard to your planned outing this week, will you go out by yourself or will your wife accompany you?

She is perfectly cool with me wearing heels, girl jeans, and loves that I keep my legs shaved, etc. She knows I wear skirts on occasion but I don't think she is quite ready to accompany me on a skirt outing...at least not yet. However, we are planning on going to see Sex and the City 2 on Friday, and she wants me to wear heels...and I am happy to oblige.

We all seem to find our way back sooner or later. lol Welcome back HF

Johnieheel:-)

We all find our way back here because we miss the friendship that we have here on the Forum.

Cheers---

Dawn HH

Gentlemen, who said that you can't go home again! Its funny how much the friendship means from the cast of characters that we have here.

Witness protection program, possibly...me in the military, I can only hope the good 'ole US of A isn't THAT desperate...Yes there have been a lot of changes in my life, but wearing heels and HHPlace are always a constant!

The ring finger on the left hand is for wedding rigs, etc. However, I am of the opinion that if you wear a ring on that finger, as long as it isn't a simple band, it likely won't be confused as such. As far as wearing rings, I have at least one ring for every finger (as well as thumbs) and have worn them in various combination. Like shoes, jewelery can be fun as well....

...The truth is that there are tons if girls that approve! *In my world, there is no such thing as settling. *I will never settle and never prematurely limit my options. *I hope other guys realize it's no big deal to find a girl that accepts....

As they say in the House of Commons...HERE, HERE! I couldn't agree with this more and have met and dated many women who approve - and I did most of that in a place a lot less progressive than New York. (Of course they weren't models...) I have said many times before that guy get way too hung up about acceptance to realize that it does exist. Even if only one in ten women accept, that's still a lot.

However, the trick is BEING YOURSELF. If you like wearing heels, freestyling, etc. do it. The rest always seems to follow.

... Sorry, but I could have never pulled off 1/10 of the things you are doing when I was single and your age, even on my best day...

I think pulling off 1 in 10 things that kneehighs has done is quite ambitious for anybody. I find his experiences riveting and a true learning experience. I think the trick is to read, learn and apply to only what it is YOU desire. I think the difference lies in motive, Like kneehighs, I had spend many years playing the field with the ladies, had the time of my life and did it my way. What could be better!

Welcome back, HP! It's certainly good to hear from you again, my friend! Many thanks for the kind words, I simply do as best I can, and have fun at the same time, especially when I go out in a skirt!

Great to b back! Just to let you know, I am planning a skirting outing for this week...its been too long...I will keep you posted!

I had an experience today that kind of goes along the lines of this topic. I stopped at a convenience store today and ran into one of the clerks who used to work the late shift at a store that I would frequent while dresses - usually after a night of clubbing on Karaoke. She ran over to greet me, looked down at my feet and was quite shocked to see me in a pair of men's driving loafers, not heels. I am pretty sure she was disappointed... So, there's the rub boys, if people see you dressed fancy, they come to expect it... Love the description of your outfit SQ!

First off, I love your six types of attraction. I for one can say that they are pretty accurate and comprehensive; however, my experience with engaging with the opposite sex while wearing heels is more than most others, it is still limited in comparison with yours. It is a very nice model for understanding/predicting women's reaction to a guy wearing heels. However, I found this statement the most compelling:

3. I'm not advocating the application of technique over identity, which could be construed to be fake. I'm advocating the development of identity as a priority to the application of technique, which will make for ultimate congruence in everything in real life. My goals and identity for example aren't limited to strictly attracting women. My identity encompasses everything from cooking to auto-pilot financial investments, to petting a baby polar bear to attending toastmasters meetings to my daily health regimen. My lifestyle as a result is naturally attractive to women. The techniques are just tools which help promote those qualities efficiently in the overall male/female dating process.

I think you have GREAT advice here. I think this is a major problem in Western dating in recent years (maybe since its inception). Your point that your identity must be fostered before and separate from attracting women is vital. Too many guys miss this. In my opinion, it is this attitude/philosophy that makes you they guy who can have your recent adventures. What inspires me about you isn't just your guts and fashion, its your lifestyle and ability to grasp who you are. Thanks for the wonderful thoughts.

