Britana

People have private, personal agendas and a wide variety of viewpoints on all kinds of subjects, and are often highly critical of anyone that doesn’t share their opinions, particularly if they with a group ready to validate their intolerance. Certainly anyone that’s ever been a minority (whether its race, religion, sexual orientation, clothing, politics, or any other minority), has experienced this reaction. I never really believed the saying that with age comes wisdom, but perhaps could accept that with age comes tolerance. I personally disagree with a large number of things I see in the world, but recognize (and accept) I am powerless alone to change it. The best I can ever do is live a life by example that I hope others will notice, to be comfortable with myself and what I am and do, to not let other’s intolerance and rudeness bother me, and to try not to judge any of us in this world. Maybe it can at least help my children become more tolerant and understanding.

*Edit* BTW, my current peeve is ridding my children's vocabulary of the phrase "How gay is that?" for anything they disagree with. It takes all my patience not to completely go off when I hear those words.

I really enjoyed those two vids. With my kink here, TBH, it's not the ease of walking or dancing, or the comfort of the model in the BB that I look for, but more the difficulty and struggling to stay composed and balanced. The second of the BB and jeans is very hot IMHO.

Dawn and Mickey: I'm new here so I don't know you well, but I do know a bit about what you are experiencing. You are both in my thoughts and prayers tonight as you work through this time and I look forward to talking with you soon. Best Wishes, Brit.

Echo the welcomes from the U.S. east -- Washington D.C. here! Glad to have you aboard!

illusions

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Us Americans are not always so original, Amanda. There's also Paris, Ohio, which interesting is right on Lisbon Street. Oh, and London, Ohio is also there . . . perhaps there are several in the U.S. in total!

Glad to see you here and hope you enjoy your stay - Welcome!

Washington, D.C. Metro Area

Glad to have you here - Welcome!

Thanks for all the advice. when i get a pair i'll try to post pics, keep all the laughing to minimum.

I don't think you have to worry about people here laughing at you! Congrats on the progress. It sounds like you have a very understanding and loving partner and I'm so happy for you!

Wxman:

This is probably late, but your post has been fluttering around in my head for the last two days as I struggle with a cold. I think the above posts generally hit the point, but from my viewpoint you should:

1. Talk to your wife. You indicate that she says she is understanding, so it’s not clear if you have talked with her about this yet or not, or if she has merely indicated she is understanding in general. But I strongly recommend you talk with her. Obviously she loves you and she should accept you for all that you are. This is a part of you and I likely think she will not only accept it, but embrace it since she will recognize how difficult it is for you to share this with her and how much closer it brings you.

2. Go slow. I would not recommend you have this talk and at the same time present her with a pair of 6 inch pumps and ask her to start wearing them everyday. Nor would I start wearing them myself regularly immediately. Give her time to accept it and move into it slowly. Almost nothing in nature or life happens instantly, and a gradual transition make things go much smoother I’ve found.

3. Spend a little time reflecting on your feelings. To be completely frank, from my view, your original post talks about a fascination both with seeing women in heels and wearing heels yourself. These are not, of course, mutually exclusive and I share the same thoughts as you. But, I have also spent years (30 or more) getting comfortable with what my preferences are and why I feel the way I do - and even after all that time I can’t really say I’ve figured it out! My point is we are all different at some level and I would encourage you to reflect on what is most important to you going forward so that as you adventure into this world, you are not disappointed.

4. After some thought in (3), then BE YOURSELF. This is a common theme on these forums and good advice. You have to accept who you are and be true to yourself if you expect others to do the same. This is hard to do, but it is mostly mental and not necessarily practical. You don’t need to wear heels in public or to work tomorrow - hell you may decide never to do that. But, you have to first accept yourself if you want to be yourself.

Against the above, what I often do when out with the wife (technically fiancé) and see a women in attractive heels is point her out to my wife. I’ll say something like, “Wow, look at those heels, I wonder where she got those. Those would look great on you; Do you like them?” After all our time together and because we have talked about this, she knows I’m not lusting after the women, but rather the shoes - and that my thoughts are of HER in those shoes.

I hope the above is somehow helpful to you and recognize that you are not alone, you are not different, and you do not have a “problem!”

Welcome and glad to have you here!

Now that you mention that, I noticed that the women in the red slacks with the black platforms is the "third women" I referred to in my OP. I guess I was distracted by the red heels and legs, but who can blame me!

. . . . but my only complaint is the fit for the calves is still too tight. I can bearly get them to zip up.

This is the same problem my wife (fiance) has with boots in that she has larger calves. Those boots look amazingly hot, but I don't think they could fit her. Now me on the other hand . . .

