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Hi hiheellover23, you do indeed have a very special partner there. Well done to both of you.

It is a look I like too, and the look I adopt for myself!

After a quick look at the Zappos site, I saw these which I like very much.

http://www.zappos.com/n/p/dp/33720375/c/208.html

I'm not sure of the exact laws in the US concerning smoking in public places, but last year whilst on holiday in New York, I was disgusted by the number of smokers who stood in the doorways outside their office blocks puffing away, which was very unpleasant for people just walking by. A simple ban on smoking in indoor public places just isn't enough I'm afraid. We all should have the right to breathe clean air, but often we are denied that. Whilst out for a meal in a Chinese restaurant in Manchester on New Years Eve, I could not believe the number of smokers who light up whilst others are still eating. I will chose my venue more carefully in future!

100% agree with you Chris. I appreciate all the work the moderators, past, present and future do for us in the running of this and the last forum. So, here's a big thanks from me, keep it up! Dave

I agree Chris, the owners of those vehicles who display those signs are doing so in a misguided belief that they will affect other persons' driving habits. If we needed to be reminded that our driving isn't up to scratch then we shouldn't be driving at all, or if it's an excuse for possible irratic driving, then again, we shouldn't be behind the wheel. To continue my ranting........... Why do people drive around with their fog lights on when it's not foggy or snowy? ...........and those middle lane 'hoggers' on the motorway!

for without honesty between both people, relationships tend to get hurt, or torn apart completely.

Absolutely. Trying to hide and keep secrets of any kind can, and often do, break relationships. I know, I've been there, fortunately for me, we managed to work through all the tears and pain that my attempt at keeping my 'fashion choice in footwear' secret was causing.

Although you may currently find it hard to come to terms with the fact that your husband likes HH boots, through discussion and openess between yourselves, a solution might be found. However, a word of caution, if your plan is stop him wearing his boots, I fear it would possibly force him to be more secretive. I'm not saying you should completely change your perspective on him wearing/or not wearing his boots either, but at first, a compromise must be found.

I will assume, possibly wrongly too, that you are not happy for him to wear hh boots because of what other people might say, as was my wifes initial reaction, but I can say most other people really don't care or notice what I have on my feet, this has been proven time and time again when we are out together when I am wearing hh boots (I prefer the 'block' kind of heels for myself).

At the end of the day, please don't lose sight of the fact that your your husband hasn't broken any laws or harmed anyone, and keeping a secret from a loved one will have been tearing him apart inside for a long while, quite possibly more than the pain you feel for him having kept a secret.

I wish you both the best of luck in reaching a happy outcome.

On the cover is David Bowie in what looks like 3" block heel'ed mens shoes/boots

David Bowie has worn 'heels' on many occasions, and many hold his fashion sense in very high regard, so how come not many copy him?

Heel-D, JeffB and Shafted, please don't go thinking I was recommending those International Male trousers, I was only trying to help. It is without doubt, that I simply love the other one's though, so much so, that I own at least three pairs that are similar to the red pair, but all mine are black!

Hi Luxxyheels,

I too really like this style of trousers.

It's a style that is comparable to our footwear choice in the respect that we have to shop from women's stores!

One other problem that sourcing these kind of trousers brings, is finding trousers that have a longer inside leg length.

Shops in the UK that have stocked this kind of trousers have been Long Tall Sally, Miss Sixty, H&M and Kookai to name a few!

Remember that most, but not all 'womens' trousers have the zip opening on the lefthand side, the opposite to the mens side. That's a topic that's been discussed on this forum before, so all I can add to that is no-one has ever noticed, when I wear womens trousers.

However, there is the International Male web site, that carries a style that might be of interest. Here is a picture of the style............

