Mikey63

I tend to steer clear of shoes with girly tassles and/or bows, I don't really know why..... I think its mainly because they very much limit what you can wear with them and while I will wear the odd item of womens clothing, I don't wear anything thats overly girly. I like to wear women's jeans over heels, because I just can't find mens jeans in a size 30W/34L (or 30W/36L for heels). I normally wear a shirt with those or occasionally something like a womens long sleeve or 3/4 sleeve t-shirt (because womens t-shirts have a high waist which gives the illusion of longer legs). So with that in mind, very "girly" shoe's are a big no no for me.

OK.... well up until you stated what you were wearing I was going to say: It's because a man IS more attractive to women when he's with other women. Guy's.... going out with female friends is a sure way of "pulling"!!! BUT.... When I read what you were wearing I think what you experienced was women approaching you because you stood out in the crowd, you were so different that they just couldn't keep their eye's off you and possibly because their friends were daring them to approach you. It does not matter though, it's all good. Just watch out for guys getting jealous with the amount of attention your getting. I've had some close calls caused by my heels getting noticed by every woman in the bar. I don't think your going to start any kinda relationships with these women, it was just a one off novelty, but I have to admit the attention is fantastic and one hell of a confidence boost

I've a question! Why, when you say you constantly wear your skirts, hose and heels out and about everywhere during normal business hours, are you hiding your face? After all, if what you say is true, chances are that not one of your customers or fellow workers -- or, anyone else you might know, for that matter -- will ever see you here. Your cover (if that's the proper term) is already blown from appearing in public everyday dressed "demi-feminine."

I think I can answer that.

This is the internet, its not just a few people on the street... Its potentially the whole world. I wear heels out n about, but id never put my face up here for all to see. It may be illogical but thats the way I feel.

I dunno about anyone else, but with regards to the leg contest, I personally see it as a bit of a laugh. The photo I used would even convince me if I didn't know better, I find this quite worrying as a heterosexual male, but also very comical when I think of all the women ive dated and how many of them refused to wear a short skirt (or even a skirt at all) because they didn't like their shape. The leg contest shows in a very "in your face way" that its not about size and shape, its about confidence, its about what you wear and how you wear it.

I've tried this a number of times, i can do it right over left but not left over right

Im afraid its a terrible image, but I'll try harder over the weekend when I have some decent light.

I knew that I would be wearing "work"-shoes much of the day, so it was a perfect day to do it. I just walk in as usual but noone made a single remark about it. I know that they noticed. I can really decide if I'm glad about the lack of response.

I find the lack of response very entertaining, you've taken people out of their comfort zone, they'll need time to discuss it between themselves to make sure they have the "right" opinion, before anyone will have the guts to say anything. Its that fear of having the minority opinion, the same fear that we have put aside by wearing what we wear.

Give it a few days and someone will say something.

I'm always amused at how everyone thinks HE lives in the most conservative place and could never wear HH in his locale.

"My place is too redneck to go out in heels."

"They (who??) would never allow me to wear heels here."

"I might get hurt by a homophobe here." etc.

The truth is that the demons are in our heads. If you don't make a big deal of it, most people won't even notice (unless like us they have a shoe fixation), and those who do notice won't generally care. Some perceptive women who really dig shoes may compliment you. Teenage girls may giggle. Most people are too wrapped up in their own world to give you a second glance. Haven't you all seen kids with green hair? You look once, shrug you shoulders, and that's it. So wear what you want when you want, and do it proudly.

And if you think a particular neighborhood is too tough or run-down to allow you to go there in heels, it's probably not safe in men's shoes either! Don't go there!

GWL

To an extent I agree with your comments. But you make reference to "kids with green hair". The difference between them and us is:

They have a group of friends who all do/wear similar things. They probably hang out together at McDonalds or the skate park. Thus they are never really alone in their interests.

We are largely brought together by the internet, most of us don't have a group of friends who also wear heels to go hang out at a bar or whatever and so by being the only man within 50miles wearing womens shoes we potentially alienate ourselves from the "norm".

I personally just do whatever I want, because no matter how hard you try you'll never be something your not, you'll never be the same as everyone else. There will always be something about you that people consider to be outside the "norm".

Hi all,

Mikey, I seriously like those wedge loafers!

Where did you get them from?

Tosca

I see your from the UK.

I got them some time ago, they were from the Next clearance shop in Merry Hill shopping centre, Brierley hill, West-Midlands.

Looking at the website I'd be tempted by these.

Or these which are really cute looking

If your on the shorter side, women generally don't like to be taller than a man. So some discreet heels wouldn't be a bad idea

I do on a regular basis, the shoes I wear don't initially look "girly", but you can't really call a 3inch wedge heel "masculine" either.

I wear them under long length women's wide leg trousers, with a shirt.

In my opinion the key is to avoid pointy toe shoes/boots of any color, its this which seems attract the most bad attention. Round toe stiletto boots work fine, nobody seems to notice, same with block heels which always tend to be square toe. I apologize to any/all of you but this is just my opinion.

There is absolutely nothing wrong with looking a little feminine. Feminine does not equate to gay!! Most gays do not look feminine! That is an example of how naive society is regarding gays.

There is nothing wrong with adding feminine flare to your otherwise drab wardrobe. After all, in highebd department stores, menwear can be found in the women's section of the store and regularly wear men's items. Men need to come out of the dang stone-age. Several hundred years ago. men wore high-heels.

Most of us are actually afraid of being different to "normal", as men we are supposed to be afraid of nothing, we are strong, we are manly, yet the thought of wearing a female garment sends pure fear into all but the most liberated of us. I remember being told by my father that he'd send me to school in a dress if I didn't behave, easy to see then why we have these silly fears all these years later.

