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Thanks everyone.

By the way, "Exford" Street is Oxford Street and I was talking about London.

It's pretty obvious I shouldn't post 5 minutes after waking up... :$

After a looooong while without buying anything, yesterday I found these in a size UK9 / 43 while shopping with my wife.

http://www.newlook.com/shop/shoe-gallery/view-all-wide-fit/wide-fit-teal-pointed-ankle-strap-court-shoes-_295498947

They were 7£ (about 10 USD) so they came home with me

If you are interested, they still have a few pairs in the same New Look shop in Exford Street (the one with Starbucks inside), fourth floor at the very bottom where all the sale items are (sorry for the details, but I know some of us don't like to browse around too much).

Let me give you my point of view: I have been interested in girls' clothing since I way 4. I remember I tried on my mom's shoes the first time when I was 5 and that curiosity came from a little girl that was with me at the nursery school that was wearing coloured thights and nice mary janes. I consider myself sort of a crossdresser because I like to wear women's clothes, but I don't feel the need to show my femininity (that doesn't exist) arouund. Even wearing a women's tracksuit at home while watching TV with my wife puts me in a relaxed state of mind. So, I said I don't feel the urge to wear women's clothes outside but heels are a different story. I like the feeling and I bought some chunky heels boots to be able to feel it outside. Overtime I asked myself why heels. And after years of thinking I think I found my answer: I am a dominant person in everyday life, I am opinionated, a team leader and I take pride in organizing events and I like the responsibility that comes with it. I like to provide for my wife, eve if she works, and I am happy this way. So, I must be strong and in control all day. I must be protective and able to protect, move fast when i need to. And that's hard in heels. High heels shoes switch my passive mode on almost automatically. On high heels I relax because for as long as I have them on I can't be in control and I put myself in that state of mind. I think my will to wear heels outside is a cry for an environment where I can give up control or at least give it up physically. I am sure that this is different for all of us anyway.

I have around 45 pairs of women's and 4 pairs of men's. I am trying to use some heeled boots out so I can feel a little less guilty for all the money spent

Hi everyone. I hope this is the place. Yesterday (March 19th) I was in Primark in Marble Arch (London) and they are having a massive boots sell-out. They are selling some lines for 3£ a pair (used to be 18£ before the reduction). If you, like me, are a compulsive buyer, I think you should pop by. Last info: I only saw one size 9, but there are a lot of size 8 and less. I am definitely going to go back and check if they threw out some more stuff for that price!

Hi!

This is the link where I found them:

http://www.ebay.co.uk/itm/110784357491?ssPageName=STRK:MEWNX:IT&_trksid=p3984.m1497.l2649

I have to say that after a week they still have to arrive and I'm getting a little worried... I hope it's just the post.

I really like the second pair can you please tell me the name of the seller, or the search you did on eBay thanks? 6inch,heaven

Due to a change of girlfriend, I had to stop all the public heeling in november and I sold most of my favourite pairs of shoes. Now that I told the new GF about my heeling, I decided to get a few more pairs, starting from the lower heel up (so she won't freak out too soon). I just bought these 2 pairs of boots on Ebay. Can't wait to go back out walking in heels in the streets.

I am so glad oxfords are back in style. Nice choice, very cute!

Unfortunately they are too small

Tomorrow I am going to a car booth sale to try and sell all the pairs that don't fit. I'll make some space in my wardrobe and some money to buy something new (that fit). I now have more than 40 pairs too small and I want to sell them!

If you are in London tomorrow (4 dec) and want to get some cheap (from 5£) pairs of nice heels in size 9UK and 10, pop a visit to: Battersea Park School, Battersea Park Rd, London SW11 5AP. Give me a call on 07907034526 after 12 noon to know the right position in the market.

FOR THE ADMIN

I apologise if this look like advertising. I am actually getting rid of some shoes that I love (sob!) and I think it's a good occasion for other guys to get very nice shoes for cheap.

Just bought these from priceless. Tey are due to arrive in one week.

Reading the comments looks like they are very small so I bought 1 1/2 sizes higher than my normal size.

If they fit I will definitely start using them out!!!

If you want a pair, this is the page:

http://www.bigshoeboutique.co.uk/en/block-heel-lace-up-brogues-234711

That's managed to offend 3 groups with a single post. First and worst, those with cerebral palsy, secondly those whose feet are natually splayed to some extent and finally our lovely chilly friends the penguins.

