guys always trying to get your heels off

[heidi.bier]

Does anyone here have male friends/significant others/co-workers/classmates who admire your heels but also are always trying to get you out of them? I am a rather shy, conservative girl so I tend to wear knee length or longer skirts and knee high boots with heels a lot. I am almost never bare legged. Even with that skirt and boots combination, I still wear pantyhose in case my skirt rides up when I sit down. Guys seem to be interested in seeing my legs and seem to want to get my to unzip my boot when sitting down at a movie theater or wear mini skirts or go without pantyhose ..... is this just the guys I know or are most guys like this?

[Leigh]

Some guys are like that and others arent but i just tell them "Aint Gona Happen" and that usualy does it. Had an encounter where a guy in a bar wanted me to take off my shoes so he could smell em wich i found extremely discusting and he just keept asking and wouldnt stop to a point where i was ready to leave and go home just because of him. In the end i did take of my shoe and he just though yay but NAY!!! i hit him in the head with it and then he was trown out for making trouble, so then me and my friends could party on. Other than that it hasent given me any problems. Its important to let them know your aint gona do it. Leigh.

[heidi.bier]

Way to go Leigh in letting him know when he crossed the line My friends aren't jerks and they are not trying to be rude either so I wouldn't not bonk them on the head. If they were, I can instantly turn into an ice princess and freeze them with just a stare LOL My friends are just curious as I wear either knee length skirts or longer, pantyhose and knee high boots a lot. My legs are almost never exposed which piques their curiosity

[Alexa]

I think your friends might have a point Heidi. After reading about how well wrapped up you are, and how you only dare undo your zipper a short way, I feel like saying 'Go on, be a devil and take your boots off at work!' The world won't come to an end! I dare you! All the best, Alexa

[heidi.bier]

I think your friends might have a point Heidi. After reading about how well wrapped up you are, and how you only dare undo your zipper a short way, I feel like saying 'Go on, be a devil and take your boots off at work!' The world won't come to an end!

I dare you!

All the best,

Alexa

LOL Alexa, you are funny!

At work today, I wore a deep purple dress that had an elegant frilly long skirt. I matched that with a thick black waist cinch and my fur lined knee length boots with 3" silver heel. After doing a presentation in the board room, I was walking back to my desk when I felt the supposed knee length wool sock in my right boot slide down and was slightly bunched up around my ankles. I waited for an opportunity when no one was around. Then I quickly pulled my skirt to knee level, unzipped my boot, straightened my long purple sock which took some time as it was inside my pantyhose and quickly zipped my boot back up.

The moment I unzipped my fur lined boots, I felt a rush of cold air rush in. I realized the temperature inside my boots is quite different from what it is in the office. Perhaps I am not only shy, I am used to having really warm legs.

[Alexa]

Yes, it's surprising how quickly a little microclimate builds up inside your shoes or boots and how cool it feels when you take them off. I know what you mean, even though I go barefoot often, there's that sudden feeling of openness and vulnerability when you slip a shoe off or unzip a boot. Feet are very sensual objects in some ways, and very sensitive to temperatures and textures. Alexa

[karen]

Today, I went out on a date with a guy for the first time in awhile. We were walking along the Santa Monica Pier when I accidently stumbled in my heels because one of the heels got caught between a wedge on the ground. My foot popped out and almost fell. I felt so embarrased! So this guy picked up my shoe and I caught him smelling it, lol!!! He got lucky and didn't even have to try to take my shoes off because they already are off, ha. That's the last time he's trying that. I barely know this guy.

[Alexa]

That reminds me of a few experiences I had in my student days. Once I was at a party and one of my acquaintances decided that he would like to try that old Hollywood scenario of drinking champagne from a high heeled shoe – mine in particular. After a little play fighting my legs were grasped firmly by his companions, my shoes removed and before I could struggle upright, they’d poured champagne into them and were drinking out of my favourite pair of pumps. They didn’t stop at champagne either. I think beer, wine and orange juice were involved too. Eventually, they tired of the game and I got my shoes back. As you might imagine, they were all wet and sticky for the rest of the night, and on the way home, despite my wiping them out with tissues. The shoes were never quite the same again. On another occasion, again at a party, I was sitting at a table and one of my male friends bent down, grabbed my shoes by the heels and whipped them off. He ran through the house, brandishing them like a trophy, with me following behind trying to avoid treading in broken glass and spilled food. He ran out the back and threw my shoes in a garden pond. I had to hike my skirt up and go wading in to retrieve them. I can’t help feeling that there’s some sort of sexual or fetishistic undertone to all this.

Now my social life no longer involves drunken students I find that my high heels and I are treated with a great deal more respect. By contrast, I find that boyfriends are more likely to want me to keep my heels on, especially when things progress towards the bedroom. But that’s a story for another day.

