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I am going into year three of my purge - or is it four? The feeling does not go away but my wife is very intolerant now so am resisting the urge to buy to replace that which I got rid of. I have one pair of high heel boots and that is it. I cannot bring myself to part with them but keep them buried deeply in the closet in a box so as not to offend my wife. She knew about my love of womens boots well before we got married and even didn't mind me wearing in public but has since grown very intolerant. So to keep the peace I supress it. This is my second purge in my life. The first one I still regret as I dumped in the Goodwill drop a pair of mid 70's stretch white knee high boots. I have never found another pair like them. The ones they make now are not the same. My biggest regret at not buying was a pair of the Sudini brand boots called Silver. Nice tall boot with a semi-bladed heel. No boots being made with bladed heels any more to my knowledge and Sudini is out of business. They made a lot of nice boots but the styles I liked were coming around right as my buying boots was beginning to create stress on the home front so was already moving toward a purge. As others have written, the love never goes away.

Wearing a women's size 12 I have almost never found a tall boot that was narrow enough in the shaft. I have never tried having boots modified but your comments here at having a professional with the correct tools do it sounds like a good route to take. I tried doing it myself once and ended up with a fairly amatuerish looking result.

I'm a more mature (in age only) male. I've had an intense interest in high heels all of my adult life.

There seems to be quite a variety of subjects that can be explored here. I am looking forward to parusing many of them in the near future.

Best regards

Welcome. Parallel universes we are in it seems. I too was new to this site at one time but with a lifelong interest in heels.

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Zero for the past three years. Wife totally disapproves lately and don't want to put up with the grief. Well that and the down turn in the economy has slowed my spending on many "optional" things. It's impossible to justify a nice pair of women's high heeled boots that are strictly fashion and little function.

When I was about 17. Before that it was my sister's and mother's winter boots before I out grew them but those weremostly flat heeled styles. My first pair were 2 inch heels, black stretch gogo type boots.

I wore black, stretch, knee high patent boots, with 2 inch heels all my senior year in high school. No authority ever told me I had to stop. They were the height of women's fashion at the time and I wanted to wear the same myself. That ws in the 70's. How times change. The young man in question here was dressed very sharply. As others have commented it could be way worse. If he can't wear heels then the women can't either. That sounds fair and supports the reasoning given by the administrator - safety. I am not gay and by my understanding the gay community does not like the label that dressing as such is gay.

You must look sharp.

Knee high, side zipper, moderate heels = 2 - 2.5"

1. How old have you been, when you got your first heels? 17 -18 2. What was the reason (i.e. special event like carneval/ halloween; because you lost a bet; because you felt in love for them) For winter wear 3. Who paid the bill? parents 4. How much did you spend? maybe $20? 5. How and where did you buy? (retailer: grabbed and paid or tried them on; mail order company/ online; etc.) Catalog "Haynes" 6. Were you allowed to wear them at home (i.e. after of that special purpose)? Yes I was blessed with extremely narrow feet and gradually convinced my parents to buy for me each winter womens boots - but you know the ugly, rubber snow kind. When I hit 17 my feet had grown to a mens size 10 AAA (Womens 12 . There remained nothing available for a guy that narrow. The local shoe store could no longer fit me into the usual clunky snow boots for women, size 11 being the largest size they stocked. Mom ran across boots in size 12 in a catalog and mentioned it to me. We order them. When they arrived they were the stretch patent boots popular in the mid 1970's with a 2 inch heel. I was allowed to keep them for snow wear. I wore them 100% of the time that winter - school, church ect. not just for inclement weather. My parents allowed it after questioning me if I was certain i wanted to wear them publicly and I said yes. They had known of my wish to wear feminine boots for many years. These were definitely not guys boots but the styles of the time many guys boots were pushing the heights in heels so I could get away with denying they were women's boots to the few rude people who made a fuss over them. I recollect that the usual shoe store I went to for wome's snow boots said they no longer had women's snow boots for me that a guy could wear and that the size twelve boots they did have were difinitely women's boots - pointing at the white, stretch patent boots in their display. OMG! If I had money and they were willing those would have been my first heeled boots! I did not think I could justify such a purchase to my parents. Thanks!

I have bought and tried on in stores as well as purchased online but more online than in person. I would love to have a Nortstroms near me. They sound great and their on line selection is a mainstay for me.

It depends on a few factors. I buy from shops if the shoes speak to me or the shop has a sale on. I buy mostly from Ebay as you can grab some seriously cheap bargains there.

I just bought the attached Carvela/Kurt Geiger shoes on Ebay for £15. They ended at a silly My girlfriend will wear them a few times and then we'll re sell them on Ebay.

I also peruse the online shops and buy shoes in the sales.

I've hardly ever bought full priced shoes as I don't see the point as by waiting a little you can almost always get the same shoe for half price. I buy quite a few pairs and wear then until Im bored of the and sell them on Ebay and usually make a profit or a very small loss.

Oh I'm a UK 7 or 8 EU 40 or 41 so I can buy anything the shops are willing to sell.

For the most part if I like a style I need to jump at the opportunity and pay full price for it as my size American 12, tends to not last long in stock. They just do not make as many that size as size 8 for example. Though have on occasion picked up a great deal on closeout in 12.

Sorry, I don't like them. In fact there haven't been any "heels for men" that I have like so far. The designers seem to be the ones who are stuck in a box.

Same here.

For some reason mens high heeled styles I have seen seem to have to retain the same clunky style as their mainstream men's fashions. Even clunkier women's fashions which begin to approach men's styles remain more elegant.

