johnieheel

Just be yourself. Don't act nervous. Just a walk in the park.

Wow That was along time ago lol. My daughter now owns these.

Just want to say hi. I'm Back and will be popping in from time to time. Everything is good. Cannot believe how many new members have joined. Awseome! Keep on heeling! johnieheel

This report came from the BBC news website.

Oxford University rewrites gender dress code

Oxford University students will no longer have to wear gender-specific academic clothing after concerns it was unfair to the transgender community.

It will mean men can attend formal occasions in skirts and stockings and women in suits and bow ties.

The new rules come after a motion by the Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Trans and Queer society (LGBTQ Soc) was passed by the students' union earlier this year.

The changes, to start from 4 August, have now been agreed by the university.

Jess Pumphrey, LGBTQ officer, said the change would make a number of students' exam experience significantly less stressful.

Under the old laws on academic clothing - known as subfusc - male students were required to wear a dark suit and socks, black shoes, a white bow tie and a plain white shirt and collar under their black gowns.

Female students had to wear a dark skirt or trousers, a white blouse, black stockings and shoes and a black ribbon tied in a bow at the neck.

If a transgender student wanted to wear subfusc of the opposite sex they had to seek special dispensation from university proctors, who had the power to punish those who breached the rules.

An Oxford University spokesman said: "The regulations have been amended to remove any reference to gender, in response to concerns raised by Oxford University Student Union that the existing regulations did not serve the interests of transgender students."

I've never seen the "Q" added or referred to before, I not aware whether it is relative only for Oxford Uni. or the press "adding" words of which I could suspect (foolishly on their part). However I don't believe the BBC would be stupid to use the Q word?

Al

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Well I stand enlightened it seems this is often used. However my union (UNITE) has never used it and I personally would feel it unnessesary, even insulting.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Queer

I told them it's simply freedom of choice. I just think mens shoes are ugly for the most part and I like the way heels look and feel.

So they say "but they're womens shoes" and I say ," no, they're mine", and everybody has something or does something that somebody else doesn't agree with. It's simply freedom of choice.

Shoot, it's been two years since I've posted any outings? Apparently my old thread got locked because it was languishing. Took a hiatus from heeling for a while, having lost some interest in heeling, but it slowly came back. About a year ago I was really wondering if I was really a CD, but I realized that no, I'm not really a CD, just a guy who likes women's shoes much more than men's shoes. After the last girlfriend had a major malfunction over women's shoes, I really wondered "do I thin the dating pool considerably by doing something many women aren't that cool with, or do I better myself, and get over my foibles?". Unfortunately I almost convinced myself of that, and for a while it felt liberating to put them away. Over the last several months I've been going through a recovery program through my church, namely because I was still dealing with negative feelings from my divorce from 4 years ago. While it improved that aspect, there was still something lacking. Then I realized what it was. I wasn't being myself, I was fooling myself. I didn't even follow my own advice and I had thinned the shoe collection considerably. Then I realized what it was. I'm not at my best because I'm not being myself. Uy veh. Life is short, and even from my church I've learned you can't please everyone. So, I've started accumulating again, and I've decided life is too short to please everyone, so while many people might think you're the village weirdo for wearing women's shoes, or the ignorant masses might think you're gay, I realized that no, I'm not gay no matter how many stereotypes I might fit, and I have faith that when the right woman comes along, she will. I was married to one who accepted them, it could happen again.

That said, I had an outing today. I picked up a pair of flats from Payless last night, and like them a lot. I took the hair off my feet, trimmed my nails, and wore them out today for a little shopping. Wore my jeans, my pink polo shirt, and my flats. Went over to the mall on the west side of Cleveland, and wanted to go to Aldo, one of my favorite places. I had some trepidation, not having been out in them for a while, but soon it was like riding a bike again. Nobody seemed too interested in a guy wearing women's flats. One guy and a couple girls looked, but that's about it. I looked at a pair of black espadrille wedge pumps at Aldo, which they had in my size, but they were small even by Aldo standards. Nothing in a larger size. Rats. I wandered over to Dillard's and saw they had some black Steve Madden pumps in black suede. They had them in my size, and they fit perfectly. The guy assisting didn't seem at all flustered when I tried them on. Maybe that's why I like shoe shopping, the thrill of trying them on in the store. Score one pair.

