Mikey63

I'm not exactly in my teens anymore :0 Closer to 30 infact, I live with parents because the cost of living in the UK is too high if you have a job. Maybe I should become unemployed and live off the state.....

Ask her if she was expecting to find crack and also ask what she was smoking that made her not ask you directly first, put her on the spot.

Well that brings up a good point, it could be far far worse than a few pairs of heels. I happen to know that she doesnt know about my brothers little part time affections for "illegal substances".

I'm still furious, but I take pride in knowing that she has just washed and ironed 4 pairs of my womens jeans!

Which is something I always do myself normally, for obvious reasons.

Its happend, i've got my entire collection of shoe's and boots spread across my room and my car. I woke up this morning to find my car, which contain my boots and wedge sandals, had been moved by my mother. I went out to check on my shoes and yes she had opened the boot/trunk and opened up my unlabeled cardboard boxes. Since when does moving a car involve checking its entire contents? My response when asked is going to be: "Well if you won't like what your gonna find, then do go looking!! I could explain myself, but I won't. I'll let you think what you like." One day I would have explained about my shoe's, but now I refuse to justify myself when my privacy has been invaded in such a way. I really don't care what she thinks and she can stew for a while as punishment for this invasion of my privacy.

3 of my ex gf's had UK size 9+ feet, most Womens shoes in the UK only go upto size 8. There is definately something to be said for this.

Personally, im not trying to say "Hey look at me everybody!!!!". Im going for the subtle "like what im wearing? look closely, do you still like what im wearing?".

Generaly the difference I notice is they're tighter around the bottom, which gives the effect of longer legs because theres no baggyness and the outside leg around the knee has a bit of curve instead of being dead straight. Of the 9 pairs I own, the Levi 525 (bootcut) and 544 (flared) are probably my favourite. They both fit tight around the thigh and flare out from the knee, giving a very nice curvy shape. The bonus for me is that only women seem to notice. Infact at a guess, 95% of women notice compared to less than 5% men (closer to zero in my opinion). This is because most men sadly don't have any fashion sense at all, a pair of jeans is a pair of jeans to them.

Wedges are great, they can be worn much more casualy. Walking along the beech/seafront was no problem at all and onlookers don't immediately assume "weirdo" or "pervert", which are rare comments i've unfortunately had when wearing 4 inh heeled boots. Im slowly phasing out all of my mens shoes (only 2 pairs left now) and wedge heels are going to take up most of my new collection.

For some I think it's just something else to moan about.

I've had a similar response myself, it seems to be Women who are of that "middle class but think they're upper class" snotty type. She was probably thinking "how dare you?!?!" The reason they react that way is because you've just taken them out of their little box of security. They're so up themselves that they think the world should be exactly as they say it should be. I've had one of these get out of her BMW X5 and walk upto me in a carpark to shout "why have you parked like that???" in a snotty manner (because i'd parked over two spaces on an empty carpark). My response to this was a simple "because im a c*nt", she did'nt know what to say and just walked off a bit red faced. By all means be more discrete if you wish, but whatever you do there will always be people who react in that way, its just a reaction to something they dont approve of. I guarantee you'd get the same response if you did something as simple as getting your nose pierced.

I think we all secretly like that "rush" when someone notices the shoes and you don't quite know whether they're going to say something or not. They don't know what to say, their minds can't stretch that far. Even the most confident looking people don't dare to say anything and THAT gives a real feeling of power!!! Now excuse me while I slip on my heels and go for world domination one closed minded human being at a time.

Actually, the biggest difference I notice between mens and womens jeans is the outside leg stitching..... On mens its dead straight and looks terrible, womens jeans curve in around the knee and fit snug around the arse (instead of looking like they're 6 sizes too big). Nothing looks better with heels than a good pair of jean's.

Working in the high heel industry I almost dropped my coffee cup when I saw that broken right heel. You ask how well you are walking in those boots .... actually very well considering that broken heel. My advice ... get it fixed before you Do break an ankle

Agreed, fix that heel before it fixes you!

Well......okay....as long as you keep your promise .

There have been a fair number here that are getting into fashionable flats, like ballerina flats, and look darn good in 'em too. It's just another alternative to boring men's footwear. As long as you like 'em, then all the better!

It's just like those of us who adore platforms, but that's another whole issue altogether :-)

Still trying to find a nice pair of "ballerina" flats at the right price and the right style

I began to find that wearing heels with my usuall jeans didnt really give me the look I wanted, which is why i've gone a bit a freestyle in this way. Its also made me realise that I do actually have a shape!

I've recently returned from a weeks holiday in south Devon, I had a great time, but more to the point I didn't take even one pair of mens shoes or jeans with me.

We walked through Torquay, me very casually wearing womens bootcut jeans and my 3 inch heel wedge sandals. The worst of it was definately in my head, a few people (mainly women) noticed what I was wearing, I just held my head high and wandered around confident that I was comfortable and looked the way I wanted to look.... good.

This was the first time i've ever worn women's shoes and jeans at the same time, there were a few times when I got very self concious and wanted to get back to the car, but I resisted.

I wish I had photo's, but my GF turned technophobic at the sight of a digital camera. Something like this (minus the hoodie top)

We went to a bar for lunch, it was fairly quiet at the secondary bar where I ordered our food and within 2 minutes the barmaid had complimented my appearance, she said she thought more men should try womens style jeans, but she wasnt so sure that the shoes would catch on . As popular opinion doesnt concern me I took this part compliment very well.

