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not much more of my outfit, but here are my new boots. And yes, even after the fallout of my fashion failblog experience, i still carry on doing what i do best. Being myself

How would you reframe this issue if someone ever confronted your wearing of heels as a man? I've never been challenged with this issue personally and doubt it will ever really be an issue on a personal level, but the issue did light a fire within my heart. This TVC argument is BS as is the DSM diagnostic.

I have to ask, at what point would wearing heels as a man be considered even remotely to gay or transgenderdism? Such thinking is what gets people into these situations anyway. The idea that people can be classified and set aside based on skin color, hair color, type of clothing they wear, type of shoes they wear, the way they speak, where they were born, is the same idea that is causing such hatred in the communities right now.

I wear high heels, as a male, and last I checked i dont suffer from what they call GID. I wear them because I enjoy them, and they give me confidence. Moreso, they put me in a position to where others can ask me questions and I can respond with love and kindness that their assumptions they made of me (which they probably have made) were false. You should see the look on peoples faces when you tell them that you are straight, married, and have 2 kids, and wear high heels. it almost flabbergasts them because they were brought up to determine who people are before they know them.

This is the story of this video clip. Most employers screen their employees to determine their qualifications for the position, a process to determine the best fit for the company, as well as the person. the same should be had in our schools. the school districts should screen their applicants to find the best fit for the schools (whether it is someone TG'd or not). I think, however, that the politicians and the school districts are hiding behind the idea of "safe environment for the kids," as a way to cover their butts. Do you think that educators who come into class hung over, or high, or any manner of inhibited provides a more safe environment for the kids? Another thought, the BEST way for people to change their ideas is THROUGH education. If you want to raise your kids to be accepting of everyone, why not send them to a school with a bit of diversity among the staff? If you want to raise your kids with your own bigoted opinions (speaking in general, not at anyone here), then home school them.

Having many friends who are in this category, i feel bad for them, and want for them to succeed, especially against such overwhelming odds, but at the same time, you can't force diversity in a business or a culture, you just have to pick the best people for the jobs without a sense of bias, and the diversity will come. It is a fine line. a VERY fine line.

TL;DR - go back and read it, cuz i dont know if any of it made any sense

Was that you? Kudos.

Yes that was me. That was a great day at school

Found this pic on a website called fashion fail.

Fashion fail, Hardly. I rocked it that day at school.

This is me. I hope that reading this will give some of you confidence:-)

http://www.wsusignpost.com/2011/10/18/walk-a-day-in-his-shoes-or-footsteps/

(Posting from my phone, sorry I no hyperlink)

I think what Histilletto is saying, is that sure, women had a choice in the matter, they could choose to do plastic surgery, they could choose to wear whatever shoes they want, but the point that he is trying to make, is lets say that you have a girlfriend, who is someone who chooses not to follow the trends of society. she does her own thing, maintains a healthy lifestyle, and lives a normal life. On a random outing you both go to a shoe store, and she tries on a sexy pair of heels, and you say "You look fantastic in those!" That remark right there, triggers the brain to think a) give me more compliments please!!! and he likes me in these? I guess I should buy them. Immediatly you notice that she starts doing "trendy" things, because she recieves compliments, and you like them. My point is, as men, we have the ability to love our women for who they are, and not what "trends" they wear. Tell them they look great without heels, or in whatever outfit they choose to wear. As you feed them compliments that dont have to do with attire, the ones that do, wont seem so heavy, or conforming to them. That all made more sense in my mind lol /10ihopeyoucanunderstands

@Histiletto: Perhaps was it me you saw? I try my very best to wear my heels out and about as often as I can (few times a week), but alas, I dont ever see any other guys in heels, except for the occasional cowboy boot here in the state of Utah.

Anyone else try this?

I checked the website out, but as a IT specialist, I must warn people, it is littered with viruses. use at your own risk :S However, the concept is absolutly fantastic

oddly enough my ex girlfriend cuts my hair still. I didnt wear heels when we were dating, but started shortly after we broke up, however we remained friends and I continue to have her cut my hair. when i first introduced her to the idea that i wear high heels, she wanted to see, so i wore them to get my cut one time. ever since then, if i dont wear them she makes a comment and expects me to wear them the next time i go in.

I will just put this out there. I, too, am a student at a local college, and i wear heels to class every day, and actually have been for the past 2 years. Never once have i been mocked, or made fun of, or even pointed out, and i have worn everything from 3 to 6 inch heels. Actually quite the opposite. I've made quite a few friends because of my footwear choices. College is very different than high school, in the fact that in highschool you are more focused on what your peers think about your actions, and in college, you are more focused on what YOU think of your life decisions, or choice of educational path. Everyone is at college for the same thing, to further their education, not to be stuck in high school making fun and being the class clown. So with that said, my advice is to do it with no regret, and with your head held high. I assure you that you will NOT be the most diverse student that campus has seen (not to make you feel less unique... because you are unique:smile:). This is who you are, a student, who is furthering their education.

The above posts pretty much sum it up. Just walk in, find something you like, and then ask about your size. In my case, 90 percent of the time, the sales associate asks me if i need help finding anything. if that happens, Bam, you are set.

If i remember correctly, my first time was at night, going on a stroll in the park, so nobody could really see me, and so i was left to myself, and the click clack of my heels. it was exhilirating. Then over time, i realized it didn't really matter what others thought, so 3 years later, public heeling is a daily occurance in my book. You can do it buddy. Easiest way would be to just dive in.

well, here in the great state of utah, i have only seen... okay, no one else(guys) wear heels(stiletto or not) in public. i have seen the occasional halloween costume, but as for everyday wear, i feel as though i am the only one.

Just wanted to share some pics of some patent jessica simpson heels that I recently bought. I love these.