I wear my heels with pride, I am free from this ridiculous fear!!

Thanks to all for the advice and my apologies to everyone for apparently hijacking the threat. I have a lot to think about here, ive never been someone who follows the crowd and I have very little patience for people who change their entire way of thinking just because someone tells them to. I happen to know that the relationships/marriages of all the mentioned "friends" of my gf are currently "on the rocks", which is hardly surprising when you look at the attitude they have with their partners. In a relationship you must be as close to eachother as possible, not push your partner away because someone told you that intimacy and closeness was "wrong". Maybe their husbands are cheating on them, but who brought the attitude into the relationship first? Putting it into perspective, if im stuck in a marriage and ive got children to think about and my wife is as mentioned.... Yes I f*cking well would cheat on her!! As for my heels....... I've been wearing heels now for over a year, its not something im going to change, its not wrong in any way and causes no harm to anyone (except perhaps to me, if the car breaks down in a bad area!) My collection has grown now to 16 pairs of shoes/boots, its not something I can keep secret anymore, I also have a number of pairs of women's jeans which I find work best with heels. My gf can either accept it or tolerate it or be gone.

Well with my gf it went from complete approval/acceptance to complete disapproval literally over night..... I think it may have something to do with some her friends at work. They're older (40-50) than she is and much more conservative, months ago she used to tell me how they talk like OAP's and told me of how they never kiss/hug/make love with their husbands because "all men are cheating b**tards", etc, etc, etc. (and so would I be, stuck in a marriage with a wife like that). Coincidence then that she now hates my shoes and our sex life took a nose dive with comments like "other than having children, sex is dirty and perverted, its all you think about". I won't even mention the comments about my heels. Where the hell do they get these stupid idea's? Im pretty sure they pretend to be of the same ridiculous opinions just to "fit in" and make friends and then somehow, somewhere along the line they actually start to believe it! In truth, I don't know what she really thinks anymore. So ive voted for "Female partner disapproves". It may be time for a new gf because one thing is for sure, the shoes are here to stay!!

She has witnessed your interest in them now and WILL be checking to see if they go missing when she throws those old clothes out. You have two choices now..... Either tell her you want them and take them with her knowing OR let them go and buy your own (ebay is great until you feel comfortable enough to visit a shop). Additionally If you take them they will always be "moms boots", if you buy your own they will be yours! The feeling of having your own heels is just fantastic! very liberating!

I've been feeling very much the same way over the past few months, just as the weather is improving too. All these great days for wearing heels and I seem to have lost all interest!! I've tried a few times, but it just doesn't feel the same at the moment..... It's probably not helped by my girlfriend as she's not at all impressed with my heel wearing at the moment, i'm accused of becoming too effeminate. Losing that support has really hurt my confidence.

I finally broke my duck yesterday, i went in public in the busy high street wearing 2.5 inch block heeled shoes. Now for proper heels(stilletos).

Strange you should say that, I've just brought my first pair of proper stiletto heeled boots and have to say that walking in these seems much more natural (and comfortable) than block heels..... Not to mention quieter and more graceful!

Go for it!

I'm a UK size 9 / 42 for flats and 8 / 41 for heels (something to do with a change of foot profile when in heels I think) I have two pairs of Next boots, both are knee high and (Next) size 8. I must warn you though!!!! be very careful with Next boots, they assume that a woman with large feet is going to be stupidly overweight! the first Next boots I brought had something like an 18inch calf and im a 14.5. They were great boots, the current fashion (round toe, stiletto heel) but they didn't fit under any of my jeans!!!! Don't worry about the size, you'll be fine.... worry about the "wide calf" or "wide fit". That said, if you have large calves then you should be ok too. Personally, next time I'd buy River Island or Topshop (which are always half a size bigger)

Keep it stylish, buy quality jeans.... not Levi 501's. I actually wear womens jeans for a better fit, Miss Sixty and Diesel. But you don't need to go that far really. I really like Diesel T-shirts, that said I have just brought a womens long t-shirt/ short dress, an impulse buy which I wear over jeans, i'm really impressed and this is gonna be "my look" now until summer. Anyway! Its all about quality and detail. Then you just Integrate the heel's into your look! The biggest mistake you could make is dressing down to be "inconspicuous". Mix it up, have some fun!

Id say, if your known for being a little eccentric and for pushing the boundaries then yes go for it. But if not I think it may end in disaster..... To get away with heels you really have turn your dress sense up a few notches too, you want to be attracting attention to the whole body image and not just the heels. One final point is confidence, not something many people really have until later years. You'll need tons of confidence to pull off wearing heels to college or around college friends.

I go for boots, shoes, pumps, flats, you name it! Only one thing i can't stand, flat boots...... It may sound silly, but if im not feeling particularly brave then i'll wear my boots, they just feel more comfortable and don't grab too much attention.

Its not the being found out that matters, is the manner in which it happend. For all who read/replied to this thread, nothing has been said about my shoes and nothing has happend. I do however now keep my car keys hidden to prevent a repeat event. Im going to have to come clean soon though as the collection grows and I run out of space

Firstly, I think it was curiosity of what was in the boxes. Secondly, once she found them, she probably wanted to see them to see if she liked them (for u). If she didn't want you to know about it, she would of put everything back how it was. Her putting them back "unorganized" is maybe a sign that she wants you to know that she is looking into things that you like.

Maybe a next step could be ask her for a hand to move those boxes. She might say something like, "What's in here anyways?". You can answer honestly and let the conversation go from there.

Just my thoughts...

This brings about a very good point, fore warned is fore armed. Atleast you won't get any nasty shocks when she does eventually bring up the subject.

hmmm.... How about "No" then look at her shoes "do you?". Or my personal favourite for pure shock value "I don't, but if you did I'd love to watch".