Welcome!

I'm gonna bump this thread rather than start a new one since I came into a few "public" shots today. The context is a cheerleading competition in the Washington, D.C. area. I was quite surprised at the number of fairly “extreme” heels I saw in this context. Two shots are attached, which I think are sufficiently cropped or angled to avoid positive identification (although I was not sure the final forum ruling there). I also have a video of the red heels, but am working to get it converted and posted.

I caught a conversation of the first girl, where she was showing off her shoes. Her friend asked if she could walk and she replied she’s “getting better.” Her friend then asked if they were comfortable, and she replied, “a little.”

I addition there was a third women there with heels of the 5-6 inch height, but under pants. I couldn’t get a good picture, but caught a glimpse or two as she was moving some mats and they were very nice. I also saw a flash of brass, and couldn’t help but think of those little master padlocks! Can’t confirm that, but if I could – WOW!

Sorry the quality is so bad. Obviously it is hard to grab these shots unnoticed.

Being male in female heels exclusivly to now, I'm most often barefoot. Sometimes stockings, pantyhose and other female dress depending on the situation.

I wanted to share my high heel experiences from this last Friday night. Since I may touch on so many other posts already made (pictures, would you wear high heels for him, in her shoes, etc.) I thought I’d start a new thread.

With a recent reorganization of my personal priorities (which I refuse to acknowledge as New Year’s resolutions, despite the temporal coincidence) and bolstered by the support of you on this forum, I approached my significant other last week to talk about, among other things, my passion for heels. To be clear, this is not new to her as she has known of my interest in heels and other sexual preferences from the time we met, but we have over the last few years become overwhelmed to the degree that they took a back seat. She has never, ever, been judgmental of these feelings I have, and although she may not embrace all of them, she accepts them. For that, I am truly fortunate.

So after telling her how much I loved her and how much I appreciate everything she does, and after explaining that it remains difficult for me to ask her to do these things for me, I told her I would like her to wear high heels more often and that I also would like to do so. To be fair, this was sandwiched in a much larger discussion of other preferences that are beyond the scope of these forums. I then left her to read a letter I had written since I often find it easier to express myself in writing. When I returned, after some playful joking on her part, she said she would try her best to do what she could since she loves me and wants me to be happy. Wow . . . I really am lucky.

So I asked her if she would be willing to wear her 4.5 inch black patent pumps to dinner and a movie for me. She often wears such shoes, or higher, around the house (or more accurately bedroom), but it is not common for her to wear them out. She agreed. She wore jeans to the office with tennis shoes, and changed in the car on the way to the movie. The look, as commented in other posts, of the jeans and heels was exquisite. The toe of the shoe was showing just enough so a close look revealed the sharp bend in her toes that hinted it was a high heel. As she walked, the heel would flash under the jeans, telegraphing that it was taller than most, but never revealing its full height and leaving that to the imagination. Although I feel her foot is perfectly formed for heels and that she walks well in them (a topic for another day), they had done the job of changing her stature and shortening her gait.

We had to park several hundred yards (meters for many of you!) from the movies, and for each step of the way there I was near euphoric. I actually wanted to lag behind to see her, but of course could not do so! The ticket line was not long, but for some reason slow moving, and we had a 10 minute wait, during which she shifted from side to side. So I took this time to ask her about her heels, a topic of some discussions this last week.

“How do the shoes feel,” I asked her.

“My feet hurt and I feel ridiculous,” was her reply.

“Why,” I asked. “You look simply stunning and amazing sexy, and you look very comfortable in them. I don’t think anyone has noticed.” I think that was true. I watched carefully to see if anyone was eyeing her shoes, which I’m sure most of us here would have been keening tuned in on, but did not see any reactions. We walked slowly, of course, and on the way to the ticket counter an older couple passed us. We arrived behind them in line and he did turn and glance down toward her feet, perhaps aware from his time behind us, that she was in heels. I saw only two other women in heels that night, both less than 2 inches.

“Do you feel sexy in them?” I inquired, trying to get her to open up on her feelings.

“No.” she said. “I just feel self conscious.” I hugged her, reassured her she had no reason whatsoever to be self conscious, told her again that she was the best looking (and hottest) women there, and that I was very lucky to have her and be with her.

“Yes you are,” was her smart-ass reply.

I think she cheated during the movie, kicking them off for the last half! But after that we made our way to the car, drove to dinner and enjoyed a simple meal. When we left dinner, she took off the heels and put on her socks, to keep her feet warm. All in all, she was in them about 3.5 hours.