Alexa

[heidi.bier]

Yes, it's surprising how quickly a little microclimate builds up inside your shoes or boots and how cool it feels when you take them off. I know what you mean, even though I go barefoot often, there's that sudden feeling of openness and vulnerability when you slip a shoe off or unzip a boot. Feet are very sensual objects in some ways, and very sensitive to temperatures and textures.

Alexa

The term 'microclimate' is a very apt term for describing the environment inside a shoe or boot. The temperature really can be very different from the outside environment. I wore a little black dress and my knee high fur trim high heeled dress boots to a party yesterday. Since there was dancing involved, I also wore skin tone dancers pantyhose as well as a pair of thick wool socks for padding. The warmer it got inside my boots, the more sensitive my feet became!!! If an expert masseuse or reflexologist were to expertly touch the right places on my hot and sensitive feet, they could make almost make me ...... *blush*, well, that is a story for another day

Today, I went out on a date with a guy for the first time in awhile. We were walking along the Santa Monica Pier when I accidently stumbled in my heels because one of the heels got caught between a wedge on the ground. My foot popped out and almost fell. I felt so embarrased! So this guy picked up my shoe and I caught him smelling it, lol!!!

He got lucky and didn't even have to try to take my shoes off because they already are off, ha. That's the last time he's trying that. I barely know this guy.

Karen, you are cute, you get embarrassed when your heels fall off on a date?

I know thin heels look sexy but easily get caught in things. You are good in that you can balance in very high thin heels! I take it this guy you went on a date with really appreciated the effort you took to look good, dress up nicely and wear the very high heels?

That reminds me of a few experiences I had in my student days. Once I was at a party and one of my acquaintances decided that he would like to try that old Hollywood scenario of drinking champagne from a high heeled shoe – mine in particular. After a little play fighting my legs were grasped firmly by his companions, my shoes removed and before I could struggle upright, they’d poured champagne into them and were drinking out of my favourite pair of pumps. They didn’t stop at champagne either. I think beer, wine and orange juice were involved too. Eventually, they tired of the game and I got my shoes back. As you might imagine, they were all wet and sticky for the rest of the night, and on the way home, despite my wiping them out with tissues. The shoes were never quite the same again. On another occasion, again at a party, I was sitting at a table and one of my male friends bent down, grabbed my shoes by the heels and whipped them off. He ran through the house, brandishing them like a trophy, with me following behind trying to avoid treading in broken glass and spilled food. He ran out the back and threw my shoes in a garden pond. I had to hike my skirt up and go wading in to retrieve them. I can’t help feeling that there’s some sort of sexual or fetishistic undertone to all this.

Now my social life no longer involves drunken students I find that my high heels and I are treated with a great deal more respect. By contrast, I find that boyfriends are more likely to want me to keep my heels on, especially when things progress towards the bedroom. But that’s a story for another day.

Alexa

Party girl Alexa!!!!!!!!!!!!

Funny story about the guys wanting to drink out of your heels. They weren't afraid of getting bacteria infection or that you will take your heel and conk them on the head, HARD?! haha

What kind of heels do you like to wear on dates now Alexa?

Do guys actually ask you to keep the heels on everywhere you go, even at home when you are around the modern day, non-caveman like guys?

[karen]

That's kind of gross though for guys to be drinking out of your shoe like that. But wow, that is crazy. I don't think I've ever been involved in anything like that before.

[Alexa]

It piqued my curiosity as to where the idea came from. I know I‘ve seen it in old black and white films and it always struck me as a bit yucky. So I tapped ‘champagne’ and ‘shoe’ into Google and found this:

http://answers.google.com/answers/threadview?id=70830

which contains some stories about the origins of the practice. It all sounds very gallant and romantic, but it’s not necessarily very pleasant for the ladies afterwards. No reports of anyone being ill as a result of doing it though, other than the usual hangovers! I think I may have slapped a few people as I was chasing around trying to get my shoes back off them too. Playfully, but hard enough so it would hurt a bit. My revenge on the man who threw my shoes in the pond came later when he was very drunk. I came up behind him, pulled the neck of his t shirt out and tipped a drink down inside. By the time he realised what was going on I was out of the door. Seems like there was a lot of physical horseplay when I was a student.

