Olounda

So this past winter i have been able to wear my many pairs of boots, and been able to get away with them under the jeans, but now it is coming spring time, and i'm really particular to these sandals http://www.dillards.com/webapp/wcs/stores/servlet/ProductDisplay?catalogId=301&langId=-1&storeId=301&productId=501781457&Ntk=all&Nty=1&N=1000425+2010098&Ntt=chester&search.x=0&search.y=0&R=03004095&ezine=ezine10_upfront6

However, I am uncertain how to wear them, as i am somewhat self concious of my own toes (i dont think they are the prettiest things in the world), and i dont know that "I" would paint them just for the shoes. I am open to suggestions on how you other fellas go out in the summer with the sandals. I am not afraid of what other people think if they see me in heels, as i'm comfortable with them myself, so whatever they think is their opinion, but i just dont wanna look like a faux pas (even though the social thought of a guy wearing heels is one....).

i guess what i'm asking, is how do you wear these type of sandals?

Congrats Brotha! you will do great! It sounds as though you are on your way to a destination in your relationship that we all hope for with our Spouses

An Update for those who are following. I wore my boots to work today, nothing really exciting, just sat at my desk for most of the days. on my way out i had to run upstairs to grab some documents, so i ran the quick errand, and when i came back down the stairs, i ran into a co worker of mine, and i saw him take a double take and was like, those are some fancy shoes, and smiled and left quickly. (i was going to be late for class). So i sent him an email apologizing for the swift escape, and thanked him for the compliment, and he said he liked the boots, and wants a pair. just goes to show that people are not as "oh my gosh he is wearing heels, wisper wisper wisper behind, blah blah blah" as we think they are.

I voted 4, but it just depends. I too value comfort and practicality over style. most of the time its between 3 to 4 inches.

I only have 2 words of advice: Go Forit I will be wearing heels that day too, so dont feel like your the only one

Grats dood. Its a great feeling isint' it the other day i did the same thing, 12 hour day in my 4" chunky heeled boots with jeans. I was moving servers, and computers all way in and out of desks and rackmounts, and nobody noticed. I was proud at the end of the day when it hit me that i had just done a whole day in heels. W00tz! lets celebrate!

Most storys are told around camp fires, or even lanterns, and sometimes around a plate of delicious goodies, but i figure i can use this thread to share the storys of my day to day heelings. I suppose i can use it as my journal, and just tell you about events that happen while out and about. Today I had school and i wore the boots that you can see in my avatar to class. Psychology class to be exact. I showed up just a bit earlier, the halls are less crowded and such. I walk into class and there are only 2 girls there. both look young, maybe about 19 or 20. I take my seat on the wall closest to the door, 2 rows from the front, and they are sitting in the main area of the room. I pull my laptop out from my bag and begin logging in and surfing the web, when one of the gals turns to me and asks, "i got kind of a weird question for you", and i was like, "sure, what is it?"(all knowing what she was gonna ask.... anytime you put question and weird in the same sentence, you knwo what is coming) She asks "can i see your shoes?" and i promtly gave her an encouraging yes and proceeded to lift up my pant to show her them. she asked if they were boots, and i said yes, and she said they were cute and that she is in the market to find some new boots. She asked why i wore them, and i gave a casual response, and said because i like to. which very much is the true. She then asked why i wore them because i was already so tall without them. We then had a long discussion about how when you are already so tall, another couple inches really isin't a big deal. The other gal chimmed in, and told her experiences wearing heels being a bit taller girl. We proceeded to have a casual conversation, and they were very very open and cool with my choice of foot wear. they asked if it was only footwear or if i was into like lingerie and other stuff like that, and i smiled warmly and said only the foot wear, can't have all you girls keeping the fashionable feet. We also spoke about how everyday public, general populations dont care about appearance unless it is a first impression(job interview, first time meeting future inlaws, baby sitters, ect ect). If they do care to notice your foot wear, they probably wont bother saying anything as they have their own business to worry about. So there you have it. a good first story, i hope you enjoyed it, and maybe it will boost someones confidence who reads it. More to come as the experiences and events unfold

I would be down for a little get together here in utah. It would be awesome to meet some of you kids! when it comes to my schedule, i'm pretty flexible. i work in salt lake and could meet up for like a lunching or anything like that. I'll let those with a more specific schedule make a date that works for them, and i will just do my best to show up. deal?

