HighHeelLover86

Thanks for all the comments guys. I appreciate it. I'll comment further later on but now i can barely stay awake its so late.

Getting into better shape is on the agenda this year as well as quitting smoking. One of the biggest hurdles in buying better clothes and probably the biggest reason I have the clothes I have is because I just can't see the need to spend the money. The phrase "sticker shock" comes to mind. Why on Earth would I spend more than $10 on a shirt? $20 on a pair of pants? $50 on a pair of shoes, even high heeled shoes? In my mind their is no reason to burn $100 on a pair of pants or a suit etc. I would wager to say that the sum total of all my clothes, undergarments, shoes (including heels) etc probably cost me less than $300 spent over maybe five years. Psychologically speaking, I know that being this tight is not always good but I just can't seem to justify spending more than that on clothes. The most expensive single item I own is a pair of New Balance trainers that cost $55 and I tore myself up spending that much. By any measure I have always been dirt poor and I think that has a lot to do with it too. Maybe once I get back to work and maybe if I can find a good paying job things might change. I'm just finding it so hard to fight the stereotype and the financials of change. This is going to be a battle.

.... the fact that I might be a fashion victim. Its been a while since I've posted, although I have been frequently stalking the forums most days. My girlfriend and I are still going strong but I still haven't found employment anywhere. I'm more than ready to return to the world of free-heeling but have run across a major problem. I have NOTHING to wear with them! To explain lemme lay a little personal history on you fine folks. In my dresser you will find blue jeans, and T-shirts, and, underclothes. That is all. Not stylish versions either. I wear a size 48/32 in jeans and I wear uber relaxed fit styles. All my jeans are the same brand/style from Wal-Mart. Except for my work T's, all my T-shirts are over-sized message T's with writing and/or pictures. Except for two polo shirts and one green small pattern button-down plaid shirt in the closet, my whole wardrobe consists of 4 pairs of jeans and a dozen or so assorted T's. I have at some past time enjoyed a bit of dressing up in dress pants and jackets but I don't even own that kind of stuff anymore. This is, to me, how a working class southern guy dresses. This is how I have always dressed. Heels, even thick and chunky simple-styled boots just don't seem to fit into this image. Part of the reason I dress the way I do is the practicality of it, and I am a bit lazy if I'm honest. If I have to go somewhere that would require me to take more than five minutes to get ready for I'd just assume not go. In my mind It'll probably be someplace I don't want to go anyway, some high end party full of brown nosing uppity rich folk etc. At previous times in my life I do think I was much more willing to take a little time in the way I looked but I was either in school or at church (before I became an Atheist) or working in a more professional environment. Nowadays its just not that important. My girlfriend and I went out to eat last night and neither of us were dressed to impress but that's just how we both are. When she gets home from the office she says a quick "Hi" on her way to the closet to get into her yoga pants and T-shirt just like I do. I am a fairly "manly" man by most measurements and I don't want to go down the road of taking more time on my appearance than my girlfriend does. I get a hair cut every six months when it gets too long. I'm either clean-shaven of have a full (and I mean FULL) beard as I don't even own a trimmer. Showering involves shampoo, body wash and lots of just standing under the water. No lotions, creams, scrubs, or treatments of any kind grace my sink cabinet. My skin is scared from burns, acne, and sun exposure. My hair is left free from gels etc. I have a "farmer's tan". I look like a bruiser and my face resembles a caveman with my deep eye sockets and protruding brow. Where do I go from here? How can I do what I want with the way I want to look without losing the way I am? I like the way I am for the most part. Simple, efficient, honest, and practical in all things, not just in fashion but in my entire life. Heels? I want them in my life, in public for sure. How though? They just don't fit in. almost like the way I didn't fit in when I was a boy, before I learned to not care about such things. Not to offend anyone but the last thing I what to be is "prissy" in how I look or act. To me the quintessential "Man" is six feet tall, wearing a boiler suit, covered in grease and grime, sporting a full bushy beard and a deep thunderous voice to match. That is the kind of man I see myself as. The master of fire and destruction flying down a dirt road in a car with the engine sticking out of the hood. He can fix anything with the right tools and inspires awe with how he seems to know everything about everything. He's tender to those he loves and brutal to those he must crush. This is my identity now, but it doesn't completely fit. Its amazing how a seemingly simple choice in footwear can make you feel like your whole life and personality comes into question. Where do I go from here?

Thanks for all the info guys, especially the store listings HappyinHeels. My girlfriend and I are already planning a trip to Charlotte to go shopping for the day sometime in the next month or so. Unfortunately I don't live in a very urban area. However I do know what you mean about stores that cater to the black population. I have found a number of I'll say decent options online on Ebay and Amazon in the last few days but nothing that I've gotten super excited about. It would seem that the other problem I am having is just how specific I can be when it comes to finding exactly what I want. I am trying to loosen up a bit about that though. So far the closest match I have found is the Pleaser Go-Go boots that a lot of you are probably familiar with. Since my affection for heels really took hold in the late 90's/early 00's in my middle/high school days I'd be overjoyed to find a pair of boots similar to the style teen girls were wearing then. Simple leather thick-heeled/soled boots. Heck a vintage pair from that time in my size would be worth a lot to me. My favorite pair from my current collection look like a platform combat boot with the heel stretched to 4in. I'd load up some pics but I don't have a camera. Anyway thanks again for all your suggestions and wisdom and I look forward to continuing this discussion.

