The Shark

I've never seen any guys out in heels anywhere - and I'm a pretty observant person. I'm constantly looking at what shoes people are wearing - alas, no guys in heels.

I always loved those metal-tipped heels - hope they come back in style again!

Ever since I was about 11 or 12, I've had an attraction to women wearing high heels. During my teen years, I developed a strong attraction to girls wearing classic pumps. All the girls wore pumps back in the 80's, and I was always turned on by them. I love the way pumps look, especially how they give a woman's foot that high arch and the little "hump" on the top side of the foot - very sexy! Somewhere along the way I developed a part of me that wanted to experience being feminine and sexy, and wanting to know what the girls felt when they wore certain things - even though I'm totally straight & love women. I started by wearing Speedos, since I wanted to know what wearing a bikini was like. From there it progressed to wearing thongs in the late 80's. As far as when I started thinking about trying on heels, I don't know where that really happened. I didn't try heels until a couple years ago, when I discovered this site - but I think the desire to wear heels has always been there. For some reason I never really thought about getting any of my own until recently.

I hate flip-flops with a passion. So many people these days go out in public looking like they just rolled out of bed. Agreed - flip flops are only for the beach, pool, shower, etc. - they are not proper footwear. On top of that, I simply hate seeing people's ugly feet & toes. Men should never wear flip flops as shoes. Some women shouldn't either...

Agree with newheeler above - think that I'd wait until my daughter was 12 or 13 before letting her regularly wear heels. Maybe if she was 9 or 10 I might let her try some at home, but something more basic, no stilettos or platforms like in the op's story.

Just one pair of black platform pumps (my avatar). Would like some more in varying color & toe type.

I know that round toes are more comfortable to wear, but I just love the look of pointed-toe shoes the best! Another vote for almond toes.

I voted "no", because I don't wear them now, or have I in the past. However - I would be open to wearing one in a casual situation - around the house or out & about on a hot day, to the beach/pool as a coverup. Wouldn't wear one to work though. Unfortunately, I don't think I have the legs to pull that off. I'd also have to start shaving my legs too - not sure how my wife would go for that.

These kinds of stories are exactly why I'm all in favor of school uniforms. Too many kids worried about putting on a fashion show with high end shoes & designer clothes. Wear what you want at home, but when you're in school it's time to focus on your studies.

Dr. Shoe had it right. Cheerleaders don't wear higher heeled boots because it could be a bit dangerous for the girls doing their dance routines in high heels. Even though they do mostly simpler routines, there is a lot of spinning and jumping involved. You'd defeinitely see a lot of twisted or broken ankles - not good. As much as I'd love to see the girls in higher heels, I kinda' like those go-go boots too!

I don't know why we have separate sizes for women and men anyway. Just use one size convention for everyone. Then it makes it easier for everyone to find their size in any shoe, without trying to figure out... " now I wear X in mens, so that means a Z in womens", or vice versa...

This is an easy answer for me... I will - at the least - still wear heels as much as I do now, if not more. My wife doesn't wear heels all the time, but she will indulge me on occasion and put on some great 4" pumps or some platform heels. She just got a pair of platform pumps that I can't wait to see on her! Where I work, I see women all the time wearing great shoes & boots that really get me "revved up", so to speak. So for me seeing women in heels where I work, or on my wife... something in my head is very envious of these women, in that they get to experience wearing these shoes. To me, it makes me want to wear heels (especially pumps) even more and be able to experience the thrill of wearing some sexy shoes.

