ShyHeelGuy

I would love to come, I think I need a few meets like this in order to bolster my confidence enough to go out in heels on my own. Plus it helps when it's not in your local area :-) Maybe for now as I do sometimes have to work weekends, but if I'm not working then I'll do my best to attend!

And just a note on the meeting side of things, I discovered I loved heels about a year into this relationship so meeting her with heels on at that point was an impossibilty. Otherwise I would have mentioned things a lot earlier!

Many thanks for the advice chaps! Certainly a lot to think about. Bubba/Pebbles: That is exactly why I haven't taken things further yet, I want to get any issues like that ironed out before anything else happens. It isn't worth doing the extra damage later on in life when its more than just a relationship that gets damaged as you said. In my mind, if she was to marry me, just out of respect for her she needs to know precisely what the whole "package" is and what she is getting before it happens. It's not right to leave out any details, no matter how small. ILK: I can't honestly see why you'd be reprimanded or hated for that answer, it is some of the most realistic advice on here. I guess I have known roughly what the advice would be, but when you're in this sort of situation you sometimes need to hear it from others before you can actually admit it to yourself. So thank you for saying it! Dr Shoe: The whole gay thing didnt have any impact on the "pitch" at all, especially as it was something that was mentioned by her when we saw a cross dresser at alton towers a few months ago. As far as my girlfriend is concerned, heel wearing is cross dressing and is therefore wrong end of story. I think I'm just going to have to come out with it, see what her reaction is and do whatever is necessary afterwards. But its plucking up the courage to do it as it isn't going to be easy at all. No one that actually knows me knows about me wearing heels yet, so it isn't something I have done before. I have tried to get her used to the idea gently, but it hasn't worked. At the end of the day, what will be will be. And hey, maybe when I tell her properly, it might change her mind. Shall have to see. Thanks again for all your advice! Cheers, SHG

I can get around in 6" heels easily enough, got some 7" heels on their way to me now though so I can try it

While I respect people who explore the feminine thing, I have never really been attracted to it myself. Its just something about high heels (stilettos in particular) that facinates me so I have always been trying to just appear as a guy in heels (well, in private for the time being anyway, but confidence is still growing despite certain issues arising )

Probably an age old problem I know, but its one I'm finding quite awkward/difficult so please bear with me. I have been putting feelers out with my girlfriend of almost 3 years for the last 5/6m months to try and get what she thinks to the idea of men in heels. Now through some luck, a friend was having a reversed pimps and hoes party, so I had the chance to just put on some heels to "try them on for the party" infront of her (with my usual mens bootcut jeans and tshirt). Nothing OTT, just some pleaser 3" knee high PU boots which I put on under the jeans so most of the heel was covered when she saw it. And she freaked out, even though she knew what the reason for me having them on at that point was Now I didnt just chuck her in at the deep end with it, we had conversations prior to that event regarding crossdressers and men who just wanted to wear heels, the differences, and the fact that it does not necessarily mean they're gay (in either case). But she didnt seem to take to it, and seems to have the complete modern preconception that heels are for girls and for girls only. Even though they were originally worn by men. We have also had subsequent discussions about it all (not giving away that I wear heels, but hinting at the idea) and no matter how subtle and gentle I am about it, it still freaks her out and she said she can't even handle the idea of it I have even made it clear I have no intention of wearing skirts, blouses or any other article of womens clothing. So there is my dilemna. I have no idea what to do about it now. I do love her very much, hell I even have the ring chosen. But I can't stay in hiding all my life, and the thing that really gets me is this: surely in a relationship, it should be taking the person for exactly who they are and not judging them by what they look like or what they wear? Any input or advice would be greatly appreciated Cheers, SHG

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I have a UK mens size 11, so that rules out most of the styles of shoes that are available. And then to top it all off, my feet are pretty wide. While this gives me very very good stability, it does not help fitting in heels one bit

I dont actually live in an urban area, I'm in a pretty rural area and the few thugs/chavs etc that are around hang around either by the beach (about 4 miles away) or go into town about 10 miles away, but never come round here. So its pretty safe on that front. I do aim to go to a busy public area at some point, but when you havent been out at all and dont know what to expect, it is pretty scary stuff. And I was intending on getting some mid heeled shoes along the cowboy boot line for when I go into a busy public area to blend in a little more.

