cgllc1860

AJ

i am new to this forum so I do not know you guy very well, but I will say that so far I have been impressed with the depth of knowledge that I was afforded.

So, now I am offering to reciprocate. My wife and I dated for several years prior to being married and now we are approaching 20 years and still struggling with my fetish by the way. The good news is during the early years and even the 1st half of the marriage my wife like yours was very angers about the thought of me wearing high heels for my own pleasure. My wife eventually reviewed that she felt threatened by the idea that she may loose the man she loved . I assured her that it was a visual turn on not a life changing event she remaind unconvinced for years knowing my believing it would turn into a slippery slope. 

Well the fetish has gone in a few different directions but I am still all male and my wife has opened her mind and become to support me. So my point is, don't give up! If you would like I could share some experiences that brought us closer on the topic.

On March 15, 2015 at 6:46 AM, JeffB said:

A long, long time ago, I was 13 years old when my insatiable curiosity about how my mom could walk in high heeled shoes drove me to a fateful decision, I sneaked into her room one day while she was at work and put on a pair of her shoes to learn the answer for myself. The shoes I had selected a pair of plain black pumps with three inch heels for my experiment, to make a long story short, after a goodly amount of stumbles and pratfalls, I solved that mystery and developed two passions: one of course being my love for wearing heels, but the other was for those shoes I wore, black pumps.

Throughout the years, whenever I sought out women’s shoes to wear, my first choice were almost always plain, unadorned black pumps, the sharp, sexy yet simplistic styling to these shoes captured my attention from day one and I just love wearing these shoes. As anyone here can tell you, black pumps go with pretty much anything: pants, skirts, dresses, jeans, shorts, capris, anything at all, they're an important footwear staple of every wardrobe and can spice up any outfit. I love black pumps so much, I have a whopping 15 pairs in my current collection: matte, patent and croc print; round toes and pointy toes; heel heights from 3 to 5 inches; spike heels and wedges, you name it, I probably have it. And yet, whenever I see a nice style, I find myself intrigued enough to buy it, I'm just so crazy about black pumps and can never have enough of them. It's a style I feel most comfortable wearing, they look great on me, and I feel great when I wear them, just as important a consideration.

I'm of the opinion that black pumps are a universal style and possess a popularity, not to mention sex appeal that is undeniable and irresistible, both to women and men. I know they are to me, which is why I love wearing them as much as I do, they've been my footwear passion for forty years now, and it's one that will never fade. That said, how do you feel about black pumps?

 

Well said !

Somebody gave me a shoe with a foot in it. Lol

It looks like AJ's

I know it started at a very early age 5-6 perhaps.

Thigh boot guy,

Well said !

RE: Life is a learning experience.

7 hours ago, Thighbootguy said:

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The love is present no question but she is not as open as I am, that is the problem.

There are barriers for both of us to w overcome. It will require acceptance, interaction and determination to work out your the issues in order find that common ground. I just wish I knew what it was going to look like. 

My wife went out for pizza last night and I had a good time. We talked a lot, she read our conversations and realized that there are a lot of other guys out there just like me. That helped. Just her talking about my fustrations in a positive way is relieving instead of the usual attacks and belittlement. She talked about setting some boundaries that I will have to work on, to maintain her trust.

This is correct but in my case I did not realize the seriousness of my desires until after I was married a few years.

No harm done,

i understand that you feel lucky that your wife was understand and was willing to embrace it at a level that satisfied your needs. I hope I am as lucky.

No harm done,

i understand that you feel lucky that your wife was understand and was willing to embrace it at a level that satisfied your needs. I hope I am as lucky.

You make a lot of sense it is easier to be your own person alone.

i am committed to my wife as she is too me. I am looking for fresh approach that may have worked for other couples to present to her.

On 1/1/2017 at 10:55 AM, cgllc1860 said:

Hello,

i am a new guy to this forum, I have filled out my profile in depth if anyone is interested. As I get older and my responsibilities in life increase (46 now) I feel the need to expand my fetish from the bedroom to my day to day life. My wife is worried that she is loosing me and that I will eventually want to become a women. I say i don' think so that I like women's shoes and some cloths because of how they feel on and how they look on me. But, that I have no desire to change careers or lifestyles to satisfy a different gender. There is quite a bit of tension between us has anyone else resolved this type of problem successfully ?

 

Exactly.

Exactly.

Bnchmrk,

i have reassured her that I would be the same guy but I do have OCD and tend to eventually overdue things.lol

thighbootguy,

I see your point we are seeing my therapist together and are trying to stick to a every other night out routine but we are in "uncharted waters " as they say. It is a challenging situation.

Thank you,

i am trying but she is scared.

Hello,

i am a new guy to this forum, I have filled out my profile in depth if anyone is interested. As I get older and my responsibilities in life increase (46 now) I feel the need to expand my fetish from the bedroom to my day to day life. My wife is worried that she is loosing me and that I will eventually want to become a women. I say i don' think so that I like women's shoes and some cloths because of how they feel on and how they look on me. But, that I have no desire to change careers or lifestyles to satisfy a different gender. There is quite a bit of tension between us has anyone else resolved this type of problem successfully ?