Wandered back through Aldo, and saw a pair of blue suede pumps I liked. Lucked out, they were on clearance and I figured they were surely sold out, but they had my size and they fit perfectly. Wandered through the DSW next to the mall, but didn't see too much that caught my eye. Stopped by another mall along the way, one of the swankier places around. One guy took a long, hard look as I walked by, but it felt good to be wearing comfortable shoes that I happen to like, even if they may look a little strange. Saw an awesome pair of purple pumps at Aldo, and had to think really hard about those, but the price was a little too high.

Stopped by Famous Footwear and saw a pair of tan espadrille pumps that I liked, and the price was right. Very comfortable. The lady assisting asked if I'd like another pair for 1/2 off, so I took a quick look around, but didn't spot anything that called out. Seems that offer is still open though, she stapled a coupon so I can come back at some point and take advantage of the 1/2 off another day.

Good day overall. Spent almost the whole day in my flats. Yes, I realize this the High Heel Place, but I wasn't in a heeling mood today. Maybe some other day.

As Steven Tyler would say, I'm back in the saddle again

Thanks for that Dave. Good to hear from you. I've been kinda dealing with the same thoughts. Seem to be getting more negative thoughts from women than positive, although there are still enough positive to keep me going. Like you say, fact is I am what I am and to be completely happy within myself, I have found that the wardrobe has to be complete. I am NOT a cd, gay or whatever other labels there are for wearing heels. Simple fact is, I just like em! and they make me complete. Thanks John happy heeling bro...

Wayyyyyyy too much!!! lol

This is just cute. I saw this in one of the Google ads at the top of this site and had to check it out. The fine folks at 3M have been getting creative, now your Scotch tape can wear heels too!

Here is a link to the page. It appears only the black stiletto and red wedge are available now, with others coming "Real Soon Now".

A lady friend and her mother was out shopping last weekend and her mother seen these in a store and actually bought it for me. LOL She brought it to my lady friends attention and told her that she, the mother, is going to get it for me.

Then it is set! I'll do all the work and all you just show up. Please take note with no offence but this is a heel meet for men as men in heels and women that want to wear whatever they want as long as it is respectable. Sorry guys, no skirts, make-up or cross-dressing. Thank you in advance for understanding.

July 7 sounds good

Was jus kidding. If u like painted toenails then jus do it.

I guess it's ok if thats what floats your boat but as for me? Shoes is as far as i have ever wanted to go. I have absoultly no interest in looking like a girl. Thats just me.

Is anybody interested? U pick the time.

Like many here, it was my moms lumps. I was only 3 or 4. She gave me a pair of red pumps to play with and laughed as I clipped clipped around the house. Lol I remember admiring all the shoes that girls wore as I went through school. Love them Mary James. when I reached about 12 or 13 I got into moms closet again and tried her white pumps. Fit like a glove. I was hooked.

I can't vote on this because I have no one special preference. Although I will only buy leather boots. I just purchased a pair of 4" stacked knee high black leather boots with round toe that i wore out with date all day and half the night. I have everything from ankle boots with platform sole and 5" heel to zip/lace knee-high (avatar) to a 3" block heel zip Tommy Hill, which are the most comfy. and a few more. I love them all.

Well back when I started this thread, tolerance was the word that just seemed right. Now that I have a lot more experience in street heeling where ever I go, whenever I want I think acceptance would be much more appropriate. Yes. I do believe times are changing and people are really not very shocked about seeing a man in heels in a lot of places around the globe and actually , once they have seen it, it's like anything else they haven't seen before and don't even bat an eye the next time they see it. No big deal any more and I think it's great!!! It's been a life long dream for me to be able to wear heels in public freely without being ridiculed and now it has finally come true. It can only get better with time as long as we all get out there and just be ourselves. Thank you all!!!

