walkingtall

Just bought the Steve Madden Daisy in Rose Gold yesterday.  

I found them at Macy's Back Stage Dept. for $30.

I usually can get into a size US 9 but had to get 10s.  Still tight as hell, but really SHARP LOOKING.  

They look good with both dark and faded jeans.

Thanks to everyone for all the advise.

I agree with variables being a major factor. 

Construction and heel design do contribute to successful heeling.  I have noticed some shoe designers place the heel way back almost in line with the back of the heel cup.  I find these styles almost impossible to walk in.

As for fit, shoe sizing is all over the place. It's almost like throwing darts at the board.  In male shoes I wear size 8 - 8 1/2, but in women's my collection includes 8 1/2 - 10 which for me means the size is just a number to start from.  Some 8 1/2s I can't even get into and others fit O.K., some 10s fit tight and others slide off after walking awhile, making it more difficult and "less confident"

I plan to continue wearing these Steve Madden's and Justfab's until I have mastered them. Like you say PRACTICE!!!

Thanks again,

WalkingTall

Since I am still new to wearing heels I'm asking for advise/help.

As I have mentioned before, the look of the heels is what attracts me, so I'm into stilettos pumps with pointed toes.  My collection consists of pumps with 4 3/4 and 5 inch heel height with no platform, which I wear daily. 

Last week, I came across two pairs of heels, also no platforms, which have 5 3/8 inch heel height.  As soon as I tried them on I knew I had to have them.  Because of their styling - having only a heel cup and a minimal toe box, they show off most of the foot.  The extra heel height angles and arches the foot down and the pitch is emphasized which I find HOT!

The problem is that I am having trouble walking in them.  I don't mean the discomfort/pain from the additional height, that I can deal with.  The thing is I am walking slow and small steps -  just can't get up to my usual gait.  Can't believe that 1/2 inch could make such a difference.

My question: I there a trick or way of walking that would help me walk normal?  Or is it just practice, practice and more practice?

I really want to wear them more - they're HOT LOOKING.

Thanks,

Walking Tall

Hi Mlroseplant,

Though I don't wear my heels publicly,  having a large piece of property (by S.F. Bay standards) I spend a lot of time walking on exposed stone cement walkways doing yard work.  I have experienced the same problem, not in such a short period of time, but  to ruin the heel tips so that I don't want to wear them on the indoor surfaces - hardwood floors, tile and linoleum.  I have seen on Youtube demonstrations of replacing heel tips yourself and on Ebay sites that sell the heel tips every reasonably.  I have been thinking of giving it a shot.  Have you ever tried doing it? 

Walking Tall

Hi Aleks,

Good job!

You are young enough to carry those off easily.  Wish I could.

As far as making excuses, don't worry about it just buy them.

I was in retail most of my life,  52  years to be exact.,  35 of those years in the Bridal Industry.  We not only sold bridal but also evening gowns and accessories.  We had many male customers.   Our philosophy was -  make the customer comfortable, to feel at home,  get them what they wanted,  help them look their very best and make

NO JUDGEMENTS!

So as far as the sales staff,  they probably just want to sell the merchandise.

WalkingTall

Hi Aleks, welcome to the group.

Hi nzfreestyler,

First of all  to say your post to Jeremy was good and thoughtful.  

To answer your questions.  No I don't have the confidence to wear heels publicly, yet.  But why do you suspect that I don't wear heels daily.  I do wear heels daily,  4-5 hours before I need to leave the house and another 5+ when I return.  I wear them both indoors and outdoors. 

When I said that I choose a pair for her,  the style isn't some teenage or stripper heels not appropriate for her age, but something stylish. 

Now,  I'm not the youngest rooster in the barnyard, but that doesn't mean that I am going to wear plaid wool shirt and a tie nor I am going to wear distressed jeans with holes.

I am just saying shoes with style and a little flair.

Jetheelsfan

I feel that you hit the nail on the head.  Reading what you wrote was like reading my own story.