Tacchi_Alti is correct in saying you should normally land on your heel first. This may be difficult in very high hels but the remedy is practice. If you're walking across soft ground in stilettos then of course it may be necessary to walk on your toes but that's the exception.

I am speaking in general. There are even peole in a wheelchair if you want to know and i don't mean to offend anyone. I am talking about finding a way to define a masculine walk in heels that would not look wrong.

If you see some guys dressing up for fun during halloween that are just in heels because it's part of the outfit, they will walk with bent knees and feet pointing out just to nalance themselves. That is what I call ridiculous and I am dure that's what the girls referred to when commenting on the articles. I am NOT talking about people with a medical condition!

With "landing on the sole" I meant "not falling". But I am quite happy with the fact that this misunderstanding generated a discussion about portment that is what my post was all about.

For days I've been reading comments to the articles about men in heels. A lot of them, when written by a girl, focus on how the think it would be ridiculous to see a man walking in a feminine way. We all know that there are good and bad ways of walking in heels. Even some women look like spastic penguins when walking on 4 inch or more. But the point is: is there a particupar portment that would be considered masculine and so more acceptable? With heels it's easy (if not better) to swing your hips. But men don't have "hips" and I don't think anybody would be interested in seeing a man flaunting a flat bottom. I think it's cute to see a girl taking very short steps in 5" party platforms, but I believe that a man with a broad constitution woul look weird doing so. Walking like ducks with the toes pointing out is always wrong. And it's impossible to take "manly" wide steps if you want to land properly on the sole of the shoes instead of breaking a heel. What do you think? Have you developed a walk that you think would be better than another?

I find it almost gross to think of a nice pair of shoes with hair around. Boots are one thing but whenever the skin is visible it should be smooth and hairless. When the designer created those shoes he surely didn't imagine hair coming out of them. I started shaving my body years ago, all of it, and it never caused an issue with any GF or lover. A few friends, mostly at the swimming pool asked why and my answer was that i prefer it this way. Another good reason to shave is that you can enjoy a nice pair of stockings with your heels. It hitches if you have hair and ruins the whole experience. Some years back I bought an epilator. Let me tell you it hurts like hell and that it's not true that the second time it's better! On the other hand, it's very effective. Hair grows back but much less. Nowadays it can happen that i don't shave for a few days but even then I only have much less hair than I used to.

Just bought these on Ebay. They are lovely! I tried them on and I immediately fell in love. I think they'll look great with some nice thights.

I don't tend to walk any sort of deliberate distance when I go out public heeling as it's usually around a shopping area or out at a social function. I would say six hours walking around the shops is the most I have done, I must clock up a few miles during this time.

Amen!

Same here, in London.

I usually wear heels when in a crowd, in example when I go out clubbing in central London. I go out in the afternoon and come back home at night covering a long way in between. Anyway, I found that it's easier to hide in plain sight than in the dark. I feel more secure in a crowded square or in a club than in a dark street at night with nobody around (even if at the beginning I thought otherwise).

I just received those lovely black leather boots, will wear them to go home tonight!!!

OMG, they are fantastic!!! How much did you pay for them?

I am going step by step.

The most important thIng, to me, is to be comfortable with myself, not to break the rules. In time i'll be out in evary kind of shoes i'm comfortable in.

I'm a little confused. What was the trigger that made you go from 1 1/2" heels to 3 1/2" ones? I appreciate the open-mindedness of San Franscisco & London, but you already had a girlfriend (typically lack of SO/GF approval, #1 reason for not heeling).

In terms of your 2 important issues, I'd add an important prerequisite: an appropriate pair of shoes. The 3 1/2" block heel ankle boots you picked are ideal. You could walk around almost forever in them, and get little to no attention. That makes it easy to focus on building your confidence. Had you gone out in a pair of 5" pink stillettos, I think you would have had a vastly different experience. I doubt you'd have built up your confidence nearly as quickly.

