shirazmn

I'm sure some would debate this, but I think if you're out with a woman (and better if it's a wife or girlfriend), I think there's a lot more you can get away with. There are different standards for:

- a guy all alone

- a guy with other guys

- a guy out with women

Alone or with someone, you'll probably still get some looks (especially if, as you said, you have a 'noisy' pair of heels). But in terms of having someone 'get in your face', or worse case, accost you because 'you are different', I really doubt that would happen if you are with a woman.

But regardless of that, still congratulations on your outing.

I can't say you're wrong but I think this changes depending on where you are.

I've used the same boots going around alone one whole afternoon. I went to pick up my GF from work but that means walking for 10 minutes in a crowded road in Clapham, London, and taking a bus. Same boots means that they were still noisy but I didn't get many looks and the few ones were from girls about 20 years old.

I've never worn heels with guys only but I definitely will at a birthday at the end of november. We're going downtown london but I can already predict that nobody will care (we're going near Soho that is the gay area of London where is very common to see trannies or drag queens).

So, again, I am coming to thing that in London no one cares. As you say, you might get some stares but they will forget about you in no time, and you about them.

I have to admit that a few years back, before thinking of going out in heels, I would've looked at a man in women's shoes in the way you say. I would have judged (being wrong) him on the ability to attract a girl thinking that heels would have taken that from him. Now I know that I would've been wrong and I'm pretty confident that less people than we might think will actually have an opinion on us men in heels.

I know that a lot of people in here have done things more daring than this but, here's my experience from yesterday: I had to go to a public auction in Epsom, south of London. It takes about one hour from my place between trains and buses and I thought there would have been some people there, not too many I thought, and I took the decision of going in my 3" block heel boots. I wear them under my jeans so they are not very noticeable, but the clicking is pretty loud as the heel is empty and the shape of the boot is clearly not masculine. I was going with my Girlfriend, who said I looked very elegant in my suit jacket, red shirt, bootcut dark blue jeans and boots. At the station I had a few looks from some 20-something girls that probably heard the clicking or noticed the way I was walking. Nobody said anything at all. Getting to Epsom was a little scarier because it's a small town and I wasn't sure of how people would react to something different if they notices, but nobody said a word. Actually I think nobody really noticed. Then the auction: the "few people" were several hundreds in a huge reception room with a hard tiles floor. Also the chairs were finished and I had to stand for about 3 hours. I am sure somobody noticed the heels because it was impossible not to hear the click and I also started turning my feet on my heels to relax one foot a time. Not a very masculine movement. We also had to wait for another hour in a queue on the stairs to pay for our goods at the end of the auction. Once again I guess somebody noticed. Well, nobody during the day said anything at all. My feet were killing me after all that standing but I was absolutely satisfied and I am now much more confident than ever about going out with some heels on!

I absolutely love his style. Not only for the heels. I think he's great!

I´m 5´11" shoesize EUR 43/US 12

Twin

me too

What did you notice? something in TopShop window perhaps?

BTW --- this story has just hit the UK press:-

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-2050300/A-tall-order-fashionable-gentlemen-High-heels-men-rise.html

Just the usual "urgh, how disgusting" comments from their readership so far

Nope. There were (in TopMan) some 3 inches heel boots and some wedge loafers. Yesterday they weren't there anymore; I'll look for them on the site.

By the way: I am reading the comments on the "mail online" article. They are quite discouraging.

What do you mean "if"? It already has.

"if" is because I'd like to see something more than an article on a sunday's paper.

By the way, I think I'll go to Oxford Circus this evening to take a few pictures of something very interesting that I noticed last month...

The cascade effect of this NYT article is STAGGERING.

Jezebel, another well known site, wrote on the same topic as a result if the times piece http://m.jezebel.com/5850320/fashionable-men-are-stepping-out-in-womens-high-heels and if you do a search for men in heels on twitter, the stream of results that feeds back as a result if the Times piece is mesmerizing (long). This is a real boon to "the community"

Twitter is actually full of "fashionable men in high heels" links and tweets. I think this also answers some of the outfit-related wuestions that we ask on this forum: "what's the best, or most acceptable, outfit to wear with heels?".

Looks like the answer is "a very elegant and masculine suit".

If the "men in heels" revolution will start, that will probably happen in an elegant environment!

Absolutely cool article! I have to say that, given the number of men in heels at parties and clubs here in London, this is not unfamiliar to me. But this article gives me some more confidence so I think I'll push my style a little further from now on!