Jeff, through my hiatus I am glad to see that you are still getting the skirts out there! Your outfits are as solid as always and your encounters continue to be interesting. Though it has been a long while for me, I am planning on getting out in a skirt soon again, though every time I seem to plan on it something else seems to pop up. Until then I will live vicariously through yours.

Had the same thing happen to me a few times. Back when I used to go clubbing a lot, if I wore simple, classic pumps, I would often get a reaction that they were "boring" from people who saw me often in heels. I felt that it was ironic that there were circumstances when a guy in heels could be wearing "boring" shoes....

Just wanted everybody to know that I am going to be back to posting once again. It may not be as often as it once was, but I have really missed HHPlace and all of the members who brighten my day. The last few months have been very busy, chaotic, and hectic - and all combination there of. Work has been killer, I have been working on my house a lot (2 floors ALMOST done) and will become a father for the first time in the near future. My partner is very supportive of my heeling and freestyling which is an added bonus. I have been getting out a lot, bought many new shoes and in some ways, I am reinventing my image. It is an exciting time and I look forward to sharing it with everybody. I am glad to be back and have missed this place.

Hey John, I have been away for a while myself and totally understand the whole life getting turned upside down thing. I am very sorry to hear about you and Ruth and from having met you both, I am quite surprised. But having burned through more than my share of relationships, if you aren't happy, don't have enough on common, its best for everybody to move on. I am glad to hear that you will remain friends and that your separation is amicable. Send Ruth my best and since I am going to make every effort to be active once again, I hope to see you posting as well.

Thanks for all of the concern! It is nice to be missed. I have missed you guys a lot as well and hope to be back to posting regularly again soon. There is a lot of exciting things happening in my life right now and I just haven't had much time to keep up with my postings, pictures, etc. However, I have been getting out a lot recently and think that I have moved to a new level of heeling - one that I never dreamed of! In the last couple months, I shed any vestige of anxiety or concern about wearing heels and my "outings" have simply evolved into another day's activity.

One of my milestones was a few weeks back. I hadn't been out to a club for a long time and decided to put on some heels and head out. I wore a white blazer (yes, white), a blue striped sweater, Lane Bryant trousers with a long inseam, and black patent Nine West pumps. Not only did I go out, I went to a club that I had never visited before - a big club with three dance floors, several bars, and a huge deck. The crowd was young, but friendly. I was greeted with "Hey Tom Seleck," or "Miami Vice" a lot because of the white blazer. For me I wanted to be noticed and it seemed to work well.

Near the end of the evening after walking around the club for some time, a really beautiful girl stopped me. It was quite surprising since she was making out with who I assumed to be her boyfriend. She said, "You have to take me shoe shopping! I love your shoes!" We chatted for a while about shoes (she was wearing a pair of ruby Madden Girl pumps), I turned her onto the Nine West outlet, but the whole time the boyfriend was lingering. I would have taken her number but the didn't even want the appearance of moving in on somebody else's woman. The interaction made me feel really great, however. Really great.

When I left, I stopped at a convenience store on the way home for a beverage. I wound up talking to the clerk, a pretty plus size girl with stunning eyes. While we were chatting, a couple young guys came in and one of them said "Man, those shinny shoes are great!" Now I have two post adolescent guys going crazy over the fact that I was wearing heels. "That's so cool, etc." Eventually, one of them asked me where I got my Rolex. Actually, my watch wasn't a Rolex, it just looks like one...I paid about $200 for it. One of the guys told me to come to the jewelery store where he works the next time I was shopping for a Rolex and he would give me a deal. Needless to say, I was pretty excited that my watch could pass...anyway it was a really fantastic evening.