The nights out were interesting....... long dark bootcut jeans, 4 inch heeled boots and a choice of very fashionable mens shirts. Again I think it was just the women who noticed me and again the stares turned to smiles, almost made me wish I were single and free!!

My gf clearly did not like this attention and stuck to me like glue

Overall, the reactions I had were very positive and I feel like im really breaking my own mental male/female fashion boundries.

The only downside was the heels made me feel quite vunerable at night and for our protection (as I have a duty to be the protector) I always carried a "Kubotan" self defense weapon in my pocket.

Well on the shoes side I can sympathise. My gf (initialy at least) and a few other people have mentioned fetish when talking of my shoes. I take offense to this, as it shows how closed minded they are. If im wearing heels or womens shoes, im wearing them because I like the way they look with whatever im wearing. Why can't I simply like them? Fetish has got sweet FA to do with the matter. Not to mention I've got very small and narrow feet for a man and womens shoes tend to fit me a lot better. Shoes are just shoes..... As for cutting the lawn, your obsessed

Hey,

good to see you have started wearing heels as a normal thing. Just out of interest how did your girlfriend react etc... I am 22 myself and still a student at uni in the UK, my folks (still live @ home) know about my heels but I still cant let them know that I wear them all the time. Even though my mum has suggested to me about wearing my heels during a formal night out. So I was just wondering what your girlfriend etc thought.

Its all a bit like skating on thin ice, sometimes my gf is fairly open minded, sometimes she goes into "i want my man to be a man" mode. The irony of it is, she doesnt mind us going out in public together when im in heels, infact its not really the shoes that are the problem, she just gets it into her head sometimes that im not being the man in the relationship. Im very thoughtful, caring and dont mind showing my emotions.... she seems to want me to be a brain dead, heartless, badboy, loser. So my shoes have to suffer for that.

Well its been nearly 3 whole months since I started my little journey into wearing heels and Its been fantastic, I have shoes for most occasions and ive leant how to incorporate heels into my everyday dress... for example a pair of cute wedge Sandals to go with my linen trousers during all this hot weather here in the UK.

I've worn my 4" high boots with nice jeans on several occasions, even out to some of Birminghams biggest nightclubs.

I even found cause to wear my strappy 4" heel sandals!

I find that you naturaly begin to walk in a more composed fashion and less like a bow legged thug. Id been struggling a bit with my 4" heel River Island knee length boots, then a few weeks ago I brought some 4" heel sandals, I wore them for two days just about the house and now I feel like I can walk in anything. My next purchase will hopefully be a pair of 4" heel wedge sandals to go with casual jeans/linen trousers.

Got my boots, well... some very similar. Black leather knee length with 4inch block heels and the gf loved them So much so that she actually wants a pair herself! The only negative she mentioned was that I'd have to be carefull where/how I sit when I go out in them, because she thinks the heel may be a bit too much. She suggested another pair for more casual wear and said she might buy some for my birthday. I couldnt have hoped for a better response, this sense of freedom is amazing! I'll post some pics just as soon as I can

You can actually get ballerina style flats in the form of a trainer or sports shoe. These are probably one of my favourites.

They're a ballerina style with T-bar.

Would look fantastic as casual wear in place of fashion trainers.

Im just testing the waters a bit today, her reaction may have been fairly open minded, but if she see's me in heels the reality might not be comfortable for her. I know she really likes heeled boots, she had a nice pair until her sister broke the one heel and ruined the boot by continuing to walk home on it (she was in pieces over them, because you can't get anything like them anymore). She often compliments her friends if they have a nice pair, and on few occasions I noticed they were very similar to the ones I like. Maybe its a lot to hope for but id really like to hear the words "those are really nice", a few simple words that would make me feel on top of the world.

I'm not going to go mad on it, just tastefull non-evocative footwear. I'll need to prove to her that im not changing in any way.

Well, its been a bit of a nightmare trying to figure out how and when to tell my gf, but I finally did it! I'd drunken a little bit too much and we got onto the subject of shoes because I wanted a pair of her womens "Clarks Privo" flat sandals which I'd been wearing about the house/garden all day (most comfortable things ever!) I told her my little story about how one day I was in "schuh", I saw these wonderful knee high boots with a square toe and 3.5" heel and wished I could wear them without worrying about what other people thought of me. Because of the drink she could see how strongly I felt about it and how annoyed I was with society and its "expectations". I said "If I like something then why can't I have it or wear it?!" I told her that I was into mens fashion freedom and that I just wished I could do something about it. She immediatley asked me if I want to wear skirts, to which I replied "no not really". She then said to me "I don't mind what you wear, as long as your happy.... your still the same person" We sat down for a little while and watched some TV, after a few more alcoholic beverages I asked her if she would mind if I gave it a try and buy those boots. She told me she doesnt mind, but doesnt think I'll actually do it. The next day I appologised for drinking so much and for dumping so much onto her in such no nonsense way. Apparently she found it very endearing that i'd shared this with her so openly. All in all, I think this has gone pretty well and all I need to do now is prove that I will actually do it!!

Here's a couple of quick pics, id have done them earlier but needed to charge my digicam batteries.

Just a small amount of my foot is visible with these "Diesel" jeans, which i actually like the look of, its got a stylish/fitted look. But for a little while i'll wear some that have more cover.

Underneath the jeans.

What really suprises me is just how much smaller they look than my regular old UK 8 mens shoes, bare in mind that womens UK 8 is equal to mens UK 8.5 and ironically they're a lot more comfortable too.