I found this site just before going to a trip to California in the late summer. I had already gone out in women's shoes, but always very low heels. The highest were about 1 1/2 inch tall. After I started reading all people's experiences here, I though I could feel a little more "normal" and I liked the fact that the phrase "nobody gave me a second look" appears in almost every story of heeling. So, when I went to San Fran (that is famous to be one of the most accepting cities for gays, CDs and heelers), I went with my GF in a shoe shop and found a pair of ankle boots with 3 1/2 inch block heels that could easilly pass for men's if worn under a pair of jeans. The same jeans I had on that day. As soon as we walked out of the shop I immediately wore the boots and for the rest of the day I've been out in high heels, freely, in the sun, for the first time. I though of what I read here and it really was true. Nobody cared! I felt so free and happy. Back to London I realised that I live in one of the most open minded cities in Europe. I have read about a lot of men going to shop in London's shoe stores here, and I decided I wouldn't be afraid any more. I had to go to a public auction, plenty of people in a small town just outside London and I went in the same heels (and jeans) I was wearing in San Fran. Nobody cared. Great! Since that day I have bought another pair with a 2 1/2 inch platform and go around in them every week end (I'll use them today too at a friend's birthday) and I have to say that thanks to the people in this site I have learnt 2 important lessons: 1) As long as you are confident in what you are doing, nobody will care about it. 2) As long as you are happy with what you are doing, you'll start not to care about whether they care or not! Thanks you all!

I can understand LiveAndLearn point of view. As I said in some other posts, if you are a slim queery gay guy that behaves as such, then nobody will say anything about you going around in 5 inch stilettos. Curiously if you go around with your girlfriend in stilettos and a men's suit, nobody will care because you are not palying the fool but you are already accepted by someone of the other gender (that, in our society, means a lot). So, the problems come when you try to be something in between. If you are a single guy wandering around in heels without a "reason" and without a certified acceptance by at least another person, then you'll be targeted. If you search for "man wearing heels" on youtube you'll find a lot of videos of (usually) teenagers following a heeler with their mobile. You'll see that the heeler is always alone. I still have to find a video where they make fun of a guy out with a girlfriend or some friends. At the end, I think that society is getting more accepting about men in heels. It will start with queery guys being accepted and then it will pass over to every other man. It will start in a big city or in a modern country, we can't expect it to take off in Iran, but I am sure it will slowly happen. I just wish my ankles will not bee too worn out by that time so I will be able to enjoy my heels properly.

Here's another one. I like this one more than the NYT's because it actually explains the trend a little.

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-2061430/High-heel-shoes-men-Would-let-man-wear-10cm-heels.html?ito=feeds-newsxml

As usual the comments are not the best but I think we're used to it at this point.

I have had a look around and wherever this article is published (in its variations) there is the picture of the two guys with the black stiletto heels. I found the following shoes on ebay for 12£ and decided to give that style a go! I just have to find the right trousers and I'll be out clubbing in London in what I will call "new LA style".

Inspired by the article on the NYT, I have bought these. As soon as I find the guts I'll buy some properly fitted trousers and will wear them out in plain sight.

1. How old have you been, when you got your first heels? 23. 2. What was the reason? I absolutely loved heels and I wanted to get a pair to feel different walking in a different way. 3. Who paid the bill? Me 4. How much did you spend? About 80$ inluding shipping from the USA to Italy 5. How and where did you buy? Ebay. That was the first time I've ever bought anything there, it was 2001. 6. Were you allowed to wear them at home? No way. I could hide them in my shop's back room and that's why I finally bought them.

I don't know if these are high enough to classify as "high heels", but let me introduce my new everyday boots. I went around everywhere in London yesterday and nobody even noticed due to the fact that the wedge doesn't make any noise at all. Bought on ebay for 10£ they are one of the best buy of my life even if they're only 2 1/2 inch high.

Round and square are my favourites as they make my feet look a little smaller. With the new "high heel loafers" fashion, I think a lot of people would now go for "square".

Hi everybody. Yesterday I was wasting some time on FB and found the picture that I'm uploading as an attachment. (please have a look before reading on) The picture was probably posted originally on carazyshit.com, then ripped and put in this gallery called "Epic win and Epic Fail". Clearly not in the first category in the intentions of whoever posted it. This group is mainly followed by idiotic teenagers (I'm in there because there actually are a few ilarious pics every once in a while) so I wasn't surprised about the number of "WTF???" in the comments. What surprised me are a few comments like: "How bigot you are!" said to people that left bad comments "I admire him! He does what he wants and doesn't give a sh*t" "Nice shoes" from a guy These comments were still coming from teenagers. I was expecting more and more bad comments, really! I still take this as a positive news. Looks like somebody actually thinks you can wear what you want, and I'm absolutely sure that part of the negative comments were only "standard reactions". (coming from Italian people, not the most modern minds. I know very well).