The next week, I posted this ad on the local Craigslist:

Freestying Man Looking for Shopping Friend - m4wI am an attractive man, intelligent, educated, tall, and sincere who would love to find a female friend who likes to to go shopping, meet for coffee, chat, and just have a nice relaxing trip to the mall, etc. I am an "Freestyler," which is a guy who likes to incorporate women's fashion into my wardrobe - mainly shoes and jeans, but will wear the occasional skirt for fun; otherwise I am completely masculine and make no effort to be anything other than a man. Needless to say I have great confidence and really thrive on doing my own thing. Mostly people are accepting and I actually get few reactions. I make no effort to hide in any way. I have a great sense of fashion and love to hear the opinions of others and will gladly share mine with you. In addition to fashion, I am an attentive listener, love to tease, and am a good friend. I am NOT looking for sex, do NOT have a fetish in any way, but would just love to find a confident female friend to share what I enjoy most - shopping and socializing. I am quite real.

If you are an open minded, confident female who would like a shopping buddy who is honest and knows a thing or two about wardrobe issues, please respond. Age, race, relationship status are all unimportant since friendship transcends all. Please put "Shopping" in the subject line so I can sort the replies from the spam. I will be happy to answer any and all questions from serious replies.

Well, I got a reply from a young woman last week and after a week of trading e-mails we finally met tonight. We met at a Starbucks and set on the patio and chatted for 3 hours. I wore a black suede blazer, white dress shirt, Tommy Hilfiger "Hope" boot cut jeans, black patterned knee highs, and black patent Steve Madden Mary Jane pumps. She didn't wear heels, but we did have a very wonderful interaction. I anticipate we will do it again since she seemed to enjoy it a lot as well. Afterward, I stopped by another Starbucks that I frequent and ran into one of the barristas that I had talked to. She was on a break, setting outside and and I just asked if I could join her for a few minutes. She agreed, we chatted about her applications to graduate school, etc. It was so obvious that I was wearing heels, but other than a couple quick glances under the table, she didn't seem to care.

Again thanks for keeping me in mind and I hope soon to be back posting more often. I do miss my fellow heelers!

Dawn, you were in the Big Red One? Excellent movie as well...but I am sure you didn't serve with Lee Marvin...

I love white jeans! I own a pair of matchstick, flare, boot cut and guy's straight white jeans. I agree all white is a very nice look, like the pink shirt idea, and of course pastels. I try to stay away from black shoes and from red shoes. To me the contrast is just too strong and white on red looks, well bloody. In the past I have worn beige and pink shoes, but love white jeans with sandals. In the US, it is a faux pas to wear white before Memorial Day (last Monday in May) and after Labor Day (first Monday in September) - at least in the more temperate areas. I would hope that doesn't apply in Florida or California. But today, the rules of fashion are not really as carved in stone as they once were. The reason I mention this is because I was wondering if there are similar rules in different places.

Buffalo

I am a Trekker...(the prefered term to Trekie)... I own every episode of all 5 series on DVD... I saw every movie the day it was released at the theater (even Star Trek V: Kirk vs. God and Star Trek VI: The Apology)... I have been to five conventions and at one I had drinks with Michael Dorn and Mariana Sirtis (though really with Marina Siritis, no offense to Mr. Dorn)... I have autographs form over 20 major cast members and even a few minor cast members... I have a complete set of first edition Next Generation figures and Deep Space Nine figures... I speak a little Klingon... However I have never dressed up in character, don't live with my parents, and can separate fantasy from reality (most days) There you have it. And guy worry that they can't get a date if they wear heels...

partyshoes - I live those shoes a lot! Though they are gold, which is a pretty bold color choice for me, I would wear them in a heartbeat. Love the large peep toe and the d'Orsay...a great summer shoe

Jarl Ayari - Love those shoes...a great street heeling shoe. I understand why you want to dye them (it is fun to have his and hers shoes) but I like the current color a whole lot.

A pretty decent outing! I am really surprised that the boots you chose drew any comments at all...either positive or negative. They are very nice boots, but not very over the top. Anyway, a nice outing for you!

Seems like you had a fun outing. The boots over jeans look is becoming one of my favorites as well. Thanks for sharing and look forward to the next.

During the last few weeks, I have been exceptionally lucky to have a lot of time to heel. Though most of my outings are seldom over 2 hours, I take what I am given. The most wonderful thing is that each outing, however short, has been very enjoyable and relaxing. I am seeing more of the same people over and over, who remember me in a positive light and I seem to continue to find new firsts. Even after several years of wearing heels, and quite a while keeping this thread up to date, I am amazed at how many new experiences and fun heeling remains.