I went to the doctor recently because of some severe pain I was having in my left foot. The pain was centered around the outside edge of my foot and the doctor concluded that I have several inflamed ligaments in the area where the series of bones leading back from my pinky toe meet up with my ankle/heel bones. I have had this issue for years but never bad enough to inhibit walking they way its doing now. I have a pair of 4in block heel mid-calf boots that I have been stretching to fit again and decided to at least try them on to see what would happen. After I put them on and stood up the relief was immediate! Anyone have any idea why this is so?

I come to you as a very frustrated fellow. I have been scouring the internet for over a week now and I have come to two conclusions. Number one, all shoes/boots in size 12ww and size 13m/w are either butt ugly or stripper heels. Number two, the only shoes/boots that do not fall under the first category are WAY too expensive. I am not paying more than $150.00 for any footwear or other article of clothing for that matter. This is utterly ridiculous. Maybe its because I'm looking online, I don't know. I prefer to scope out stores online before attempting to go to the "brick & mortar" location. I could also be too picky I admit that. I just want a pair of ankle/mid-calf/kneehigh boots with a very simple style, rounded or square toe, and a thick straight (not sculpted/shaped) block heel of 3in-4in in height with maybe a thin platform, in black or dark brown. Why is this so hard?!?! After discovering that virtually none of my boots fit anymore I can't pursue heeling again without new ones. Can anyone help?

Oh holy crap!!! It never ceases to amaze what I'll find during the day to tickle my funny bone. The grandmother expelling her dentures is absolutely priceless! How unfortunate that you and I live so far apart because you're my kind of people ILK. You keep doing what you're doing and I'll just keep laughing and taking a bit of inspiration dude. Hell I'm still laughing my ass off!

Also as a former diagnostic tech I must admit that win7 is the most stable OS i have ever seen. It can run very light on system resources even to the point of running great on an old netbook of mine that only had one gig of 400mhz ram, and a 1.6 intel processor. I can't suggest it over win8 though because I got outta the game professionally before it came out. I will say though that the only way i will ever give up my win 7 pro 64bit is when they pry it from my cold dead hands.

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If there is one thing I've learned, is that people don't generally get the news they need from their own mainstream media sources for one simple reason. They don't want you to know it.

Couldn't have said it better Shafted. (applause applause)

Sterile habitats, Sterile, bodies, Sterile minds. An entire civilization that will be ripe for the picking by whatever power hungry entity wishes to take advantage of it. Society has two, and only two choices here. They can either wake up and smell the coffee, or they can breed distrust and division and allow the whole of human civilization to fall. Oh sure it will be eventually rebuilt, if anyone survives the next dark ages. Civilizations never fall with a short loud bang; they fall with a nearly imperceptible whisper over generations. History teaches us that with the exception of a choice few, society always crumbles from within. This shall be humanity's fate once again if something isn't done and done soon. I thought i would include my closing arguments from my "cursed" term paper I mentioned previously in this thread. I haven't opted to include the entire thing because of some of my more inflammatory views in case anyone was wondering.

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Yeah if we're going to change perceptions we're gonna have to get out there and set the record straight. Every guy that loves heels has slightly different reasons. I personally want great men's styles with great heels incorporated. Some guys do fall into some of the categories you have mentioned in your post ILK and that's cool too. But someone needs to get out there that's in "our" circle so to speak and give journalism the voice that they haven't really heard from yet, us. I don't think it can me an anybody kinda guy though. It's gonna have to be a high profile person that can get the conversation going. I mainly shared this article to illustrate this gap that exists in what people believe vs what the facts are. I greatly appreciate your honest comments ILK.

This piece was written by a journalist from Autostraddle.com. Is self described as follows: "Autostraddle is an intelligent, hilarious & provocative voice and a progressively feminist online community for a new generation of kickass lesbian, bisexual & otherwise inclined ladies (and their friends)." However their piece about men and high heels was a fantastic read and very well executed. It also raised a lot of good questions so I thought I would share. Here is the link address. I don't know how to make it a link so you may have to copy/paste. http://www.autostraddle.com/high-heels-are-in-for-men-maybe-116761/

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Personally I think that George Carlin ought to be required teaching in high schools and universities but that's just me hehe. Love that story by the way mlroseplant. Funny stuff man. Anyway I think I may have run out of stuff to say about PC but oh well, its been a great conversation. Looking forward to the next hot-button issue.