Well the day has finally arrived!! In one of my earlier posts, I mentioned how my GF has challenged me on a few occasions to wear heels & see what it feels like (even though I already have done it, shoe doesn't know it) . I have told her that I would try it, but I won't put them on in the store - we have to buy a pair & bring them home. Last month she chalenged me again, but her friend was in town & staying with us, so I just blew it off. Just earlier this week, we were having some fun texting each other & I said that I'd love to see her wearing ONLY a sexy pair of heels - so we agreed that it's time to get her another pair of "fun" shoes. During the course of conversation, she remarked about how uncomfortable heels are to wear - I replied saying they can't all be that bad. So once again, she issued the challenge to me - and I gladly accepted! So we agreed that when we get her a new pair of sexy heels, that we're also going to get a pair for me too! Tomorrow is our shopping day, and I can't wait to get another pair of heels and wear them for her! I'm really hoping that this will become something new in which I start wearing heels with her, which will also let me build up a nice collection of shoes! Now the big question is... what kind of heels to get? I've got the pair in my avatar.

Heelster & Dr. Shoe have got the right idea. The pictures that Heelster has given us links for are great examples of the overall concept.

Whatever it is, it will most likely be tacky and ugly.....and it will undoubtedly be rammed down our throats by supposed 'celebrities' endorsing the products.

The age of class and elegance seems to have gone, so I'll be sticking to my favourite online shops that still sell stylish designs.

I hate to agree with you, but you're right.

You'd think with the popularity of "Mad Men", that women would be embracing the glamourous styles of the early 60's - but in reality, it seems like the trends are going away from the classy & elegant stuff and are going more towards the casual.

I wish that the Uggs would go away - I can't stand those things.

Hopefully there will be a next one. The fact that you already "chickened out" twice, she may think you're really not interested, and not bother asking you again.

Fingers crossed that I'm wrong...

Yeah, me too...

But I'm sure that there will be a next time. I've promised to buy her a pair of Kenneth Cole pumps soon. And once in a while while we're out shopping for other stuff, we'll stop in the shoe stores. No matter what kind of shoes she's after, we always look through the heels (for her). Sometimes we'll look for what we call "playtime" shoes that have higher heels (4"-5"), sometimes with platforms. She'll ask me to pick out a few different pairs for her that I like & she'll try them on. A lot of the time she'll complain about how uncomfortable they are, so we don't always buy them . But this is usually when she'll challenge me to put on some heels to see what it feels like. As I said, I'll take her up on the offer - but I'll tell her that we'll have to buy a pair & I'll put them on at home.

Those should keep your feet warm in the winter - HAHAHA!! Enjoy!

Yeah, my GF has challenged me too whenever I happen to be shoe shopping with her. Of course, I'd love her to get more high heels, but she always complains about how they hurt when she tries them on (she's a nurse & is used to wearing sneakers all day at work, so of course any heel will feel uncomfortable to her). But yes, she has challenged me a couple of times - the last occasion was when we were at a DSW shoe store & she was trying on some various heels. I told her that I would try on a pair at some point. She wanted me to try on some heels right then & there, but I chickened out because the store was quite crowded and I didn't want to be on display while trying on heels. There was another time that we were out shopping later one night, just going to a Target store for some things. As we pulled into the parking lot, there was another shoe store next to the Target & my GF asked me if I wanted to go shoe shopping. At that point I was just tired & wanted to get our stuff at Target & get home, so I kind of blew it off & said no (which I sort of regret). So now I'm waiting for the next "challenge opportunity" to happen - it'll probably be the next time I go shoe shopping w/ my girl. I'll start picking out some heels for her & she'll likely throw down the challenge again. But next time, I WILL accept her challenge - but I'll say that she has to buy me a pair & I will put them on at home. So I'm hoping that this will be the start of us wearing heels together, at least at home. I'll use the opportunity for her to get me something I don't already have (maybe some high-heeled clogs or ankle boots that I can wear with jeans?).

I've got a pair of Beatle boots! Here's where I got them from:

http://www.beatwear.co.uk/

I've got the "Cavern" boot (w/ high heel, of course) - I wear these every now & then with my black suit or black dress pants - they look great! Never had any negative comments about them either.

These boots (IMO) tend to go better with dress clothes, than they do with jeans. Maybe some of the other boots or other materials they're made in go better with jeans, but I wanted the authentic Beatle boots when I got them.