I have those!!!! I love them to death!

I also recently bought these in black. I have them in a size 10, but they really should be an 11, but they didn't have an 11 when i got them, so i had to settle with the 10, but then the following day, the posted the 11 online. i am a little peeved about that. So maybe i'll ask it if anyone likes this kind of shoe, i'm selling it (lightly used, very comfy, i even put the anti slip grips on the soles), so that i can get the size 11

I just bought these from dsw today. They are way comfortable, and they keep ma legs nice and warm

I believe that the majority will agree that women look wonderful, beautiful, sexy, confident, ect ect in a pair of heels. However, I believe that the majority of us could also say that there is a particular type of heel to the wearer. For example, the other day i was walking around in the mall, and i saw a beautiful pair of stiletto boots, however, because of the lack of experience (late teens early 20's i dare say?) that the woman had in walking in them, there was no beauty nor grace involved, and i was left with the feeling of nice shoes, instead of an solid feeling of class and style. On the otherhand, a week earlier a woman i dare say 25 year old was in the same mall walking, she was in 6 inch mary janes with a 1.5 inch platform, leggings, short skirt, and nice blouse, and the way she moved in those heels was Awe inspiring. That is all.

I really should stop spending monies, however, i saw these and had to have them. I love them to bits and pieces. they are the first "classic" pump i have owned Enjoy!

http://www.dillards.com/webapp/wcs/stores/servlet/ProductDisplay?catalogId=301&langId=-1&storeId=301&productId=501692651&view=80&N=1000425+2010576&searchUrl=%2Fendeca%2FEndecaStartServlet%3Fview%3D80%26N%3D1000425%2B2010576&R=02832892

Oh yeah i saw that. I leaned over to my friend Marcy and was like, There is NO way i would be on my hands an knees looking for something if i was wearing those shoes. wouldn't want to scratch them up

i bought these the other day. i love them, and they are way comfortable, however, they most certantly are not made for lots of walking, or maybe my feet just aren't used to the arch they put them in, but way fun none the less.

Here is what i have come to determine. I have found that within the people and the communities that i deal with, I feel differently about High heels than say an average woman would. Think of it this way. Women growing up are taught that they are beautiful (which is damn sure the truth), and as such, they have all these fun things made for them. Shoes, jeans, clothes taylored to their figure, so on and so forth. As they grow up and wear high heels, it is the idea that they dont think about wearing them, its just what they do, it is a part of their life, imprinted upon them from childbirth, or even as toddlers or young adults, Hence they value heels much differently than we as men do. We, even though we may have had desires to wear them as young boys, were not allowed to wear them, due to the "social" or "family" rammafications, and as such, when we do wear them now that we are older, we value them much more, we do our very best to keep them in nice condition. they are that rare commodity that we allowed ourselves in this world, and as such we feel differently about them. While i cannot agree, or disagree with your wife, the point is that they feel differently than we do. we love them, because they are ours. They love them, because, well, they dont know life without them. I pride myself with the ability that i have to walk in high heels, and with a good taste of fashion, but women, because they are so integrated in their life, dont carry that pride per se, it is just a part of their life. Thats what makes it so doggon hard to shop for heels with a woman who only wears them for work or such, because they dont think about them all the time, let alone let a woman wear your heels, because they dont think about them all the time, they wear them out, they use them, whereas for us, we wear them, and use them, but not to the extent that they do. I'm sorry if i ended up rambling, this was just on my mind. Thanks for listening

If you are interested, Dillards has look alikes.

http://www.dillards.com/webapp/wcs/stores/servlet/ProductDisplay?catalogId=301&langId=-1&storeId=301&productId=501759006&view=20&No=20&N=1000892+2010098&searchUrl=%2Fendeca%2FEndecaStartServlet%3Fview%3D20%26No%3D20%26N%3D1000892%2B2010098&R=02987406

they feel as though they run a half size large good for you kids with big feet

I Indeed value the input on womens jeans being better for the heels, however, for those of us who simply have no desire to wear womens jeans, and who need boot cut, a simple response of where to get boot cut might be in order I have to get all my jeans from american eagle online (no brick and mortar store carries a 32 waist with a 36 length...). their jeans are quite comfortable and not stiff at all, not to mention they come with just a little bit of stretch so you can stretch them when you pull them out of the wash. In every case, if you wanna wear girl jeans, then by all means go for it, but as for me, a non girl jean wearer, check out American Eagle.

I just got these from Aldo. I LOVE them!

I went to the Mall Yesterday to paruse some shoes, and get a sandal that i have wanted for the past few months. I went to Aldo first, and oh my word, those sales folk were soooo nice! I pointed out the shoe i wanted to try on, gave them my size, she said we were out, but they had the size smaller, and they also had a different style in my size, so i said I'd try them all on. So she brought out a bunch of 40's and 41's for me to try. Some of them fit wonderfully, some not so much. The real kicker was how good they treated me, No bias, no judgment, just saleswoman to client. It was really refreshing.

After trying on 8-10 pairs, i was still wishing they had the sandals i wanted in my size, so she said she could order them. I asked her to hold the thought, and that i would be back. So, I left the store, went onto the store Bakers, and it was like i walked into into an exclusive club for women. My friend liz asked about some boots, and i asked aobut some shoes, and when i asked, the sales woman gave me the dirtiest look, and said "we dont carry YOUR size" (even though i knew they carried ample 10's, and some 11's), but she said it very like "oh my gosh, why are you in my store" like. It was upsetting to me, i dont think i'll go back to bakers. So liz and i continued our jaunt around the mall, and found nothing else of awesomeness, so we went back to aldo, and i ordered these in black.

All in all, it was a great shopping trip