Tuesday February 23 - Recently, I have noticed a pattern in my heeling life. Over the last few weeks I tend to go to the same places and do the same things on the same day of the week. Its kind of like the old joke about school lunch...if its meatloaf, it must be Wednesday. Tuesdays seem to be my day to go to Barnes and Nobel and Starbucks. I go to Barnes and Nobel because a young woman works there who always wear fantastic shoes. She is friendly and helpful and I have complemented her on her shoes on many occasions. She never says anything back to me about mine but always seems to want to talk a little, which is nice. She helped me find some digital photography books that were moved since my last time in. Her tan Jessica Simpson slingbacks were very nice. I truly am in awe of any woman who works the floor in retail in 4 plus inch stilettos.

At Starbucks, I got a hot chocolate and talked for ten minutes or so with one of the baristas who knows me by name now. She was telling me about taking an online calculus class in preparation for graduate school. I jokingly said my advice is to get a masters in something that doesn't require calculus, and we had a very nice interaction. I set down in at a table (this store only has a couple of easy chairs, so they are usually taken) and crossed my legs. I did get a ton of attention and the other barista cam out to sweep, and we talked about my job, interests, etc. She kept glancing at my shoes, but again never said a thing.

So far, my outings to this Starbucks have been relativly understated. I wore a black Banana Republic V-neck sweater over a gold mock neck, gray herringbone Lane Bryant dress pants, and black Nine West "Florence" oxfords with about a 3 inch heel. As the weather warms, I may take it up a notch, but for now I like the look.

Wednesday February 24 - Again, another short outing and another understated outfit. I wore a bark blue Geoffry Bean sweater, a yellow mock neck, gray Ann Taylor Loft skinny jeans, blue patterned knee high stockings and blue patent Bandolino "MacDougal" loafers that have a nice covered block heel. My first stop was grocery shopping, where I did attract a minor amount of attention. I noticed three young women working in the front watch me leave through the window. I was pretty focused on my task at hand, so I really didn't look around for reactions, but I did catch a few people. Afterward, I went to the other Starbucks I frequent. They aren't nearly as outgoing (the staff or customers) as the other one, but it is a much nicer store. I ordered a Frapachino this day, and sat at a table in full veiw of people coming in. Several smartly dressed women came in, but they either saw me and were not impressed or didn't even know I existed. However one woman smiled, spoke and and gave me a slight nod of approval. Anyway, it is of no matter, it is just nice to be out feeling good.

Thursday February 25 - This was my best outing of the week. I didn't go understated as the previous two days - I wore Clayborne turtleneck sweater, Limited black velvet jeans (I also have a pair of black velvet Capris I want to work in before it warms up) and black Enzio Angiolini lace up boots. I went to the South Hills Mall, to just heel around. I visited JCrew and Ann Taylor which didn't have anything on sale before I hit Banana Republic. At BR, I selected several items to try. A young man took them to a dressing room for me as I tried on a couple pair of clearnace shoes in a 10. I could almost get them, but not quite. I tried on a skirt (too small) a dress (not cut right) and a couple pair of jeans. I wound up buying a pair of chocolate brown skinny cords. The young woman who checked me out was quite cold to me actually which surprised me.

Afterward, I went to New York and Co. which is a store I had never been in. It is fairly low end for my taste, but they were having a HUGE sale. I browsed the racks looking for out of the ordinary items that might be fun to try. I had to track down a clerk to see if they would let me try, and of course they did. She was even enthusiastic about it. I wound up talking to several people around the fitting rooms, and everybody working in the store warmed right up to me. I was treated like any other customer, maybe even better. I decided on a couple of items and then realized that I left my card in the car and had spent my cash at BR. I asked if they would hold my items until the next day. They kindly agreed and took my name. It turned out to be a lot of fun and I now have a new store to visit.