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The boots are 6" with a 2" platform, so Im effectively feeling a 4" heel so its not all that bad. I have fairly muscular legs anyway from being an avid mountain biker, so holding my weight on the toe box isnt such a problem for me (other than the burning balls of my feet which the party feet should help reduce). Anyway, the metal tips should solve the problem of the tips wearing down prematurely for now I will hopefully be going for another wander around tonight, and hopefully get a little further! Thanks for the replies chaps!

Well I waited until stupid oclock in the morning (somewhere around 3ish) for my first walk outside in high heels. I put on my black wicked tshirt (Epic show by the way, anyone who is into musicals MUST go and see this!), my dark blue jeans and my 6 inch platform boots. I wore them under my jeans this time, but I think I may put them over my jeans next time if my confidence levels allow I got to the front door, and my heart rate jumped up several notches as the nerves set in. I took several deep breaths to calm myself down, and opened the front door. It was a good job I didnt choose last night to sleep, it was very warm and humid. Yuck. Anyway, I stepped outside onto the front door step, heart racing even faster. I took a quick look around outside to see no one was watching. All clear. I took a few seconds to compose myself and started walking. It was quite a surreal experience, listening to the sound of the heels in the dead quiet of the night. Each footfall sounded like a crack of lightning, although, I wasn't sure if it was the heels or my heart pounding in my ears I could hear but whatever it was, it was exciting I held my head up, and walked down to my local park. I couldnt see anyone there, so I proceeded to start walking around it and on through some more of the neighbourhood. After 15 minutes of walking, my feet began to ache and the balls of my feet started to burn (note to self, buy some party feet), so I turned back. By the time I was back home, I was walking as confidently as any girl in heels and thoroughly enjoying it. I think what does it for me is the extra confidence and sensuality that wearing heels inspires, and the click click noise as you walk down the street. One thing that annoyed me though was the rate that the heel tips were wearing down. So, since a lot of my enjoyment of heels is the sound, I ordered some metal tips to replace the plastic ones. When they arrive in a couple of days, I will certainly be going for another midnight walk, and hopefully starting out with a lot more confidence! I have to say a big thank you to all you guys on here who have inspired me to take this big step forward, in particular (but not exclusively) JeffB and his well documented jaunts

First picture upload . . I know the jeans etc still need tweaking, but its a start, and its the look Im after

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Welcome from another new member Im sure you'll find everyone on here just as helpful, friendly and open minded as I have!

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Well, I think Ive found my style! Knee boots over a decent pair of jeans . . classic, never really goes out of fashion and feels good too. Just gotta wear them in today, then may try going out late tonight if the weather improves. But this is the UK, so chances of that are pretty slim Thanks again guys for your warm welcome and advice so far! It is all confidence inspiring I'll be heeling publicly sooner than I would have had I not found this forum!

Fate

Just been reading through some of this thread, and seriously dude, you have some serious balls to go out dressed like that! Kudos mate! I havent even had the gonads to take a walk down the street at night in heels yet but this is inspiring me to go for my first steps outside when my boots arrive it will be late at night, but its a start. Keep it up with the jaunts, Im thoroughly enjoying reading about them! Take Care! PS You have one helluva pair of legs on you mate! I may be slightly envious!

I think Im going to be spending a long time on this forum over the next few years the positive attitudes on here are simply awesome I have a pair of 6" knee high platform boots on their way to me now from ebay, they were at a price I could not resist hehe Generally speaking though, ebay doesnt tend to have much (for what I want) in the larger sizes. Ellie shoes looks like they could be a goer though! I may try going out in the boots when they get here, but fairly late at night just to try and get myself used to the idea of going out in heels. My girlfriend isnt really a big heeler really, her sense of balance is dreadful but it would be awesome going out with her with us both wearing heels. Cant see it happening any time soon though One baby step at a time!

I think seeing them on my girlfriend was the point of realisation, but I guess I have always had a bit of a thing for heels anyway (but buried somewhere at the back of my mind). All my pin-ups wore some form of heel (the higher, the better), paid more attention to girls wearing heels than those wearing flats. Ive not even gone as far as going out at night, still havent had the guts to go out although hopefully one day . . . My girlfriend is a very very understanding soul, so I'm sure she'll accept it (eventually ). I do plan on introducing the subject very gently over time, then its not a bombshell hit. Im not very clued up on whats good, whats not etc regarding brands, but I had heard good things about pleaser and they seem to be one of the only companies that make the 8 inch platform heels (shoes and boots) I like in my size Would love a wider variety though in the larger sizes. Are there any other brands you guys would recommend in particular?