When we got home, after a glass of wine and some television, she turned the tables. I spent the next hour, at her insistence, in my 6/7 inch fetish pumps, standing in the corner and practicing my walk. Most of what happens next crosses a line for these forums, so I’ll leave it at that.

The pictures below are of the shoes she wore. Unfortunately, she is not aware of this board yet, so I don’t have any of her in them, but would love to get some soon! I also don’t have any shots of me or my shoes yet, but will try and get those posted if there is any interest, but I do, for better or worse, have masculine legs.

Thigh:

Thanks for the comments - they are helpful for me. I'm fascinated by this thread in part because I think it overlaps (or I want to make it overlap) one area of great interest to me concerning the psychological affects that high heels may have on males or females, particularly in a sexual context.

I think one way we might know how women feel about what they wear is by asking them! I certainly understand that women can more readily wear what they want and for men it is an adventure into a forbidden territory. This comes I think from societal norms and expectations, as well as gender stereotyping that most parents practice even before children are born (blue and pink may be a classic example). As a result, women’s feelings about what they wear are likely influenced by these trends in that they are substantially more comfortable wearing shoes that society finds acceptable for them. But I think those same norms and expectations may come to bear on women in situations where the shoe extends beyond what society readily accepts. For example, a women in 6 inch heels is far from the norm where I live and will certainly attract the attention of both males and females. And, I have firsthand witnessed females making derogatory comments about other women in higher heels, a reaction that is not completely at odds with that given to men in women's shoes.

I don’t think the line can be drawn so precisely to say that women don’t feel like men in men’s cloths so we don’t feel like women in women’s cloths, nor do I believe that it is not possible to know how a women feels if you are not a women. You may not have firsthand knowledge of it, but if you ask her “How does wearing high heels make you feel?” you might get an answer that allows you to equate those feelings to emotions you experience. Together with the similarities in the judgments that society imposes between men in heels and women in extraordinarily (for the situation) high heels, I’m not entirely convinced that the OP’s question as phrased can be quite as quickly dismissed in the negative.

Then again, perhaps it is just me that is trying to make this more complicated than it is!

Thanks Dr. S. I must admit limited exposure and understanding of transgender issues. There is no prejudice or judgment there, just that I have never had occasion to consider the issues your comments raise. I hope to read more about these emotions to better understand and thanks for bringing this up!

Do you guys think that your wearing "made for women" shoes and/or clothing give you a better understanding and comprehension of women; how they feel, how they think, how they are, how they relate to men...etc.

I’m gonna jump in here, completely recognizing that I first posted today and this is dangerous water in view of the overwhelming negative responses so far! I believe that issue is more complicated than first perceived. Your question asks if we can better understand how a women thinks and feels from wearing women’s shoes (as contrasted from high heels designed for men). I believe it does, at least at some minimal level. I certainly “feel” different when wearing women’s heels than I do in more conventional male dress. I admittedly do so in private, and it borders on fetish behavior for me at this time, but at a minimum there is an emotion that comes with it. As others opine strongly in various threads, I should say that I am not gay and do not desire to be women.

I first wore women’s heels (at least of proper size and fit) at the request of my current partner. In partial jest and in response to my continual requests and begging for her to wear heels more often (and she does quite often, thankfully), she retorted, “Why don’t you get some high heels and you can see what they feel like!?” I obviously jumped on the chance, ran to the computer, selected some with her input (she choose ultra-high 6 inch heels, which in my US men’s 12 / women’s 14, is more like 7 inches) and had them ordered before she could change her mind! In any event, her response was likely directed to a physical feeling, perhaps discomfort, that she wanted me to experience, which I think she now correctly perceives backfired! In any event, when I do have the chance to wear them, there is a clear and profound change in my attitude and emotions. I can’t say with any confidence right now that I feel “like a women” or better understand how they think and feel, but I can say that there are emotions attached. And, I think that may be on point to your inquiry and I hope it further fuels this discussion.

Sorry for the long post. I do get wordy as you all will find!

Hello all and thanks for the forum access. I’m from the USA and have had a passion for high heels for as long as I can remember. While I certainly would never argue against the beauty of any women in heels, my primary interests focus on the nexus between heels and BDSM activities, which currently includes heels for both myself and my partner. I certainly don’t want to stray to close to the moderation line in my first post, so I’ll leave it at that .

I am male, 40’ish and professional. The nick is gender confusing, but one that I have used from time to time in a number of forums so I’m sticking with it, particularly since it was surprisingly available. I look forward to the discussions here and sharing more as we go!