My 2 cents are this. 1. If you are uncomfortable, maybe start slow and work your way up. If you are unsure how your boots will affect the way you press the pedals, perhaps sit in your driveway for a few minutes and get the feel of it. I remember my first time driving in heels was a complete rush, and to be honest, it was hard to judge how hard to push the pedals, but after a few minutes, i got the hang of it, and now driving in heels is as easy as sliding down the snow. 2. I can understand how footwear would be to blame when it comes to platforms, but bear in mind, millions of women drive, and some get into accidents, and their regular heels are not called into question. Dont worry about anything happening. just be a safe driver. and for 1 more penny, I remember i was driving home from my fiancee's house(now our home since we got married and i moved in) and i was wearing my 3.5 inch heels. It was late, and i was going a bit faster than normal, and i didn't see the cop on the side of the road(this cop was smart, he wasn't radaring from the regular cop positions) and i see the lights and get pulled over... my heart started pounding, cold sweat, clammy hands, what was i to do! Luckily he came around the passenger side. I pushed my feet as close to the engine as possible to keep my feet from view, gave him my license and registration while doing my best to maintain my composure. When he went back to check out the paperwork, i slipped off my heels as fast as i could and slid them under the seat. but where were my other shoes?? OH NOES! I left them in the back seat! I didn't wanna start fiddling around in the car to cause suspicion for the cop, so i just sat there, bare foot. I figured less questions driving barefoot, than driving in open toed 3 inch mary jane heels. The cop came back, wrote me a ticket, and told me to slow down, and off i went. Moral of the story? well, in hindsight... which usually is 20/20, it was a bigger deal than what i thought it was at the time. You have to remember, the police man who could pull you over has probably, and quite possibly seen worse than a guy in high heels. So, IF perchance you do get pulled over, who cares. if they want you to get out? who cares. its your clothes, its your shoes, its your life, and he aint gonna arrest you for your style of dress. There you go.

I have recently started wearing mine to work. Not every day, i figure i would just work them into my regualr outfits. luckily i have a fairly lax dress code.

oh, and just to give an update. I spoke with my wonderful wife, and we came to a conclusion. Things are okay with her now, not as good as they could be, but a start is a start. There is more understanding, and caring about feelings.

Sounds like you have been quite active in the college community while heeling. Have you met or talked with others who are or want to become heelers?

School starts again today. I will keep everyone posted of my adventure and winnings and dealings with the student body

Nothing like setting a standard, and making a first and lasting impression on the first day of class. W00tz!

I am trying to find a black pair of boots with about a 3-4 inch heel that is chunky in Size 11. The style i'm looking for is anything similar to this:

http://cgi.ebay.com/ws/eBayISAPI.dll?ViewItem&item=220339983287&ssPageName=ADME:X:RTQ:US:1123

Any ideas where i can find such things? (i'm starting to think it is an old style, so it isin't sold so much any more...)

Thanks

p.s. i know the link says nine west on the boot, but i'm looking for the style, not the brand

recently i have worn my boots to work 2 days in a row. nobody notices, and i just mind my own business too. The standard places to go in my neighborhood though, would be the wal - mart, the target, the mall(we have an outdoor mall that i visit regularly), and various other places. Congradualte me, i got my first blister today

Its been like 5 days, and its driving me bonkers....

I to think its nice to know there are guys in utah who enjoy this as well i dont feel so alone now. w00h00. and to all of you, thanks for your listening, and your comments. they are all greatly appreciated

Sounds like you have been quite active in the college community while heeling. Have you met or talked with others who are or want to become heelers?

Alas, at the times that i do wear them to school, nobody seems to notice, and if they do they dont care to ask, and i am not the one to say "lookie here at my shoes":smile:. I would be comfortable talking to people about it, and sharing my experience.

It is good to know there are other utahn's out there who share the same passion

In regards to your comments on the wife, I understand that she needs to know what is going on. She is a business analyst in her work, and she is therefore very analytical. when i talk to her about all of this, i need to be prepared, and have business justification for all my examples. When i feel that i am that prepared(hopefully by next month) then i will be confident in approaching her to discuss the matter. Thank you all for your concern

Gratz dood. To echo as well... it only gets better and easier from there. next think you know you'll be spending entire days doing all sorts of things and realize at the end of the day you've worn your heels all day.

Hi,

Could you describe or put a photo of your boots?