And here is a link to the International Male web site........Click here

A very big thank you from me to those responsible for getting this forum back up and running. Although I'm not a big poster, I have missed checking up on what's going on in 'our' part of cyberspace! It's great being back amongst friends! Thanks again to all involved

A very big thank you from me to those responsible for getting this forum back up and running. Although I'm not a big poster, I have missed checking up on what's going on in 'our' part of cyberspace! It's great being back amongst friends! Thanks again to all involved

Just to clarify the situation, I should have started this thread by saying that my wife had 'casually' mentioned previously to her friend that I wear "higher than normal heels for a man!"

No heel height or styles had been mentioned, so I don't know what her friend actually had envisaged.

The boots in question have been in the wardrobe for a long time, and I'd bought other pairs that I prefer to wear, so we thought we'd put them on ebay as my collection is getting quite large!

This is when my wife 'showed' the boots to her friend, the 'conversation' was actually via email.

My wife's response was, "perhaps you should buy them for your husband!"

Here is a picture of the boots, they didn't sell by the way. Even though I haven't worn them for ages, I'm quite happy to keep them.......................................................................just incase I want to wear them again!

Up until now, my HH boot wearing had been fairly low key, with only my wife knowing about it. But she surprised me by telling and showing one of her workmates a pair of my 4" block heeled boots. To which her friend said, "Did he know they were womens!" Funny or what?

Over the past month or so, more rain has come down than I care to remember! Anyway, to get to the point, I've been out and about wearing a pair if knee high 3" block heeled boots, and they've taken a soaking. One of the boots has developed a slight movement of the heel, well just infront of the heel actually. The heel is fastened to the sole very well, but the movement would indicate that the 'last' (I think that's what they call it) which appears to be made of sandwiched cardboard type stuff has become to de-laminate. Is it possible to have this repaired? If so, is it a job I can do myself? Or like I suspect, are they ruined?

If you actually selected to watch some of the more 'exciting' sports at the Olympics, you might enjoy it! Take the track cycling for instance, the GB team has done fantastically well. Some of those 'races' had me sat on the edge of my seat.

So what should I do different to get the picture included with the note?

Thanks

Try putting the after the address, and not after your post.

Exitman 1, You won't have any problems at all with those. I was like you appear to be, but am upto 4" heels now. Albeit mostly covered in longer length bootleg jeans! Go for it. After your first couple of outings, it gets easier, believe me. Dave

Absolutely! Great site. Great people. I thank you. Have a great Christmas, and all the best for 2004. Dave

I don't know whether I had a touch of autism but on meeting someone else who has been diagnosed I notice a lot of similarities of behaviour, an almost obsessive need to acquire information on subjects that interest me with almost total disregard for those that don't, and highly efficient problem solving abilities.

This kind of behaviour is normally referred to as a 'Genius'.

Hi to you all, Where do I begin? I'm in a very similar situation, as most of us probably have been, concerning our wives, g/f or S/O's. At first, my wife was very upset when I told her I liked the look of a certain kind of high heeled boot. I told her I was going to buy a pair, I showed her a picture on the internet. I don't think she thought I'd actually buy them. Well I did, but she wasn't too happy that I wanted to wear them when we go out! I bought some longer length boot cut jeans that hide most of the heel. The first time we went out, we stayed in a hotel in Birmingham, and went out at night to a show, I was nervous, my wife was worried, but things went pretty well except they ended up being uncomfortable! I'm sure no-one even noticed. I had to buy some of the leather stretching spray after that, with the spray and use around the house, the boots became comfortable. Since then, I've worn them quite a few times when we go out, but only at night! and my wife wouldn't dream of me wearing heels infront of family. I now own quite a few pair of block heeled boots, infact I nearly have as many as my wife! But why shouldn't I? They're only footware. I would say, she's not 100% for me wearing heeled boots (yet), but it's not a secret or anything like that, she has helped me in buying suitable women's trousers (they have a better cut, and are usually cheaper!) and even bought me some women's tousers to wear with my boots. So, although I don't feel I've got any experience to offer advice, all I can say is that nurture your relationship, things can and usually do get easier with time. Our partners like to see us happy afterall! Puma