Now I wear heels that are HOTTER & higher than my girlfriend.  (She is too conservative and up tight about some issues doesn't know about my heeling .)  When we go shopping and I choose a pair of sexy heels and she answers "Your Kidding" and picks out a pair of granny conservatives, I want to puke.  I don't understand.  Anyway that's life.

Walkingtall

I'm not into skirts or fancy hose.

But all your shoes, especially the red pair ring my bell!

Good taste.

Walkingtall

Hi Gibby,

Often I wear heels that are too tight.  Truth be told, most of my heels are tighter than they should be.  There are two main reasons why I buy them tight.  First of all I am addicted to the stylish look that a pair of spiky stilettos with narrow pointed toes creates.  Even though I only wear a men's 8 which is small for my height, my feet are not narrow.  Thus this style shapes my feet into the look I want.  Secondly, I buy most of my heels at thrift stores where you either take what they have or leave it .  So when I see a pair of stilettos I like, my addiction kicks in and I get into them.  Good example, last week I saw a pair of Jessica Simon's pumps that have a nice cut to them in size 9.  When I tried them on I said s#*t too tight, but looking in the mirror I saw by scrunching my toes they created really HOT toe cleavage.  Because of the look I had to get them.  I don't wear heels in public, yet.  I do wear heels every day from 4-8 hours at a time.  I am aware of the effects that too tight shoes can cause, but like any addiction the desire over powers.

As far as you wearing your tight sandals, like the others have said - wear them around the house and when your feet are sore change to something else. 

Just do what makes you happy!

Walkingtall

Yes. I really wasn't forced but more coerced by a friend to wear a pair of stilettos.  To make a long story short, it was a challenge that turned into a monetary bet that I refused to loose.  So I ended up wearing a pair of 5 inch stiletto that are kind of too tight for 16 hours.  My feet really didn't hurt until the last 3 or 4 hours, but it felt good to be able to  push the limit.   Anyway, I won the bet and my friend paid up and I had a good time.

Maybe later I will post the whole experience in the stories forum.

I have a few comments about these elevator shoes.

First of all, I agree with heels59.  This product "won't scratch that itch."

Secondly, I am in agreement with Tacchi Alti.  In order to accommodate the increase heel height, the heel cap needs to be disproportionately high.  Therefore giving the shoe an orthopedic look.  For me the look "style" of the shoe is very important.

Thirdly, the time I saw someone wearing this type of boot, I didn't like the effect.  I am sure we can all agree that our gait and stance are different when we are wearing heels then when wearing flat shoes, especially men's shoes.  I was at a thrift shop when I saw this guy in jeans and work boots.  I noticed when he walked and moved it wasn't natural look.  I studied him more closely and determined he was walking as if he were wearing high heels.  I thought to myself that's strange.   But when he crouched down to look at an item on the floor,  and his pant cuff went up I could see his ankle about 3 inches above the boot top.  He had to have a substantial lift in the boot which would explain his posture and walk.

Now, I am not putting him or anyone else down in anyway.  What I am saying for me personally, the look of rugged work boots and the gait and stance caused high heels doesn't work.  It is like mixing water and oil.

You have to give them credit.  They have the guts to actually try and sell those (what shall I call them shoes?)

Not to me,  I wouldn't take  them if they offered them free.

Hi Rhys,

Welcome to the group.

I really have no advise for you.  Though not married, I am in a similar situation.  My girlfriend is conservative and I'm sure would not understand the extent of my passion for heels.  She knows I like shoes and clothes but not wearing heels.  Luckily we don't live together all the time, so I can indulge when I am alone at my own place.  You know your wife and have decide if she would be accepting and to pick the right time.  I just wanted you to know there are others of us who have partners that don't know all our passions.  You are not alone.  Good Luck!

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Thanks again for all the advice.  Using several methods (stretcher and hot hair blower together) I have been able to get the heels to the point that I can wear them for about 2 hours before I have to give in.  Now at least I can not only enjoy looking at them but also looking at them on me.  That's the best part!

Again Thanks!