I just Updated my Avatar. Those are them. Thank you

So, I figured it was a good idea to share my story. i dunno if this is the right place for it, but hey, cool mods dont care, they just move stuff around I am 23 years old, and have been facinated with heels for a long as i can remember. I grew up here in utah, and being from quite the conservative family i was raised a certain way. When i was 19, i went back east to maryland to serve a mission for 2 years(yes, i am lds/mormon), and came back home when i was 21. I had pretty much had the best experience of my life. My mind had been opened to different cultures and lifestyles, and i felt pretty educated. After My mission, my facination for heels was still strong and prevalant, so after a few months, i decided to try them out. I went into my sisters room(she has the same size shoe as me), and grabbed one of her old dress heels from her closet. I stuffed them in a bag, and went out to my car and went to work. all day at work i coudn't help but think about those heels, in the bag, in the back seat of my car. the day dragged on soooooo slow, and finally it came quittin time. I hurried to my car, and stripped off my shoes and socks, and donned on those 3 inch block heel mary janes. WHAT A RUSH! it was like being blasted with euphoria. I drove around for a while til it got dark, and then i went to my old high school and walked around the empty parking lot. the tic toc of the heels were intoxicating, and what i had come to find, was that they felt more comfortable than the complaining girls would say. I found a passion that i love. Time went by, wearing heels at night in parks, and parking lots, just to walk around, and feel the experience. I decided to get my own pair. i went into a payless inside a shopko, and found a fairly decent pair of american eagle 3 inch platform pumps in size 11. I put those on in the car and raced to a secluded spot to try them out. Just as exciting as the first! a bit more difficult as well, they had a skinnier heel, but never the less, still exciting. Months passed, and i would aquire a pair of heels every now and again, and wear them at night, hoping for a day when wearing them in public would be acceptable. I met a gal at work, and we began to date. i didn't dare tell her about my love for womens footwear(in hind sight, i should have told her earlier), and we got married. I would slip out subtle hints every now and again, but for the most part my heeling was a secret. She finally found my stash, and i had to explain it to her, which was one of the most terrifying things ever. I did the best i could, and she calmed down, but i could still tell she was very much upset that i wore them. she was raised in an even more bubble than i was. so the years pass, and i would only wear the heels at night before i came home form work, and would put them on after she went to bed. i started to begin to think this would be all i could do with this hobby, this passion of mine. All i could do was wear them when i could, and hope and pray that someday she would be understanding. So i struggled with keeping things in line, battling these feelings, and trying to ensure my wifes happiness. I finally gave in, and emailed one of my close friends who i served with in my mission(who happens to be gay, but just let everyone know a few months ago), and told him my dilemma. i asked how do you live your life, and be happy. He said profound words to me, and they stick with me to this day. He said that there is nothing inherently wrong with me. we all have quirks, and things that make us unique. the most we can do is to love ourselve, regardless of our successes or faults, and to lean on those friends who accept us for who we are. Those words never hit me so hard. that was it, that was the boost i was looking for. I realized heels are here in my life to stay. they are a part of me, to an extent, they define who i am. I found this little ray of light within me, and accepted myself for who i was. So, soon after that, i went shopping with my sister, and i bought a pair of boots. and i said, these boots are going to change things. I found an added measure of confidence. I put them on, left them covered by jeans(which i personally prefer... i'm not the flashy type), and started heeling. I told a few more of my friends about my joys of the shoes, and would wear them when i am out with them at the mall, or just to dinner and such. I have worn them to school, and to work on occasion. I have not yet told my wife of my increase in heeling activities. That will come soon though I met up with a class mate of mine just the other day at the mall to work on some homework. I put the boots on, and wore them all day with her. we walked in and out of stores, passed millions of people, and i realized that people dont care. and if they do, they keep it to themselves. we caught a movie after we finished our homework, and walked around the mall some more. I was comfortable, i was happy, i was myself. it was amazing! That my friends, Is my story. I hope perhaps it inspired you, or at least you enjoyed it. ~Olounda p.s. If any of you are in utah, lemme know. we could catch up or something.

I am Strait, Married, and wear heels. The Wife and Heels thing is a work in progress still.

I voted neutral. I used to be private about it, but in the last few months started to turn more to the neutral category. I will have to share my story here sometime. but yes. Neutral.

I wear an 11 in the womens. Naturally i wish i had a bit small feet for the variety, but hey, its my foot, i can't complain I'm glad i have feet to wear these fantastic shoes

maybe a story to boost your confidence? Last night was the festival of trees, people make door hangings, decorate christmas trees, make gingerbread houses, ect ect and they donate them to charity. I was meeting a gal i work with there, i pull up in the parking lot, wearing my 3 1/2 boots under my jeans, got out of the car and walked in to meet her. i walk into the event center, and i run into one of my best friends parents. we stop and talk for maybe a half an hour, and they didn't notice, and if they did, they didn't care. we just stood there and shot the breeze just like old times. I finally catch up with the gal from work, and we walked around and looked at all the pretty trees and lights, and it was not at all nerve wracking, it was comfortable. a guy in a wheelchair stopped me, and made a comment about my smile and how nice my teeth were, not a single peep about shoes. My friend and i went to dinner after that, no comments the whole time. so again, i think the best confidence booster to get you out of the car, is the fact that people dont notice. if they do notice, they dont care. if they do care, they will look at you, and see that you dont care and aren't nervous, and then they wont care. Go getum Tiger

I will agree. The general populus doesn't seem to care, and if they do, they can fester about it. its not your problem to worry about what others think. when you realize that they just dont care, then its amazing what freedoms come from not worrying what others are thinking.