JaBe Posted March 18, 2004 Posted March 18, 2004 Hi everyone, I just have to tell you all what I experienced lately. To begin with I just received 3 pair of nice women shoes wich I bought from a lady on the internet. We communicated by mail and I told her straight away that I'm a man who loves wearing women shoes. Her answer to that was; now that is nice to hear, no matter what, I'm selling the shoes to you and to no one else! The shoes arrived today in an excellent condition and very nicely polished! Before this transaction I tried to buy a pair of boots also from the internet. I told that woman too that I'm a man who loves to wear women shoes. She didn't have a problem with it either, but she wished that I mailed her earlier, they were just sold. She too told me that if they were still for sale, that I was the one who she would have sold them to, no matter what. I still have contact with her. For my sport and hobby (apart from women shoes) I do horseriding with two horses at the same time (Sorry, I don't really know the exact english word for this discipline). She knows about this and guess what? SHE AND HER HUSBAND WANT TO COME AND LOOK AT MY NEXT COMPETITION!!!!! on the 28th of march. It's a car ride for her round about 100km and she's coming! This is to me a sign that there really is a lot of acceptance and this (together with the other stories of the other guys on the board) will certainly help me by telling my wife. Even because I'm married to her now for 9 years, till now I didn't have the guts yet to tell her, but now I must, will and want to tell her.
bob2hh Posted March 19, 2004 Posted March 19, 2004 Just a word of caution: Check first very carefully if you have real chances of being understood and accepted. Otherwise, think over it twice and make a balance between the pros and cons of what you intend to do and its potential consequences. It is far better to end up with a pleasant surprise than a rather unpleasant one. I read some posts time ago by Anita C. where she explained very well the kind of cautions to be taken. I am not discouraging you to try it, but first sense very carefully the land you are about to venture in.
JaBe Posted March 19, 2004 Author Posted March 19, 2004 Thanks for the advice Bob. You could be right, I hope not.
chris100575 Posted March 20, 2004 Posted March 20, 2004 One piece of advice has come up more than once: If you're living together sooner or later she'll find out. Better that you should tell her than she should find out for herself. If she finds out for herself, the fact that you've been deceiving her will hurt more than the heels. Telling my wife was very difficult, but I feel much better now that it's not a secret. I also had the advantage of being able to discuss it with her, and answer her questions. Good luck whichever path you choose. Chris
JaBe Posted March 20, 2004 Author Posted March 20, 2004 Chris, The path that I will choose is to tell my wife, that's for sure. I'm just trying to get the guts to do it. There are many ways to tell, straight to the point or a bit more gentle. I allready know that I have to do it as gentle as possible. I've read a lot of topics about telling the wife, and it's absolutely true that everyone has to be honest. I have an honest character, and because I've havn't told her yet, I actually feel ashamed of myself. I must, I will and I really want to tell her. Eventually I will feel better myself too. But because I can be very direct and not very tactfull sometimes, I have to find that gentle way. I will be very thankfull for any advice to this subject.
JaBe Posted March 29, 2004 Author Posted March 29, 2004 Just a word of caution: Check first very carefully if you have real chances of being understood and accepted. Otherwise, think over it twice and make a balance between the pros and cons of what you intend to do and its potential consequences. I am not discouraging you to try it, but first sense very carefully the land you are about to venture in. Well Bob, I met the lady yesterday. She was very kind to me, we talked about the sports and about the shoes. At the end it turned up that we will be meeting each other frequently as a friend. I'm married and so is she. The fact that I like to wear women shoes, doesn't matter at all. Allthough I understand your word of caution, I think that if we want to be accepted in what we do, who we are, what we wear, we have to have more faith in the other person to get the acceptance. JaBe
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