Here we go: Black suede block heels from Priceless. 4" block heel. very very comfy! I love them under my jeans

Unfortunately Aldo is always too small for me I wear a size 9UK but fit into a 43 more than a 42. And Aldo's 9 are always 42 That's a pity because I really love their style. (p.s. Sorry for the picture attached, that's an error. It should have been in "who bought...shoes")

Although the fancy dress party aspect has increased greatly in recent years, any cross dressing is very very limited in the UK, in fact I personally haven't seen any.

I personally wear a traditional all black with top hat and cape character when attending a Halloween party.

I don't agree on this. I live in London and I see fancy dress parties during all year. There are theatres like "corset and diamonds" (or something like that) organising at least one fancy dress party once a month. There are also fetish clubs or events like "Torture Garden" where people simply dress "different" or in fancy dresses.

I will attend one of these parties and wear some costume with heels I don't usually wear, such as high stilettos or high platforms. The idea would be not to crossdress but to make up a costume that allows me to be classy in some weird pair of shoes (weird=unusual like stripper's heel or such).

Las year I went to "white mischief" in central London, another fancy dress party" and the number of men in high heels was incredible. Looks like lot of people going for costumes such as vampires or some sofisticated "lords" decide to use shoes that improve their figure.

Halloween is around the corner and it is usually a good moment to wear what you usualy wouldn't wear in public. Thankfully this group is full of lucky and brave men that wear their heels out every day, but for some of us that is still something quite embarassing and halloween is the one night in the year when nobody will care too much about what you wear. Is anybody planning to wear something that he kept in a corner for a long time? Or maybe something bought just for the occasion?

It might be too late but, Good Luck! Don't forget to tell us about how it was!

They are 3 inches. I like the idea of the heel showing a little. Anyway, I think that a black heel is harder to see but much more feminine. so, i prefer people to see a little of a wooden heel, that is "allowed" for men too, rather than a black heel that would clearly indicate that I'm wearing women's shoes.

Ooooops... Maybe I forgot some commas

I just come back home from breakfast and some grocery shopping while wearing these boots. If anyone gave a seond look, I just don't know (and care about).

I had a few smiles from a few girls even if the heel was hidden under my jeans. I suppose my walking wasn't exactly masculine!

I'm going to use more often!

http://www.hhplace.org/attachments/guys/14231d1318164387-who_has_bought_some_new_boots-dscn0879.jpg

I got these from Ebay for only 2£. More than a bargain! They are weirdly comfy, considering they are 5" with 1 1/4 inches wooden soles. I have to find something to wear them outside with.

Bought last week in San Francisco. 3" block heel. I was wearing this morning in Clapham Common when I went out for breakfast and some groceries under my bootcut jeans.

I think this can fit in here. A few days ago I was thinking that everytime I wear heels I'm concerned about how people see me. And I'm not alone, given that in almost every "story" about heeling you can find things like "nobody gave a second look", that means that the heeler has spent time looking at the reactions. So, I thought, I could just play with it. I'm usually a shy person, but I could just wear some shorts, electric green tights and some queery golden ultra high heeled shoes ad assume that everybody will be looking at me. That would probably solve the problem because people will not expect from me anything but what I'm doing there, being out of the crowd. Following this thought, yesterday I bought some jeans in a style that could go with my heels. If I give other people what they want to see, if I show them that my heels are just a part of my style, then there is nothing left to be shy for. That would be ME for THEM, and that's it.

Last week I was in San Francisco. Bought a pair of block heeled boots (3") and wore them immediately... nobody ever gave a second look. London, where I live, is quite a good place if you go downtown. The only risk, there, is that if your shoes are too nice, the next day somebody will copy your style.

Boots with 3" block heels with bootcut jeans are the safes way to go, but I much prefer to wear stilettos with a bell-bottom jeans that is slightly shorter than my bootcuts and allows to see a little more of the heel.

Sometimes you must buy online if you, like me, are a size 9uk (43). Priceless shoes is a good source but they never have the best boots in large sizes in store Ebay is a life saver. And a good way to buy shoes just because they're cheap sometimes I'm trying to avoid Shoe Zone and Primark in London because their sizes are too small. Somebody told me that TK Max has some large size for cheap... I'll let you know

I like them! particularly the platform pumps and the pair from Pleaser. I actually have a pair similar to this but in a "mary jane" style with round closed toe and ankle strap. Thanks for sharing!

At the moment I have 3 pairs of men's trainers, 1 pair of men's black shoes and about 40 pairs of women's shoes. That makes it 10 to 1