Saturday February 27 - My last February outing. I actually got out several times in February, in spite of the weather. However, my Saturday outing was supposed to be on Friday, but a fairly strong snow clipped the area leaving about 6 inches and very icy streets. The conditions were not good for driving, let alone heeling. Of course, JeffB will let you know that it was nothing in comparison to what he has been through, but the fresh snow did keep me home.

So Saturday, I decided to wear my new Bass "Berlin" flat riding boots. I tucked them inside of my dark rinse Limited 917 jeans and wore a yellow sweater and white turtleneck. My first stop was the bank. A couple of male customers were surprised and took long looks at my outfit and the tellers were chatty as always. I headed to the mall to pick up my stuff at New York and Company. A couple of the women working were also working on Thursday night and we had a long talk about the weather and the items I bought. I got a pair of gray/blue and a pair of gray skinny cords, a bunch of scarfs, a pair of gray straight leg jeans and a khaki skirt - all for $40! Pretty exciting. When I left, two women said they hope to see me again soon. I plan on obliging them.

I did browse the mall a little more. I went to the limited, which was quite crowded. One clerk, who I find quite attractive despite the fact she has a unique body style - about 6 feet tall, and I would guess a size 12 or 14 was wearing a very cute pair of three inch platform pumps with a round toe and a nice 3 inch heel with her jeans rolled up to show them off. I told her how much I loved her shoes and jeans. She thanked me enthusiastically. When I was leaving the store I told her I would come back during the week when it was a bit slower to get a couple of things, she said that she looked forward to seeing me. Maybe it is small talk or just being nice, but I have found a few people in this outing who seem very accepting and friendly.

All and all I did have a lot of fun this week. And isn't that what its all about?

Glad to see you out and about again! I for one have missed your Jaunts but also know what a downer the weather has been. Though we got a ton of snow here, your side of the commonwealth really got buried. You would assume that Mother Nature would know that a heeler needs to get out and strut his stuff. And boy did you! The outfit was fantastic, but I really loved the sweater. Great outing! I know what you mean about wanting conversation. I am always looking for interaction among people, maybe it is why I tend to go to the same places over and over again. As far as crossing your legs like a woman, since I have discovered the wonderful world of skinny jeans and matching them with heels (though nothing quite as bold as you) I wouldn't know any other way to sit. It looks kind of silly to sit like a guy wearing regular trousers. Besides, the leg cross get that heel out there for the world to see! Thanks for the report!

I don't see it as much as making fun of guys wearing heels as much it is making fun of people of a rural nature and/or transvestites. Being from West Virginia, I can say to you guys from Arkansas, in the words of a fellow Arkansan, 'I feel your pain.' Since I do come with a special perspective, the poster should have been more aptly names "Redneck Transvestite" or "Good 'Ole Boy Transvestite" because that plays more to that stereotype. A "Hillbilly Transvestite" would more likely be barefoot anyway, but that would destroy the whole thing. I don't mind people making fun of whom ever they like, but come on at least get it right. Being from the Appalachian South, the stereotypes are much more subtle. Come on, he wasn't even holding a gun! Ironically, a true Hillbilly is a rugged individualist. Living in the hills or mountains even today isn't an easy life. But the great thing is that people basically leave each other alone. I many cases, a guy in heels might be viewed as a little strange, but he would likely be accepted for who he is, as long as he didn't force his beliefs on anybody else: "That Joe Bob is pretty strange with all of that girly stuff, but he don't bother me" might be how it goes. In any case, I don't think that this is a sign, more than any other that guys wearing heels are "taken seriously" than any thing else that is posted here. I don't think that people accept anybody else on face value anyway. What I have found as a way to be taken seriously wearing heels is just getting out there and doing it, behaving like myself. Frankly, I don't care if people like it or not, accept it or not, etc. I just do it and go from there. In my opinion guys doing that is the only way to win true respect. All lessons learned from hillbillies I might add. Oddly enough, I kind of like his shoes...

Glad to hear the manager's reception went well and that you had fun. It is always nice to receive female attention while wearing heels isn't it. I am quite jealous that you got to spend over six hours in heels! Don't know the last time I was able to have such an extended outing.

Very nice find heelaphile! Classics and at a great price....