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The "why?" of this phenomenon would make a great topic for the next book in the freakonomics series

welcome to the forums!

Hey there! Welcome to the forums!

Last night I was looking at one of those "top 20 songs of the 80s" kind of shows and I noticed this Bon Jovi video:

You can tell the bassist is wearing what seems to be 2" or 3" red boots.

I wear sandals but mostly only during summer/autumn. Spring and winter are sometimes too cold up here.

Now there is a story with a happy ending! The principal was making such a big deal out of a piece of clothing! If these are the educators then they need to be reeducated!

I'm actually very happy in my marriage, but a deeper understanding of my desire for heels would definitely add another dimension to our relationship. I agree that my desire for heels is something I should have been more open with before we got married, and is something I'd recommend to others. In my case I got married long before buying my first pair of heels and I don't think I realised quite how deep my desire for heels ran. Before meeting my wife, a girl who wore heels was a major factor in who I dated. Good looking girls wearing sexy heels were definitely high on my list. Of course my wife fitted "the profile" and the rest is history.

Why do you like a certain shirt more than another when you go out shopping? Or a tie with a certain pattern? You just know you do! It is your preference.

Same with heels, it is just another type of shoe that has been "artificially restricted" by society.

Scrappy, How are you finding those Run Tones? Do you feel any difference wearing them than any other running shoe? I am thinking of getting a pair of Easy Tones and I wonder if they are worth it?

Great topic. I do have to admit, I usually do stay within reasonable proximity of my car, that if I felt a sudden feeling of discomfort (getting stares, feeling threatened or embarrased, etc), I could flee. Although I have never really had to, but it was always comforting to know my car was not too far away.

Recently, I have pushed myself to take the lightrail into downtown a couple of times, which was quite a new and somewhat scary experience. It was really hard for me to do, because suddenly, I extended myself far from that safety net I am used to having. Also, during the ride (which can seem like an eternity) I felt boxed in with many others with my shoes in plain view of everyone. But I did it, and I got a great rush from doing it. Nothing happened, just some extended looks or second takes from a few people that noticed, but yes, it was a big step for me to just let it go like that.

Best wishes to you, I know this reply probably didnt do anything to boost your confidence. Well, just force yourself to do it one time, even if you just get on for a just few stops and get off again. You will be happy you did it, I promise.

That is basically it! When you use public transportation you are boxed in with a bunch of strangers and might be open to aggression. I don't mind the verbal part but the physical confrontation might not be the best. At least I wouldn't want to have one with my wife around.

Every post in this thread helps me if not with my confidence with understanding the why's people have done it and under which circumstances. Even the post from Amanda's, which at first seemed a little aggressive, has made me think more about my wife and women in general and how they feel in certain situations when they are among men (not necessarily in heels).

Due to the social attitude many women have the idea that "real men" don't have the desire to wear or won't wear anything that is considered for females only. So, if a male wears women's jeans and stilettos, he doesn't match up to the stereotype for society's male idol. The jeans, although they fit really good, are still considered a strike against being the ideal man and we already know about the effect of the stilettos upon the social male image. Many women are disillusioned and don't want to deal with the fact of perceiving their mate as less than a total guy along with all the other wedges that life offers to be dealt with.

We need to change this way of thinking in the same way that we don't think that "real women" only wear skirts any more. But that's probably going to take some time just like it did for women.

Has anyone bought a pair of Reebok easytones? I wonder if they really work as advertised.

Salvatore Ferragamo adds...

The legs and heels on the second picture look almost like they were spray painted

Nice!

Very!

I am a maybe. I'll confirm later next week.

lol, shouldnt that be the order way around?

Unless you know something about his feet that we dont

haha you're right! I should stop drinking beer it's killing my brain!

Welcome Walkonit! So are you a street heeler or just inside the house?

Hi shoeslover84, Welcome to the forums! Thanks for sharing your photos

bladerunner Those open toe pumps are something! Seems every shoe I like is sold in the UK!

Point taken. Well I do know that women have it harder than man and than we can make women feel uncomfortable to the point of scared. I've heard my wife complain about how some guys at a construction site said some nasty things to her while she walked through. Of course this is not the same as experiencing it but I do understand. I will (I hope) have to go out one day and experience being threatened by men in a public space but I am afraid it won't do anything to solve the women side of things except for maybe, like mtnsofheels suggests, be more aware and conscious about the issue. However, I just recently joined, as a volunteer, a group that works to prevent violence against women and children. Hopefully my role here will be more helpful.

You should know what it's like to to feel vulnerable or intimidated by other males in a public place. I think it's a good idea.

Amanda,

I am not sure I understand completely what you mean. Are you suggesting I should experience being vulnerable and intimidated so that I know how women feel, around men in public places, in general or when wearing heels?

In either case are you suggesting this so that I (or anyone else) can be conscious of women's hardships?

Grats! The first time is such a rush that you want to keep on doing it right? I wouldn't worry about your girlfriend; back when I was dating my wife she also told me she needed some time to get used to the idea. After a while of not mentioning heels to her she told me she wanted to see me wearing heels and also to walk in them. More recently she has even suggested that I go out in my heels. So my recommendation is to be patient.

This look fits her very well. I like her whole outfit and the heels are just gorgeous!

Hi there Matt! Welcome to the forums! I hope you can soon wrap your feet around a new pair of heels!

Hi all, I was thinking over the weekend how many of you regular street heelers actually do so while using public transit? Many of the stories I have read involve a car and the reason I ask is twofold: for starters I don't own a car but mainly because thinking about this I feel (personally) that a car gives an improved sense of security. Say, for example, you go out to a mall or to the post office, if people start looking at you funny, they become aggressive or you feel somehow threatened you can quickly go to your car and drive away: problem solved. On the other hand if the situation above presented while using public transportation you are still stuck with having to get back home and having to potentially suffer through some more stares, insults, etc. Of course there is also the possibility that you just use your car because you can and not because of being afraid or intimidated. Like I mentioned above I don't have a car and to me public transportation feels like it would be a great challenge when going out in heels.

Congratulations Daniel! Hopefully these won't be the last thousand