Heidi – what I was talking about was the way some of my boyfriends over the past few years seem to have been more enthusiastic about my high heels than I was, if you can guess what I mean. They seem to find them very sexy on me, and when we get intimate, they’ve asked me to keep my shoes or boots on. Of course, as I’ve said elsewhere, on carpeted surfaces I’m likely to be found padding about in bare feet, irrespective of whether I have a partner. But even with my very small sample of boyfriends over the years, I seem to have picked up at least two of three with a thing about high heels. What I wear out on dates or for socialising depends on where I think I’m going. If there are likely to be steps, kerbs, slopes and cobbled streets, I may still wear high boots and shoes but will wear ones with a wider heel and platform that keeps my foot at less of a steep angle. If everything’s likely to be flat, and I can get the car reasonably near, that gives me licence to be a bit more creative in my choice of footwear. But as I’ve said before, there are often emergency shoes in the car, in case things don’t turn out as planned. If I’m walking in the country, I’ll have army boots, and unusually for me, socks on.

Alexa

[Cinnamon]

If anybody took my shoes off me and did anything with them like pouring liquid in them all of hell would break loose. Fortunately, I've never encountered this - maybe something to do with having a "school mistress" air about me. Rather, I've had the exact opposite reaction in terms of guys wanting me to keep my shoes on, even when everything else goes I don't mind at all, heels do wonders for the ass that age has a habit of weighing down. As for shoes slipping off... I've had it happen a few times and it's all rather funny. I don't like to take myself too seriously and provided nobody's hurt (mostly myself), I'll have a giggle about it. In fact at a wedding in the past few days, I had to brave a rather uneven lawn in red Pigalles. I sank a heel and nearly flew into the father of the groom (he seemed rather amused too haha). Another occasion was wearing 5.5" stilettos to an air field on a hot day. I wouldn't recommend it to anybody... the tarmac seemed to melt a bit and had a glue-like effect which made for a farcical little scene of losing one shoe and then losing the other as I was putting my foot into the first lost shoe.

[Alexa]

Well, I wasn't too pleased about it at the time either, hence my taking revenge. I'm not normally spiteful! Yes, I can certainly say that high heels have helped my love life! Alexa

[heidi.bier]

First off Alexa, pouring a drink down his shirt is great revenge! Also, the link you sent about the history of guys drinking champagne out of women's high heel slippers was interesting. I know guys like heels as it makes our legs look longer and our posture look better but I had no clue alcohol and high heel slippers had such a history. I guess that is only in older movies as that fad seemed to have fizzled, most likely for sanitary reasons although I know wine glass makers are very creative and who knows what shape glasses they will come up with next. Alexa, Cinnamon, you both said that guys have asked you to keep your high heel shoe or sandals on when intimate. Is that particularly difficult for you? Does it get tangled up with sheets, other clothing items or stab him in areas you don't want stabbed? I also take it the high heels usually fall by themselves once the action gets intense, doesn't it?

[Alexa]

Whether my shoes fall off in the course of bedroom fun depends on what I’m wearing. Boots and strappy shoes tend to stay on, of course, but pumps tend to drop off unless I make a conscious effort to remain aware of what my feet are doing. I’ve not often damaged bedding with my heels but I once badly scratched a man’s back with a metal heel tip that was slightly burred over as a result of walking around outdoors on concrete. We were sufficiently carried away at the time for neither of us to notice what was happening. Fortunately, he didn’t seem to mind and was even rather proud of it! One event that comes to mind, which is not related to lovemaking but was nevertheless a source of much laughter and embarrassment, concerns a bouncy castle outside a pub. We had been inside socialising and when we eventually left, our attention turned to the bouncy castle in the pub garden. We all piled on and were bouncing and wrestling when I felt one of my heels rip the fabric and there was a sudden escape of air. The castle collapsed inwards on us. It looked quite scary in the moonlight. We were able to make our escape before anybody saw what we had done. The rather sad deflated castle remained on the pub lawn for several weeks before anybody took it away.

Alexa

[heidi.bier]

Alexa, you certainly have had a lot of adventures in your heels, be it back in college, be it in the bedroom or at that pub with the inflatable castle! With regards to the bedroom, do the guys have a preference for tall boots, strappy shoes, pumps or sandals? At home, I usually switch to flats unless I am with a date. If I am with a date, then I leave my high heel boots on at home. Unlike the guys Alexa knows, most of my guys keep wanting to take off my high heeled boots. After one romantic date, I was getting playful and cozy with a date, drinking white wine on the couch when he said he wanted to see what my legs look like. Perhaps the white wine had lowered my inhibition but I almost let him unzip my boot when I realized that I was in a very formal looking little black dress with opaque black pantyhose and knee high black leather boots with tall heel. Very dark, very elegant, very mysterious. However, underneath my black boots was a pair of knee high, bright red socks with cartoon characters all over it. It would ruin my look for sure so he ended up having to settle for me with my heels on. Funny story about the inflatable bouncy castle outside the pub. I am surprised they didn't use a bicycle tire repair seal to patch up the leak and re-inflate the castle. It would have been very interesting to see Alexa trying to make her escape from a sinking castle under the full moon at night in her heels!