Only one man many years ago in the 1980's. He was a customer of a store where I worked and I saw him just about every week. He was buying his shoes from the same catalog(s) I shopped in. I never did talk to him about his shoes/boots as we were to conduct business without comment. We saw some much more unusual things than that I can assure you.

I am in full agreement there with you. So many times do I see a style I want and they are not made to 12 anyway much less stocked in stores. Trying them on first is so much more productive. There have been a few small stores that I have found in the past who carried 12 and would allow me to try on and sell boots to me as well as special order for approval, styles that came in 12. One even would give me a courtesy call when they got in their new stock of winter boots. Like any shoe trying on first is very helpful especially when factoring in gettignthe shaft of a tall boot that is not too tight or loose fitting.

Cool question. I voted for smaller. I take a size 11 ladies. I remember though it was so much easier fitting Boots when I was 14 and 15 years old, when I took a Ladies size 9. 11's are not difficult to find but there is so much more selection in the sizing 10 and below.

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Ah those were the days. I wore a women's size 8 boot when I was 14. It was just a matter then of finding a boot that could "pass" as my parents would not go for more feminine styles - boots were meant to protect your feet from the snow, wet and cold not be a fashion item. As my feet grew the choice decreseaed until at 12 there were very little choices to be had. There were still a few but pretty much impossible to find in regular shoe stores where I could go to get a new pair as my feet grew each winter.

One of our favorite shoe stores fit me in womens snow boots each year through size 11 under the premise mens boots were too wide. My feet were a mens AAA at the time so width was not an issue in women's sizes. When I hit 12 they had no womens "utility" snow boots in 12 though they had fashionable knee high stretch, white boots in my size - but told me they really are not for guys - they cannot pass. Man, I so wanted to get those.

Later on my mother spotted a pair of what appeared to be black utility snow boots in a catalog in my size 12 and ordered a pair for me. They turned out to be the strech patten boots so popular at the time. I was in heaven all that winter and winters after that.

Those were the days!

One or two sizes smaller would be great. I take a 12B or C USA size so width is not the issue. Many more options appearing in my size range in recent years. 30 years ago there were only a few brands that came in that size though they did nice styles.

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Feel free to discuss.

The only question I have does one have to be "gay" to have mescaline or feminine features? Or does it include the sexually straight as well?

One does not have to be gay to have both features. The slightest appearance that one looks gay and then you are labeled as such.

Very powerful film.

Narrow minded people want to destroy that which they do not want to comprehend. Unfortunately though a minority, they are often the most vocal.

This site as you know, is a great alternate universe. Everyone here is great with the shared interest in heels. No labels dished out here. Welcome.

Just a quick note to say thanks for this forum. I enjoy heels whenever I can. Unfortunately my wife doesn't wear them often but she does on occasion. I have several pairs myself but since the economy has turned, our collection hasn't grown in some time.

I look forward to reading everyone's experiences with heels and hopefully be able to share some of mine.

Parallel universe. Same here - wife rarely wears - I love to wear.

Economic downturn = cut income = no new heels in past couple years.

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Hello and welcome, hold on to that girlfriend.

Welcome and agreed - hold onto that girlfriend.

I am deep in the midst of a purge at this time. Been going on for over a year. Great conflict but assured my wife I would never wear boots meant for women in public again. She ahs immense worry about what others will think of me. I have one favorite pair of boots left - cannot bring myself to let them go. My wife knows about them and they are hidden deeply in the closet. It is fine for me to wear them around the house - just not outside.

I have been away for a long time with an Achilles tendon injury. I had surgery in March to repair said ruptured tendon. I have yet to try heels since the injury. No, I did nto injure it when in heels - just running - but that is another story. Does anyone have experience with this injury and returning to heeled footwear. Presently low heel clogs or barefeet are the only way I can go without distracting pain. Physical therapy is ongoing. The doctor says to expect recovery to take at least a year. One thing I did learn from this related to the opening post is that atrophy sets in fast. I lost most muscle tone in the leg within 6 weeks. Still do not have it back in 5 months of PT. Strechting the tendon is a constant routine as it becoming shorter was two fold - 1. from the surgery method they use to repair them and 2. that at first they have your foot essentially set as though it is in a high heel all the time to reduce stress on the tendon while scare tissue forms.

Do any of the guys out there have a review/experience for/with the Sudini style Briana featured on this site? It looks like an elegant boot and the descritption says it has a slender shaft which would work great for me. Many "slender shafted" boots turn out to be too generous for me. Am curious if anyone has experience with this or other similar styles from Sudini. Have often wondered which reviews of women's hells on the site are posted by men.

Dear Forum: I have been away for a long time - not even lurking without logging on. Am glad to find the forum still exsits and is thriving. Knowing that it is here helps. I am at a low end of heel wearing in my life. I have been working on retreating from the fashion choice for the last year. My wife totally disapproves nowadays - changed from when we were first married. When two people love each other you will do things that do not always agree with your wishes. It has not bothered me much to get here. I do not even wear around the house when I am home alone. I have one pair of women's 2.5" heeled boots left in my wardrobe - got rid of the rest of a couple dozen pairs. I have not purchased any new heels in two years - bleak economic times being a good excuse not to spend money. However, as many have said and I know from experience, the taste for heels will not go away. It has resurfaced recently. We had a rare snow fall recently which has always been one indicator that it is boot season. Also another indicator of the durability of the taste in fashion is that I cannot bring myself to get rid of that last pair of boots though they are a tight fit due to my feet enlarging with older age. The pair I have left (greay knee high with side zip c.1985 Trotters brand) were always a favorite, fit perfect, and felt like they were made for me. I now take a women's American size 13 and there are some really attractive available. Good to see the regulars and new contributors posting and active in the heel scene.