Heelster - now that's what I'm talking about!! We need to show more examples of regular guys wearing heels - this is a great picture - good find! I love the outfit in that picture - even though his boots have stiletto heels, they don't look girly & they work very well with what he's wearing. Thanks again!

Majo - those shoes are hot!! I LOVE platform pumps - have fun with your new heels!

That's the best part about the holidays - I can walk into any shoe store and comfortably walk through the entire ladies' section and shop for heels. And during any interaction with a salesperson or checkout person, I can always use the "I'm doing some Christmas shopping" excuse & no worries! I'll even get a gift receipt upon checkout.

Nice pumps!!

I was reading morpho & upby5's comments above. Both of you make great points about how to get heels for men out there. I think that upby5 really hit on something, in that what we really need is for some sort of celebrity exposure, typically by way of a movie - this is how everything seems to get popular now. I don't think that we need a shoe designed by some "star" designer. If some of the more common shoe makers started designing & making mens' heels, it would go a long way. Sure, you could have some high-end designer make heels for men - but I'm not going to pony up $1500 for a pair of shoes. Something in the $50 - $150 per pair range would be a lot more effective. I think that morpho eluded to something in his post above that everything coming out today is made for women, and nothing new is for men. This is perhaps the biggest part of the problem. I've seen lots of heels marketed for women that are basically mens' shoes with heels. So I ask: why were/are these shoes not marketed for men? As guys, we just sit back and watch the women continue to hijack our shoe styles, while we can't adopt any of theirs. We need to find a way to let the shoe companies to know that there actually is a market for mens' heels. We need to petition them, write them, call them - somehow let them know that a lot of us guys would like to wear heels. Otherwise things will remain the same and we'll be stuck raiding the womens' shoe aisles forever. Case in point: the two pictures I've attached are of "womens" shoes. One is a basic black loafer (this was really popular in the late 90's) & the other picture is a more recent trend of a woman's high heel oxford shoe. Both shoes (especially the oxford) are nothing more than men's shoes with high heels. So why are these made just for women? Another thing I'd like to bring up is some of the recent media coverage of the mens' heels that are making their way into the fashion world. The media call them "meels", and all of the pictures I'm seeing are of some very "over the top" gay guys who look like Grace Jones wearing some insanely crazy clothes and some variation of womens' platform stripper shoes. This does nothing to help most men who want to wear heels. In fact, it actually does a lot to hurt our "cause". IMO, here's what needs to be done to help high heels become more acceptable for men: For the time being... what we need is some mens' shoes and boots to be made with a chunkier high heel - say a 2" or 3" heel - and ACTUALLY MARKET THEM FOR MEN!! Who would've thunk it?? (While we're at it, let's take back some of the heeled shoes like the ones in the pictures I attached). And when you advertise them, show them being worn by regular guys, perhaps a guy wearing them out on a date with his wife, GF, etc. If you want celebrity exposure, a James Bond movie would be good, or maybe get one of the guys like Brad Pitt, George Clooney, etc. to wear them. Women love those guys & if they wear a mens' heel, then that would go a long way to gain acceptance. (Wasn't it John Travolta in Saturday Night Fever who was responsible for the popularity of mens' platform heels in the 70's?) I also own a pair of "Beatle" boots - they're men's boots (exactly what the Beatles wore in the 60's) & have a 2.5" heel. They go great with my black suit. I wear them every now & then - nobody ever accuses me of wearing womens' shoes when I wear those boots. That should at least get the ball rolling. Then over time, you can start adopting some of the more feminine style like pumps, mules, clogs, etc. & work in some feminine-style heels into the mens' shoes. The point is that you got to start somewhere, but taking baby steps is always a good strategy to gaining acceptance for something, rather than just immediately going "all out". That's my opinion & I'm sticking to it.

Not at all - I was 100% hetero before trying heels & I still am, even after buying & wearing a pair of platform pumps. No attraction to guys whatsoever. I just enjoy the feeling of wearing heels.