As I keep stating in my posts I am new to this site and to heeling, but I feel very much at home here and wearing heels.  I don't have hundreds of pairs of heels or even 50 pairs yet,  not that I don't seeing it happening.  Since I started heeling in mid July I have bought about 12 pairs.  Yesterday, I was at Goodwill and there were two pairs of band new pumps.  Both with 5 inch heels, one solid black patent leather the other red shading down to black patent leather.  I talked myself out of buying them: thinking you already have black patent and you already bought  a new pair this week.  I got in the car and started to drive home.  Like an addict I couldn't get them out of my mind.  Half way home I did a U turn, back to the store all the way hoping they'd still be there.  They were there, they fit,  they are mine.  For me, it is almost an addiction that I have to have and wear beautiful heels.  Maybe because men's shoes are so dam boring! I don't know.  Anyway this is my take on needing and wanting heels.

Thanks for all the advice from everyone.  I appreciate your experience. 

As it was pointed out $12 is not much, so I'm still deciding whether to keep and wear them occasionally.

Because they really HOT and I really like them.

On Sunday, I was lucky and found a great pair of heels at Payless on sale for $12.  They're white and black stripped fabric with a 4+ inch thin patent leather heel which complements the fabric vamp.  The heel height curves the arch and instep nicely and the narrow pointed toe slims down my foot.  Both of which I really like.  the best part is they look super HOT on with blue jeans.  Considering the looks and the price the were a great find..

On the down side.  These bad boys either run small and narrow or the point is more severely angled than other pairs.  They're really tight.  I am a men's 8 1/2 and my heels are from a size 8 1/2  to 9 1/2.  So I'm use to wearing snug / tight fitting heels.  These are a 9 which is in the range that I buy.  I won't say that I can just slide them  on but at the same time I don't have to struggle to get into them.  They push my limit and I  can only wear them for about 30 minutes.

Since they were the last pair, the option to exchange them for a larger size doesn't exist.  The dilemma is to return these shoes for a refund or wear them for short periods of time until they stretch out or I build up endurance.  My head says return.  My eyes say keep them and enjoy wearing these HOT HEELS as much as I possibly can.  It's easy to just be practical, but sometimes you just need to live and do what make you happy.

I am new to heeling and would like to hear from anyone else who has been faced with the same dilemma and how did you resolve it?  

On ‎8‎/‎8‎/‎2017 at 11:00 PM, Spareheels said:

Can never have enough ca folks in heels.    You in north middle or south of the state. 

I am in the S.F. Bay Area and you?

I have been visiting this site for awhile and I am glad to see that so many males enjoy wearing heels.  I guess that I have always had a fascination for heels but never really wore them. A couple of Halloweens I dressed as  an old lady satire in 1 1/2 inch heel clunky shoes, really doesn't count.

On Monday, I was at a thrift store and saw a pair of 4 inch Calvin Kline black satin shoes with rhinestone buckles.  They said take me home and I did.

Tuesday, I wore them most of the day doing things around the house.  At first all the pressure on the balls and toes felt strange, but after 1/2 hour I got use to it.  Years of skating and hockey have strengthen my ankles, so I didn't have any problems in that regard.  After about 7 hours I needed to leave and took them off.  Really didn't experience any unbearable pain - some foot soreness.  There was some tightness in the calves and thighs, but nothing more than a good gym workout.

I had a great time wearing them, though I need a lot more practice navigating the stairs.  I loved being 4 inches taller, finally 6'2".  For some reason I found myself standing straight, shoulders back - good posture.  Walking in them gave me a sense of control - maybe empowerment.  I enjoyed hearing the heels tap on the hardwood floors, tiles and pavement.  I liked the way the heels accented my arch and instep.  I especially liked the way the pointed toes slimmed down my rather boxy feet into a more streamline, narrow and elegant looking shape. 

Luckily, I wear a US men's 8 1/2.  These Calvin Kline's are a women' s 9 1/2.  Maybe I can try a smaller size - a 9 or even if I can squeeze into a 8 1/2 or 8, in order to achieve a more shapely look.  We'll see.

Keep you posted.