new_look Posted October 29, 2003 Posted October 29, 2003 To us male heelwearers, especially the new ones who at the moment are still bordering the 'i dont want to be noticed' status, kids at the nightmare. They arent frightened to comment or laugh or point, and it can be embarrasing if youre not used to how to taking it. Id be interested to know how other people deal with the situations with kids. Furthermore in a hint of jealous mode, theres a yound girl who accompanies her mother in my bank, and wears some boots that have at least a 3.5in heel, (which is high for small feet) It sparks quite a bit of inner jealousy, that a little kid is enjoying what i wanna do in the way that i can only ccompare to when i was in germany trying my hardest to speak german, and 3-4 yr old kids were better at it than me. thoughts welcome... daz
Firefox Posted October 29, 2003 Posted October 29, 2003 Most of the time kids don't give a shit to be honest, and if they do who cares anyway. You can get paranoid about it. For example go down a crowded street or mall in jeans and trainers, you will hear and see kids laughing, giggling or pointing at nothing in particular. Do the same thing in heels and you will get the same reactions. The point is, 95% of the time their remarks are not directed at you, but it's easy to attribute them to it if you are nervous. As for the kid in the bank there's only one anwer to that. Do it.
sscotty727 Posted October 30, 2003 Posted October 30, 2003 I only had one time that my 5 yr old daughter said "Daddy, those look like women's shoes". They were payless shoes with a 2 inch block heel but a long flat toe. The funny thing is I have been wearing 3-inch block heeled/square toe boots for weeks now and she hasn't said a word. Actually my wife told me the other day that now she is starting to ask for higher heels too.
genebujold Posted November 23, 2003 Posted November 23, 2003 If you're new and worried about this - don't wear the pink FMPs. A pair of square-toed, 3-inch leather boots worn with jeans will NOT attract their attention. They're interested in what's different, not what blends in well with it's surroundings. And, strangely enough, we adults are the same way! Therefore, if you want to wear heels to work without causing much flack, ensure they blend. Those who write profusely about their co-workers who praise their fashion sense probably are telling the truth. Then again, their co-workers may be under a threat of punishment from central management for riling the non-conformist. Don't laugh! Many HR contracts have been re-written to include non-confrontational policies concerning alternative forms of sexual orientation and dress. Violate those by deriding the man who wears heels, and you're history. As a result, many women go overboard, praising the high-heeled fashion attire on men. Gentlemen - this doesn't advance our cause. We want people to accept us for who we are - not because it's written into a contract. Therefore, ignore what your co-workers are saying. What are your family and friends saying? What are the guys on the corner saying? Can you look in the mirror and say, "I'm fashionably dressed, today," or does the silver reflection scream otherwise? The only way we'll advance our cause is by dressing in a manner that's both progressive as well as conservative. The very fact you're wearing heels is progressive. Now - be conservative by wearing heels that don't stand so far out of the crowd that it produces an effect that's opposite to the one that's desired. I would consider 3" to 5" block / semi-block / tapered heeled black leather boots on a guy to be progressive. While we should be allowed our choice of fashion, we must also be cognizant that our choice of fashion ultimately dictates how tomorrow's generation will view us. And, yes, it is important, because we want the public's support - not the public's outcry / backlash!
Firefox Posted November 23, 2003 Posted November 23, 2003 Good precis. If you want to wear 3-5" blocks/blades/semi-tapered black boots you will generate respect. If you want to wear wild stuff, pink fluffy mules, 5" stilettos, or X-dress big style, you will get laughed at. OK, that is unfortunate, but there are a set of informal rules even in today's emancipated soceity. I don't make them, but I've got a pretty good idea what they are having worn various styles of heels in public as guy for longer than I care to remember.
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