Not sure how to answer this. I gues my best answer would be, I wear whatever I have on when I'm on here. lol Right now, daughter and I just got done with a 3 mile walk so I'm wearing walking shoes, tank top and shorts.

Got the brown version of my Cole Haan boots. Tried them with my skinny jeans.. but.. well, not sure if I like the look without the jacket. I do have another pair of "slim straight" levis that fit well and look like they were made to conceal the boots. Not much help for the cause but much easier to wear then spikes in certain situations.

Same park, but a different location I got some pics of the Vera Wang boots I got recently also. These have around a 4" heel, and are quite comfortable for walking. These are also quite stealthy in the right jeans and I suspect they will get alot of wear. No zippers, and while they are easy to put on they can be a pain to take off. Oh darn, might have to leave em on then

Very Coooool!!!

Can you imagine any of the BFs, wanting to impress your daughter, not being cool with your heels? How would she react to somethign like, "I like you a lot , but your dad is nuts."

Daughter got a mind of her own and heels or no heels, if she likes the guy, trust me, dear ol dad really don't matter. lol

On the other hand, she would simply ask me not to wear heels arounde him. No prob. I wouldn't let a pair of shoes stand in the way of her happiness and I also understand that there are some who simply just can't come to terms with men wearing heels and thats ok to. I would never do anything to embarass my daughter.

Pardon me while I change the subject, but you say that woman is 50???!!! Wow, she looks incredible! Man, am I jealous! A lady that looks like

that, who likes heels, and likes you in heels as well....please, don;t wake me from my dream! lol

Wow, I don;t know what happened to my avatar, and why is says something about Crocs. I hate Crocs!

Not easy being me. lol!!! Yes , she turned 50 last weekend apr 28 and once again we had a great time.

LOL Thank you Steve..I do got good taste lol. Even the girls i date tell me that.

More to point, have any of her boyfriends expressed a desire to start wearing heels?

lol Nooooo.

Do not be afraid. Be yourself. Act like its just another day wearing whatever you wear. A very nice co-worker-lady friend and I have been out for the past 3 weeks everywhere from church to the mall to the strip mall, dinner, breakfast with friends, at a local restaurant, shoe shopping and so many more places I can't list. First time out we went shoe shopping and had a blast . She tried on so many pair, to much caffeine I think, lol Then had me try on a few pair that she picked out and then talked me into buying one. Well I wore them on the next outing and we had so much fun. Each time we have been out I wore a different pair. I got a new pair of leather 4" stacked heel knee high boots this last weekend and wore them when I picked her up to go celebrate her 50th birthday. She absolutely loved them. This day she was not in heels but I was. She dressed to b comfy but still looked really cute as always. We went to a local pub, had lunch and then all over town. Stopped at a pet store and I stood there and talked to 2 guys about my iguana and I know they noticed my boots but just acted like it was totally normal. Again we went to a lot of other stores, stood and talked to folks and no comments at all. Kinda disappointing in a way but felt totally awesome to be able to have no fear and just be myself as I am wearing whatever I want and nothing happen. Felt sooooo normal. Moral of the story, same as the topic. GO PUBLIC guys, really nothing to fear but fear itself.

Nother update. Daughter has gone through a couple boyfriends since then. lol Every time she gets a new one, she warns him of my shoes before she brings him over. So far they have all been very cool about it and always ask to see my heels. lol

Well I haven't posted in this thread for some time now Since the time I started it I have been out in heels quite a lot. Haven't gotton many comments but the ones I have recived are positive. No body seems to care whats on my feet. So I truly believe folks are becomming more open minded about what they see in public as to men wearing heels. TY