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I sort of feel like I SHOULD say "it doesn't matter", but as I think about this, and picture it both ways, I think heels with a nice smooth face seems a more consistent message for me. I've been wondering about my fascination with things like heels and corsets. In addition to being turned on by things feminine, curvy & sexy! I also suspect it is some extension of "the unique person that I am", which also includes some work tendencies as well. For example, while most guys really want to "make a decision fast, just do something", I'm often the one that wants to get everyone's input, and look for creative ideas from the group and then get concensus. So I can be a facilitator type. ( I'm told these tend to be traits more common in females?) Anyway, for me heels are exciting, sexy, and even though I dress quite masculine with my heels, and like to present this "out of the box combination / style, (not an overall feminine style), I still think the heels are representing something about how I embrace some feminine aspects of myself. I think I'm saying "I like this combination. It is just as valid for me as your style may be for you." Well, after writing all this, I guess facial hair might fit perfectly with heels for someone else! We all get to invent our own styles and perfect our own selves!

I was in a hurry today, and was driving in heels, and was looking for a DSW I had never been to in a large mall. I was looking for a specific high heel oxford they were supposed to have. I figured it might be a 1/2 mile walk, and I would be walking pretty slowly in heels, so changed in the car and went into the mall. The DSW was RIGHT THERE inside (got very lucky). I almost turned around and went back to the car to change into heels, but I really only had 5-10 min total during this Friday Lunch hour. Went inside and WOW- Friday Lunch there must have been 30 women browsing all the beautiful heels! (Instead of a Friday splurge lunch- Let's go heel shopping!) I semi-confidently strolled all the women's Ilses, and I sensed that a few of women were wondering why this guy was looking at ALL the heels with them. But I was at least brave enough to do that. I was hoping that maybe a nice and gentle female sales person might come along at just the right time. Then a guy sales person comes over to me smiling a seemingly knowing look. arghh. I really didn't want to ASK him for a high heeled oxford right there, in hearing range of so many others at apparently a very peak time for a shoe store. (It was crowded like an Apple store- or seemed that way!) Try them ON? I think I would have if I found the exact shoe I was looking for, and no one was in my exact row with me. But I couldn't find any shoes size 12 in this DSW. (I'm men's 11, seems like 12W or 13 womens) I could not find the oxford, and went on my way. One step at a time!

Thanks for posting about your adventures. I enjoyed it, and it's helpful for me to imagine so many hours in heels. I also had my first adventures out this week after a year or so indoors. First trip out was maybe 10 min in the grocery and then into a Starbucks. Today was even shorter. It was interesting and fun and my interest is growing. Today, I had a brief trip out to the post office in boots very similar to yours. Mine was from DSW, called an Audrey Brooke Leather Wedge boot, about 4" heels. It is a bit noisy! and I was self conscious. But had fun.