[Alexa]

There are firms which offer a bouncy castle repair service, but it works out expensive once you’ve paid the call out fees. So no wonder they didn’t get it fixed immediately. I don’t want to give the impression that my life is one long round of passion and high heel adventures. You’re reading the anecdotes of the last twenty years or so, including my student days, compressed into a few posts. Thinking back, it feels like most of that time has been spent with piles of paper, books, computers and – the bane of my life – filling forms in.

As regards what men like, I’m not sure about sandals because I hardly ever wear any, so haven’t really had a chance to sample their reactions. Boots seem to be popular, as one might expect, and there was one man I had a three year relationship with who liked the idea of shoes being locked on women’s feet. We had some Demonia XTC style pumps with locking ankle straps that he presented me with one birthday and we spent that summer going to arts festivals with me teetering along hanging onto him for support. Google them and you’ll see how high the heels are. We broke up because he was increasingly controlling in other ways. My clothes, my hair and how I spent my time were all things he wanted to influence. Some of these things I acceded to, because it made him happy and his requests corresponded to things I was interested in anyway, but it came to a head when he lost his job and spend most of his time absorbed in the online game World of Warcraft. He wanted me to give up work too, but at that point it felt like my career was just starting to go somewhere. I could give up work and devote myself to an increasingly inward-looking, controlling and argumentative man or I could make something of myself. That was four years ago, and I think I made the right choice!

That’s veered off the subject of footwear a little, but I hope it gives you a bit of context.

Alexa

[heidi.bier]

Regarding the funny bouncy inflatable castle repair, it is really just applying a big, super sticky sheet of rubber to it. It is the same used for inflatable rafts or snow tubes and it can be done in under 60 seconds. A good analogy is applying a bandaid to a wound. I know because one time my friends and I went snowtubing in the winter. A friend of mine wore stiletto heeled pumps for reasons unknown to me and punctured her bfs snow tube. He took out the repair kit and was done in about 30 seconds. We were snowtubing again and he was very careful where he put her feet Those shoes you mentioned are aptly named as demonic hahahahahaha Most of the guys I let get close to me are pretty easy going, no control freaks, thankfully. However, some are curious as to why I wear heels so much, especially my fur lined high heel leather boots and pantyhose. The obsession they have is to see my actual leg which they might one day get to see. Might being the key word. In the mean time, I plan to keep them in suspense

[Alexa]

I'll be sure to consult you Heidi next time i need to repair a bouncy castle. Funnily enough, it doesn't come up that often! Alexa

[heidi.bier]

Speaking of sinking one's heels into things, I was at a client's office today who had a really thick shag carpet. The carpet was so thick that my heels kept on sinking into the carpet! Has anyone had experience walking in something like that? I had so much trouble walking in the thick carpet that I almost considered removing my fur lined high heel boots and just walking around in my pantyhose and sock covered feet ......

[Heel Convert]

My boyfriend is always getting me to keep my heels on in the bedroom, he's a real heels man. He loves the stockings, heels combo - seems to bring the best out of him

[heidi.bier]

My boyfriend is always getting me to keep my heels on in the bedroom, he's a real heels man. He loves the stockings, heels combo - seems to bring the best out of him

Interesting. I always thought guys would focus on two areas a little higher up. What sort of heels does he like? Are you going with 3 inch sandals or knee high boots or pumps?

How long do the heels stay on for on a date?

[karen]

That's why sometimes, I feel empowering when I'm in heels. It makes the legs look sexy, and men like that. The higher the heel, the better. I could probably get my way most of the time with them, lol, but I'm not like that.

[heidi.bier]

LOL Karen. I know exactly what you mean. Heels can be playful too. I know my guys like to play with mine but I never let them remove my heels.

[Heel Convert]

Actually his favourites are my 4in black peepholes, they're classy, but a little naughty too. They really get him in the mood, so once we hit the bedroom they don't come off all night.

[heidi.bier]

Actually his favourites are my 4in black peepholes, they're classy, but a little naughty too. They really get him in the mood, so once we hit the bedroom they don't come off all night.

I take it you have to consciously make an effort to keep them from falling off during play though, correct?

[Heel Convert]

I don't usually have a problem with them slipping off, they're quite snug

[heidi.bier]

That's the exact same thing my guy friends say about my high heel boots as well, "they are too snug!" hahaha

[Heel Convert]

Since I've been wearing heels I've noticed that I'm getting a lot more attention from guys. Sometimes I think my bf has fallen for my shoes and not me - not that I'm complaining

[Alexa]

It certainly changes the way people relate to you. If I'm wearing heels it is as if I'm in a completely different social world. Alexa